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Post by ilovelamp on Apr 2, 2019 8:33:32 GMT -6
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Post by McBenny on Apr 2, 2019 8:34:14 GMT -6
I am known for my lunches. I had a couple of parents bring it up at book fair and a teacher.
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Post by GhoatMonket on Apr 2, 2019 8:34:20 GMT -6
I would have gone broke trying to keep up with my friend that had wealthy parents. Her spending and dining out wasn't absurd, but it was far beyond what any of her friends could afford. I don't think this is what she's referring to. It's not the point of this thread but drr is right. As adults, I agree. For kids/non-independent young adults, not always.
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Post by lizblue on Apr 2, 2019 8:35:20 GMT -6
oh shit we used to eat waffle and ice cream too. Also spaghetti sandwiches. We ate spaghetti omelets. Also lo mein omelets. Only in my adulthood did I realize this was the poor Italian way of eating any kind of leftover. Add a scrambled egg to it!
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Post by Cher on Apr 2, 2019 8:35:54 GMT -6
Oh yeah. Two fridges is rich. When my ILs ordered a new fridge, they gave us their old SubZero to go in our garage. Never mind that it’s made to be built into a wall. I stuck that thing in my garage like it was the leg lamp in Christmas Story. Mama, I made it!
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Post by Cher on Apr 2, 2019 8:37:54 GMT -6
oh shit we used to eat waffle and ice cream too. Also spaghetti sandwiches. We ate spaghetti omelets. Also lo mein omelets. Only in my adulthood did I realize this was the poor Italian way of eating any kind of leftover. Add a scrambled egg to it! The “family recipe” growing up passed down for generations. Ready? Take your spaghetti leftovers. Fry them on a pan with chopped onion. Spaghetti night def stretched for 3 nights growing up. And my mom acted like it was Kobe beef night.
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Post by McBenny on Apr 2, 2019 8:38:45 GMT -6
I had to look the pic up in my phone but that lunch wasn't hard to do. I am not chopping into shapes but if I have silicone cups on hand and not use plastic baggies, sure why not? I have Easter brownies in my pantry. I don't feel kosher judging that pic.
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Post by McBenny on Apr 2, 2019 8:39:31 GMT -6
That being said I made Hawaiian roll ham and cheese sliders and they acted like I invented bread or some shit. we've also had this battle in our house. Like.. kid... you like ham, cheese and you die for these Hawaiian rolls. Please observe while I put them together... this is called a sandwich. And it's easier to pack than this deconstructed ham and cheese you are requiring. We're making only small progress on that front. DD puts together her meat and bread and I enclose mustard pack. She is convinced together it will be soggy.
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Post by wasabi on Apr 2, 2019 8:40:22 GMT -6
Coming up with the deposit and first&last month's rent when you don't have the prior deposit back was a big thing for me. This very much goes back to my “My SES is super weird.” I’ve always been enough to cover overlapping moving expenses while maintaining six months of living expenses, so I dipped into that where needed. So moving was always the better option in the long run, especially when my stuff could mostly be schlepped suitcase by suitcase on the subway. Now rich is having furniture you want to move, I guess. Also in unit laundry. I’ve really arrived since this last move. No rooftop pool yet though. So you’ve never been low income
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Post by leatherpants on Apr 2, 2019 8:40:44 GMT -6
We ate spaghetti omelets. Also lo mein omelets. Only in my adulthood did I realize this was the poor Italian way of eating any kind of leftover. Add a scrambled egg to it! The “family recipe” growing up passed down for generations. Ready? Take your spaghetti leftovers. Fry them on a pan with chopped onion. Spaghetti night def stretched for 3 nights growing up. And my mom acted like it was Kobe beef night. My favorite way to eat spaghetti. And then put it on a piece of warm buttered toast.
