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Post by tgrimes on May 7, 2019 9:32:55 GMT -6
I’m debating what I want to do for Mother’s Day. We usually do something with my mom which H finds weird... I have a release the night before though where I have to work at mid night. So I don’t think I’ll be up for anything in the morning. I’m pretty sure O still has swim too. Let me preface this by saying, I'm aware I'm very lucky that I have an amazing MIL. I love her more than my own mother and she's done soooooo much for us. Every mother's day we do what she wants. MH has never planned anything for me. He usually sleeps in, as he does every weekend, and I'm still stuck doing everything. All of the pics I have from mother's day include some of him sleeping on the couch at his parents' house. LIke, at least make an effort or something. Anyway, this year, his grandmother will be here, too. Which means we'll be going to a restaurant of my MIL's choice and we'll be eating at like 4pm because of his grandmother. I know I just need to let it go but I have to complain about it first. Ha ha ha!
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Post by jubilantsquirrel on May 7, 2019 9:32:56 GMT -6
I woke up feeling like I need to give MH a very specific minute by minute play of what I want for Mother’s Day. Mostly bc my kids are being very....toddlerish... right now. Like: 5:30am to 7:30am Let mom sleep, take kids downstairs, light breakfast, and out of the house for a walk 7:30am to 8:30am Let mom shower in peace while Dad answers 362 questions 9:00am to 10:30am Treat Mom to brunch at a fancy place with bottomless bloody Mary’s. Invite the mother in laws as a ploy, suggest it’s for Mother’s Day but let them instead spend their morning wrangling the toddlers while Mom eats and drinks in peace. 11:00am Present Mom with a surprise of getting a mani, pedi, and massage. Drop mom off and dad takes kids to the playground by himself where he will endure both kids running in seperate directions and the inevitable battle of strapping them back into a stroller or car seats. 1:00pm Suggest mom take a nap 2:00pm Present Mom with a cake, more bloody Mary’s, and 2-3 sensible yet thoughtful and pretty gifts. Something like this.... LOL this is genius!
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Post by jubilantsquirrel on May 7, 2019 9:36:09 GMT -6
I’m debating what I want to do for Mother’s Day. We usually do something with my mom which H finds weird... I have a release the night before though where I have to work at mid night. So I don’t think I’ll be up for anything in the morning. I’m pretty sure O still has swim too. Let me preface this by saying, I'm aware I'm very lucky that I have an amazing MIL. I love her more than my own mother and she's done soooooo much for us. Every mother's day we do what she wants. MH has never planned anything for me. He usually sleeps in, as he does every weekend, and I'm still stuck doing everything. All of the pics I have from mother's day include some of him sleeping on the couch at his parents' house. LIke, at least make an effort or something. Anyway, this year, his grandmother will be here, too. Which means we'll be going to a restaurant of my MIL's choice and we'll be eating at like 4pm because of his grandmother. I know I just need to let it go but I have to complain about it first. Ha ha ha! <iframe width="15.600000000000023" height="9" style="position: absolute; width: 15.600000000000023px; height: 9px; z-index: -9999; border-style: none;left: 15px; top: -5px;" id="MoatPxIOPT0_91617102" scrolling="no"></iframe> <iframe width="15.600000000000023" height="9" style="position: absolute; width: 15.6px; height: 9px; z-index: -9999; border-style: none; left: 728px; top: -5px;" id="MoatPxIOPT0_26464969" scrolling="no"></iframe> <iframe width="15.600000000000023" height="9" style="position: absolute; width: 15.6px; height: 9px; z-index: -9999; border-style: none; left: 15px; top: 386px;" id="MoatPxIOPT0_6277450" scrolling="no"></iframe> <iframe width="15.600000000000023" height="9" style="position: absolute; width: 15.6px; height: 9px; z-index: -9999; border-style: none; left: 728px; top: 386px;" id="MoatPxIOPT0_58380279" scrolling="no"></iframe> I agree that your MIL is amazing and deserves to be recognized, BUT that should have ended when you became a mom. She's had 40 years (I have no idea) worth of Mother Days, it's your turn now. You guys can still treat her and since she lives so close you can still do brunch/lunch/dinner/whatever with her and get her gifts and flowers and cards, but really, this day should be more about you and what you want.
