Tuesday titbits

[lahdeedah]

Well that is just annoying. tgrimes

tallb LOL to walking around in a fur coat all the days of winter. Silly grandmas. We at my job we’re just talking about how casual everything is these days. No one dresses up for anything anymore. I know I always second guess dressing up for anything because I don’t want to look and feel out of place when I do go to events.

nam2013 I hope you find something that helps your back.

[inthekitty]

The saga of my dead dad is still going on. He would have the ability to continue to cause so much stress even after he's gone. It's a long story, but basically one of my aunts said something hurtful about me regarding the whole issue with apparently not being considerate of my grandma in all of this. I'm just really over it. My siblings and I and our feelings have never been considered in the entire matter. They're not the ones who have been flooded with memories of their dad such as the time he left you alone at his creepy, dumpy apartment in the middle of the night when you were 6 so he could get a prostitute and then brought back said prostitute on one of the few nights he had his kids. I basically had no contact with most of that side of my family as it was and I don't know if I ever plan to see my grandma again.

The kids have also been intermittently awful lately which has been a challenge. 7 is tough man. Madison is so pre-teen acting it's not even funny. She can be fine one minute then super moody/emotional the next. And guess where she channels all of her anger? Lucky me.

I can't wait until Friday night when we take off for Disney World. I want to get out of here so bad. I'm excited to leave the world behind for a week.

[inthekitty]

So I just had to say this because it's been getting to me lately, but whether it's influences from society, or just how people are wired, my kids already have the dad is perfect and mom is...I don't know what, but definitely not high on the pedestal mentality. It gets so old. I do the lion's share and always have--care of the kids, taking them places, involvement at school, cleaning around the house, cooking, errands, you name it. But they can be so nasty with me and have such attitude. But dad who is watching stupid videos on FB in the other room is their hero and can do no wrong. I'm also ready to say sayonara family and let loose in Denver for a few days.

[mwhip]

Mar 26, 2019 9:47:02 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

Mar 26, 2019 9:44:23 GMT -6 mwhip said:

Ugh tgrimes , that's so frustrating. Vacation for a month? Can she not refer you to anyone else? I hope you get the issues resolved much sooner than June.

Her MIL lives in Japan so she normally goes out there for a month every year.  

I'm sure she could refer me to another dr in the practice, but I'd prefer not to have someone I don't know do this procedure.  That may be weird, but I trust her.

I get it, but damn, I hate that you have to wait that long.  Maybe someone will cancel and she can get you in sooner for both procedures.

[mwhip]

Mar 26, 2019 9:49:38 GMT -6 mamabear said:

Hi! At work, being somewhat productive. Ivr finally worked up enough motivation to join a gym, looked into the employee discounts through my work and everything. Going to stop by the place after work to look around before I officially join. Then we have to pick up our other car frombeing inspected/fixing gear shift issues. Looks like leftovers for dinner tonight!

So my mom has been paying for my gym membership (family plan) for the last few years.  The gym in our little town has been sold and is no longer going to be part of the chain that I go to on my lunch.  I was so sad, but spoke to the manager of the gym I go to last week and she asked about my health insurance and I can get a membership for 1/2 the cost.  I hope you find something that is a good deal!

[mwhip]

inthekitty I'm sorry your family is behaving like huge assholes to you and your siblings. Your dad must have kept the rest of his family in the dark about his true behaviors that negatively impacted your childhood, which is bullshit. I would try to distance myself from them as much as you can. The entire situation is a lot to deal with.

I like to think I'm prepared for my kid to turn into a teenage asshole, but I know I really won't be. She will say hurtful things and just all around be terrible. So I'm going to relish the fact that she told me twice yesterday, that I am her favorite.

[mwhip]

Mar 26, 2019 10:09:55 GMT -6 mamabear said:

Mar 26, 2019 10:04:30 GMT -6 mwhip said:

So my mom has been paying for my gym membership (family plan) for the last few years.  The gym in our little town has been sold and is no longer going to be part of the chain that I go to on my lunch.  I was so sad, but spoke to the manager of the gym I go to last week and she asked about my health insurance and I can get a membership for 1/2 the cost.  I hope you find something that is a good deal!

Nice! I wonder if my health insurance does that...

Ask your HR to check into it.  I tried to find the information myself online, even contacted the customer service number, who told me the gym I wanted to join wasn't part of it.  My HR manager contacted our broker who told her exactly where to go online and found where I needed to fill out paperwork.  Granted, there were other chain gyms that I could have considered, but I hate the idea of joining a new gym, wandering around trying to figure out where everything is, etc.

[peachsmama]

Mar 26, 2019 9:47:02 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

Mar 26, 2019 9:44:23 GMT -6 mwhip said:

Ugh tgrimes , that's so frustrating. Vacation for a month? Can she not refer you to anyone else? I hope you get the issues resolved much sooner than June.

Her MIL lives in Japan so she normally goes out there for a month every year.  

I'm sure she could refer me to another dr in the practice, but I'd prefer not to have someone I don't know do this procedure.  That may be weird, but I trust her.