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Post by Cher on Apr 2, 2019 8:40:52 GMT -6
My roommate in college had money and when her parents would come visit they'd take us to this expensive steak house and order extra to send us home with. My parents were in a betterish place by then, but not steak house rich. parent visits to college meant big and expensive dinners for the friend group. You are just reminding me of this. But this was also an experience for me because we went with my friends parents and the mom just ordered two of every side, "steaks for the table" and one of each appetizer. I felt like I was in a movie. The first time I went to MH’s Hamptons house, a big group of us went. His parents were waiting for us with Chinese food, “we didn’t know what you guys wanted, so we ordered one of everything.” I was like, “whaaaaaat.” MH has no memory of this and I brought up it recently and he was just like, “ew, that’s so weird.” I was like, “um. It was literally the most extravagant event in my life.”
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Post by Cher on Apr 2, 2019 8:41:30 GMT -6
The “family recipe” growing up passed down for generations. Ready? Take your spaghetti leftovers. Fry them on a pan with chopped onion. Spaghetti night def stretched for 3 nights growing up. And my mom acted like it was Kobe beef night. My favorite way to eat spaghetti. And then put it on a piece of warm buttered toast. Lol, yup! It’s how my mom stretched it for sure!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 2, 2019 8:41:35 GMT -6
Just to circle back around to the original intent of the OP, I don't know if I saw it as the pinnacle of wealth, but it was a source of envy... people who had a second fridge in the garage that was just full of beverages. I always wanted one. I still want a second fridge... we just don't have the room. That is still one of my goals! Except now instead of coke products it’ll have every flavor of la croix 😬😂
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Post by elodin on Apr 2, 2019 8:42:23 GMT -6
Guys spaghetti sandwiches are a fucking delicacy. Now that I'm grown I have elevated them to be made using garlic bread and some melted mozz/provolone/parm. I would eat this. No way to spaghetti on white sandwich bread.
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Post by lizblue on Apr 2, 2019 8:42:38 GMT -6
I never grew up with any real wealth, but we did move up from living paycheck to paycheck in an apartment in Brooklyn to eventually buying a ranch house in middle class suburbia (outside of NYC, so even mediocre ranch houses were $$$), so we had economic stability once I hit middle school. My mom basically instilled in us that money comes and goes, always, throughout life. There will be times when you buy generic bar soap and eat lots of pb&j and there are times when you spring for the good smelling soap and go out to eat. Her point was to always lives within your means. This lesson has served me well.
H, on the other hand, had poor economic role models. His family was low income and over extended themselves with debt and even took out loans in their kids names. All to maintain a lifestyle they couldn't afford. It took H a long time to figure out how to only spend what he had.
So, "live within your means" seems like the biggest lesson, but I can see how this gets trickier when ones means are very big.
To answer the question - FARLOW JEANS. They had the ballerina on the butt pocket and I think they cost $70 and my mom was like, no fucking way, child. Never. And then she found a pair at Marshalls and surprised me with them and I legit cried.
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Post by wasabi on Apr 2, 2019 8:42:49 GMT -6
Goddamn I was far behind. Oops.
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Post by GhoatMonket on Apr 2, 2019 8:43:55 GMT -6
Guys spaghetti sandwiches are a fucking delicacy. Now that I'm grown I have elevated them to be made using garlic bread and some melted mozz/provolone/parm. I would eat this. No way to spaghetti on white sandwich bread. Don't knock it until you've tried it. At least toast it so it is strong enough to hold the spaghetti.
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Post by dc2london on Apr 2, 2019 8:46:36 GMT -6
I also had that one kid growing up whose mother would write a blank check and send it with her on Book Fair day. I was so jealous because she literally picked whatever she wanted with no limit. We never had the extra money for that. I took S2 to the book fair and bought him every single thing he asked for. Books are my weakness. "If I buy this for you, you'll willingly read? SOLD!"
