Weekend Thread

[Sunny41]

May 19, 2019 21:13:27 GMT -6 peachsmama said:

May 19, 2019 21:08:04 GMT -6 klong11 said:

Did you text/call him at any point in that time?
He def. should have, but at the same time, if you were worried you could have called him.
I'm still a hell no to being gone that long for a ride without letting you know it would be that long, though.

I didnt. I never do because its normally only 30 minutes or so and his phone is in the saddle bag. He says he checks it periodically just in case I need him. And I kept hearing motorcycles go by, all the windows were open, so I'd think it was him then it wasnt. I kept thinking just another few minutes. And then I started to get pissed and wanted to see how long he would go without saying a freaking word.

Then when I brought it up tonight he acted like I was being a nagging wife wanting him to check in. And even if he had I still would of been pissed.

Well yes there were 2 issues. The not checking in and saying he was going for a quick ride while you waited for him so you could do something together. If I'm honest, I'm surprised you let him have a motorcycle, it doesn't seem in line with your personality

[peachsmama]

May 19, 2019 21:32:46 GMT -6 Sunny41 said:

May 19, 2019 21:13:27 GMT -6 peachsmama said:

I didnt. I never do because its normally only 30 minutes or so and his phone is in the saddle bag. He says he checks it periodically just in case I need him. And I kept hearing motorcycles go by, all the windows were open, so I'd think it was him then it wasnt. I kept thinking just another few minutes. And then I started to get pissed and wanted to see how long he would go without saying a freaking word.

Then when I brought it up tonight he acted like I was being a nagging wife wanting him to check in. And even if he had I still would of been pissed.

Well yes there were 2 issues. The not checking in and saying he was going for a quick ride while you waited for him so you could do something together. If I'm honest, I'm surprised you let him have a motorcycle, it doesn't seem in line with your personality

The motorcycle doesnt bother me. And not pregnant me actually enjoys riding.

[tgrimes]

peachsmama Do y'all have iphones? I had to share my location with MH & vice versa because he is the worst about checking in. At least this way I know he's not in jail or a hospital when I can't find him.

[peachsmama]

May 20, 2019 7:31:49 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

peachsmama Do y'all have iphones? I had to share my location with MH & vice versa because he is the worst about checking in. At least this way I know he's not in jail or a hospital when I can't find him.

No

[klong11]

May 20, 2019 7:33:56 GMT -6 peachsmama said:

May 20, 2019 7:31:49 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

peachsmama Do y'all have iphones? I had to share my location with MH & vice versa because he is the worst about checking in. At least this way I know he's not in jail or a hospital when I can't find him.

No

Put a GPS on his bike.

[klong11]

peachsmama, the way I see it, you're pregnant with your 3rd who could come anytime she wants at this point, right? I know you aren't due until July, but the N13s seem to like early 3rds. He doesn't need to go anywhere that far away or for that long without letting you know.

[peachsmama]

May 20, 2019 7:38:52 GMT -6 klong11 said:

May 20, 2019 7:33:56 GMT -6 peachsmama said:

No

Put a GPS on his bike.

It's not about tracking where he is.

[peachsmama]

I'm upset about it for a whole lot of reasons and it pisses me off that he's acting like I'm just wanting to keep tabs on him. Like that's never been our relationship and for him to act like I'm nagging and trying to just keep him home is insulting. That's the main thing. Then yes, I'm 8 freaking months pregnant and he said we were going to spend time together and he just disappears without a word for 3 hours. It would be different if the times were different but he left before 9 and didn't get home until almost midnight. We're not those people. Our kids are in bed by 8 and we're in bed by 10. We don't go to bars at midnight. And when he got home he says he was at bar 1 with old high school friend just shooting pool. The next day I find out in little pieces where else he was. Then when I confront him about not communicating with me I get about 4 different excuses as to why he didn't and the "check in" guilt.

And is seriously pisses me off that I can't fight with him without crying. Fucking hormones. Like I'm not sad. I'm pissed. I just want to yell damn it.

[jewels]

peachsmama, even not pregnant, that's me. Whenever I get super pissed off, I cry. I hate that about myself.

[guster]

I’m sorry, @peach. I’d be really upset and angry about the situation, too. I hope he comes around and talks to you about it. Do you think he’s having a hard time dealing with the situation with your SIL and his parents?

[peachsmama]

May 20, 2019 8:15:48 GMT -6 jewels said:

peachsmama , even not pregnant, that's me. Whenever I get super pissed off, I cry. I hate that about myself.

I do sometimes not pregnant. But it's every single thing pregnant. I'm so tired of crying. Like I cry more because I start crying and I'm mad at myself for crying. WTF. 

[peachsmama]

May 20, 2019 8:19:28 GMT -6 guster said:

I’m sorry, @peach. I’d be really upset and angry about the situation, too. I hope he comes around and talks to you about it. Do you think he’s having a hard time dealing with the situation with your SIL and his parents?

I'm sure it's on his mind. But he's had a lot of good talks with his sister and his mom. I don't think that's what this was. 

[nam2013]

May 20, 2019 8:15:48 GMT -6 jewels said:

peachsmama, even not pregnant, that's me. Whenever I get super pissed off, I cry. I hate that about myself.

+1 it is the worst. I do not want your pity, I’m angry!!!

[nam2013]

peachsmama I’m sorry. It hate that too. I do not care that you are late, I just want to know THAT you’re late, then I’m fine.

[vino]

peachsmama It sounds like its totally out of the blue for him to take off for a few hours, time just slipped away. I’d be a little annoyed too but by what you say it probably wasn’t malicious; you’ve said (cried) your peace so maybe just let it go. It’s not worth the tension.

[cagoldi]

Congrats to your H, vino!!!

[cagoldi]

May 18, 2019 18:17:10 GMT -6 inthekitty said:

kim22 lolz. I'm laughing at the card. I'm sorry. I know the situation sucks. There was never anything that fit for my dad over the years. Or even my stepdad for that matter. I always thought "I think you're a decent, and certainly at least mediocre stepdad, but let's not go crazy with best."

That would have been perfect for my SD, too.

My dad really is terrific, but he thinks those “best dad” cards and shirts are ridiculous. I got him a “World’s Okayest Dad” mug that he loves and displays proudly.

[inthekitty]

Honestly peachsmama it sounds to me like he's trying to let loose before the baby. Even though it's his third and he should be used to this by now, I think he might be having some pre-baby jitters and therefore slacking on responsibility at home and trying to break off for freedom. It's shitty to leave you to be the responsible one while he does this and he needs to communicate and coordinate better when he needs a break. It sounds like he's blissfully unaware he's doing it though.

[jewels]

May 20, 2019 10:59:59 GMT -6 inthekitty said:

Honestly peachsmama it sounds to me like he's trying to let loose before the baby. Even though it's his third and he should be used to this by now, I think he might be having some pre-baby jitters and therefore slacking on responsibility at home and trying to break off for freedom. It's shitty to leave you to be the responsible one while he does this and he needs to communicate and coordinate better when he needs a break. It sounds like he's blissfully unaware he's doing it though.

I was thinking this same thing.