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Post by cookswithwine on May 7, 2019 9:36:58 GMT -6
tgrimes H doesn’t feel the need to hang out w his own mom on mother’s day so he doesn’t understand why my family does. We take his mom out to eat on another night. My mom on the other hand would freak out if we didn’t hang out complete w cards and gifts. That’s just how it’s always been.
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Post by goldenlove on May 7, 2019 9:37:32 GMT -6
I’m debating what I want to do for Mother’s Day. We usually do something with my mom which H finds weird... I have a release the night before though where I have to work at mid night. So I don’t think I’ll be up for anything in the morning. I’m pretty sure O still has swim too. We finally started discussing mother's day last night. We usually do brunch with ILs then dinner with my family but these plans never come together early. There are no places available for brunch anymore lol
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Post by goldenlove on May 7, 2019 9:40:42 GMT -6
Cute story: Sunday was really nice out so I put a short sleeve shirt on C for the first time this season. He looked at his arms weird with the most concerned face and said "oh no it's broken!" I died. LOL! He forgot about that warm weather and short sleeves life! I remember Jonah doing something similar before. He kept trying to pull the sleeves down like they were rolled up or something. My friend that was over was helping him wash his hands and she said he was trying to pull up his sleeves lol. Can't wait until I put shorts on him
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Post by jubilantsquirrel on May 7, 2019 9:44:53 GMT -6
I stopped spending Mother's Day with my mom or MIL when I had a kid. We still see them, usually ILs the day before and my parents the following weekend (my mom's birthday is the 15th, so we just combine). But that day is for me now. Maybe I'm selfish. I don't think they need to be forgotten about or anything, but, IMO, it's time to pass the torch and the day should be more catered to their children now.
MH dropped the ball last year and I know he feels bad. He's already talking about Mother's Day though, so at least I know he's on top of it this year.
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Post by tgrimes on May 7, 2019 9:56:23 GMT -6
jubilantsquirrel Yeah, I recall both of our husbands sucking last year. MH and I weren't even speaking to each other last year on Mother's day.
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Post by jubilantsquirrel on May 7, 2019 10:03:25 GMT -6
jubilantsquirrel Yeah, I recall both of our husbands sucking last year. MH and I weren't even speaking to each other last year on Mother's day. Hopefully this year is a little bit better for you!
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Post by kleigh on May 7, 2019 10:07:00 GMT -6
jubilantsquirrel Yeah, I recall both of our husbands sucking last year. MH and I weren't even speaking to each other last year on Mother's day. Was this the holiday you got a lazy Susan?
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Post by tgrimes on May 7, 2019 10:14:01 GMT -6
jubilantsquirrel Yeah, I recall both of our husbands sucking last year. MH and I weren't even speaking to each other last year on Mother's day. Was this the holiday you got a lazy Susan? One of them, yes. He gave it to me the week before mother's day. We weren't speaking because of the date night that he ruined the night before when we were supposed to go to dinner and then see Don Quixote.
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Post by goldenlove on May 7, 2019 10:16:26 GMT -6
My SIL asked if we could change things up and do dinner instead because some of her friends wanted to do brunch. MIL got mad and went off about tradition. I don't even know what would happen if we wanted to do our own thing...
But now H is talking about doing brunch at our house. I said if you want to cook and clean, go for it. I'm not spending my Saturday cleaning and prepping then having to deal with clean up after.
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Post by jubilantsquirrel on May 7, 2019 10:36:26 GMT -6
My SIL asked if we could change things up and do dinner instead because some of her friends wanted to do brunch. MIL got mad and went off about tradition. I don't even know what would happen if we wanted to do our own thing... But now H is talking about doing brunch at our house. I said if you want to cook and clean, go for it. I'm not spending my Saturday cleaning and prepping then having to deal with clean up after. One of these years you should "accidentally" book a weekend trip and then just be like "oops, looks like we won't be able to attend any Mother's Day events this year!", but then really just stay at home all weekend.
