Thursday

[inthekitty]

Nov 14, 2019 10:50:56 GMT -6 flamingo said:

Nov 14, 2019 10:28:15 GMT -6 slenle said:

Morning. I’m snuggling L while h is at school. I need to put him down and get some stuff done. I did find the birthday invitation I want to use for N’s party. We’re doing a movie theater party for frozen 2 so thank you yo whoever brought that up awhile ago. I’m looking forward to doing zero work and not having people at my house.

I need to do this. We're going to do a bowling party in mid-December but I am sending the invites out earlier than I normally would b/c we have to get RSVP's by a certain date (hahahahahaha, this should be fun). 

I am all-in on only having to show up with a cake and some balloons. 

RSVPs are the bane of my existence. People are such assholes. Zero classmates out of 20 have responded about Cass' party this SAT (we're also keeping it simple at the TKD studio. Costco cake and pizza for the win). Luckily some of the TKD kids and 2 who aren't from her classroom are going so I know some people will be there, but man people piss me off. The location is close to the school so in other words close to where all these people live. Two hours of kid-free time. As long as you didn't have a conflicting schedule why wouldn't you want to drop off your kid?

[flamingo]

Nov 14, 2019 11:01:19 GMT -6 inthekitty said:

Nov 14, 2019 10:50:56 GMT -6 flamingo said:

I need to do this. We're going to do a bowling party in mid-December but I am sending the invites out earlier than I normally would b/c we have to get RSVP's by a certain date (hahahahahaha, this should be fun). 

I am all-in on only having to show up with a cake and some balloons. 

RSVPs are the bane of my existence. People are such assholes. Zero classmates out of 20 have responded about Cass' party this SAT (we're also keeping it simple at the TKD studio. Costco cake and pizza for the win). Luckily some of the TKD kids and 2 who aren't from her classroom are going so I know some people will be there, but man people piss me off. The location is close to the school so in other words close to where all these people live. Two hours of kid-free time. As long as you didn't have a conflicting schedule why wouldn't you want to drop off your kid?

Oh geez, this makes me nervous. This is why I’ve never done a big ‘friend’ party before.

We are having our party at the bowling alley for the same reason—convenience. It’s 2 min from school/our neighborhood. We need RSVPs bc it’s on base so I have to be able to give the gate a list of names of non-mil people.

I am friends with several of his classmates’ moms, plus we’re inviting a couple friends from outside school, so hopefully we’ll get at least a handful of kids.

I have just read so many stories lately about parties where no one shows. We try to go to parties (and regardless, we always RSVP) so hopefully there’s some decent karma coming my way. But I’m mentally preparing for the worst 🤪

[wineallthetime]

I'm sorry, tgrimes. That really sucks. You guys need a break...like 3 years ago.

[tallb]

Ugh I'm sorry tgrimes. Hoping she feels better and the fever doesn't come back after the medicine wears off.

inthekitty did you do paper invites that were delivered to the kids or emails? I hope they got home and didn't get lost in the shuffle. Do you have a classmom who emails that you could reach out to?

J got his first paper one, but I also go an email. I guess they are inviting the whole class since it came home in his folder. We have only done online ones and I'm realizing I don't have emails for some of his class friends, so guess they aren't coming! We are doing only a few friends from class, so I don't want to send in invites.

[tallb]

So I got the kids out the door and on my first call at 10am with the baby...and I email daycare to followup about her starting in January and she's like oh, so I forgot to tell you but we can't guarantee a spot until MARCH. Marginally spiraling right now. I figured it'd be a month to cover, not two. So need to get my head around our options...def obviously paying a nanny is an expensive option, but will probably try to patch work it together. I'm pretty pissed though.

[tgrimes]

tallb MARCH! I'm sorry.

[inthekitty]

tallb, we don't have a classroom email list, so they were paper invites that went home in daily folders--over 2 weeks ago. So plenty of time to find them even if they don't check folders daily or they got lost in backpacks.

We did the same party 3 weeks ago with M and only about 5/20ish classmates showed. Most didn't RSVP. But it was the same thing where we had several TKD kids there so it was a decent turn out.

