Wednesday Happenings?

[lfig]

I’m headed to STL, S has appts in the morning and we will be staying for the weekend. MH is there for work all week and then this weekend Java (our lab) has a retriever test. So Thursday I will leave S with my parents and go out with MH and his team and stay at the hotel with him. Then Friday we will move over to my parents house for the weekend.

[jewels]

Sept 25, 2019 9:33:36 GMT -6 wineallthetime said:

C is... not tired. At all. He can still play outside all evening, goes to bed at normal time (8:30) and it up at 6 ready to go!

+ 1.  I have noticed no change in his sleep habits at all.  

[jewels]

Sept 25, 2019 10:38:06 GMT -6 vino said:

Sept 25, 2019 10:22:21 GMT -6 lahdeedah said:

I get this. And I know I have been there, too. The moment that gave me pause was when she dropped her off at the crossing guard. I took this to mean on the sidewalk, with no teachers around to help. I wouldn’t do that. I would take them inside to a safe space.

I’ve ran away from my kids too, but it’s always been a hand off to a teacher inside a building.

Right.  But kids that are grade 1/2/3 or however old they are can walk across the street or from the other side of the street to the school.  It's no different from the drop off line where you drop them off with a monitor and they go into the school.

obviously dont know the specifics of the 'where' a parent can drop off the kids, where they are monitored, what time they have to be where, and it's kind of a moot point because it's the lack of kindness in the moment and judgey chatter towards the Mom that's getting to me.  I'm imagining that was my morning and rather then people coming to help out everyone stands around staring, I dislike that very, very much.

I Was thinking about this too.  S is one of the easiest kids around, but even he's had his moments.  Right around when he turned 3 (and B was a baby), he went through a really bad patch.  One day I Was picking up from DC and S just flipped out.  Refused to walk and I was carrying the infant carrier and bags.  He was screaming and acting a fool.  I literally didn't know what to do and one of the teachers just grabbed him, said "you don't treat your mom like this" and carried him out to the car and buckled him in for me.  I was SOOOO mad and so embarrassed.  When S finally calmed down we spent a good long time discussing how unacceptable that was.  He came in the next day to apologize to that teacher and she looked at me and said "that was nothing... every kid has their moments, don't worry about it. "

I was still so embarrassed, but at least she tried to not make it worse?  I don't know what I'm saying except I see what you're saying.  

[jewels]

clearly I am reading along and commenting before I finish so I keep having more thoughts.
klong11 I did miss the part about "your problem now" to the crossing guard. That's an asshole move. Regardless of what the kid was doing.

[cagoldi]

Dude was in rare form this morning because he was so tired after Disneyland last night.

They both had a great time and it was so fun to see X enjoy everything. The lights and noise never seemed to be too much for him at any point so that was nice.

We’re taking Miss P to her first concert this weekend and I am so excited for her to wear her hot pink Docs.

[vino]

Those are amazing cagoldi, love them

[jewels]

cagoldi what concert?

[lahdeedah]

Sept 25, 2019 12:47:05 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

I just feel badly for the little girl. I know what it's like to have a mother that causes scenes in public and it is so fucking embarrassing. I'm glad another parent helped her up and walked her across to get her to school.

Reading the post, I felt bad for the little girl, too. I think that’s always my first reaction- is feeling bad for the child and putting myself in their shoes first and not the mom’s.

[lahdeedah]

Sept 25, 2019 13:18:06 GMT -6 cagoldi said:

Dude was in rare form this morning because he was so tired after Disneyland last night.

They both had a great time and it was so fun to see X enjoy everything. The lights and noise never seemed to be too much for him at any point so that was nice.

We’re taking Miss P to her first concert this weekend and I am so excited for her to wear her hot pink Docs.

Glad y’all had a good time last night! Please post pics of P in her boots. They will look so cute on her!

[cagoldi]

Sept 25, 2019 13:24:16 GMT -6 jewels said:

cagoldi what concert?

Rancid.

[cagoldi]

Sept 25, 2019 13:40:28 GMT -6 lahdeedah said:

Sept 25, 2019 13:18:06 GMT -6 cagoldi said:

Dude was in rare form this morning because he was so tired after Disneyland last night.

They both had a great time and it was so fun to see X enjoy everything. The lights and noise never seemed to be too much for him at any point so that was nice.

We’re taking Miss P to her first concert this weekend and I am so excited for her to wear her hot pink Docs.

Glad y’all had a good time last night! Please post pics of P in her boots. They will look so cute on her!

I will!

Think I am going to put her in a leopard dress with a pink tulle slip underneath.

[jewels]

Sept 25, 2019 13:47:38 GMT -6 cagoldi said:

Sept 25, 2019 13:24:16 GMT -6 jewels said:

cagoldi what concert?

Rancid.

PDQ
I've met them and hung out with them.  The lead singer (Sorry, I'm not a fan so I don't remember his name) was super nice and very mild mannered/quiet.

[tgrimes]

Sept 25, 2019 13:38:08 GMT -6 lahdeedah said:

Sept 25, 2019 12:47:05 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

I just feel badly for the little girl. I know what it's like to have a mother that causes scenes in public and it is so fucking embarrassing. I'm glad another parent helped her up and walked her across to get her to school.

Reading the post, I felt bad for the little girl, too. I think that’s always my first reaction- is feeling bad for the child and putting myself in their shoes first and not the mom’s.

