Monday...that’s it.

[cagoldi]

Jan 27, 2020 9:07:19 GMT -6 jewels said:

I am so annoyed. On Sunday morning I saw B's BFF's mom posted that she (the kid) had the norovirus and was up all night puking. I reached out to her to offer her zofran for her kid and she said she seems to be over the worst of it. This was at 11 AM. She also posted a long meme about keeping your kids home when they have been sick and not spreading the bug, even if it means missing work, etc.

When MH dropped B off this morning, she was in class. I mean, maybe her last puke was prior to 8 AM on Sunday, but given how righteous she was with that meme, you'd think she'd keep her home today.

But really I am just terrified my ridiculous 3 year old will lick her or something and then get the tummy bug.

Obnoxious.

Plus, I know we discussed this previously, but some people just don’t have the option of missing work.

[mwhip]

Jan 27, 2020 11:33:30 GMT -6 klong11 said:

mwhip some hotels have conference rooms you can rent. Or what about having it at a restaurant in like a party room. Then you wouldn't have to deal with decor or food. Pay for group apps, but if they want meal type food/alcohol they can order and pay for their own.

Or maybe have it outdoors at a park.

I'm going to contact the bar and grill close to us and see if they're open that date.  They're $75 for their space, so not bad, but the room is the only way to get to the smoking area, and I don't really want random smokers wandering in during the shower, although for the savings, I may not give a shit!  

I thought about outside, but March in KS, it could snow...so that won't work.

[cagoldi]

Ugh, not a great start, flamingo. Hope your day turns around.

[lahdeedah]

Morning.

Hope all the sick kiddos feel better soon.

jewels I would be annoyed, too. FX B doesn’t get it. If by chance he does, she would be my first text or call about it.

mwhip I’m sorry this is shaping up to be more than you bargained for.

[klong11]

Jan 27, 2020 11:36:32 GMT -6 mwhip said:

Jan 27, 2020 11:33:30 GMT -6 klong11 said:

mwhip some hotels have conference rooms you can rent. Or what about having it at a restaurant in like a party room. Then you wouldn't have to deal with decor or food. Pay for group apps, but if they want meal type food/alcohol they can order and pay for their own.

Or maybe have it outdoors at a park.

I'm going to contact the bar and grill close to us and see if they're open that date.  They're $75 for their space, so not bad, but the room is the only way to get to the smoking area, and I don't really want random smokers wandering in during the shower, although for the savings, I may not give a shit!  

I thought about outside, but March in KS, it could snow...so that won't work.

Oh, duh. I saw May, but that's the wedding date. Yeah, no outdoors for that.

[guster]

Poor sick kids! Hope everyone is feeling better soon.

mwhip, what a headache would you consider having it at your house?
vino, we like wow in the world over here.

[lahdeedah]

I had an appointment this morning with HR at the new job. Can’t believe I start next week. I had to make a grocery run after and despite a small list, I still managed to buy double that. Bye bye monies.

I need pick up around the house and hit the gym before picking up M. I want to just sit on the sofa, but I did that yesterday after a busy morning of work.

[flamingo]

mwhip, Oh, sorry, I misunderstood and thought your SIL was co-hosting. I do like the restaurant idea if you could find a place without a separate room charge, maybe that just has a food/bev. minimum you'd need to meet.

[slenle]

Jan 27, 2020 10:25:51 GMT -6 vino said:

slenle What did you decide about the trip?

Still trying to talk myself into leaving him. I’m sure that’s what I’ll end up doing, i just need to say it out loud. We did get the official “nursing mothers are allowed to bring baby” memo, so that makes me slightly want to reconsider.

[mwhip]

Jan 27, 2020 11:42:50 GMT -6 guster said:

Poor sick kids! Hope everyone is feeling better soon.

mwhip , what a headache would you consider having it at your house?
vino , we like wow in the world over here.

When I first offered to host it, my mom said I could do it at her house.  She has a large open area for her living/dining area and a large kitchen, but still not enough that 40ish people would be comfortable.

Although we still could do it and I bet people wouldn't linger.  No games, get a cupcake, leave your gift and get out?  

[tgrimes]

Jan 27, 2020 11:49:39 GMT -6 mwhip said:

Jan 27, 2020 11:42:50 GMT -6 guster said:

Poor sick kids! Hope everyone is feeling better soon.

mwhip , what a headache would you consider having it at your house?
vino , we like wow in the world over here.

When I first offered to host it, my mom said I could do it at her house.  She has a large open area for her living/dining area and a large kitchen, but still not enough that 40ish people would be comfortable.

Although we still could do it and I bet people wouldn't linger.  No games, get a cupcake, leave your gift and get out?  

I'd go with this.  If it's too crowded, people won't stay.  And does anyone really like the games?  I hate shower games.  

