sdlaura
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Post by sdlaura on Oct 25, 2019 11:30:46 GMT -6
Who have you told that you’re pregnant? Besides your husbands/SOs (I’m assuming ) For me, beyond DH, my doctor and acupuncturist, I’ve told two close friends. They both knew we were trying and I’ve seen them several times that involved wine in the past few weeks, so they would have known immediately anyway. I saw my sister and parents last weekend and didn’t tell them. Mainly because my mom is not going to be thrilled, and my sister would have a hard time not telling my mom, so if I’m going to deal with that, I’d rather have a better idea of whether the pregnancy is likely to last. I’ll see my parents again at thanksgiving and could tell them then.
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Post by ttcbabyj on Oct 25, 2019 11:42:57 GMT -6
sdlaura I’m sorry your mom wouldn’t be thrilled. I feel like DH has told so many people, I had to ask him to scale it back a bit. Because we know the sex, people he’s telling think I’m farther along than I am....the other day his friend was like you don’t even look 20 weeks, maybe 16, but not 20. Thanks I’m not even 7 weeks yet. 😐 I’ve told my brother and his girlfriend (told them not to tell my nephew yet) and two of my closest friends.
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Post by magaroni on Oct 25, 2019 12:08:11 GMT -6
My best friend and a few work friends know. My work friends only know because they registered me and did my labs at the beginning.
We plan to tell family on Thanksgiving. I don’t think anyone will be surprised. Most of our family and friends know we were planning a fourth. In the past it’s been so hard for me to keep it a secret but this time I would be fine keeping it a secret longer. My bloat has other plans though.
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Post by sdlaura on Oct 25, 2019 12:27:27 GMT -6
ttcbabyj my Mom just had two kids and already doesn't quite understand why my sister and I would sign up for the challenges of more than two kids (we each have 3 now). She's also not really a baby person - she prefers to be with older kids. She loves my kids individually, of course. magaroni I live 3,000 miles away from my family - otherwise I'm sure they'd figure it out from seeing me because of the bloating!
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Post by trtlcrzy on Oct 25, 2019 20:21:33 GMT -6
One day I had the strong urge that I should tell my family so I told my sisters and parents. I told DH to tell his side of the family but he hasn’t yet. I also told a work friend yesterday and will tell another when I see her tomorrow. Next weekend we are going to a halloween party that I historically get very drunk at so we will have to tell our close friends then. I don’t know why but something about this pregnancy feels different than the last one and I’m much more open about it. I won’t tell my kids or anyone not that close until after the ultrasound in a few weeks.
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Post by danib on Oct 27, 2019 3:58:48 GMT -6
We told our parents and siblings basically as soon as the stick dried. Our families are super close and see each other all the time, and I have a tendency to get super sick so we wouldn't have been able to hide it even if we wanted to. I've also told a few work friends due to situations that came up at work (one shift we had 2 people getting physical and I had to let my coworker know I wouldn't be getting in the middle of it, another shift was when I started bleeding and freaked out, etc). So then I also had to tell my supervisor because I didn't want her to hear 2nd hand. My niece also knows. She overheard mom and her husband talking about me bleeding and she flipped out. She's 11 and has pretty extreme anxiety, and people getting sick is a HUGE trigger for her. When we knew everything was Ok I explained it to her, she wasn't buying our generic explainations.
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Post by Radley on Oct 27, 2019 21:41:59 GMT -6
My mom, one of my sisters (although I’m not sure I’m buying that my mom hasn’t told my other sisters), my father in law and my best friend know. We only til my FIL and sis because I am having major “morning” sickness and was getting sick around them.
Idk if we’re going to fill announce or not. I’m really freaking tired of people feeling like they get an opinion or right to my body or whatever. Seriously so over it.
