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Post by lahdeedah on May 8, 2019 8:27:51 GMT -6
wineallthetime A caught up quickly after being born so early, so I'm sure he will catch up quickly on the developmentally side as well. How long do you wait for a follow up? I'm really annoyed with a FB friend for saying I'm 'harsh' for not going back with Evie at her dentist appointments. I know I shouldn't take it so personally, but I don't think that's harsh. I think it will slowly teach her independence. Do you all go back with them for regular cleaning/check ups? Am I too harsh? I mean, yes, my personality in general, is harsh. But it's not like I dropped her off at the door and yelled 'Peace Out' as I sped away. I also think every kid handles it differently and I know for my kid, she does better with anxiety causing events, if I am not around. What? Absolutely not. Our current dentist has a policy that once you are 3, parents no longer go back. I was nervous the first time for him, but he did real well. |
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Post by cagoldi on May 8, 2019 8:31:49 GMT -6
wineallthetime A caught up quickly after being born so early, so I'm sure he will catch up quickly on the developmentally side as well. How long do you wait for a follow up? I'm really annoyed with a FB friend for saying I'm 'harsh' for not going back with Evie at her dentist appointments. I know I shouldn't take it so personally, but I don't think that's harsh. I think it will slowly teach her independence. Do you all go back with them for regular cleaning/check ups? Am I too harsh? I mean, yes, my personality in general, is harsh. But it's not like I dropped her off at the door and yelled 'Peace Out' as I sped away. I also think every kid handles it differently and I know for my kid, she does better with anxiety causing events, if I am not around. It would be harsh for my kids, but they have different needs, so it’s completely child dependent, IMO. Like you said, you know your kid best and if you think she does better without you who is the friend to say otherwise? It is annoying she felt the need to characterize it that way, but she is being more harsh with her judgment than you are with your parenting. Try not to let it get to you too much. |
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Post by peachsmama on May 8, 2019 8:34:03 GMT -6
wineallthetime A caught up quickly after being born so early, so I'm sure he will catch up quickly on the developmentally side as well. How long do you wait for a follow up? I'm really annoyed with a FB friend for saying I'm 'harsh' for not going back with Evie at her dentist appointments. I know I shouldn't take it so personally, but I don't think that's harsh. I think it will slowly teach her independence. Do you all go back with them for regular cleaning/check ups? Am I too harsh? I mean, yes, my personality in general, is harsh. But it's not like I dropped her off at the door and yelled 'Peace Out' as I sped away. I also think every kid handles it differently and I know for my kid, she does better with anxiety causing events, if I am not around. I go back. But only because I love our tech and want to catch up 😂 |
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Post by lahdeedah on May 8, 2019 8:34:58 GMT -6
wineallthetime Hope the plan going forward works well for you all and A. Hope you all stay safe TX ladies!
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Post by peachsmama on May 8, 2019 8:35:45 GMT -6
mwhip we go to a dentist that has like 6 rooms going with a hygienist in each and I usually take all the kids at the same time. I’m there but basically running around to everyone so the kids are on their own most of the time. Next time, the baby has an appointment and he will be 18 months so obviously I will be with him and the others will be fine. I think there are times when we should see our kids as “only 5” and times when we should see them as “already 5.” That last sentence, great way to think about it! |
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Post by guster on May 8, 2019 8:36:11 GMT -6
mwhip we go to a dentist that has like 6 rooms going with a hygienist in each and I usually take all the kids at the same time. I’m there but basically running around to everyone so the kids are on their own most of the time. Next time, the baby has an appointment and he will be 18 months so obviously I will be with him and the others will be fine. I think there are times when we should see our kids as “only 5” and times when we should see them as “already 5.” That last sentence, great way to think about it! Yes! I love this too, kim22 |
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Post by cagoldi on May 8, 2019 8:36:12 GMT -6
I’m glad they’re going to be keeping an eye on A, wineallthetime, and have no doubts that he will catch up quickly. |
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Post by lahdeedah on May 8, 2019 8:37:28 GMT -6
Morning.
