GTKY: How long did you live with parents/family

[lfig]

Inspired by inthekitty’s post...I’m curious...

How long did you live at “home” (with your parents/guardian/family)?

Why did you leave? College, marriage, wanted independence?

Did you move back in with them at any point?

[lfig]

I lived with my parents until I was 22. I went to local community college so I worked and enjoyed free rent 😂. About 4 months before we got married I had been staying at his house most nights and I was tired of going back and forth so just moved on in early. Then 2 weeks after we married we moved away to where we have lived the last almost 17 years.

My sister moved out when she started college locally because she wanted more independence. But she moved back home eventually for about 2 years when her roommate got married. Then she met her H.

My parents always joked when they built their house that they were making the bedrooms small so we wouldn’t want to move back in.😂. But they’d take us back in a heartbeat!

[jewels]

I went away to college (about a 3 hour drive from home) and was home summers and breaks only. I moved back home after college only b/c I had no $$ and no job. I found a job, saved my money and was out in like 4 months, never to look back again. I had no interest in staying at home.

However, I moved about 15 minutes away from my childhood home and have lived in a few different places since then, none more than 15 minutes away.

I lived with roommates for about 2 years, then on my own for about 12 years before moving in with my H.

[vino]

I moved to Banff exactly one year after high school graduation. The summer after high school my high school sweetheart broke up with me and it absolutely rocked my world, it had never crossed my mind to leave my town. I was enrolled in fall classes at college but during a skiing trip to the Rockies with my bff, I was staring out the car window when we rolled into Banff and saw a brand new hotel was opening I blurted out, I'm going to work there. I went home, quit college worked for a bit and moved to Banff and worked at that hotel, on my own 4 hours away in a tourist town full of transients. I stayed there for a year.

I moved back a couple times for a month or so while I 'figured out what I wanted to do' for about year or so after that but then signed my first rental lease and have been out ever since.

[inthekitty]

I also stayed home until I was 22. I went to community college, and then when I transferred to university I commuted because I couldn't afford to move there. I was ready to move out and have some privacy by ~20, but couldn't logistically afford it. When I moved out at 22 I went to the city an hour away for grad school and never looked back. I love my family...but I've also loved some distance. It's easier to set boundaries with the unhealthy aspects when you are not physically there.

[inthekitty]

Fun story. When I had been on my own for a couple of months for some reason my family decided to surprise me with a visit. Never occurred to them on the entire hour+ drive to my place to maybe call first and ask if I was up for guests. My vibrator was on the bathroom counter. My stepdad used the bathroom.

[tgrimes]

I moved out after graduation when I went to college. I didn’t even return home for the summers. There was no way in hell I’d ever move back in with my parents. Lol.

[cagoldi]

I have never lived on my own. Until now, I guess, if that counts?

I lived with my parents while I was working and going to school, then we lived with Pete’s parents while we were house hunting after we got married.

[peachsmama]

I moved "away" to college at 17. I was only 45 minutes away but I needed out. My mom and mine relationship had gotten really bad and we needed space. We got married a year later and I moved back home for 3 weeks between the end of the semester and our wedding. Then into our apartment. We moved back in with them a year later for 2 months because our lease was up on our apartment and we were waiting to close on our house. Then 3 years later we moved in with R. Then 2 years later back with my parents for 2.5 years. Now we will never live with anyone ever again 😁

[flamingo]

I went away to college, but lived at home during the summers. I moved to Atlanta within a couple weeks of graduation to start a job there.

When I lost my job, the only new one I could find was in my hometown, so I moved home, hoping to find something else in Atlanta as the economy improved. I was toying with the idea of going back for an MBA... and then met DH. Once we got serious, I decided to keep working/living at home to save money for a wedding, etc. When we got engaged, I moved up to VA to be with him.

eta: I'm really glad I had that time on my own. I hated moving home—I was kind of embarrassed and felt like I had failed. In hindsight I realize how bad the recession was, and how many people were affected like I was. I think everything worked out the way it was supposed to...but at the time it was not fun. 

[slenle]

I moved out when left for college. I moved back home the summer after freshman year, and that’s it. Lived with 5 roommates sophomore year which was awful, then on my own for two years. I moved in with Dh and his roommates for the summer after graduation until we moved a few hours away to our first place together.

Randomly, we moved to the town we’re in now and my sister and bil had lived here for 5 years before us. Then my parents moved here a few years after us. I think i talked about that here and how I was dreading it, but it turned out to be a pretty great thing

[wedding]

I moved out at 18 for college and came back that first summer but after that never again.