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Post by sdlaura on Nov 20, 2019 8:33:07 GMT -6
So lately I’m re-thinking our plan to share the news with our kids and our families around thanksgiving, and may wait till DH and I get back from our vacation (I’ll be 14 weeks then). My best friends already know. My reasoning is that my parents fly in on Thanksgiving and then start watching my kids for a week starting Sunday night after thanksgiving. My mom will already be stressed by that (it won’t be that bad because kids are in school/daycare from 8-5 all week and I got them a little babysitter help over the weekend, but it’s still out of the norm for her and my dad to do morning getting ready, dinners, bedtimes and most of weekend days with three kids). And I know the news that we’re having another kid will stress her out too, and I don’t want to cause more stress right before we leave. Then in terms of our kids, I know the older ones will want to tell everyone they know about the baby, and I’d rather not be out of the country for a week while they’re spreading the news. I also don’t plan to tell work till after my year end review/compensation discussion, and there’s always a chance one of my kids run into a coworkers’ kid while I’m gone. DH thinks my mom will figure it out immediately, but is willing to give it a shot. Should be interesting
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Post by willow on Nov 20, 2019 9:21:03 GMT -6
I wish you luck with figuring all that out, sdlaura! Family dynamics can be so tricky. I don’t know that there is anyone that doesn’t know about my pregnancy but I’m also much further along of course. But I made a fb announcement after my 8 week u/s when I found out it was twins so the cat was out of the bag then either way. I’m very clearly pregnant now lol so there isn’t any hiding it from strangers.
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Post by sdlaura on Nov 20, 2019 11:57:14 GMT -6
Thanks willow! I’m actually surprised I’m not showing more, given that this is my 5th pregnancy that has made it this far. If I wear maternity clothes it’s obvious, but if I just wear stretchier/looser regular clothes it’s not really. I’m more concerned that my not drinking will give it away - on Thanksgiving and when we take my parents out to dinner the Saturday night after thanksgiving as a thank you for watching the kids.
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Post by danib on Nov 20, 2019 13:20:41 GMT -6
Thanks willow! I’m actually surprised I’m not showing more, given that this is my 5th pregnancy that has made it this far. If I wear maternity clothes it’s obvious, but if I just wear stretchier/looser regular clothes it’s not really. I’m more concerned that my not drinking will give it away - on Thanksgiving and when we take my parents out to dinner the Saturday night after thanksgiving as a thank you for watching the kids. could you just be DD? Or try to give your waiter a private heads up to make your drinks virgin?
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Post by sdlaura on Nov 29, 2019 9:01:57 GMT -6
magaroni how was telling your family? Anyone else share their news for thanksgiving? I think I did ok keeping it under wraps still for now.
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Post by Radley on Nov 29, 2019 10:30:28 GMT -6
magaroni how was telling your family? Anyone else share their news for thanksgiving? I think I did ok keeping it under wraps still for now. I didn’t tell anyone but my BIL who knows all but shouted it at dinner. I think only my aunt caught it but it’s the freakin gossipy one so probably her half of the family ALL knows by now. It completely pissed me off.
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Post by sdlaura on Nov 29, 2019 10:36:12 GMT -6
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Post by magaroni on Nov 29, 2019 17:38:17 GMT -6
sdlaura It was good. DD2 wore her shirt. My SIL and BIL saw immediately. Everyone else took at least 15 minutes and/or prompting to read it.
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Post by danib on Nov 30, 2019 7:48:58 GMT -6
Apparently my aunt's figured something was up Thanksgiving (October) when me and mom didnt show up for dinner but my kids did (with my sisters) and my sisters were being vague about what was going on with me (I was at the hospital bleeding). I have such an obvious little belly happening because my stomach is usually 100% flat so they all basically connected the dots. I saw one aunt yesterday and she hugged me and whispered "I know we're not supposed to know yet because you haven't made an announcement, but congratulations". I just laughed because realistically more and more people are figuring it out and I think I'm just gonna flow with that. Well make out FB announcement when we find out the sex.
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