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[trtlcrzy]

Hey. It’s a beautiful day today. Re villages: we still live where we grew up so we’re lucky to have a lot of family and friend help. It would be so hard to move away and not know anyone or have anyone around to help. I hope you find some people to make into your village soon guster. I agree with what the director said about making lots of friends and whatnot in elementary school. H has some friends she likes to play with a preschool but no one has really made an effort to do anything outside of school. I actually invited one of her friends and her mom to go to the zoo this week. But the thing is, this girl will be going to a different elementary so I’m sure the friendship won’t last past the school year.

[vino]

Speaking of villages, this is adorable. My Mom lives in a crescent and all the people have lived there long term, all but two couples are my Mom's age. The one couple has 4 kids and B has friended them over the last couple years when he goes and stays over, they randomly ring her doorbell to ask if B is there. Julia and B played outside all day yesterday, even watching B while mom tried to get Julia to nap, I've never met this lady, dont even know her name.

I drive in yesterday and walk up to my Mom's door and there is chalk art and messages all over her entry and driveway. I look around and all the houses have this, I asked my Mom about it and she was like 'oh ya, it's the kids, they come and go playing everywhere, and I said oh everyone is ok with chalk and messages all over the place, she said 'of course' as if I was rude to think otherwise. So, this Mom's village includes the entire crescent of grandparents.

[flamingo]

Apr 23, 2019 9:50:24 GMT -6 Sunny41 said:

flamingo where are you? Vacation?

Hi! Thanks for thinking of me, it's been non-stop action since we got back from our spring break trip.

We had a busy but nice Easter weekend, and today was Kindergarten registration. B did great and was super excited--they met the teachers, rode a school bus, and got a snack in the cafeteria, lol. 

We are hitting the road again later this week for an extended visit to FL ahead of a family reunion, so not sure that I will be around much in the next week or two, but I'll try to pop in when I can

I hope everyone (who celebrates) had a wonderful Easter! 

[jewels]

vino that’s adorable.

Re villages, I have my parents nearby but their help is spotty at best

We have met 3 families through day care and it is amazing how much they have become my go to people, even more than friends I’ve had for decades in some cases. They know and understand my kids in a way no one else does and i trust them implicitly. I honestly don’t know what i would have done for the past few months without them.

I do wish I had a neighborhood like wineallthetime where the kids could all play anytime.

I am so thankful for those families though. It took a few years of awkward park meetups and what not to get here though

[flamingo]

Re: the village, very interesting subject. I went from having tons of close family/friends within 20 minutes to...nothing...when we moved up here. Having to scrounge up names for the emergency contact forms at preschool was tough!

It was definitely an adjustment, and I think my first 6 or so months here, I made very little effort for a couple reasons. 1) I was still somewhat bitter that we were here and 2) sometimes it seems pointless when you *know* you're leaving again in a relatively short amount of time. But it's hard to live life that way, so I had to make a conscious decision to dig in, put myself out there, and meet people. Oh, and find babysitters!

It's funny, b/c despite my initial reticence, I think we will have a much larger 'network' here than we did in FL by the time we move next spring...it was so easy back home to rely on family and old friends for social opportunities, help, etc., we never really pushed ourselves to branch out. At K registration this morning, I found myself seeing so many people I "know", from preschool, MOPS, the basketball league B did this winter, people I've met in our neighborhood. Same at our neighborhood egg hunt this past weekend. It was so nice! I felt really connected and like it was definitely the right spot for B.

[kim22]

Apr 23, 2019 8:34:12 GMT -6 Sunny41 said:

Apr 23, 2019 8:26:09 GMT -6 kim22 said:

Last night was long. T woke me up at midnight to report that he got up to pee and accidentally poop came out on the bathroom floor. After cleaning that mess, I couldn’t fall asleep and then DD woke me up at 2 throwing up again. I slept in the living room with her. She woke up insisting she was fine and wanted to go to school and ate breakfast and everything. I have now been researching abdominal migraines. Within 15 minutes of getting sick in the night, she wanted food. That is not her with a stomach virus. I have not taken her to a neurologist yet because the ped basically said there is nothing they can do but I may need to soon, if for no other reason than to get a letter stating she doesn’t have to stay home for 24 hours after throwing up if it’s related to this.