[tgrimes]

Jan 27, 2020 11:48:16 GMT -6 slenle said:

Jan 27, 2020 10:25:51 GMT -6 vino said:

slenle What did you decide about the trip?

Still trying to talk myself into leaving him. I’m sure that’s what I’ll end up doing, i just need to say it out loud. We did get the official “nursing mothers are allowed to bring baby” memo, so that makes me slightly want to reconsider.

As long as you're leaving him with someone you trust, you'd probably enjoy a getaway sans kids.

[lahdeedah]

Jan 27, 2020 11:49:39 GMT -6 mwhip said:

Jan 27, 2020 11:42:50 GMT -6 guster said:

Poor sick kids! Hope everyone is feeling better soon.

mwhip , what a headache would you consider having it at your house?
vino , we like wow in the world over here.

When I first offered to host it, my mom said I could do it at her house.  She has a large open area for her living/dining area and a large kitchen, but still not enough that 40ish people would be comfortable.

Although we still could do it and I bet people wouldn't linger.  No games, get a cupcake, leave your gift and get out?  

Oh yeah. I like this idea. If you want to fit a few more people, any way you can move a piece of furniture or two to put some tables in to accommodate?

I guess the other issue would be parking maybe?

[tallb]

vino check out "wow in the world". It's a science one for kids, we saw the show live last year and are considering going next month. J doesn't commute with me anymore so we don't listen to it as much, but he loves it. And I've learned a bunch too.

[vino]

Thanks tallb and guster, I've added Wow in the World to my library.

[klong11]

mwhip surely all 29 of those people won't show. I mean, I drove 3 hours to my SIL's baby shower, but she was MY SIL. Would not do that for a cousin or whatever. I would just amazon them a gift and call it a day.

[tallb]

I put a hat on k and she slept better, I hope she hasn't been cold (mom of the year😣). I just got a response to my email about if she can start daycare next Monday and the response was "I'll know more tonight, looking favorable". I'll believe it when I see it!

Other news, it's nice to be back at work and to be dressed in real clothes.

[mwhip]

tgrimes I hate shower games. HATE them. I specifically requested none at my showers. I asked the bride and she said a game or two would be nice. Um, no, not with 40 people.
lahdeedah parking would be terrible at my moms. She lives in a cul-de-sac, so there isn't a ton of room, although people would just line up and down the street, outside of the CDS.
klong11 I don't see how they would all show either...these are aunts and cousins that live 3 hours away. But then I remember, my SIL, her mom, and her cousin drove down to one of their baby showers a few years ago. Maybe showers are just 'the thing' in her family. Whereas I try to avoid them whenever possible!

[mwhip]

tallb how does this DC expect you to plan well. It's a week away and they can't tell you for sure? That's annoying!

Welcome back to work!

[trtlcrzy]

Jan 27, 2020 11:19:51 GMT -6 mwhip said:

Jan 27, 2020 10:32:27 GMT -6 flamingo said:

mwhip I’m sorry the shower is becoming more stressful than fun. This was the one with the huge guest list, right? Is there any way it can be pared down?

My mom co-hosted a baby shower a couple years back and the MTB had a list of like, 60 guests. Neither hostess felt like their living/dining rooms could seat that # comfortably so they asked that she trim the list a bit, she got it down to under 50, and I think they ended up with 35 guests. So still a big party but doable. I think you and the other hostess are totally within your rights to ask that they scale back a bit if necessary.

So I sent my SIL the list of my side of the family and I did tell her to add to it, thinking she might think of cousins or something.  She took that as adding her entire side of the family.  My side is 14 people.  Her side is 29.  She said she expects them all to come.  Some of these people live 3+ hours away, so I think it's unlikely they will all show, but I can't really politely question it.  So whatever, I'm looking for a space for between 40 to 50 people.  Which my moms house won't accommodate.  

And I'm the only host, all cost will lie on me.  My mom said she'd help cover the cost of the event space, but she thinks the first cost I got back was too much ($200 for a large room at our city civic center).  I did contact a senior citizen center (booked that day), a winery, golf course and a winery.  

My SIL agrees that $200 is a lot.  She has offered to have her mom host her family, but when I asked the bride, she said 1 big shower would be better, since she is in college.  So I feel bad saying I can't financially swing it.

I just need to shut my mouth and do whatever...and hope like hell my other nephew doesn't propose to his GF for years.

Are you or your mom members of a church? Usually you can rent their fellowship hall for pretty cheap.

[mwhip]

Jan 27, 2020 13:06:30 GMT -6 trtlcrzy said:

Jan 27, 2020 11:19:51 GMT -6 mwhip said:

So I sent my SIL the list of my side of the family and I did tell her to add to it, thinking she might think of cousins or something.  She took that as adding her entire side of the family.  My side is 14 people.  Her side is 29.  She said she expects them all to come.  Some of these people live 3+ hours away, so I think it's unlikely they will all show, but I can't really politely question it.  So whatever, I'm looking for a space for between 40 to 50 people.  Which my moms house won't accommodate.  

