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Post by kam3100 on Aug 13, 2019 10:52:50 GMT -6
Dd1 goes as soon as she gets home. She also has been having accidents all weekend when there is no school. I feel like it’s a rebellion or something. Hopefully this stage will pass.
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Post by klw on Aug 13, 2019 10:59:59 GMT -6
Dd1 goes as soon as she gets home. She also has been having accidents all weekend when there is no school. I feel like it’s a rebellion or something. Hopefully this stage will pass. Is the school new to her?
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Post by goldenbird on Aug 13, 2019 11:22:15 GMT -6
So they basically got discharged from the hospital, went home and made a baby😬 yeah +1 yikes! i get the multiple kid thing but i just can't handle the back to back thing. I feel like it takes me a year at minimum to really feel recuperated from pregnancy. I tried to keep my face neutral but it was hard lol. That just seems medically risky.
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Post by PennyCandy on Aug 13, 2019 11:55:10 GMT -6
My kids are over two years apart and I still didn't fully recover between pregnancies. My hips are so messed up. I can't even imagine what it would be like with them that close together.
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Post by kam3100 on Aug 13, 2019 14:46:59 GMT -6
Dd1 goes as soon as she gets home. She also has been having accidents all weekend when there is no school. I feel like it’s a rebellion or something. Hopefully this stage will pass. Is the school new to her? Yep, kindergarten.
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Post by goldenbird on Aug 13, 2019 15:12:47 GMT -6
Do y'all have a pillow in the crib with baby yet? I ordered a 2 pack of toddler pillows so he could have one at DC but none of the other kids are using them and it's just one more thing to bring home to wash every week. So I don't think I'm going to send it. But I guess I can put one in his crib?
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Post by doublestuf on Aug 13, 2019 16:16:53 GMT -6
Do y'all have a pillow in the crib with baby yet? I ordered a 2 pack of toddler pillows so he could have one at DC but none of the other kids are using them and it's just one more thing to bring home to wash every week. So I don't think I'm going to send it. But I guess I can put one in his crib? Yes. I already had blankets in there. He likes to cuddle thing and wanders all over the crib. Recently I put one in his favorite corner that he bangs around in. Since we are at my mom's right now, he is in the same room, and he bangs around in it waking me up. He also has been waking up every night, and I wondered if that was it.
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Post by PennyCandy on Aug 13, 2019 18:10:27 GMT -6
We have a pillow and blanket at home, but not at daycare. He doesn't use them.
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Post by klw on Aug 13, 2019 19:13:22 GMT -6
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Post by doublestuf on Aug 13, 2019 19:40:19 GMT -6
Thank you for asking. Right now it is rocky. I called them (and the rest of my immediate family members) out on some close-minded beliefs last fall and asked that racist/homophobic language/jokes/etc stop happening as well as the hypocritical nature of being that their faith is so important to them. I cannot let my kids hear that. It obviously caused an uproar, and my mom had had several conversations about it with me in the months since, but not her H. I shared before we moved in that I didn't think while we were living here would be the time to hash it out for obvious reasons, but they decided otherwise, so we discussed things last night! And I was talked down to a lot of the conversation. It didn't go great, and there was something very hurtful and close-minded said to me by her H, and I'm not sure how to proceed because in some ways I am subjecting myself to this but we don't have anywhere else to go for 3ish more weeks, and I can't imagine uprooting the kids again and doing a hotel or something similar for that long. I feel like I need to grit my teeth to give them the small amount of stability that I can provide right now. There have been some smaller boundary-crossing issues. Like earlier in the week she went in our bedroom and made the bed because that is a "thing" for her H. In trying to get us out the door, that is not on my radar, and we shut the door, so I'm not sure why she did it. Things like that I grumble to H about and let it go. We are going to the beach for a few days tomorrow, and that will be the first time we've not been staying with other people since July 20, so I'm looking forward to it.
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Post by kam3100 on Aug 13, 2019 20:18:07 GMT -6
doublestuf that’s rough. I hope your three weeks fly by.
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Post by goldenbird on Aug 14, 2019 3:06:03 GMT -6
I think I'll put the pillow in there and see what he does. If he starts just throwing it out every night I'll put it away.
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Post by goldenbird on Aug 14, 2019 3:07:46 GMT -6
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Post by klw on Aug 14, 2019 5:29:03 GMT -6
Wow, doublestuf that sounds rough. I hope you guys enjoy your time away. And that the next few weeks pass by quickly (and without an other issues). 😔
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Post by sasam on Aug 14, 2019 6:17:35 GMT -6
That sounds rough doublestuf! Hope the rest of the time goes by quickly!
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Post by ohreally on Aug 14, 2019 7:21:14 GMT -6
doublestuf, What a terrible position to be in. I wish I had helpful advice for navigating this, but it's clear your mom and her husband don't support your move and are making it more difficult than it needs to be. Definitely continue to get out of the house as much as possible to limit your time around your family. Also be prepared for your relationship with them to be forever changed as things will likely continue to be said and done that will be difficult to ignore/accept/forgive.
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Post by PennyCandy on Aug 14, 2019 8:43:26 GMT -6
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Post by PennyCandy on Aug 14, 2019 8:45:32 GMT -6
My mom flies in this evening. She's supposed to keep the boys tomorrow, but I'm worried it's going to be too hard and she'll be stressed. The house is messy, clean, but there's stuff everywhere. I might be late to the airport. I'm a little stressed. If I can just get through tomorrow, it will be better.
