I made a poll!

[roloma]

Look! A poll.

N has his pacifier most of the time at home.  At daycare he mostly just has it at nap time or if he is especially crabby.  I want to break him of it by 18 months but I keep chickening out on taking it away.  I am thinking of attempting to cut back to car and nap only this weekend.

So, help me.  Are we way behind the curve on this?  Should I have done it months ago?  I don't paci...DS1 never liked his and gave it up at like 6 months.

Hold me.

[jules1614]

You're fine!

Ds1 loved his paci. Around 18months he could only have it for sleeping and car rides. We ditched it right before he turned 2. Three rough nights and the habit was broken. We plan on doing the same for ds2.

[thatgolfb]

I put "never had one" but the more accurate explanation is that she used it until about 4 months and then dropped it herself. She now occasionally sucks her thumb.

DD1 never took a paci and never used her thumb.

[thatgolfb]

And roloma, our N17ers are still young and very much within the time frame of acceptable pacifier use, IMO. Not that I even really know what "acceptable" is. I mean I think 5 years old is too old, I guess? I am very unhelpful here, lol.

[grumpycat]

Ds2 has never taken a pacifier. It was a curse and now a blessing lmao.

Ds1 had one until he was about 2.5 years old. We transitioned him to only having it at night/in the car when he was around 2.

[bethkate]

E has had a pacifier since day 1, but she’s really become obsessed with it over the past few months. We’re trying to only give it to her at nap/bed time, but we do bring it with us when we go out in case of emergency. lol

We started to worry about her having it because she wasn’t saying many words and we didn’t want it to hinder her speech. Plus, with her starting to really show how addicted to it she is, we’re worried about how hard it’s going to be to take away. My goal is to keep it to only sleep time as much as possible for now and maybe go cold turkey around her 2nd bday.

[quinn]

He'll probably have one until he's 70. Sounds bout right

[sarahandben108]

E has a paci. He has it all the time at home. His babysitter doesn’t like them so he usually doesn’t have one during the day with her. N had one up to 4 months and then stopped using it. I think we’ll keep it with E up to 2 years and then wean him off.

[spacecadet]

We stil use a paci. It is mostly just used in the car or for sleeping but I have been giving it to him other times when he’s teething. I don’t know when we will get rid of it but I’m not worried about it until at least 2. DS1 used his a lot more and I think he was 2.5 when he stopped. We basically went until we ran out and then we were forced to wean him from them.

[cnf]

DD1 was a big paci lover and we cut her cold turkey at 18m when we moved her to a big girl bed. She barely noticed and we encourage her to snuggle a stuffed friend when she did ask.

DD2 was very anti pacifier until about a month ago and now she wants one all the time. I plan to cut her off when we move this summer since we'll transition her to big bed then as well.

[roloma]

bethkate, I am a bit worried about his speech. Which I think is my main motivating factor. He doesn’t talk. Like at all. Sometimes he whines mama if he’s really pissed. His pediatrician isn’t worried but by this time DS1 was talking like crazy. He understands everything perfectly fine and follows even complex instructions, he just doesn’t talk. However, he is loud AF. He yells and “sings” and makes all sorts of vocal racket 😂

[grumpycat]

roloma and bethkate ds1 had a language explosion closer to 18 months and has not stopped talking since. He was a pacifier lover and would actually talk with it in his mouth when he was older. Second kids are often "delayed" in speaking if they have a chatty older sibling. My poor brother couldn't get a word in. They still hear and likely know how to say the words, there just isn't any reason to 🤷 I guess what I'm trying to say is that I wouldn't worry until the pediatrician says something. The best way to foster language is to narrate everything you are doing and involve the child in a conversation (leave room for them to answer you). Lots of books and singing too. I've also found that when I start to worry about something, ds2 does it without issue within a week or two lmao. So more words are likely on their way!

