June 17 randoms

[king26]

Whats up

[king26]

Im having a bit of a panic attack. We are supposed to drive 4 hours for 3 days for a business trip. Dh and i just discussed it and decided its not fair to j and i shpuld go myself. I dont want to leave him for 3 days. Heck i havent left him for longer than to go to work ever. He would be with dh from thursday at noon until saturday at 5pm. Its making me a nervous wreck and im not sure i can do it but i need to go on this trip for work. I can probably get away with leaving heee at 3am friday and getting home satursat 5pm but dh is against that.

I also want to gef a new car and am in the process of getting a rav4 hybrid (i hope)

[jt2378]

Jun 17, 2019 11:08:41 GMT -6 king26 said:

Im having a bit of a panic attack. We are supposed to drive 4 hours for 3 days for a business trip. Dh and i just discussed it and decided its not fair to j and i shpuld go myself. I dont want to leave him for 3 days. Heck i havent left him for longer than to go to work ever. He would be with dh from thursday at noon until saturday at 5pm. Its making me a nervous wreck and im not sure i can do it but i need to go on this trip for work. I can probably get away with leaving heee at 3am friday and getting home satursat 5pm but dh is against that.

I also want to gef a new car and am in the process of getting a rav4 hybrid (i hope)

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I'm sorry, sounds like you have a couple things totally stressful going on. I'm just going to say that J will be totally fine and that if your DH can stay with him and is encouraging you to just go, thats probably what is best for J. I also agree with him that you should not be leaving at 3:00am! Can you just leave later in the day on Thursday so you have more time with him that day?

We are batting around the idea of going away with the kids for a couple nights and its a 3 hour drive and I'm totally not sure M will make the car ride so I'm stressing. (which I realize is not the same situation but just babbling, lol)

[king26]

Jun 17, 2019 11:43:42 GMT -6 jt2378 said:

Jun 17, 2019 11:08:41 GMT -6 king26 said:

Im having a bit of a panic attack. We are supposed to drive 4 hours for 3 days for a business trip. Dh and i just discussed it and decided its not fair to j and i shpuld go myself. I dont want to leave him for 3 days. Heck i havent left him for longer than to go to work ever. He would be with dh from thursday at noon until saturday at 5pm. Its making me a nervous wreck and im not sure i can do it but i need to go on this trip for work. I can probably get away with leaving heee at 3am friday and getting home satursat 5pm but dh is against that.

I also want to gef a new car and am in the process of getting a rav4 hybrid (i hope)

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I'm sorry, sounds like you have a couple things totally stressful going on. I'm just going to say that J will be totally fine and that if your DH can stay with him and is encouraging you to just go, thats probably what is best for J. I also agree with him that you should not be leaving at 3:00am! Can you just leave later in the day on Thursday so you have more time with him that day?

We are batting around the idea of going away with the kids for a couple nights and its a 3 hour drive and I'm totally not sure M will make the car ride so I'm stressing. (which I realize is not the same situation but just babbling, lol)

Oh it is stressful. We go to my parents a little over 2 hours away and j does fine there but the trip back is a roll of the dice so i get it.

[addymac]

king26 I get the idea of being away from him so long for the first time is tough, but I would do it. I also have never left N for longer than a 14hr shift at work but I 100% would do a less than 3 day trip away. And my insides would be so sad but logically I know he’d be fine. DO IT. and enjoy star fishing in the bed alone without early or motn wakeups. DO IT FOR ALL OF US!!

Going out to dinner tomorrow with a friend after a massage so my nanny will put N to bed and thus he will STTN and that is the best birthday gift I have ever given myself.

Pretty disappointed I don’t think my H is getting me anything- he got me a cake yesterday bc I work til 11pm tonight and he does overnight call at the hospital tomorrow so he won’t be home to celebrate with me. But like no card... no other gift bro?!

[jt2378]

Happiest of birthdays to you! addymac

I hope you enjoy that massage and DH smartens up and gives you something special.

I think I’m like the worst because the thought of going away by myself sounds heavenly! Even if it was for work 😂 I’m burnt the F out.

[addymac]

jt2378 not the worst. I crave it. I’ve told my H and my sister several times (for months) that all I want is a night alone in a hotel. I only start to miss N if I think of it as a multi day trip but you bet your ass I’d go in a heartbeat if I had the opportunity. Also I think some anxiety creeps in bc I’ve never not seen him every day of his life but I’d get over it real fast. ESP if he was with dh lol

[king26]

Jun 17, 2019 20:49:57 GMT -6 jt2378 said:

Happiest of birthdays to you! addymac

I hope you enjoy that massage and DH smartens up and gives you something special.

I think I’m like the worst because the thought of going away by myself sounds heavenly! Even if it was for work 😂 I’m burnt the F out.