I really think it just mostly comes down to people being inconsiderate assholes. How hard is it to send a text?

flamingo I hope your karma pays off. We're the same way and always go to parties unless there's a conflict out of concern of no-shows. But we always RSVP regardless. I wish the kids had a small group of good friends where we knew the parents well so this wouldn't be an issue. I'd probably skip the parties altogether and take the kids to the bounce place or something fun like that which is usually too expensive for a large group.

[jewels]

Ugh tallb that's awful, I'm sorry

As to RSVPS, I sent mine out (email - we have a class list) just before Halloween and invited the whole class plus a handful of other friends and all my outside friends have responded plus a little more than half of the class. Party is next weekend so I am hopeful the rest come in over the next few days. This is our third "friend party" and usually everyone but 2 or 3 kids RSVP.

[inthekitty]

tallb, ugh. That's aggravating. "Forgot" to tell you. Grr. I hope you can figure something out soon.

[klong11]

inthekitty, rsvp's are the worst. Then, I got an email this morning, which I thought would be an rsvp, but it ended up being an invite to their daughter's party next weekend. We can't go, but I kind of want to be like, "are you going to rsvp for Cadence's???" Mh says if they didn't say yes, then it's probably a no and I told him, rsvp means yes OR no. I want to know if you CAN'T make it also! We've only heard from half her class, but I've heard from all of her old dc friends. People better not just show up, I'm already stressed about numbers.

[flamingo]

Ugh, so irritating tallb . "i forgot to tell you..." -- I FORGOT TO TELL YOU I"M GOING TO THROAT PUNCH YOU, DC Lady. Make it a great day!

inthekitty RSVPing is my hill-to-die-on, so I will rage with you. It's so easy nowadays...most people include text and email...you don't even have to talk to a stranger on the phone!

We're sending the invites to school and inviting the whole class. The one other party we've attended from school had a good turn-out, but they invited both K classes b/c their kids are twins, so IDK.


eta: klong11 My dad would be in your H's camp... he always says, "No one wants to be a no"--so people will avoid RSVPing b/c they don't like to say no. I think there is truth in that, for sure, but from a planning perspective, you're worried that these people will show up and throw your numbers off. 

In our case, if they don't RSVP, they're not getting on base, so I guess I will have a final count one way or another, lol. 

[inthekitty]

klong11 and flamingo exactly. I want to know if I need enough food to serve 10 or 30. I need to know if I'm going to be over the locations limit and have to pay for extras. I want to know how many favors to prepare. And yes, it's SO EASY!!! Just use that little device that's in your hand 4 hours a day and simply text yes or no! You don't even have to talk to me or worry if it's an appropriate time to call. You don't have to hire messenger pigeons. You don't have to learn Morse code. You don't need to send smoke signals from your roof or hire the pony express.

[trtlcrzy]

Hey. S and I ran to target this morning to get Christmas jammies and then wandered around looking at the Christmas stuff and toys. I think I’m going to be setting up our tree next week because I’m really starting to get into the spirit. Currently I’m waiting for S to finish eating so she can lay down for her nap. I borrowed my friend’s carpet cleaner so I’m going to work on the living room while she’s asleep.

I have officially gotten 2 rsvps...and we invited 12 families. Cool. I’m not doing favors because I don’t want to, and I’m just going to get a quarter sheet cake. We will order and pick up the pizzas after people show up so we won’t have too much or too little. I’m annoyed but I’m not going to stress about it. We invited our friend group, family and our neighbors that we’ve become friends with.

I’m sorry tgrimes. It sucks you have to decide between work and staying home with your sick kid.

[jewels]

Nov 14, 2019 11:42:48 GMT -6 klong11 said:

inthekitty , rsvp's are the worst. Then, I got an email this morning, which I thought would be an rsvp, but it ended up being an invite to their daughter's party next weekend. We can't go, but I kind of want to be like, "are you going to rsvp for Cadence's???" Mh says if they didn't say yes, then it's probably a no and I told him, rsvp means yes OR no. I want to know if you CAN'T make it also! We've only heard from half her class, but I've heard from all of her old dc friends. People better not just show up, I'm already stressed about numbers.