[quinn]

Feb 19, 2019 20:05:06 GMT -6 roloma said:

bethkate, I am a bit worried about his speech. Which I think is my main motivating factor. He doesn’t talk. Like at all. Sometimes he whines mama if he’s really pissed. His pediatrician isn’t worried but by this time DS1 was talking like crazy. He understands everything perfectly fine and follows even complex instructions, he just doesn’t talk. However, he is loud AF. He yells and “sings” and makes all sorts of vocal racket 😂

ok this is a big confession but I think it may make you feel better... ds3 talked super early, like full on sentences by 16mos, and is even learning to read now at age 3... **whispers** he still uses his paci 🙊 I know, I know. It never hindered his speech. Like not even a smidge.

AJ *can* talk but chooses not to. Like grumpycat said, he has no reason to. He has 3 older brothers that flock to him at every grunt and point he makes

I have no plans to take AJ's paci away any time soon. But I do try to keep it's use to only nap and sleep (or when he's overtired and whiney I dont want to hear his shit).

Ds3 will be saying goodbye to the paci lol (only nighttime use at this point) when I return from our FL vacation

[cakewench]

N still uses one, but I found out yesterday he won't be able to in the next room at daycare so we need to start shifting him to nighttime only. The DCPs say he will often ditch it on his own during the day unless he's super tired or cranky, so hopefully it won't be that bad at home.

[ldubhawksfan]

We ditched the paci with DD around 2.25 years. We kept it until after ds was born when she just turned 2. The dentist said she wanted it gone by 3, period. Our dc actually doesn’t allow it in the toddler room, so they did the work of eliminating its day use, and had dropped it to pretty much just naps in the infant room before she moved. I fully plan to let ds do the same.
For nighttime we tried sneaking in to remove it once she was asleep so it wasn’t 8+ hrs in her mouth, but super pregnant and with a newborn, that didn’t stick. Eventually I cut the tip of it and although she cried for about a week wanting to get the rest of it from the trash, she dropped the paci at bedtime.

Short answer, I’m giving ourselves another year with it for bedtime. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[sarahandben108]

Feb 19, 2019 20:05:06 GMT -6 roloma said:

bethkate , I am a bit worried about his speech. Which I think is my main motivating factor. He doesn’t talk. Like at all. Sometimes he whines mama if he’s really pissed. His pediatrician isn’t worried but by this time DS1 was talking like crazy. He understands everything perfectly fine and follows even complex instructions, he just doesn’t talk. However, he is loud AF. He yells and “sings” and makes all sorts of vocal racket 😂

E doesn’t say much either. He babbles A LOT but none of it is real words. He has some definite words like uh oh, Mama, hello. With N he was a huge talker at this age. A lot of words BUT he wasn’t as advanced physically. Like he would have just started crawling at this age. E has almost been walking for two months. Long story short, we are in the same boat as you. 

[roloma]

Feb 19, 2019 20:14:45 GMT -6 grumpycat said:

roloma and bethkate ds1 had a language explosion closer to 18 months and has not stopped talking since. He was a pacifier lover and would actually talk with it in his mouth when he was older. Second kids are often "delayed" in speaking if they have a chatty older sibling. My poor brother couldn't get a word in. They still hear and likely know how to say the words, there just isn't any reason to 🤷 I guess what I'm trying to say is that I wouldn't worry until the pediatrician says something. The best way to foster language is to narrate everything you are doing and involve the child in a conversation (leave room for them to answer you). Lots of books and singing too. I've also found that when I start to worry about something, ds2 does it without issue within a week or two lmao. So more words are likely on their way!

Yeah, those are things I did with DS1 and still do with DS2.  He's just stubborn, I think.  He'll get there, I just hate thinking I am doing something to impede progress.

[ldubhawksfan]

Ds only says mama and more. He grunts and babbles a ton. I’m not worried about his lack of verbal words yet. 🤷🏼‍♀️ After 18 mo, maybe.

[cnf]

The pacifier in no way hindered Ellie's speech. She was blabbing sentences at 18m when we took it away.

[pootsen]

Neither of my boys would ever take a pacifier. Both a blessing and a curse. Good luck with whatever you choose to do!

