trtlcrzy
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jan 29, 2020 17:08:05 GMT -6
T’s class had has 9 out of 17 kids out with the flu. Most of them were vaccinated so obviously it’s a different strain of some sort. His poor best friend has been down since last Wednesday. T likes to visit the nurse for silly things like “a hoola hoop hit his finger.” I told him he better not dare go to her office this week. According to the girl I know that works in the virology lab, influenza B has been way more prominent this year. I think the flu shot was a swing and a miss for the strain going around. |
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jan 29, 2020 17:09:33 GMT -6
I am the one who generally remembers most things (except for right now because my brain is mush), and I put events in our shared calendar for everything. If DH asks about a date I tell him to look at the calendar, I’m not his personal secretary.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jan 29, 2020 18:32:37 GMT -6
We were on the way home from dance and I got rear ended in literally exactly the same place as in the fall. The guy wasn’t going super fast so the three of us are fine, my car just has some damage to the rear passenger side. I need to call my OB to see if they want me to come in to be checked.
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Post by chrisy01 on Jan 29, 2020 18:39:10 GMT -6
@trtlcry go get checked! I know it’s minor but go get checked tonight.
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Post by mwhip on Jan 29, 2020 18:46:03 GMT -6
I too am the one to remember all the details. It's annoying AF, but I remind myself he travels alot and has to keep his schedule straight, plus I like being in control of it. But he couldnt tell you who took evie to or from school today.
He also talks to me about the details of his day, and I dont remember them within a few minutes. I know its important to him, but to me, it's not the same.
I just remind myself of the give and take of marriage.
I came home to find evie napping on the sofa...kid doesnt nap. Took her temp, 100.7. Gave her some medicine. Not sure what this means for tomorrow yet.
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Post by wineallthetime on Jan 29, 2020 18:59:35 GMT -6
trtlcrzy, yikes! Glad you guys are ok. Definitely call your OB just to be safe!
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Post by wineallthetime on Jan 29, 2020 19:02:43 GMT -6
All the kid stuff falls on me. Yesterday MH was off and had no clue what L's preschool hours are. I work 20 hours a week and he works like 60 so it makes sense. I could see how frustrating it'd be for 2 full time working parents! Plus MH handles most of our finances so that's all on his load.
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Post by flamingo on Jan 29, 2020 19:09:57 GMT -6
trtlcrzy Yikes! So glad you guys are ok. What a pain, though. I can empathize, my last car seemed to be a magnet for getting rear-ended--I think it happened 5 times over the years.
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Post by tgrimes on Jan 29, 2020 19:10:14 GMT -6
inthekitty I got tubes when I was 23. It’s no big deal, I went to happy hour right from there. If you’ve ever slipped and let a q-tip slide in to far, that’s all it is. They do that with a q-tip to numb it then just twist then in and you feel nothing. There is no pain after. I remember you sharing this story and tell MH he just needs to make an appt. |
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Post by tgrimes on Jan 29, 2020 19:10:55 GMT -6
T’s class had has 9 out of 17 kids out with the flu. Most of them were vaccinated so obviously it’s a different strain of some sort. His poor best friend has been down since last Wednesday. T likes to visit the nurse for silly things like “a hoola hoop hit his finger.” I told him he better not dare go to her office this week. Lol at hoola hoop finger! |
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Post by tgrimes on Jan 29, 2020 19:11:53 GMT -6
As it turns out...I'm all YH's. He's constantly reminded me about stuff I don't remember talking about. In my defense it's typically random stuff and nothing significant. I manage the kids schedules, lunches, Dr appointments, ect. Then you’re not our husbands. |
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Post by tgrimes on Jan 29, 2020 19:13:02 GMT -6
We were on the way home from dance and I got rear ended in literally exactly the same place as in the fall. The guy wasn’t going super fast so the three of us are fine, my car just has some damage to the rear passenger side. I need to call my OB to see if they want me to come in to be checked. Yikes! What a pain in the ass. I hope everything is okay. |
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jan 29, 2020 19:18:27 GMT -6
The nurse I talked to said I don’t have to go in since I’m not bleeding/having any pain. I might go in anyway though so I don’t have anxiety about it.
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Post by kim22 on Jan 29, 2020 19:21:30 GMT -6
trtlcrzy glad you are all ok. I’m not a big worrier but I’d probably get checked for piece of mind.