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Post by goldenlove on May 7, 2019 10:58:37 GMT -6
My SIL asked if we could change things up and do dinner instead because some of her friends wanted to do brunch. MIL got mad and went off about tradition. I don't even know what would happen if we wanted to do our own thing... But now H is talking about doing brunch at our house. I said if you want to cook and clean, go for it. I'm not spending my Saturday cleaning and prepping then having to deal with clean up after. One of these years you should "accidentally" book a weekend trip and then just be like "oops, looks like we won't be able to attend any Mother's Day events this year!", but then really just stay at home all weekend. Haha I was just thinking that. We've actually missed father's day a few times because it falls near our anniversary and we make other plans.
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Post by waitwhat on May 7, 2019 11:25:53 GMT -6
I’m still trying to figure out when I can finally celebrate my own mother’s day. Like, I still feel like seeing my mom and MIL takes precedence over doing anything for myself that day. I think a huge reason for this is because my brother doesn’t do anything for my mom so I feel guilty and my H is my MIL’s only child living here. The other 2 were smart and moved away.
Haha. Kidding. Kinda.
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Post by jubilantsquirrel on May 7, 2019 11:48:44 GMT -6
I’m still trying to figure out when I can finally celebrate my own mother’s day. Like, I still feel like seeing my mom and MIL takes precedence over doing anything for myself that day. I think a huge reason for this is because my brother doesn’t do anything for my mom so I feel guilty and my H is my MIL’s only child living here. The other 2 were smart and moved away. Haha. Kidding. Kinda. If you really want to take Mother's Day just for yourself you can celebrate with your mom and/or MIL the day before?
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Post by waitwhat on May 7, 2019 12:20:45 GMT -6
I’m still trying to figure out when I can finally celebrate my own mother’s day. Like, I still feel like seeing my mom and MIL takes precedence over doing anything for myself that day. I think a huge reason for this is because my brother doesn’t do anything for my mom so I feel guilty and my H is my MIL’s only child living here. The other 2 were smart and moved away. Haha. Kidding. Kinda. If you really want to take Mother's Day just for yourself you can celebrate with your mom and/or MIL the day before? Yeah, that’s what we are trying to do this year.
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Post by tgrimes on May 7, 2019 12:23:52 GMT -6
I went to the store at lunch and bought champagne so I can have mimosas on mother's day. I guess if I want something I'll have to do it myself. Kind of defeats the purpose but ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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Post by waitwhat on May 7, 2019 12:26:43 GMT -6
tgrimes I remember last year! I hope this year is better. On a similar note, my first mother’s day happened to fall on the Sunday after the Kentucky derby. We were invited to a party that night so we went and my H was drinking Moscow mules and taking shots all night. I had brought B with me and left around 8 and my H stayed at the party and one of his friends said he’d bring him home. He came home so late and his friend had to carry him in the house and up to bed. He slept with a bucket next to the bed because he kept saying he was going to puke. The next day he was so hungover and basically slept on the couch all day. I was also pregnant with J. He has stepped it up since that year.
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Post by tgrimes on May 7, 2019 15:30:27 GMT -6
www.yellowblissroad.com/teriyaki-turkey-rice-bowl/I made this for dinner last night and the kids ate all of it. I cooked the sauce and the meat the night before (without the broccoli & carrots) and then sauteed the veggies when I got home. I used zucchini, carrots, red bell pepper & green bell pepper. It was really good.
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Post by kleigh on May 7, 2019 18:49:47 GMT -6
www.yellowblissroad.com/teriyaki-turkey-rice-bowl/I made this for dinner last night and the kids ate all of it. I cooked the sauce and the meat the night before (without the broccoli & carrots) and then sauteed the veggies when I got home. I used zucchini, carrots, red bell pepper & green bell pepper. It was really good. Ooh this looks good! I just made your quinoa pizza cups Sunday and it’s been getting me through lunches yesterday and today 🙌🏼🙌🏼
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Post by Cheshie6 on May 7, 2019 19:07:57 GMT -6
danib, how did last night go? How is H today? Yesterday, we had speech and our therapist commented on all the new words he has! We are going to work on blowing to get that kissy face 😗 he won’t do! Today we’re at the library and I didn’t realize L knows how to play pretend! He just gave me a drink and then took it and washed it in the sink!?! (Also, how do I keep this clean up kid?) kleigh et al, I will be vicariously living Mother’s Day thru you as DH will not be home! I hope you all get that kind of Mother’s Day.