[blabbermouth]

DD only gets her soother in her crib. She doesn't keep it in all night and I just leave it in the corner so she can help herself, I don't give it to her right away. I am not in any real rush to get rid of it. It's never been a problem for us, she never woke up when she lost it, so that was nice. Maybe once she starts sleeping through the night more regularly 🙄 I'll consider getting rid of it.

[sarahandben108]

Feb 20, 2019 23:26:52 GMT -6 blabbermouth said:

DD only gets her soother in her crib. She doesn't keep it in all night and I just leave it in the corner so she can help herself, I don't give it to her right away. I am not in any real rush to get rid of it. It's never been a problem for us, she never woke up when she lost it, so that was nice. Maybe once she starts sleeping through the night more regularly 🙄 I'll consider getting rid of it.

This is us as well. E never keeps it in all night and never cries for it. Usually we pop it back in if he wakes to try to help him go back to sleep.

[snuff9861]

Yes she does. I really only give it to her at nap/bedtime. But occasionally if she's extra crabby during the day i'll let her have it. Around 2 I'll start weaning her from it.

[roloma]

He has been fighting sleep hardcore at bedtime the last week or so. His new thing is to take out his paci and throw it because he knows he gets sleepy when he sucks on it. Jerk baby, anything to avoid sleep.

[blabbermouth]

Feb 21, 2019 6:55:59 GMT -6 sarahandben108 said:

Feb 20, 2019 23:26:52 GMT -6 blabbermouth said:

DD only gets her soother in her crib. She doesn't keep it in all night and I just leave it in the corner so she can help herself, I don't give it to her right away. I am not in any real rush to get rid of it. It's never been a problem for us, she never woke up when she lost it, so that was nice. Maybe once she starts sleeping through the night more regularly 🙄 I'll consider getting rid of it.

This is us as well. E never keeps it in all night and never cries for it. Usually we pop it back in if he wakes to try to help him go back to sleep.

Same. It's MY crutch, not hers, haha. 

[blabbermouth]

Feb 21, 2019 9:44:00 GMT -6 roloma said:

He has been fighting sleep hardcore at bedtime the last week or so. His new thing is to take out his paci and throw it because he knows he gets sleepy when he sucks on it. Jerk baby, anything to avoid sleep.

Oh, I know she's pissed when I go into her room and she's standing up with her bunny and soother on the floor! 

[roloma]

Feb 21, 2019 14:09:27 GMT -6 blabbermouth said:

Feb 21, 2019 9:44:00 GMT -6 roloma said:

He has been fighting sleep hardcore at bedtime the last week or so. His new thing is to take out his paci and throw it because he knows he gets sleepy when he sucks on it. Jerk baby, anything to avoid sleep.

Oh, I know she's pissed when I go into her room and she's standing up with her bunny and soother on the floor! 

Same!  When he gets mad he throws everything out of his crib.  Or when he isn't mad.  So basically, when he isn't sleeping he throws everything out 

[clucky]

I’m years late, but even though A never took a paci, DS1 & ds3 did. I found it hard to take away before they got all of their teeth, because it brought them comfort that wasn’t my breast.

DS1 gave his up around 18-19mo, I think I would just have him give it to me and once he started chewing holes in them, they went bye bye because they were broken.

Ds3 was a little harder to break, it was nearly 2y when we gave it up, by then we just did away with them for the baby.

I tried so hard in the beginning to get DS2 and ds4 to take a dang paci and they just couldn’t hold onto it. So it was a pain for me if they did or don’t have them...which I realize you didn’t ask. 😬

[mrspiatt]

Not as late as me clucky!
J and DD2 both dropped the pacifier earlier... that being said, I’m a SAHM mom and they just decided the boob was a better. J lives on the damn boob and the only reason DD2 isn’t still on it (this is very likely an exaggeration since she’s 3 1/2) is because I cut her off cold turkey at 21 months because I was pregnant, had morning sickness and just couldn’t deal with breastfeeding and being a human pacifier.
None of that is very helpful, sorry. For what it’s worth, I’m super judgy when it comes to kids I feel are too old for a pacifier and you’re still fine. lol