I think I forgot mention yesterday that I also came down with a nasty head cold on day one of solo parenting. I was not in the mood last night and the boys were full of energy. This is going to be a long rest of the week.
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Post by mwhip on May 8, 2019 8:49:24 GMT -6
Oh absolutely. And they do come get the parents at the end of the visit to review how everything went. They also encourage parents to stay out in the waiting area. The hygenist who comes to get the kids talks to the parent about any concerns/questions, then asks if what they are planning on doing during the visit is all okay. I did lie to Evie though and tell her that mommies aren't allowed back after the first visit, because she would want me back there. But the hygenist and the dentist both agree, it's best for me and Evie that I stay in the waiting area. It's not like I'm ignoring her screaming from the waiting area. I'm glad they interact with the parent even if you are out of the room. That's my concern, does she understand what treatments they are doing, what are they doing, do they respect her saying no, is she ever left alone in the chair or in a private room with 1 individual. I wouldn't send E in to the pediatrician room without me because he doesn't understand how to answer the drs questions or convey the information to me. I'm glad to hear they have a plan on how to treat a minor with the parents input even at such a young age. Did her anxiety start with a cleaning or filling? ETA I have seen that this is a common thing and just wonder about these logistics ETA I don't think it was harsh or mean or mom wanting to play on the phone She does understand what they're doing, they explain things very well, let her touch the tools they are using, etc. She has said no the past few times to xrays and she was going to yesterday, until she saw another 5 year old being brave and doing them, so then she decided she could handle it as well. The kids only go in a room on their first visits or for procedures. For cleanings, they have a room with 4 or 5 chairs that all the kids are in, they get tablets to play on/with. I don't know that anxiety is the right word to use, but she will have a breakdown if I'm around, like I'm somehow supposed to make it all easy and better, but unfortunately, it's the dentist and sometimes it will suck. If I'm not there, she will calm down and work through her scaredness. Like yesterday, the hygenist said she did cry when they first went back and she showed her the tools, talked to her until she calmed down, and was 100% fine the rest of the visit. I honestly think if I had gone back with her, she would have cried off and on the entire time, not allowed xrays again and it would have been a much worse experience for all. |
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Post by peachsmama on May 8, 2019 8:52:39 GMT -6
My dad stops down almost every morning around 9-9:05. I try to be leaving at 9:10. Its making me late. Constantly! Matthew was 10 minutes late to school this morning and it's so frustrating. Either come earlier or wait until I get back from dropping them off! It's never anything urgent either. I think he just misses seeing them in the mornings. But lord. It starts my day off rough. And today since I was waiting on my pants to dry, I was in my underwear.. and they didnt dry. So I put on my "mowing" shorts. Which are super short and not flattering. And because he made me late, I had to walk M into school like that 🤦♀️
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Post by peachsmama on May 8, 2019 8:55:32 GMT -6
I'm glad they interact with the parent even if you are out of the room. That's my concern, does she understand what treatments they are doing, what are they doing, do they respect her saying no, is she ever left alone in the chair or in a private room with 1 individual. I wouldn't send E in to the pediatrician room without me because he doesn't understand how to answer the drs questions or convey the information to me. I'm glad to hear they have a plan on how to treat a minor with the parents input even at such a young age. Did her anxiety start with a cleaning or filling? ETA I have seen that this is a common thing and just wonder about these logistics ETA I don't think it was harsh or mean or mom wanting to play on the phone She does understand what they're doing, they explain things very well, let her touch the tools they are using, etc. She has said no the past few times to xrays and she was going to yesterday, until she saw another 5 year old being brave and doing them, so then she decided she could handle it as well. The kids only go in a room on their first visits or for procedures. For cleanings, they have a room with 4 or 5 chairs that all the kids are in, they get tablets to play on/with. I don't know that anxiety is the right word to use, but she will have a breakdown if I'm around, like I'm somehow supposed to make it all easy and better, but unfortunately, it's the dentist and