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Post by peachsmama on Jan 29, 2020 19:26:50 GMT -6
I can't tell if mh is losing his hearing, or just not listening. I'm tired of having conversations with myself. I've started asking "can you please look at me while I talk?" |
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Post by vino on Jan 29, 2020 19:35:17 GMT -6
Ahhh what a day! I had a great time with B and his little group I was assigned to, love them little stinkers. Now I’m at skating with B, cause who needs rest, ammirite? Just got caught up on the thread, it’s weird coming in at the end of the day. I hope the fever breaks overnight wineallthetimeYikes, glad everyone is ok trtlcrzy, maybe avoid that intersection or sage it or something 😉 I hope your ears feel better inthekitty, maybe time to make an appointment. |
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Post by vino on Jan 29, 2020 19:36:24 GMT -6
Shall we send all the husbands to Latvia? Cause I’m loving steering the ship my own way, no useless talking or repeating myself. It is divine.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jan 29, 2020 19:52:26 GMT -6
Ahhh what a day! I had a great time with B and his little group I was assigned to, love them little stinkers. Now I’m at skating with B, cause who needs rest, ammirite? Just got caught up on the thread, it’s weird coming in at the end of the day. I hope the fever breaks overnight wineallthetimeYikes, glad everyone is ok trtlcrzy, maybe avoid that intersection or sage it or something 😉 I hope your ears feel better inthekitty, maybe time to make an appointment. I wish I could but it is literally the turn from the main road onto my street. I’d have to go way out of my way to avoid it. |
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Post by peachsmama on Jan 29, 2020 20:23:53 GMT -6
And keep track of literally every *thing* in the house, and/or find all the lost things when they go MIA. If I ask mh to get me anything for the kids, he immediately says, “where is that?” I lead with where it is now and it still doesn't help. "Go to the dresser, 3rd drawer, it's on the left" h ed still comes back empty handed 🤨 |
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Post by chrisy01 on Jan 29, 2020 20:34:37 GMT -6
I will say if I ask C to help he does. But he won’t take the initiative and do it without me telling him
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jan 29, 2020 20:48:05 GMT -6
Heartbeat sounded good and now I’m back home. My hip is actually really starting to hurt so I’m icing it. I’m guessing it’s from my messed up pelvis and also the seatbelt.
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Post by peachsmama on Jan 29, 2020 20:50:03 GMT -6
I will say if I ask C to help he does. But he won’t take the initiative and do it without me telling him Same. And A always says "if you need help just ask" orrrrrrr you could just help without me having to say anything since you also live here and can see the mess..... |
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Post by lahdeedah on Jan 29, 2020 21:25:15 GMT -6
If I ask mh to get me anything for the kids, he immediately says, “where is that?” I lead with where it is now and it still doesn't help. "Go to the dresser, 3rd drawer, it's on the left" h ed still comes back empty handed 🤨 We must have the same husband. Even directions doesn’t help most times. MH also will ask 10000 questions while doing what I asked him to do. I would rather do it myself than be annoyed by all the questions. |
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Post by lahdeedah on Jan 29, 2020 21:26:45 GMT -6
trtlcrzy Glad everything is fine. Must have shaken you up a little though. I’m sorry.
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Post by peachsmama on Jan 29, 2020 21:39:21 GMT -6
I lead with where it is now and it still doesn't help. "Go to the dresser, 3rd drawer, it's on the left" h ed still comes back empty handed 🤨 We must have the same husband. Even directions doesn’t help most times. MH also will ask 10000 questions while doing what I asked him to do. I would rather do it myself than be annoyed by all the questions. Yup. Exact same. |
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Post by tallb on Jan 29, 2020 21:44:26 GMT -6
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Post by tallb on Jan 29, 2020 21:45:27 GMT -6
I manage most things. I have more flexibility at work though so I can make calls and research stuff. The mental load is real.
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Post by klong11 on Jan 29, 2020 22:21:21 GMT -6
I will say if I ask C to help he does. But he won’t take the initiative and do it without me telling him Same. And A always says "if you need help just ask" orrrrrrr you could just help without me having to say anything since you also live here and can see the mess..... I'm all about showing initiative. If you see something that needs to be done, just do it. |
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Post by inthekitty on Jan 29, 2020 23:04:05 GMT -6
Same. And A always says "if you need help just ask" orrrrrrr you could just help without me having to say anything since you also live here and can see the mess..... I'm all about showing initiative. If you see something that needs to be done, just do it. This 1000x. We're both adults. It's an everyday task. Just do it. I can say MH takes the lead on phone calls. He knows how much I hate them. |
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Post by wedding on Jan 30, 2020 4:41:17 GMT -6
I’ve let go of the expectation that dh should see something needs to be done and do it without asking. I’ve been fighting with this for 15+ years and decided in the last year that I’m only hurting myself with the expectation because I get so frustrated. Now I just tell him what to do and he does it. I’ll go up to bed and say “can you load and start the dishwasher before you come up”. And he does (95% of the time). It’s definitely made me less irritable and probably improved our marriage since the tiny fire of resentment over it is gone.
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