I would honestly do just that.  I'd RSVP and say "I'm so sorry we can't make it to X's party.  Do you know if we'll see X this Saturday at C's party?"

[lahdeedah]

Nov 14, 2019 10:37:24 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

Nov 14, 2019 10:04:49 GMT -6 lahdeedah said:

I have eleventy million things to do today. I’m out running errands now. If This cold doesn’t improve over the weekend, I’m taking myself to the doc for abx next week. It will have been over two weeks by then. I believe I have a sinus infection.

Dude.  Just go now.  

I might go tomorrow if I have time while at work. I think we can be seen for free at our hospital clinic.

[guster]

tgrimes, i’m so sorry. That’s a lot to deal with, and you’re doing the absolute best job you can. I hope M feels better when she gets home today.

[mwhip]

tgrimes you are doing what you have to do for your family. I hope she makes it through the day.
tallb that's some shit communication from DCP! I hope you find something in the interim that works well for you all!

You all are making me happy I didn't do the whole class birthday party thing. It's annoying enough that the grandparents can't make it, I can't imagine waiting to hear from 18 families.

[guster]

Our errands took so long this morning because I forgot I needed to go out to the vet to pick up more medicine for the kitty, and I wanted Charlie to get a haircut. We didn’t get home until almost 12 so no resting for me.
MH has a lot of what you describe,lahdeedah. It’s been ongoing for almost a week and a half so he’s leaving to go to urgent care right after school today because he thinks it’s a sinus infection gone awry. I hope you feel better soon.

[lahdeedah]

tallb WTF daycare lady! Like why would you forget to tel me I have no daycare spot for months! I would be pissed. I’m sorry.

[lahdeedah]

I’m glad to know y’all think like me in terms of convenience for parties. M got invited to a party this weekend in a town about 20-30 minutes away at a skating rink. I was thinking why would she hold it so far away? I don’t know if anyone from his class will show up. It’s a joint party for two sisters. I usually try to show up to parties, too, but with everything we have this weekend- football, parties, concerts- I kind of want to skip it. I asked his best friend’s mom if they were going, but they are out of town. I also just found out my ILs are probably not coming in town, so I won’t have anyone to watch M2. Don’t think I can help M skate with M2 on my hip.

[guster]

Nov 14, 2019 13:17:52 GMT -6 lahdeedah said:

tallb WTF daycare lady! Like why would you forget to tel me I have no daycare spot for months! I would be pissed. I’m sorry.

Oh yes! I agree with this. I knew there was something else I was forgetting to comment on. How ridiculous, tallb!

[peachsmama]

Just got my first period pp. I'm at the jump place with the boys and was not prepared. I have a rolled up diaper in my underwear........ super comfortable.

[klong11]

Nov 14, 2019 13:10:35 GMT -6 jewels said:

Nov 14, 2019 11:42:48 GMT -6 klong11 said:

inthekitty , rsvp's are the worst. Then, I got an email this morning, which I thought would be an rsvp, but it ended up being an invite to their daughter's party next weekend. We can't go, but I kind of want to be like, "are you going to rsvp for Cadence's???" Mh says if they didn't say yes, then it's probably a no and I told him, rsvp means yes OR no. I want to know if you CAN'T make it also! We've only heard from half her class, but I've heard from all of her old dc friends. People better not just show up, I'm already stressed about numbers.

I would honestly do just that.  I'd RSVP and say "I'm so sorry we can't make it to X's party.  Do you know if we'll see X this Saturday at C's party?"

Ends up she didn't get an invitation. I sent enough for the whole class and the teacher even gave her back extras. I'm hoping that's the only kid she missed!

[cagoldi]

Whew!

Finally caught up. It’s taken me days. The app kept crashing on my so I finally reinstalled and it seems better now.

I was in Vegas all weekend with X. He lived visiting my mom.

My Fibro is kicking my ass and my car’s engine blew up.😂

Fun times!