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Post by McBenny on Apr 2, 2019 8:47:59 GMT -6
I grew up going out to eat once a year and that stopped when we left NYC. I had never been in a restaurant with my mother until college. this was DH. And that restaurant was Olive Garden... which DH fancied as the pinnacle of fine dining until we started dating. He still doesn't love eating at restaurants multiple nights in a row. He feels it's the most extravagant thing to eat out. I grew up eating at restaurants at least 4 nights a week so that's been another balancing act. I didn't think it was fancy. My mother said it was wasteful and she could cook better food.
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Post by elodin on Apr 2, 2019 8:47:59 GMT -6
I would eat this. No way to spaghetti on white sandwich bread. Don't knock it until you've tried it. At least toast it so it is strong enough to hold the spaghetti. Yeah, I was imagining a soggy gloopy mess. I would do buttered toast.
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Post by notblanche on Apr 2, 2019 8:48:16 GMT -6
I knew we were decidedly NOT rich when my mom started asking me to come grocery shopping with her, and bring my calculator. We had a firm budget for two weeks worth of groceries and couldn't go a dollar over. I hated grocery shopping for a long time for this reason. As an adult, in a different financial position, it can be difficult to shake the guilt I have associated with 'unnecessary' purchases. Like ice cream bars, or a blouse, or fancy pens, I'm never sure if I can "let" myself.
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Post by Pizzaslut on Apr 2, 2019 8:49:49 GMT -6
Also spaghetti sandwiches.
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Post by lucilleaustero on Apr 2, 2019 8:50:35 GMT -6
Forgot about waffles and ice cream! My mother always gave us this for breakfast on our birthdays. Whoever first mentioned it, thanks, since I had forgotten all about that. Think I need to start doing this with my kids.
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Post by Yogurt on Apr 2, 2019 8:50:43 GMT -6
This very much goes back to my “My SES is super weird.” I’ve always been enough to cover overlapping moving expenses while maintaining six months of living expenses, so I dipped into that where needed. So moving was always the better option in the long run, especially when my stuff could mostly be schlepped suitcase by suitcase on the subway. Now rich is having furniture you want to move, I guess. Also in unit laundry. I’ve really arrived since this last move. No rooftop pool yet though. So you’ve never been low income Coming up with first/last and deposit is absolutely why I cant move from my apartment right now. It's like 8k!
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Post by GhoatMonket on Apr 2, 2019 8:51:06 GMT -6
I knew we were decidedly NOT rich when my mom started asking me to come grocery shopping with her, and bring my calculator. We had a firm budget for two weeks worth of groceries and couldn't go a dollar over. I hated grocery shopping for a long time for this reason. As an adult, in a different financial position, it can be difficult to shake the guilt I have associated with 'unnecessary' purchases. Like ice cream bars, or a blouse, or fancy pens, I'm never sure if I can "let" myself. I can easily buy things for DS but often struggle to get them for myself. I'm working on it.
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Post by piratecat on Apr 2, 2019 8:51:25 GMT -6
My parents worked 12+ hour days, 7 days/week, and had no retirement savings, yet drove an Audi or Lexus because everyone drove fancy cars. My mom constantly complained about not having enough money but the car was non-negotiable. It's complicated.
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Post by rvasc on Apr 2, 2019 8:52:06 GMT -6
We were comfortable but both my parents grew up poor. My dad spent money like water while my mom was, “You can’t get that cereal unless it’s BOGO.”
I inherited my mom’s tendencies. I know this because DD doesn’t even ask for something at the grocery store unless it has a sale tag.
Anyway, I thought people who had pools and Suburbans were the richest.
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Post by Pizzaslut on Apr 2, 2019 8:52:07 GMT -6
I can get behind spaghetti on garlic bread but no other bread. Maybe focaccia. I like to use the bread to sop up the sauce.
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Post by notblanche on Apr 2, 2019 8:52:52 GMT -6
Did anyone else have to answer the phone as a kid in case it was a debt collector? Sorry, this is just becoming memory lane for me now. YEP.
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Post by rvasc on Apr 2, 2019 8:53:21 GMT -6
My friends thought I was rich because I had my own playroom along with my bedroom.
But it’s just that I was an only child.
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