In all fairness its for my part time job as a food blogger and its with a beef company so it will be 48 hours of swanky restaurants where we taste the beef in different locations and then we get to cook in their facility so....fun work trip

[king26]

Jun 17, 2019 23:21:17 GMT -6 addymac said:

jt2378 not the worst. I crave it. I’ve told my H and my sister several times (for months) that all I want is a night alone in a hotel. I only start to miss N if I think of it as a multi day trip but you bet your ass I’d go in a heartbeat if I had the opportunity. Also I think some anxiety creeps in bc I’ve never not seen him every day of his life but I’d get over it real fast. ESP if he was with dh lol

Thats my problem. Ive seen him every day of his life and ive put him to bed all buy like 2 times. Ill see him thursday and satirday but i wont see him at all friday so that sucks

[addymac]

Jun 18, 2019 7:20:15 GMT -6 king26 said:

Jun 17, 2019 23:21:17 GMT -6 addymac said:

jt2378 not the worst. I crave it. I’ve told my H and my sister several times (for months) that all I want is a night alone in a hotel. I only start to miss N if I think of it as a multi day trip but you bet your ass I’d go in a heartbeat if I had the opportunity. Also I think some anxiety creeps in bc I’ve never not seen him every day of his life but I’d get over it real fast. ESP if he was with dh lol

Thats my problem. Ive seen him every day of his life and ive put him to bed all buy like 2 times. Ill see him thursday and satirday but i wont see him at all friday so that sucks

FaceTime! It’ll be ok. I promise. You’ll be glad you did it.

[pennylane]

king26 Go and enjoy yourself! Have your H FaceTime and send you pic updates if you want to ease your mind, but no way would I pass up that trip.

We’re driving my kids and our niece to the grandparents house this weekend and leaving them there for a week. I’m nervous about leaving them, but also, looking forward to the much needed break. It’s our 10th anniversary next week so we thought we’d take time to ourselves.

[jt2378]

Jun 18, 2019 10:36:47 GMT -6 pennylane said:

king26 Go and enjoy yourself! Have your H FaceTime and send you pic updates if you want to ease your mind, but no way would I pass up that trip.

We’re driving my kids and our niece to the grandparents house this weekend and leaving them there for a week. I’m nervous about leaving them, but also, looking forward to the much needed break. It’s our 10th anniversary next week so we thought we’d take time to ourselves.

This sounds amazing, enjoy the much deserved break and happy 10th anniversary to you guys!

[king26]

Jun 18, 2019 10:36:47 GMT -6 pennylane said:

king26 Go and enjoy yourself! Have your H FaceTime and send you pic updates if you want to ease your mind, but no way would I pass up that trip.

We’re driving my kids and our niece to the grandparents house this weekend and leaving them there for a week. I’m nervous about leaving them, but also, looking forward to the much needed break. It’s our 10th anniversary next week so we thought we’d take time to ourselves.

That sounds amazing! Have so much fun!

[yellowcat]

Jun 17, 2019 11:08:41 GMT -6 king26 said:

Im having a bit of a panic attack. We are supposed to drive 4 hours for 3 days for a business trip. Dh and i just discussed it and decided its not fair to j and i shpuld go myself. I dont want to leave him for 3 days. Heck i havent left him for longer than to go to work ever. He would be with dh from thursday at noon until saturday at 5pm. Its making me a nervous wreck and im not sure i can do it but i need to go on this trip for work. I can probably get away with leaving heee at 3am friday and getting home satursat 5pm but dh is against that.

I also want to gef a new car and am in the process of getting a rav4 hybrid (i hope)

Leaving for the first time is hard but having done several long trips now I can say there is nothing like sleep and a hotel room all to yourself!

[yellowcat]

addymac happy birthday. And again as the frequent non-kid traveler I say take all the alone trips tou will be able to regroup and will be a better.mom for it. If I gave up these trips I would be miserable and even start to resent my family and that would suck.

[king26]

So we tried sleep training last night. It sucked but it worked. 48 minutes to get him down. I almost caved at 43 minutes but had me hold on. Im glad i did. J only woke up once at 215. It took 26 minutes to get him to sleep but then he slept until645. Overall it sucked but went well. Hopefully tonight will be better

[pennylane]

addymac I hope you had a great birthday!

king26 Good luck with bedtime tonight. Sleep training stinks on day 1. But it’ll be worth it once he’s sleeping better!

[yellowcat]

So J is getting molars and any chance of sleep is gone. Plus baby C is teething so there goes our one good sleeper. My oldest sleeps all night but it is impossible to get her to go to her bed. She has to fall asleep on the couch. Ugh...