I would want my doctor too. It's a pretty personal choice and surgery. I would want someone I know.

[nam2013]

tgrimes I’m sorry that is very annoying!!!

inthekitty I’m so sorry for the continuing family drama. My mom always says kids hits the ones they’re closest to the hardest, because kids know they love them unconditionally and will therefore never leave. It made sense to me.

[flamingo]

I'm sorry about the long wait tgrimes . Very frustrating, but totally understand your reasoning; is there a cancellation list you could get on in case something comes up sooner?

Ugh to all the family drama inthekitty . And yes, I think kids (in particular girls, b/c they tend to be more verbal) can be really hard on dear ol' mom. It's like they know/sense that Mom is their safe-space and kind of has to love them anyway. My mom and I always had a very strong relationship but I think I pushed the limits in terms of arguing, etc. way more with her than I did with my dad.

tallb lahdeedah also laughing at the fur coat to preschool. I feel like I stick out for wearing nice-ish 'sportswear' and not sweats or activewear, ha...cannot imagine what would happen if I showed up in a mink!  Lahdeedah, I do think things are so much more casual now. I usually err on the overdressed side as it is, b/c that's how I was raised and I never want to be *too* casual, but inevitably I get someplace and wonder why I stressed so much. My mom talks about how when they lived in Nashville in the early 80s she would put on slacks or skirt to go to the grocery store--NEVER shorts or jeans, it just wasn't done. Then they moved back to FL and everyone was in cut-offs and flip flops, ha. 

[cagoldi]

Mar 26, 2019 10:47:30 GMT -6 flamingo said:

I'm sorry about the long wait tgrimes . Very frustrating, but totally understand your reasoning; is there a cancellation list you could get on in case something comes up sooner?

Ugh to all the family drama inthekitty . And yes, I think kids (in particular girls, b/c they tend to be more verbal) can be really hard on dear ol' mom. It's like they know/sense that Mom is their safe-space and kind of has to love them anyway. My mom and I always had a very strong relationship but I think I pushed the limits in terms of arguing, etc. way more with her than I did with my dad.

tallb lahdeedah also laughing at the fur coat to preschool. I feel like I stick out for wearing nice-ish 'sportswear' and not sweats or activewear, ha...cannot imagine what would happen if I showed up in a mink!  Lahdeedah, I do think things are so much more casual now. I usually err on the overdressed side as it is, b/c that's how I was raised and I never want to be *too* casual, but inevitably I get someplace and wonder why I stressed so much. My mom talks about how when they lived in Nashville in the early 80s she would put on slacks or skirt to go to the grocery store--NEVER shorts or jeans, it just wasn't done. Then they moved back to FL and everyone was in cut-offs and flip flops, ha. 

I'm with flamingo, I think that things can get very tense with moms and daughters at a certain point. I'm not sure why? Maybe it's part of forming their identity that makes them push so hard against their same sex parent?

It might be a hard road for awhile, but someday your girls will look back and think about how lucky they have been to have such a strong, kickass woman holds it all together for everyone.

[inthekitty]

vino and other Noah Centineo fans, he has a new movie called The Perfect Date coming out on Netflix on April 12th. Get ready to drool.

[tallb]

Ugh I'm sorry inthekitty. Sucks to have to be reliving through his memories. I hope your trip is amazing though..agree about it sucking being the default parent. All the things behind the scenes to make life happen, yet dad can do a fun activity and get the glory. They will realize someday, hopefully sooner rather than later..

[peachsmama]

Couch is in! Delivery on friday! Plumbing inspection was today. Which I didnt know was still needed.... hopefully the final tomorrow or Friday. Move in Saturday hopefully!

[mwhip]

I'll be the first to admit that I was terrible to my mom as a teenager. I think I was pushing boundaries to see how far I could go. We had a terrible relationship until my freshman year of college and my step dad passed away, after that, things changed a lot. My mom always told me everything I did would come back to haunt me twice as bad...which is probably why I waited until 35 to have a kid.

[vino]

Mar 26, 2019 11:04:26 GMT -6 inthekitty said:

vino and other Noah Centineo fans, he has a new movie called The Perfect Date coming out on Netflix on April 12th. Get ready to drool.

::rushes to find trailer::

ETA: Looks great, I'll watch it approx 1546846121 times I'm sure

[trtlcrzy]

Mar 26, 2019 7:05:07 GMT -6 kim22 said:

Although I didn’t have everyone to bed until 9:30, they all slept great. C is napping and everyone else is at school. I should be working out but I’m procrastinating.

Today after school there is a meeting for 3rd grade parents about state testing because it’s the first year they take it. They have changed the name of the test but it’s basically the same. I didn’t plan to go because my other kid has already taken it, I’m a teacher in the district, then send the same stuff home in writing, and DD listens to everything her teacher tells her. My kid though was making me feel guilty for not going though so I may have to. I already do my best to make sure my kids get a good night sleep and eat a healthy breakfast so I’d rather not listen to questions about things we cannot change. Am I the worst?

