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Post by yellowcat on Feb 16, 2019 20:11:18 GMT -6
So my kids had Valentine's day parties at daycare and preschool. Both sent notes asking that cards be sent and no candy. but parents that candy anyway and my kids ate it and I've been crazy all weekend eating this freaking candy. Why do people give one and two year olds candy?
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Post by yellowcat on Feb 16, 2019 20:15:41 GMT -6
@starzia I know! Everything thing just gets amplified. Especially when it has to do with work and money.
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Post by king26 on Feb 17, 2019 5:05:28 GMT -6
So my kids had Valentine's day parties at daycare and preschool. Both sent notes asking that cards be sent and no candy. but parents that candy anyway and my kids ate it and I've been crazy all weekend eating this freaking candy. Why do people give one and two year olds candy? I have no clue. We went to a family birthday yesterday and people kept trying to give j lollipops, cookies, etc. I said he can have a bite of my piece of cake but no candy and no cookies simce hes having cake. His 2 year old cousin had a pack of cookoes, 2 lollipops, a piece of cake, and hald of her brothers cookie. J would puke with all of that.
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Post by bsouls on Feb 17, 2019 6:22:50 GMT -6
I have no clue. We went to a family birthday yesterday and people kept trying to give j lollipops, cookies, etc. I said he can have a bite of my piece of cake but no candy and no cookies simce hes having cake. His 2 year old cousin had a pack of cookoes, 2 lollipops, a piece of cake, and hald of her brothers cookie. J would puke with all of that. I’m the same. DD doesn’t get much junk. Meanwhile her similar age friends are allowed multiple cookies and chips and a what looks like free for all at most parties. I wonder if this is really me or FTM attitude? Let’s see what happens Things haven’t really changed second time around for us. I had a big blow up at thanksgiving because everyone kept insisting R needed dessert even though I said no. There will be plenty of time for sweets, but they don’t need to be pushed on her when she’s not even asking for them. She still hasn’t had juice and probably won’t until after 2.
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Post by yellowcat on Feb 17, 2019 6:43:35 GMT -6
yellowcat yes! We just did our tax returns and I was shocked to see we made about the same as last year. It feels like the brokest year we have ever had ! I thought for sure I didn’t make anything this year. That’s what it feels like. Thanks daycare. This is my life!
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Post by jt2378 on Feb 17, 2019 6:43:38 GMT -6
I have no clue. We went to a family birthday yesterday and people kept trying to give j lollipops, cookies, etc. I said he can have a bite of my piece of cake but no candy and no cookies simce hes having cake. His 2 year old cousin had a pack of cookoes, 2 lollipops, a piece of cake, and hald of her brothers cookie. J would puke with all of that. I’m the same. DD doesn’t get much junk. Meanwhile her similar age friends are allowed multiple cookies and chips and a what looks like free for all at most parties. I wonder if this is really me or FTM attitude? Let’s see what happens Yes and no. I would say M has had more sweets at this age then D1 ever did only because it’s harder to keep her away from it when the other one has it but like bsouls, I’m a hard pass on juice and she can’t have that. D1 never did till like age 3.
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Post by addymac on Feb 17, 2019 7:31:22 GMT -6
N has hd little bits of sweets but it’s been a rare treat. I’m all for no need to give these things when they don’t even know. Especially bc when he HAS tasted it he’s like MOARRRRRR. I’m sure he inherited his parents’ sweet tooth so we don’t need to add to it lol. Things haven’t been great with DH here lately either yellowcat @starzia. Like @starzia said, all the little things built up and I hit my breaking point from things I had mentioned a few weeks ago. I literally told DH that I was at my breaking point, I hit my limit, and I was fucking done. So even if he didn’t see why one thing was making me blow up, it’s bc it was EVERYTHING culminating. And things needed to change immediately or things were going to get significantly worse. I also realized I needed to stop snapping at each thing he did wrong and take a breath and go to work for a few days and stay away from him. So things are a bit better but I’m still incredibly frustrated that there’s still a pile of fucking laundry that hasn’t been folded since Friday in our room when he spent TWO HOURS looking at carpet yesterday. Carpet we haven’t even decided if we are going to replace. 😤 so, baby steps.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 17, 2019 13:14:08 GMT -6
I bribe A with Annie’s organic fruit snacks to stay in the gym daycare. It worked, but of course expects it every time he goes now. 😬 which can be anywhere from 1 to 5 days a week, depending on when MH can watch him. I might need to “forget” to bring it and see what happens. I’m sorry for the marriage troubles, @starzia, yellowcat and addymac. The stress of raising children, working, keeping up with the household is so much. I definitely feel that low grade irritation most days, and can take it out on MH and vice versa. I try to focus on what his strengths are and have him excel at those. lol it helps I think.
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Post by muscari on Feb 17, 2019 15:16:25 GMT -6
**hugs** for all who need them. I'm sorry for the marriage troubles, I feel you.. it's not been a walk in the park here either lately but we're plugging on. Instead of putting most of the blame and frustration on MH (even if it really feels like that) I try to turn it around and make changes or say things/look at things from my perspective.. if that makes sense at all. It makes it to where I feel less frustrated, can let go of the smaller stuff easier, and focus more in the good/nice/fun things in our marriage - which then leaves more room to also work on some of the bigger issues. Or at least, that's the goal.. I only very recently started to make this change so tis a WIP still. But I do feel a bit lighter, and snap less at MH, and in turn he seems to have picked up on some unsaid but apperently still 'heard' pointers about things I would like for him to do/change. Baby steps baby steps.
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Post by king26 on Feb 18, 2019 17:42:31 GMT -6
Yeah we only do.juice when j is constipated otherwise its water and milk. Family continues to offer juice whenever we are around and i always decline. J doesnt seem to vare when he does get it...i swear he knows its to help him poop. He almost always goes a few hours after he gets it.
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