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Post by cornflakegirl on Aug 14, 2019 13:54:52 GMT -6
Do y'all have a pillow in the crib with baby yet? I ordered a 2 pack of toddler pillows so he could have one at DC but none of the other kids are using them and it's just one more thing to bring home to wash every week. So I don't think I'm going to send it. But I guess I can put one in his crib? Not yet. She moves around so much that it would be kind of pointless right now.
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Post by sasam on Aug 14, 2019 14:42:05 GMT -6
Another trip to the pediatrician today since L keeps having crazy screaming in pain fits randomly. It had happened a couple of times when he had his last ear infection, but he’s had a few more since then and his ears are fine. He will randomly start screaming out of nowhere, usually waking up in the middle of the night. We’re pretty sure it must be stomach related, but aren’t entirely sure. Gas drops seem to help ease it off after some time, so maybe it’s just really intense gas. He had an episode today at daycare and they seemed to be at a loss too. Nothing comforts him during those episodes.
The doctor said we can go ahead and start transitioning him off of formula and can go to a plant based milk to see if dairy is the culprit. Other than that, no clue what could be causing those episodes. Only other thing the doctor could think is teething, but this is more than just crying out with teething pain.
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Post by goldenbird on Aug 14, 2019 14:54:20 GMT -6
sasam I hope the episodes stop soon. That sounds difficult for all of you.
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Post by doublestuf on Aug 14, 2019 18:26:00 GMT -6
doublestuf, What a terrible position to be in. I wish I had helpful advice for navigating this, but it's clear your mom and her husband don't support your move and are making it more difficult than it needs to be. Definitely continue to get out of the house as much as possible to limit your time around your family. Also be prepared for your relationship with them to be forever changed as things will likely continue to be said and done that will be difficult to ignore/accept/forgive. Unfortunately things have always been difficult with them. My mom and I have had a rocky relationship since I was a teenager and they moved in together and later married. Obviously the teen years are difficult for everyone but so many of our arguments stemmed from his stupid rules (saying yes/no ma'am/sir every time, being off the phone by 9 pm) that we had to abide by because it was "his" house. I was a saint of a teenager as far as drinking/drugs/sex goes. I did none of it but it was always tense anytime I was there because I don't deal with stupid shit very well and constantly called it out. Oh and my younger brother and his son did all kinds of stuff, but there's a difference between boys and girls. My mom did not do enough to stand up to him/set boundaries for his role-I have an amazing dad who I continued to also live with so he wasn't filling any role. I'm sure being a stepparent is not easy, but they couldn't have gone about in a more wrong way. Once I got to college, I just really withdrew myself from my mom and have had a largely superficial relationship since. I guess the anger and resentment got the best of me, and I just didn't care to really let her in on my life in a meaningful way anymore. But, she is very helpful to us and loves my kids dearly. I have always wondered what our relationship would have looked like had he not been in the picture, especially during the teen years. I went into this knowing it could be dicey. We had a rental lined up that fell through. We couldn't find anyone else to rent to us for a few months, so living with them was basically the only option. It's not a great situation, but we decided to sell and build, so 🤷♀️.
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Post by klw on Aug 14, 2019 19:31:05 GMT -6
H is finally getting old enough that she can "play" with DD1. SO tonight while I was making dinner, they we in a tent/tunnel for that DD1 put together. They were laughing and it just made my heart melt
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Post by potatocakes on Aug 15, 2019 10:12:32 GMT -6
What sippy cups are working well for your babies? We have the Munchkin 360 for milk, was thinking about getting a thermos funtainer for water like we have for my big kid, but I was wondering if there was a straw cup that seals that is easy to transport.
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Post by klw on Aug 15, 2019 12:00:13 GMT -6
Are you using different sippy cups for milk VS. water
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Post by klw on Aug 15, 2019 12:02:41 GMT -6
What sippy cups are working well for your babies? We have the Munchkin 360 for milk, was thinking about getting a thermos funtainer for water like we have for my big kid, but I was wondering if there was a straw cup that seals that is easy to transport. I have the munchkin ones with handles. I also bought a 4 pack of Nuby ones. I need to get a good straw cup I think. She will suck the life out of a pouch, but just chews on a straw
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Post by sasam on Aug 15, 2019 15:17:00 GMT -6
Are you using different sippy cups for milk VS. water We use the weighted straw cups for water and the 360 cups for formula/milk. Mainly because I don’t want to clean milk out of the straw.
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Post by vvvvvfee on Aug 15, 2019 15:37:44 GMT -6
potatocakes, i think the funtainers are worth the investment- you can get them for $10-$12 on amazon on sale. i totally disassemble mine and put them in the dishwasher-- i put the straw/mouthpiece part in the silverware basket and the body/cap in the top rack with no problem. alternative suggestions- get a cooler with a hard-sided insert so that stuff can't tip over as easily, or see if your daycare provider is willing to keep a carton of milk in the fridge for you there.
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Post by sasam on Aug 15, 2019 17:22:26 GMT -6
Today was L's first day of no bottles! He had all of his formula out of 360 cups today. He drank a little less than normal, but he still seems like he got enough. Hoping we can put his bottles away very soon!
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Post by bananas22 on Aug 15, 2019 18:56:17 GMT -6
Are you using different sippy cups for milk VS. water We use the weighted straw cups for water and the 360 cups for formula/milk. Mainly because I don’t want to clean milk out of the straw. We do the opposite. She drinks milk out of the weighted straw cup and uses the 360 for water. She didn’t like the 360s for awhile and would only really drink out of the weighted cups. Now she’ll do both but we haven’t changed it up.
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