[flamingo]

Hi cagoldi! Glad y’all had a good trip; sorry about your car—the worst.

Currently rocking C and she’s asleep and snoring on my lap. Poor B got home and I feel like I’ve hardly said two words to him—made him a snack and then I needed to give C more meds and here we are. I’m taking him shoe shopping tonight once DH gets home so we’ll get done time together then.

lahdeedah I’m making the creamy chicken noodle soup tonight. I got everything chopped earlier while C was napping. It was supposed to be our Sunday meal but I figured I’d make it today since I’m stuck here anyway 🤷🏻‍♀️

ETA: soup was delicious! What a great recipe.

[jewels]

Nov 14, 2019 14:59:24 GMT -6 klong11 said:

Nov 14, 2019 13:10:35 GMT -6 jewels said:

I would honestly do just that.  I'd RSVP and say "I'm so sorry we can't make it to X's party.  Do you know if we'll see X this Saturday at C's party?"

Ends up she didn't get an invitation. I sent enough for the whole class and the teacher even gave her back extras. I'm hoping that's the only kid she missed!

Oh man! That stinks!  I can't remember, did you say you don't have a class list? Is there any way to reach out to everyone to see if they got it?  That same thing happened to me at DC last year where the teacher just didn't get it to everyone.  

[klong11]

Nov 14, 2019 15:32:59 GMT -6 jewels said:

Nov 14, 2019 14:59:24 GMT -6 klong11 said:

Ends up she didn't get an invitation. I sent enough for the whole class and the teacher even gave her back extras. I'm hoping that's the only kid she missed!

Oh man! That stinks!  I can't remember, did you say you don't have a class list? Is there any way to reach out to everyone to see if they got it?  That same thing happened to me at DC last year where the teacher just didn't get it to everyone.  

Well, right before we sent the invitations, they had their Halloween party and I sent 20 goodie bags. Cadence had 2 left, which she gave to 2 friends in after care. So when I sent the invitations I sent 20 as well, expecting 2 extras, which she could give to the 2 after care friends. However, she said the teacher only gave her 1 extra, so I gave her another one for the after care friends. Then she said the teacher gave her 2 more extras the next day. So I'm pretty sure this little girl was the only one that got missed.

[inthekitty]

Nov 14, 2019 13:10:25 GMT -6 trtlcrzy said:

Hey. S and I ran to target this morning to get Christmas jammies and then wandered around looking at the Christmas stuff and toys. I think I’m going to be setting up our tree next week because I’m really starting to get into the spirit. Currently I’m waiting for S to finish eating so she can lay down for her nap. I borrowed my friend’s carpet cleaner so I’m going to work on the living room while she’s asleep.

I have officially gotten 2 rsvps...and we invited 12 families. Cool. I’m not doing favors because I don’t want to, and I’m just going to get a quarter sheet cake. We will order and pick up the pizzas after people show up so we won’t have too much or too little. I’m annoyed but I’m not going to stress about it. We invited our friend group, family and our neighbors that we’ve become friends with.

I’m sorry tgrimes . It sucks you have to decide between work and staying home with your sick kid.

We're not doing favors this year either. Just ends up being a PITA with the lack of RSVP situation. Extra favors and food are an annoyance, but I can deal with that. My biggest concern is always lack of attendance and the kids feeling bad. Like I mentioned, I think we'll have at least 6-7 kids so that works, but worrying no one will be there for your kid sucks.

[wineallthetime]

I ended up having a nice day off. I let myself just not worry about the shit that needs to get done. I played with A all morning while sipping coffee and watching TV, picked up L and got a Tim Hortons pinini, I napped while L and A napped (L rarely naps!), then we picked up Clark and took L for a haircut. Now I'm sipping a glass of wine deciding if I want to make the Thai chicken noodle recipe I planned or just boil some pasta and call it good. And I'm off tomorrow so I'll get to the shit that needs to be done then.

[cagoldi]

Does anyone know if they make a Roomba type thing for the bathtub/shower enclosure?

Is this my million dollar idea?