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Post by friendofdobby on Mar 18, 2019 9:00:23 GMT -6
SO and I live in a 3 bedroom apartment. Stepson lives with us (except in summers) so he has one room, DS lives with us 50% of the time since I have total 50/50 joint custody with XH and has his own room, and SO and I obviously have the master bedroom. DS is 4.5, will be 5 in October.
Moving isn’t really an option, so we are looking at a situation in which baby will have to room share with either us in the master bedroom or DS in his bedroom. This is where I need some help and feedback because I can’t decide which route to go.
Things of note:
- Both the master and DS’s room are of adequate size to carve out a little baby space with the crib, so space in either room isn’t a problem.
- I’m planning on baby sleeping in our room the first couple of months anyway in a bassinet.
- will sharing with baby totally screw up DS’s sleep?
Any thoughts on this are greatly appreciated!
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Post by Deleted on Mar 18, 2019 11:49:59 GMT -6
My friends 4.5 y.o. and almost 3 y.o. share a room now that they both STTN. I would say before STTN it would probably be pretty tough on DS, especially if he doesn't share a room at your exH's. Obviously you wouldn't spring it on DS but I'd be tempted to wait until the baby has been around a while and ask him how he'd feel sharing a room. I think in either case partitions are a good idea. Some babies get distracted if they can see you & it makes it feel like there's a baby space in whatever room the baby ends up in.  |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 18, 2019 14:25:47 GMT -6
Not to ask a total "duh" question, but can your stepson and your DS not share a room? I understand it may be an adjustment since they don't room share at the other parents' houses, but they seem to be a perfect age for it. We just moved my 3 YO and 4.5 YO to bunk beds in the same room and they adore it.
Also, any creative solutions? Sometimes at AirBNBs we use a bathroom or walk-in closet for our youngest who slept in a PNP until she was a year old or so. Not a long-term solution, but may buy you some time!
ETA: just realized I can't read and you didn't give an age for step-son, sorry for that #readingfail
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Post by sammysam on Mar 18, 2019 15:57:36 GMT -6
friendofdobby I don't think there's a wrong way to go here. I plan on continuing to bedshare with DD (who will be 5.5 when baby gets here) in her room and have baby in a bassinet beside the bed. I plan to continue with this until DD1 wants to be on her own. I'm hoping they will just learn to live with eachother in the meantime.
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Post by friendofdobby on Mar 18, 2019 17:18:35 GMT -6
Thank you all for the responses. @kore I agree I think a partition with either way we go would be good. peachesncream SS is 15, so room sharing DS with him is out. But I like the creative thinking idea a lot. We have a master closet that might can serve as a tiny nursery if the room sharing is not working or we need more privacy or the baby needs more quiet or whatever. sammysam I do think you’re right that it’ll work out either way. And I appreciate hearing about others who are sharing space and making it work. |
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Post by elodin on Mar 22, 2019 5:51:45 GMT -6
For me, I would not be able to keep the baby in my room as a long term solution. Once they are sttn they go to their new room. I don't see why your 4yo couldn't adjust to sharing. Especially if the baby is sttn. Obviously you'd talk to him about it and let him know what's going to be happening in a few months. Maybe I'm a hardass but, but sorry kiddo that's just how it goes when you have siblings.
I have basically the same situation happening here. Small house/big family problems. 🤷♀️
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Post by beenthere on Mar 22, 2019 8:20:07 GMT -6
We still have DS2 in our room but we have a guest/craft room right now still, so we're trying to decide if we do move him, if we should move him to his own or have him share with DS1. They *will* have to share eventually so I don't know if we should just bite the bullet
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Post by friendofdobby on Mar 22, 2019 8:49:13 GMT -6
Where are you planning for DS3 to be beenthere? Will he room share with you guys? |
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Post by beenthere on Mar 22, 2019 9:10:45 GMT -6
Where are you planning for DS3 to be beenthere? Will he room share with you guys? Yep Definitely in the room! I'm sort of thinking it'll be both kids still in the room with us though! |
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