One time my mother told my dance director that she was going to wipe her ass up in the parking lot.  

Good times.

[flamingo]

tgrimes that's awful. I'm sorry. I have always found people who pop off like that to be super embarrassing to be around.

A couple years back I was waiting in the car while DH was in the store. A dad got out of the car next to us and was just berating his 2 little girls: "Hurry up, Get your ass out of the G-D car, etc". It was awful. They were maybe 4 and 3, they started crying. Now, I'm sure Dad probably had a long day, was tired, now having to stop and get the kids into Publix, etc. But that's not an excuse, and I wanted to punch him for talking to those children that way. I'd be willing to bet that was not a one-off, either.

Sorry, not sorry, I judged the shit out of him for that. My heart broke for those little girls. 

At the end of the day, I'm the adult who *should* know better, so I have to practice some self-control. That's not to say I'm perfect, and I try to give the benefit of the doubt to others b/c it is just a snapshot view sometimes. But I do think there is a reasonable standard of behavior to hold yourself to as a parent, and IMO throwing a kid at a crossing guard and saying "Your problem now" is not it.

[cagoldi]

jewels they’re not a band I would go out of my way to see, but Tim already had tickets before I agreed to come out this weekend. So when we decided I was bringing Poppy we just figured we would make sure she has her ear protection and plenty of opportunities to toddle around somewhere in that venue. We’re fully prepared to ditch early if she isn’t having it.

[inthekitty]

The WA NG FB (that's a lot of abbreviations) shared a post about a unit deploying. Every time they do this it never fails--people comment about what a pointless mission it is, or that they hope SGT Smith doesn't have to go, or that they're dreading it, etc. I'm still amazed in the year 2019 people still don't understand how the internet works and that these are not private thoughts, but everyone can see what they wrote--yes, even people in India.

[flamingo]

Sept 25, 2019 16:59:57 GMT -6 inthekitty said:

The WA NG FB (that's a lot of abbreviations) shared a post about a unit deploying. Every time they do this it never fails--people comment about what a pointless mission it is, or that they hope SGT Smith doesn't have to go, or that they're dreading it, etc. I'm still amazed in the year 2019 people still don't understand how the internet works and that these are not private thoughts, but everyone can see what they wrote--yes, even people in India.

I see these types of posts in Navy FB groups I'm in frequently. :smh: Way too much personal info being put out there...plus, so much for OPSEC! 

[peachsmama]

Add another thing to my list.. A cannot help M with homework without getting frustrated and making him cry.... I don't even know why I try to pass off things for him to handle.

[trtlcrzy]

Sept 25, 2019 18:14:30 GMT -6 peachsmama said:

Add another thing to my list.. A cannot help M with homework without getting frustrated and making him cry.... I don't even know why I try to pass off things for him to handle.

I think that’s one of those choose your battles things. Helping with homework isn’t his strong suit so instead maybe he can do baths, etc.

[trtlcrzy]

Hot topic wed today. I took the girls to dance and S was being a real gem. Freaked out when I told her it was time to do her hair and refused to be helpful at all with anything else. Once she got to dance class and sat for a minute she was fine and had fun. I don’t know what her deal was but I hope it doesn’t repeat next week. At the end of H’s class they turned the lights out in the studio and put on a disco ball. Looked like a lot of fun for the kids.

[kim22]

I’m a few days behind but I’m going on hour 8 at the ER with C. The sitter called yesterday that he had a fever. He was breathing heavy so we went to the doctor and get got his first every nebulizer treatment. We were up all night doing treatments and I took him back in the morning because he was no better. They gave another treatment and oral steroid and said if he wasn’t better in 2 hours, go to the ER. They have confirmed pneumonia so we are waiting for a bed and being admitted. He has had iv antibiotics and 4 more breathing treatments. He’s sleeping on me now after being awake all day.

On the plus side, DH got a big raise today so if I run out of sick days and have to get docked pay, I don’t need to stress.

[wedding]

Sept 25, 2019 11:24:24 GMT -6 vino said:

Well I'm going to have to agree to disagree, but I digress.

I’m laughing at this post under the mushroom nip pic! So serious😉

[flamingo]

LT for support kim22. What a stressful couple days! I hope C is on the mend soon and has a restful night tonight. Can they estimate how long they'll want to keep him in the hospital?

[wedding]

I haven’t fully caught up but I am certain in my lowest point with C that I could yell like that mom. I had to tuck him under my arm like a linebacker while he kicked and screamed a few times. I also never judge messy hair because I know how difficult kids can be with that stuff and also could see myself saying “fine be a mess!” I do take issue with the handoff to the crossing guard. Partially because the crossing guard is working and now distracted and it could be a safety issue. Not so much that the mom gave the kid to a school employee and booked it. I picture that mom going to her car and beating her hands on the steering wheel, screaming in frustration, and breaking down into tears. Probably because that’s how I would be if my kid fought that hard every day.

[cagoldi]

I’m sorry about C, kim22. Hoping he feels better quickly.

[mwhip]

kim22 hope C feels better soon and you guys are released quickly!

[tallb]

kim22 oh man, hope he feels better soon. Pneumonia is scary stuff.

[klong11]

kim22 I hope he feels better soon!

[tgrimes]

kim22 Poor baby and poor you! I hope C gets better quickly.

[trtlcrzy]

Poor baby kim22. I hope he’s feeling better quickly and you have a short hospital stay.