[trtlcrzy]

I moved A LOT between the ages of 18 and 24. The day I graduated HS I moved to Denver to live with my oldest sister. She decided she wanted to move back here after I’d been there for 6 months so I lived with her when we got back here too. Then I moved to the dorms for college, and lived at my sister’s when I was back on the weekends and over the summer. After the next fall semester in college I decided to move back to SF so that I could work and go to the extension campus because my college town had no jobs and I was commuting a lot to work in SF. I moved in with DH and his roommate which lasted like a month before his parents told him that basically I had to move out 🙄 (long story on it’s own). Then I moved in with my dad for a short while but still spent every night at DH’s apt. I did that for a while and then ended up getting an apt in the other college town I transferred to for the year I was 20-21. Moved back to SF after my lease was up and in with my other sister. I lived with her until we got married (but stayed with DH every night so really I just stored my stuff at her house). We moved into a townhome for 18 months and before our lease was up we decided to build a house. So we moved in with DH’s parents for 9ish months and have been in our house ever since. It was a very chaotic/annoying 5 years.

[wineallthetime]

I moved out after HS for college. Came home Summers and breaks. Right after I graduated college I moved elsewhere for an internship and then moved to Cincinnati right after that for a bit and then back to Michigan and the area I live now. Pretty standard boring story.

[mwhip]

I moved out at 21, when I moved to finish college. I had been going to a community college prior. When I graduated, I moved back home and got engaged to my ex H. I moved in with him a few months later.

When we separated, I lived at home for a week. It was terrible. I wasnt used to letting someone know I wouldn't be home that night and felt like at 31, I shouldnt need to. But my mom disagreed and after a week, I stayed with friends or at my ex's house, previously mine, when he travelled, until I could afford and find a place to rent.

[tallb]

I came home for Summers and then got a job teaching and loved at my mom's house for two years. I saved a lot of money, but kind of wish I have lived in the city and had that experience. After I got a job further away I moved in with a high school friend for 6 months, then mh got his job near mine and we moved into our old apt building...and stayed there a decade.

[kim22]

I’m super boring. I lived home until I moved in with DH, 6 feet from where I grew up. The farthest I went was 4 blocks when we stayed at my sister’s for 4 months during construction (4 blocks from here). Every job I’ve ever had was 2 miles or less from home except 2 of my coaching jobs, one was like 5 miles from here and the other that I was only at for 2 months was probably 20 miles away.

[lahdeedah]

I moved out for college with the notion of never returning home and I never did.

I always had an apartment in college, then I moved to Florida for my career school and LOVED that 1.5 years by myself. I always say that was the best to be out living by myself away from everything I ever knew. It was the first time I binged watch shows and it was glorious. Sometimes I think back and long for those days.

I got engaged 6 months before I was done with that school and have lived with MH since graduating from that program.

[flamingo]

Jan 16, 2020 23:26:05 GMT -6 lahdeedah said:

It was the first time I binged watch shows and it was glorious. Sometimes I think back and long for those days.

I remember one weekend a few months into having my own apartment, I stayed in bed one Sunday watching bad TV and eating trail mix. Literally all day. It was kind of a revelation that I could do that—in the dorm and sorority house I’d always had roommates so my room was never really my own.

Those were good days 😂

[jewels]

lahdeedah flamingo I lived by myself for about 15 years and it was amazing. I think that's part of why my situation with MH (him being gone so much) works, b/c I love that time by myself. Unfortunately those pesky kids get in the way of lounging and binge watching too much however...

I have fond memories of leaving work, driving to the Video rental store that was near my house, picking out a movie or 2, then going to the grocery store and getting a lean cuisine and a bag of chips and just going home and eating and watching by myself.  I loved every minute of it.

[tgrimes]

jewels That sounds amazing.

[inthekitty]

I met MH by being neighbors at my first apartment. It was the perfect arrangement and I highly recommend it for couples--live near them but not with them. 😆 My place was always so neat and clean. I enjoyed my solo time too. 4 years on my own.

[nam2013]

Six months after I finished high school at 19, I went backpacking for 4 months (New Zealand, Australia, Malaysia) and sort of moved in with my now h straight after. We lived in an old school, had an entire classroom, with a 9tf table, it was fun. However, my name couldn’t be on the rental agreement, so officially I still lived at home. We rented our first apartment when I was 22 (I think 🤔) and bought our house when I was 24.