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Post by Cheshie6 on May 7, 2019 19:32:25 GMT -6
My sister’s MIL has a tradition thing. But Sister’s SIL doesn’t play those games (my sister is too accommodating) so when her SIL didn’t want to pay extra to come up for Christmas, MIL tried to change the day. My sister was so pissed!!! Same with Mother’s Day! BIL is a mama’s boy and usually bends over backwards for his mom and forgets about his own wife!
Luckily, we’ve never lived close enough to either of our moms to make it about them! But I don’t think DH has ever been home for Mother’s Day since I’ve been a mom lol.
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Post by tgrimes on May 7, 2019 20:15:45 GMT -6
www.yellowblissroad.com/teriyaki-turkey-rice-bowl/I made this for dinner last night and the kids ate all of it. I cooked the sauce and the meat the night before (without the broccoli & carrots) and then sauteed the veggies when I got home. I used zucchini, carrots, red bell pepper & green bell pepper. It was really good. Ooh this looks good! I just made your quinoa pizza cups Sunday and it’s been getting me through lunches yesterday and today 🙌🏼🙌🏼 I love that recipe. I put it in a 9X13 dish. It’s nice to try different toppings in it, too!
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Post by tgrimes on May 7, 2019 20:16:42 GMT -6
danib, how did last night go? How is H today? Yesterday, we had speech and our therapist commented on all the new words he has! We are going to work on blowing to get that kissy face 😗 he won’t do! Today we’re at the library and I didn’t realize L knows how to play pretend! He just gave me a drink and then took it and washed it in the sink!?! (Also, how do I keep this clean up kid?) kleigh et al, I will be vicariously living Mother’s Day thru you as DH will not be home! I hope you all get that kind of Mother’s Day. My therapist suggested blowing a cotton ball across the table and making it a race with M. Maybe y’all could do that. He also loves to blow out candles but it takes him a while to do it.
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Post by Cheshie6 on May 7, 2019 21:20:39 GMT -6
danib, how did last night go? How is H today? Yesterday, we had speech and our therapist commented on all the new words he has! We are going to work on blowing to get that kissy face 😗 he won’t do! Today we’re at the library and I didn’t realize L knows how to play pretend! He just gave me a drink and then took it and washed it in the sink!?! (Also, how do I keep this clean up kid?) kleigh et al, I will be vicariously living Mother’s Day thru you as DH will not be home! I hope you all get that kind of Mother’s Day. My therapist suggested blowing a cotton ball across the table and making it a race with M. Maybe y’all could do that. He also loves to blow out candles but it takes him a while to do it. We’ve been trying that, we’ve been using straws sometimes too, and our therapist just added bubbles! (I blow a bubble, catch it on the wand and try to get him to blow that bubble off the wand)
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Post by danib on May 8, 2019 9:05:42 GMT -6
So H is doing better. No fever overnight and none again this morning. I think we're past the worst of it. Today is supposed to be Fly Day but no helicopters got out yesterday and things don't look good for today or tomorrow either. DH says he'll most likely be home Friday. This has been pretty rough, the last 3 hitches he only had a week home in between, and the last 2 have been filled with sicknesses and emergencies and other crazy stuff. I'm really ready for him to be home. The only silver lining (that I keep reminding myself) is the specific Rig he is on this time is one of the few that pays overtime (most do straight time regardless of how many days you work) so he'll get an extra 2 days at double time, which helps our goals....
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Post by jubilantsquirrel on May 8, 2019 10:49:11 GMT -6
I gave my notice today!
It's weird. Any time I've left a job and had to give my notice I always get so nervous. I also always get nervous accepting a new job because it's a change and what if I don't like it? I don't have any nervousness with this. I'm sure part of it is that my job is being moved across the country, so I don't really have a choice, but also that's not happening until the end of the year. I will miss my team, all but 1 of them are pretty awesome, but I won't miss this job. And the $20k a year salary increase isn't too shabby either.
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Post by goldenlove on May 8, 2019 11:01:52 GMT -6
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Post by cookswithwine on May 8, 2019 13:09:17 GMT -6
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