I’d skip it. Sounds like you’re a pro already.

[dapostrophe]

Hi Ladies, just coming up for air and wanted to check in. I have lots to catch up on, but I am going to try to jump back in. Hope everyone is doing well!

[cagoldi]

Mar 26, 2019 11:57:51 GMT -6 dapostrophe said:

Hi Ladies, just coming up for air and wanted to check in. I have lots to catch up on, but I am going to try to jump back in. Hope everyone is doing well!

Hello, gorgeous. You were missed.

[cagoldi]

Mar 26, 2019 11:48:14 GMT -6 mwhip said:

I'll be the first to admit that I was terrible to my mom as a teenager. I think I was pushing boundaries to see how far I could go. We had a terrible relationship until my freshman year of college and my step dad passed away, after that, things changed a lot. My mom always told me everything I did would come back to haunt me twice as bad...which is probably why I waited until 35 to have a kid.

I was awful to my mom. My dad was a god.

This was true until my early twenties.

[trtlcrzy]

Hey. It’s overcast and kind of chilly here today. It’s supposed to get to almost 60 so I hope the clouds clear soon. H had school this morning and S & I just hung out at home. She learned how to pedal her trike yesterday, which I thought she would never do because she was so resistant, and now that’s all she wants to do. After nap while the girls play outside I’m going to try and clean the inside of my car. It’s a disaster from this winter, especially the back seat.

inthekitty sounds like this is a much needed vacation. Hopefully the rest of the week flies by

nam2013 I hope the meds and rest help.

[klong11]

Mar 26, 2019 12:00:22 GMT -6 cagoldi said:

Mar 26, 2019 11:48:14 GMT -6 mwhip said:

I'll be the first to admit that I was terrible to my mom as a teenager. I think I was pushing boundaries to see how far I could go. We had a terrible relationship until my freshman year of college and my step dad passed away, after that, things changed a lot. My mom always told me everything I did would come back to haunt me twice as bad...which is probably why I waited until 35 to have a kid.

I was awful to my mom. My dad was a god.

This was true until my early twenties.

Same, but my mom was awful to me. I always felt like she didn't like me growing up. I told her that when I was in highschool and she straight up told me that she didn't. Cool.  We have an ok relationship now, but nothing like I had with my Dad.

Cadence is all mama's girl, no doubt about it. But, like my Dad, I'm also the disciplinarian. She knows that I love her and I'll snuggle with her til the cows come home, but I also get the job done and she knows not to eff around. Her Dad to her is a guy who gets the job done, but only when Mom's not around, but she knows she can get away with everything with him. If he says no, go to Mom. If Mom says no, then the answer is no.

[lfig]

Some of you probably saw the article I shared on FB yesterday from Popsugar. My cousin was the photographer, it has now been shared over 75,000 times and she woke up to a ton of emails from all over requesting interviews, including from places in London and Spain. She is in shock. Lol.

[flamingo]

Re: mother/daughter relationships, I read a few years back that girls tend to 'separate' and attempt to exert their independence verbally, whereas boys tend to do so 'physically'. Girls want to argue, and have that verbal back-and-forth, whereas boys just want to get away, whether it's to their room or just out of the house. This is more in terms of teens but I do see some similarities with kids (mine, anyway).

[nam2013]

dapostrophe hi, good to see you! Hope you and your beautiful family are well .

[klong11]

lfig I loved that picture. And the way the baby was staring. OMG

[vino]

I'm sorry about the delay in surgery tgrimes, frustrating for sure but I'd wait as well.

Have fun at the game mwhip! What a nice surprise.

[kim22]

tgrimes sorry you have to wait. Is that some crazy Texas law about having to meet with your doctor before a tubal? I asked my doctor about a tubal the day of my first prenatal appointment with C because I said I didn’t want to miss any deadlines and she said I could tell her mid-C-section and she could do it unless I was on Medicaid, then there was a waiting period.

[tgrimes]

Mar 26, 2019 11:48:14 GMT -6 mwhip said:

I'll be the first to admit that I was terrible to my mom as a teenager. I think I was pushing boundaries to see how far I could go. We had a terrible relationship until my freshman year of college and my step dad passed away, after that, things changed a lot. My mom always told me everything I did would come back to haunt me twice as bad...which is probably why I waited until 35 to have a kid.

My sister claims she's getting her payback now.  

[tgrimes]

Mar 26, 2019 12:48:42 GMT -6 kim22 said:

tgrimes sorry you have to wait. Is that some crazy Texas law about having to meet with your doctor before a tubal? I asked my doctor about a tubal the day of my first prenatal appointment with C because I said I didn’t want to miss any deadlines and she said I could tell her mid-C-section and she could do it unless I was on Medicaid, then there was a waiting period.

No law.  I'm assuming all of this could be discussed over the phone....but I know she's busy trying to fit in everything before she leaves.  I get it, but damn.  It's such a pain in the ass for me to go in next week.  The only time slot she has was 2:30.  I work an hour away and i'm sure I'll be waiting fora while at her office so I'll have to take a 1/2 day off work.