And I'm the only host, all cost will lie on me.  My mom said she'd help cover the cost of the event space, but she thinks the first cost I got back was too much ($200 for a large room at our city civic center).  I did contact a senior citizen center (booked that day), a winery, golf course and a winery.  

My SIL agrees that $200 is a lot.  She has offered to have her mom host her family, but when I asked the bride, she said 1 big shower would be better, since she is in college.  So I feel bad saying I can't financially swing it.

I just need to shut my mouth and do whatever...and hope like hell my other nephew doesn't propose to his GF for years.

Are you or your mom members of a church? Usually you can rent their fellowship hall for pretty cheap.

My mom is, but their facilities are in the basement, and my SIL doesn't want any place with stairs because she thinks it would be too hard on some of the people coming.  

[flamingo]

mwhip I would do a really simple game that could be played while people are eating and chatting. Guess-the-number-of-X-in-the-jar as it's being passed around, or one of those "how did the bride/groom answer" questionnaires.. Trying to organize that many people into an actual game would be like herding cats.

[mwhip]

Jan 27, 2020 13:32:03 GMT -6 flamingo said:

mwhip I would do a really simple game that could be played while people are eating and chatting. Guess-the-number-of-X-in-the-jar as it's being passed around, or one of those "how did the bride/groom answer" questionnaires.. Trying to organize that many people into an actual game would be like herding cats.

Exactly, I'll never be able to get everyone quiet and organized.  I just told my mom I was about to say fuck it and just do it at her house...get a cupcake, leave a gift, then leave.  I'm still waiting on her response.  

[jewels]

Jan 27, 2020 11:42:25 GMT -6 lahdeedah said:

Morning.

Hope all the sick kiddos feel better soon.

jewels I would be annoyed, too. FX B doesn’t get it. If by chance he does, she would be my first text or call about it.

mwhip I’m sorry this is shaping up to be more than you bargained for.

Yeah, I barely know her.  We just recently became FB friends but we've never hung out or anything.  I didn't even know their last name till she came up on my "people you might now" and I saw a pic of her daughter.  My kid is obsessed with her kid.  But yeah I would definitely shoot her a message through FB, probably passive aggressively like "B has these symptoms, is this what she had?"

But everything is crossed it does not come to that!

[jewels]

Jan 27, 2020 12:26:52 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

Jan 27, 2020 11:49:39 GMT -6 mwhip said:

When I first offered to host it, my mom said I could do it at her house.  She has a large open area for her living/dining area and a large kitchen, but still not enough that 40ish people would be comfortable.

Although we still could do it and I bet people wouldn't linger.  No games, get a cupcake, leave your gift and get out?  

I'd go with this.  If it's too crowded, people won't stay.  And does anyone really like the games?  I hate shower games.  

+ 1

[nam2013]

Jan 27, 2020 13:42:58 GMT -6 mwhip said:

Jan 27, 2020 13:32:03 GMT -6 flamingo said:

mwhip I would do a really simple game that could be played while people are eating and chatting. Guess-the-number-of-X-in-the-jar as it's being passed around, or one of those "how did the bride/groom answer" questionnaires.. Trying to organize that many people into an actual game would be like herding cats.

Exactly, I'll never be able to get everyone quiet and organized.  I just told my mom I was about to say fuck it and just do it at her house...get a cupcake, leave a gift, then leave.  I'm still waiting on her response.  

You could add something like this and put them in a photoalbum. Game and keepsake for the bride all in one. If you want to be really extra, put a Polaroid camera next to it .

ETA a link would be handy...

www.ohhappyprintables.com/products/bridal-mad-libs-printable-game-gold

Oh and you can let let everybody write down their favorite love song on a giant sheet, by the end of the shower they’ll have the most romantic playlist ever.

Also a mason jar, stack of notes & pen beside it, jar full of best date night tips from every guest.

ETA and I’m so sorry you got sucked into this...

[nam2013]

trtlcrzy no more pain?

tgrimes poor thing, hope the pedi could see him!

wineallthetime kids are so weird when they have fevers... hopefully he’ll stay up beat .

[mwhip]

nam2013 Those are great ideas! Thank you! Things people can do while they mingle, I don't have to talk in front of everyone, and I can do something cute with them for her at the end. Much appreciated!

[flamingo]

Those are all really cute ideas nam2013 kinda makes me want to throw a shower! #gluttonforpunishment

[cagoldi]

I’m excited because this morning, X requested toast. It’s a new word for him and anytime he wants food that’s good progress. He barely touched the muffins I made, but whatever.

Also, I am not a Taylor Swift fan, but X recently started dancing and singing to “Shake it Off” and it is basically the cutest thing ever.