I think abdominal migraines are under diagnosed because people don't know they are a thing. But were you giving her migraine meds? That should help. Did she eat onions or anything that would upset the tummy the night before?

The only prescription she’s ever had for the headaches is Zofran to control vomiting so she can keep down Motrin.

[kim22]

guster I hope you find your tribe. Everyone assumes that my parents do everything for us since they live next door but nope. They would not let us stay with them when we needed a place to live during construction even though they have 3 empty bedrooms. My mom always makes me feel bad about babysitting to the point where it’s just easier to take all 4 with me so I try not to ask. I’m lucky to have my sister a few blocks away and my daycare lady is seriously the best. I remember once when I picked up one of the kids, I mentioned I felt terribly sick but DH wouldn’t get home in time for me to go to the doctor. As soon as her last kid was picked up, she showed up at my house and sent me to the doctor. She has taken my kids in a pinch many times and refused to take money for it.

The other day, one of T’s friend’s mom’s asked if it would be ok if she put me down as an emergency pick up for kindergarten because they require 4. She was apologetic and promised she would never really ask me to take him. I told her of course put me down for him and his brother and never to feel bad asking me to actually take them.

[wedding]

So a kid is exposed himself to C at pre-K today. The teacher saw and pulled him aside right away. The boy said “c told me to!” The teacher asked C and he gave her an unconvincing no. In my questioning C was very clear he did not do that and the boy was lying. C rarely lies to me and when he does he often comes back crying soon after and confesses. He’s also very private about private parts and isn’t a kid that embraces nudity.

I’m a bit shaken up about this. I know they are just kids but I am frustrated that the teacher didn’t believe C and that this happened in the first place. Thoughts? C said this has never happened before.

[guster]

lfig, I posted a bear snap. This is the most time he’s ever spent in our side yard.

[kim22]

Anyone interested in starting a new workout/healthy eating/Fitbit challenge? I have very much fallen off the wagon and could use a little group motivation.

[tallb]

kim22 how bizarre about your parents! That is boggling to me. I'm glad you have a good system despite that though.

I'm in need of a tribe myself. I have some parent friends from J's class that are awesome, but since it's a work preschool, no one lives close. His best friend's family I'd text in a pinch to help, they are currently using our microwave for part of their kitchen Reno. My family is 45 min away but not all that helpful now that my mom can't drive. I'm hoping starting k will help and being in a neighborhood. I have a few close friends from my hometown and the live 3 blocks away and a big social scene in the neighborhood and parents that help a lot, have beach houses, take them on vacations, etc...I try not to dwell but it is hard not to compare🤷

guster I'm side-eyeing 2 weeks at DW, that sounds exhausting and so expensive! Nice that both mom's want to come and help, but still seems a bit silly to me. It will come with time, we are your tribe too, even if not their in person!

[kim22]

flamingo I have always been impressed with your efforts to make friends knowing you aren’t staying where you are.

I clearly should have moved but at least I have a place to escape to now.

[klong11]

wedding been there! Only the director told me Cadence was lying about seeing anything or that anything at all happened. The teachers backed me up and the director later apologized. I told Cadence not to play with those 2 particular boys any more if they were playing together.
You might have C avoid that particular boy for awhile.

[peachsmama]

I cleaned my bunny's pen and gave them some new things. Hoping to discourage chocolate chip from flipping over his food.. we'll see if it helps. I've decided I'm to attached to get rid of either bunny to avoid babies. So I found a vet that isn't going to charge me a fortune to spay/neuter one of them. They prefer neuter if I dont have a preference so that's what I'll do. If I add another I just need to be extra sure I get a female.

[tgrimes]

Guess who has shit coming out of his ear.

[trtlcrzy]

wedding I’m sorry that happened. I hope the other boy got a punishment for doing that and he doesn’t do it again.

[trtlcrzy]

Apr 23, 2019 19:51:37 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

Guess who has shit coming out of his ear.