[addymac]

Jun 19, 2019 6:13:11 GMT -6 king26 said:

So we tried sleep training last night. It sucked but it worked. 48 minutes to get him down. I almost caved at 43 minutes but had me hold on. Im glad i did. J only woke up once at 215. It took 26 minutes to get him to sleep but then he slept until645. Overall it sucked but went well. Hopefully tonight will be better

What are you doing to sleep train? CIO? If so, are you doing intervals to check in?

I'm so lost on what to do for sleep for N. He will go to sleep by himself, and STTN or will wake up and go back to bed by himself when it's my nanny who put him to bed and so he thinks she's there all night. For DH, he will go to bed by himself and 50/50 on STTN. For me, won't go to bed by himself, will wake up multiple times, will scream until I go in, won't fall back asleep until we move to the futon and he falls asleep on top of me. It's AWFUL. I don't know how to fix this. So far my plan is to not be around for bedtime. But i can't do that forever. Sunday night I did half of bedtime and then we pretended I had to go to work- so I kissed him and made a big thing about how I was leaving - and I pretended to leave - opened the door and closed it and locked it. Then I snuck back in after DH closed his bedroom door to finish bedtime. Monday night I actually worked til 11p so I wasn't around. Tuesday I went out for dinner so my nanny put him down. Tonight I'm just going to IDK, hide? ugh. I just don't know what to do. Saturday night though, I'm on my own with him. 

Thanks for the birthday wishes! I had a nice day. Hung out with N in the morning, then put him down for a nap, then took my own nap, then got up and went bra shopping, then had a 90min massage (OMG AMAZING I NEVER WANT TO GO BACK TO 60MIN BC SERIOUSLY I WOULD DO A 2H MASSAGE IF I COULD LOL). Then met up with my friend for dinner and drinks on a rooftop patio bar bc the weather was finally nice enough for a few hours and had a DELICIOUS gin & tonic, i'm still dreaming about it. 

[addymac]

Jun 19, 2019 12:56:35 GMT -6 yellowcat said:

So J is getting molars and any chance of sleep is gone. Plus baby C is teething so there goes our one good sleeper. My oldest sleeps all night but it is impossible to get her to go to her bed. She has to fall asleep on the couch. Ugh...

oh gosh. T&Ps. You and your H amaze me - three kids plus constant work and travel. You guys are amazing!

[king26]

Jun 19, 2019 12:56:35 GMT -6 yellowcat said:

So J is getting molars and any chance of sleep is gone. Plus baby C is teething so there goes our one good sleeper. My oldest sleeps all night but it is impossible to get her to go to her bed. She has to fall asleep on the couch. Ugh...

Omg im so sorry. I have enough trouble witj 1 I cant imagine 3 with different sleep issues. Sending you all the coffee.

[king26]

addymac so jealous of your 90 minute massage. I usally get a 50 minute one amd love it. We are doing ferber for sleep training so we do checks in intervals. Weve done it 2 othet times and it worked. He had decent sleep last night so ky guess os it will work this time too it just sucks to hear him cry especially MOTN. J os definitely more clingy with me which is funny since dh has him a lot more than i do. My guess is when im away for 3 days he will sleep fine for dh.

[jt2378]

I’m so sorry the sleep issues still continue with N addymac. I would be losing my marbles too. I hope he eases up on you soon. I’m so glad you had such a great birthday, sounds like the perfect day 🤗

GL with sleep training king26 🤞

[kristyw]

Gosh it's been forever since I checked in here. Sorry ladies.

E had her first ear infection at the end of May (along with DS and a sinus infection for me). She finished the antibiotics but continued to sleep crappy so I took her back in on Monday; other ear is infected now and the first one still didn't look great. So, back on antibiotics. And also still sleeping crappy.

king26 H and I both work some weekends and they occasionally overlap, so I'm fairly used to my kids not spending every night with us. H and I also took a trip last Nov for a few days kids free. It was so nice. Try to release the guilt, know that H will be fine with him, and have a good time!

[king26]

kristyw i hope she feels better soon poor thing.

Sleep training is work thabkfully. Last night i only had to do 1 check in and he was asleep within 10 minutes. He woke at 4am but i went in rubber his back for 1 minute and he slept until 630. So much better! No one was more shocked than me that nap went well yesterday too. He cried about 10 minutes then slept for an hour and a half. Im hoping this continues and dh and i just have to stick with the interval check ins and not give in.

[addymac]

i'm really jealous your sleep training works so quickly, king26

although we are going away for two nights next week, so we kind of decided there was no point to real sleep training since the nights away would just fuck everything up anyway.

i miss sleeping with DH in bed every night. I really wish we could go away just the two of us for even one night. blah.

[muscari]

Am I missing something/a thread or haven't there been any new posts on A17 for 5 days?? Was coming to read and catch up but am confused now heh