sometimes it will suck. If I'm not there, she will calm down and work through her scaredness. Like yesterday, the hygenist said she did cry when they first went back and she showed her the tools, talked to her until she calmed down, and was 100% fine the rest of the visit. I honestly think if I had gone back with her, she would have cried off and on the entire time, not allowed xrays again and it would have been a much worse experience for all. I think having a good hygienist is half the battle. It's great that she talks her down and knows how to calm her. Ours is the children whisperer and keeps them calm and engaged the whole time. She should really make more than the dentist. All he does is count the teeth and look around a little. She spends the majority of the time with them. |
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Post by Sunny41 on May 8, 2019 9:02:22 GMT -6
mwhip lahdeedah do the kids go to a pediatric specific dental office? Neither of the 2 dentists that we've seen have special areas inside for kids or policies but the recent dentist does seem better with kids (kids waiting area). Also our insurance doesn't cover before age 3 so that 1st visit would have been difficult
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Post by mwhip on May 8, 2019 9:06:51 GMT -6
mwhip lahdeedah do the kids go to a pediatric specific dental office? Neither of the 2 dentists that we've seen have special areas inside for kids or policies but the recent dentist does seem better with kids (kids waiting area). Also our insurance doesn't cover before age 3 so that 1st visit would have been difficult Ours is a pediatric office only. Our first visit was difficult, I was in the room with her for that one. They were great at explaining things, we had read books, but she would hardly let them look in her mouth...I'm not sure what she thought would happen. I also tell her how much I enjoy the dentist office, there is nothing to be scared of, etc. |
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Post by xolastunicornxo on May 8, 2019 9:24:41 GMT -6
Sunny41 no, not at all. Ryland currently has his fingernails painted blue and his toes are red. On “pink day” at school he wore one of C’s bows in his hair. He’s also a total boy, he just zero fucks and knows it’s ok for him want to paint his nails or wear pink. mwhip I totally side eyed that comment of Facebook. peachsmama old navy has a lot of really cute dinosaurs themed baby girl clothes! I thought of you!
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Post by mwhip on May 8, 2019 9:24:47 GMT -6
My husband just sent me a text asking who made the kinda rude comment to me on my FB post. I told him the same one I had to unfriend right after we moved and made a shitty post directed to me...and that I would be unfriending her soon. He said he almost ripped into her but thought he better ask me first. Glad we think alike.
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Post by wedding on May 8, 2019 9:32:36 GMT -6
wineallthetime A caught up quickly after being born so early, so I'm sure he will catch up quickly on the developmentally side as well. How long do you wait for a follow up? I'm really annoyed with a FB friend for saying I'm 'harsh' for not going back with Evie at her dentist appointments. I know I shouldn't take it so personally, but I don't think that's harsh. I think it will slowly teach her independence. Do you all go back with them for regular cleaning/check ups? Am I too harsh? I mean, yes, my personality in general, is harsh. But it's not like I dropped her off at the door and yelled 'Peace Out' as I sped away. I also think every kid handles it differently and I know for my kid, she does better with anxiety causing events, if I am not around. DH does dentist appointments so I have no idea. I have been told I'm harsh too. C is very independent and always has been. He does a lot solo that other parents would scoff at. At the hairdressers i wait in the waiting area while he gets a cut. I can see him but I'm not talking him through it or anything. I've seen some customers give me judgy looks but if there's no need for me to hold a hand, I don't. He does great. I'm definitely not a helicopter mom. |
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Post by peachsmama on May 8, 2019 9:33:47 GMT -6
Sunny41 no, not at all. Ryland currently has his fingernails painted blue and his toes are red. On “pink day” at school he wore one of C’s bows in his hair. He’s also a total boy, he just zero fucks and knows it’s ok for him want to paint his nails or wear pink. mwhip I totally side eyed that comment of Facebook. peachsmama old navy has a lot of really cute dinosaurs themed baby girl clothes! I thought of you! I'll check them out! And J sounds just like R. He's always oozing dirt and sand but he also has a hot pink soccer bag and cleats. |
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Post by cagoldi on May 8, 2019 9:43:35 GMT -6
mwhip I’m not remembering what she said to/about you after you moved?