😡 I’m sorry

[trtlcrzy]

I’m at work. We had a meeting first and that was fine. As I was walking back to the desk with one of my coworkers she told me she was KU. I’m excited for her, it’s her first baby and we have been commiserating through our ttc time. Hopefully this is the month for me, although it would suck for our boss, but 🤷🏻‍♀️.

[peachsmama]

Village: I've just started leaving the boys with my brother and sil for a few hours at a time (I watch theirs boys alot) and it's been nice when I just want to do something without them in my hair. My mil is our go to baby sitter. She rarely says no and always brings them to our house and gets them asleep before we come home. Then she passes out on the couch and never complains about how late/long she has them. The boys always tell us how awesome it was and all the fun stuff they did. And we never hear from her. My mom texts me the whole time "Jackson hit matthew" "Matthew ate a good dinner" "I gave them a bath" "Matthew hit jackson" its non stop. And not relaxing.. i do wish we had a bigger friend circle with kids their age. Hopefully we can create that as they're in school.

[peachsmama]

Apr 23, 2019 19:56:22 GMT -6 trtlcrzy said:

I’m at work. We had a meeting first and that was fine. As I was walking back to the desk with one of my coworkers she told me she was KU. I’m excited for her, it’s her first baby and we have been commiserating through our ttc time. Hopefully this is the month for me, although it would suck for our boss, but 🤷🏻‍♀️.

Sending you all the sticky baby vibes.

[peachsmama]

Apr 23, 2019 19:51:37 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

Guess who has shit coming out of his ear.

Poor kid 😔

[Sunny41]

wedding that is something no one wants their kids to encounter. I hope the other boy learned his lesson. I hope C realizes it is serious and inappropriate (I know he didn't encourage it)

tgrimes poor H. He still has the fever I assume

[chrisy01]

Oh no poor H tgrimes

[vino]

wedding I’m sorry that this happened today with C. The teacher did the right thing by dealing with it right away but her dismissal or disbelief of him after is not ok.

If it were me I would absolutely follow up, in writing, with an email summarizing what happened and that you’ve discussed it with him and believe him. This not only allows the incident to be recorded but shows that you’re taking it seriously by discussing it with C. I also think that it’s a good idea to recap with C, tell him that you’re following up and most importantly that you believe him, but I’m sure you’ve told him that already.

[vino]

Apr 23, 2019 19:51:37 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

Guess who has shit coming out of his ear.

Shiiiiiit, I’m sorry

[inthekitty]

Apr 23, 2019 19:49:40 GMT -6 peachsmama said:

I cleaned my bunny's pen and gave them some new things. Hoping to discourage chocolate chip from flipping over his food.. we'll see if it helps. I've decided I'm to attached to get rid of either bunny to avoid babies. So I found a vet that isn't going to charge me a fortune to spay/neuter one of them. They prefer neuter if I dont have a preference so that's what I'll do. If I add another I just need to be extra sure I get a female.

Good luck. Our little Millie dropped some giant balls when she was about 5.

[inthekitty]

Ugh, tgrimes. I hope you have wine.

[cagoldi]

Apr 23, 2019 18:36:55 GMT -6 kim22 said:

Anyone interested in starting a new workout/healthy eating/Fitbit challenge? I have very much fallen off the wagon and could use a little group motivation.

Yes, please. I’ve done nothing the last month.

[vino]

Apr 23, 2019 18:36:55 GMT -6 kim22 said:

Anyone interested in starting a new workout/healthy eating/Fitbit challenge? I have very much fallen off the wagon and could use a little group motivation.

Yes! I haven’t done anything in a while and that needs to change.

[guster]

tallb, thank you. I always appreciate the tribe that we have created here. As for finding that group outside of my family, I think it will come in time. I have to remember we’re still relatively new to this town and our two neighbors are out of this phase of life. I’m sure it will happen at some point.
tgrimes, oh no! Poor H!
wedding, I also would follow up with the director. I think it’s important to note that you spoke to C about this and that you do believe that he didn’t instigate any of this, that he understands body autonomy, and to make sure the other child is dealt with.