I never lived alone 🤷🏼‍♀️. Also campuses don’t exist over here, rooms are expensive in the big cities, so most people stay at home for at least part of their studies.

[cagoldi]

Jan 17, 2020 8:14:34 GMT -6 flamingo said:

Jan 16, 2020 23:26:05 GMT -6 lahdeedah said:

It was the first time I binged watch shows and it was glorious. Sometimes I think back and long for those days.

I remember one weekend a few months into having my own apartment, I stayed in bed one Sunday watching bad TV and eating trail mix. Literally all day. It was kind of a revelation that I could do that—in the dorm and sorority house I’d always had roommates so my room was never really my own.

Those were good days 😂

Even though I lived at home, I vividly remember thinking one day, “I’m a grown-up now, I can eat cookies and Pizza whenever I want.” No idea why that was such a revelation.😂

[lahdeedah]

Jan 17, 2020 8:35:09 GMT -6 jewels said:

lahdeedah flamingo I lived by myself for about 15 years and it was amazing. I think that's part of why my situation with MH (him being gone so much) works, b/c I love that time by myself. Unfortunately those pesky kids get in the way of lounging and binge watching too much however...

I have fond memories of leaving work, driving to the Video rental store that was near my house, picking out a movie or 2, then going to the grocery store and getting a lean cuisine and a bag of chips and just going home and eating and watching by myself.  I loved every minute of it.

I always wish I had more time to live on my own. Especially now living with all 3 (cough cough DH) of my children.

[guster]

My. housing life is boring, and a little sad.

I never lived alone. I went to college almost 3 hours away, came home on breaks and for the summers. I lived home during grad school and got a job right before I graduated.
It was easy and convenient. I did move out for two years to live with two girlfriends in the most city-like area of our county. It was fun —we were close to bars and to restaurants, but one of the roommates was getting married at the end of the second year so when she moved out, we ended our lease and went our own ways.

My parents had sold our home and moved into a townhouse, but I knew it wouldn’t be a problem moving back home. My parents didn’t disrupt my space or me theirs, and I liked hanging out with them.
In the time I lived home, I had two serious boyfriends (before M). I would mostly stay at their houses/apts on the weekends, but my parents never had any kind of rules against them staying over.
I saved a lot of money living home and then my mom got sick, and I didn’t want to leave. And then she died, and I didn’t want to leave my dad alone.
I started dating M the summer after my mom passed, and we mostly stayed at his house in Connecticut.
My dad died a little over a year later, M literally moved in that night. Cut his lease, hired a moving company, and was in by the next weekend.
And then I lived in that townhouse with the M and the kids until we moved here in 2018.
I have never had any desire to live alone. I actually think I’d really dislike it. I don’t even like to be in the house by myself

[Cher]

I moved out for college at 17 and just never came back.

[tgrimes]

Jan 18, 2020 9:10:21 GMT -6 Cher said:

I moved out for college at 17 and just never came back.

Yup. I remember the year my sister got engaged in college and i assumed my parents would pay for me to fly home, since she was spending the holidays with his family. Nope. My parents said they thought i’d like to spend Christmas with my sister.

Why yes, i’d love to spend the holidays with people i’ve never met. What a great idea!

And that is reason #864277 that i never moved back in with them.

[joelies]

I moved out for college and although I was "home" on breaks, I was usually juggling 2 or 3 jobs and rarely there. Then I moved about 2 hours away after graduation and spent about 8 years living either with roommates or solo before moving in with DH.

I probably had the most time to myself before I started dating DH, when my roommate was out of town every weekend or two. I enjoyed it more some times than others.

I can't imagine living alone now - I miss the boys so much after the first couple nights away from home. I would love a little time home alone but DH is always here.

[Cher]

Jan 18, 2020 9:18:23 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

Jan 18, 2020 9:10:21 GMT -6 Cher said:

I moved out for college at 17 and just never came back.

Yup. I remember the year my sister got engaged in college and i assumed my parents would pay for me to fly home, since she was spending the holidays with his family. Nope. My parents said they thought i’d like to spend Christmas with my sister.

Why yes, i’d love to spend the holidays with people i’ve never met. What a great idea!

And that is reason #864277 that i never moved back in with them.

Yup. Anytime I came back for so much as a meal, I was reminded instantly and was like “byeeeeee!”