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Post by mwhip on May 8, 2019 9:52:47 GMT -6
mwhip I’m not remembering what she said to/about you after you moved? It was so childish. I went to school with her, I'm pretty sure we went to school together from K-12, we were friends, but didn't hang out outside of school. Our families know each other, small hometown. We did not keep in touch after we graduated. So when we moved down here, I was at the store and ran into her. I joked that moving back was weird...I couldn't anonymously run to the store for a gallon of milk without seeing anyone I know anymore. She made a post on FB about running into a friend who commented about how she didn't want to see her anymore and people immediately gave her hair pats telling her how amazing she was. Okay, it was a joke, but yes, sometimes I want to grab a goddamn gallon of milk and just say hi, without a 15 minute conversation. So I unfriended her. She sent me multiple friend requests after that, which I ignored for the longest time, then decided enough time had passed, and accepted. |
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Post by wedding on May 8, 2019 9:58:17 GMT -6
I'm only working until 12:30 today because I had therapy scheduled at 1 so I arranged my flex schedule so I wouldn't use leave. Therapist cancelled due to the stomach bug so now I have a free afternoon! I should enjoy how beautiful it is outside, but I'm behind on my DVR so that takes priority  |
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Post by cagoldi on May 8, 2019 9:59:05 GMT -6
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Post by klong11 on May 8, 2019 10:09:12 GMT -6
Positive thoughts and vibes and whatever else you've got in you: major TW regarding unborn baby
The pregnant attorney, who is just a little over 19 weeks just found out her baby has CDH. Basically, the baby has a hole in her diaphragm which has allowed her abdominal organs to move into the babies chest cavity and compress on her lungs. They know that 1 lung is already completely compressed and the other is only at 80%. At the 12 week ultrasound everything presented at normal, but at the 19/20 week the organs had already moved. She is having to make some major decisions that no mother ever wants to make in the next couple of weeks. It's basically a screw survival rate, what will her quality of life be(it's a little girl). And since we live in TX, if she doesn't make a decision in the governments timeline, then she will have to go out of state.
I feel absolutely horrible for her. It's just not fair and it sucks, for lack of better words. They've been trying for so long and wanted this so badly and then this happens. It just fucking sucks.
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Post by vino on May 8, 2019 10:12:58 GMT -6
Oh good, it’s bug day of Forest school. 🐜 🐛
Living the dream...
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Post by cagoldi on May 8, 2019 10:13:59 GMT -6
That is so shitty, klong11. How heartbreaking for them. |
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Post by peachsmama on May 8, 2019 10:14:10 GMT -6
That is absolutely terrible klong11. I'll keep her and her family in my thoughts. |
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Post by wedding on May 8, 2019 10:15:59 GMT -6
That's horrible klong11. I hope whatever decision they make, they find peace. I can't imagine how hard that is. |
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Post by mwhip on May 8, 2019 10:18:03 GMT -6
That poor family klong11, that really does suck and is heartbreaking. They will be in my thoughts. |
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Post by nam2013 on May 8, 2019 10:23:30 GMT -6
klong11 that is awfull. I’m so incredibly sorry for them, I cannot imagine having to make such a decision. They’ll be in my thoughts.
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Post by chrisy01 on May 8, 2019 10:31:11 GMT -6
That’s awful klong11 that’s a hard decision. |
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Post by chrisy01 on May 8, 2019 10:35:37 GMT -6
I should have delayed when I had jury duty. The lady overseeing us basically made it sound like I was being difficult by needing to pump around noon. Every office closes at noon so they can’t let me in anywhere, is what she told me. Then she told me to drive home and pump. I live at least 30 minutes away. So not a real practical option.
My cousin lives nearby so I will just go to her house to pump I guess, if she will let me.
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