Did we forget the weekend?

[danib]

It's already Sunday and no weekend thread. I'm not having the best time. Will be back in a bit with a huge vent. How's everyone else doing?

[waitwhat]

Just thinking the same thing!

I’m cleaning my house because we have friends coming over later for the game. What is everyone eating today? We have so many dips. I’m making guacamole, taco dip, hummus with veggies and pita, buffalo chicken meatballs, bite sized pizzas, and homemade stuffed jalapeño peppers. I’m excited! I love food.

[tgrimes]

My MIL said H had a rough night. His fever would spike over 103 every couple of hours and he threw up 3 times. They went downstairs at 7 and he ate a muffin, drank some milk and is now running around chasing M.

I guess If his temp goes up again I should probably go get them before my SIL gets over there since she’s pregnant.

Of course MH is going to a friend’s house to watch the game.

[tgrimes]

That all sounds amazing waitwhat!

[cookswithwine]

Sounds delicious waitwhat! We don’t have any super bowl plans... I was going to make enchiladas.

H made me DD last night. We didn’t get home until after mid night so I made him get up at 7 with O 😈

[waitwhat]

I’m sorry about H tgrimes.

[danib]

Warning long story ahead.
So last night I was supposed to go to a comedy show with my mom and sisters.

Back story: my sister messaged me like 3 months ago and asked if I wanted to go to the show. I asked for the details and she responded "we're all going, that's all the details you need" (we meaning sisters and mom). I had to push, like no I work weekends, I have a husband who's gone half the year, I need to know details so I can figure out if I can actually make it work. After I pryed the info out I agreed to go and she bought the tickets.

Fast forward to last week. Sister sends around a message asking what the plan is for before the show, we going out to supper, etc. I remind her I am working. Say I will get home at 430, freshen up, and meet them at the restaurant. One sister suggests a specific restaurant, I say I'm good with it, let me know what time everyone will be there.

Thursday night my mom asks me what I'm bringing for pot luck. I asked her what she's talking about. Turns out everyone had decided to meet at sister's house and have pot luck instead. No one noticed that I wasn't included in this conversation. I got a little bit upset because I have no way to manage pot luck since I will be at work all day. Sister lives 20+ minutes outside of the city (where I live and where the show is), I would have no time to get off work and go home before going to her house (because its in the opposite direction) so anything I brought would have to sit in my car all day. Plus only having 1 day notice and having to work Friday as well I didn't have much time to pick up/make anything. So mom offers to pick up some pizza when she goes to Costco the next day and she would cook it and bring it (in addition to her stuff) and Id just pay her back. Ok fine that works.

Next day (Friday) I geta message from my sister asking what I was bringing. I tell her about the pizza thing. She said she was planning to do pizza (which I didn't know because I wasn't included in the conversation) and to double check with mom because they spent thr day together and didn't go to Costco. So I called mom and nope she didn't get the pizza, see if sister can help me. So I go back and forth between the two of them (quite irritated because I have literally no time to get anything else at this point). In the end mom volunteers (again) to do a different dish for me, just make sure I remind her in the morning.

Ok so I do that. Yesterday comes and I'm still irritated over the whole mess with the food and the plans, plus that I can't even go home after work so I feel like a total mess when I get to sister's house. We have our food, everyone except me is getting buzzed/drunk. Which explains why they changed the plans from the restaurant.

So plan is mom's fiance is driving everyone in the van (7 seats) and dropping us off because parking at this particular venu sucks. Of course I have my car and can't leave it there because it's so far away and I have work the next morning. So it's agreed that I'll bring my car home and they'll pick me up there and we'll all go together (so I don't have to figure out parking). So when its time to leave I let them know I'm leaving 10 minutes ahead so I can bring my work bags inside and say good night to thr boys. "No problem, we'll leave in 10 minutes, see you soon".

Guys I waited 50 minutes! 50! Then I gets a text from my sister whrn they're a few minutes away asking me if I have any wine I can bring out to the car (I lied and said no because fuck that). They roll up to my house at the time that the show is starting (which is 15-20 minutes from my house on the other side of the city), and pile out to come inside and use the bathroom. I was livid. I was so hurt that they were so inconsiderate of me to leave me watching out the window waiting for them for almost an hour when they said theyd he 10 minutes behind me. Plus we would be walking into an already started show (with tickets to sit in thr 3rd row, so not even like we could slip in unnoticed) which is soooooo fucking rude. And not one of them gave a shit that I was upset. Completely brushed off my feelings. Didn't even offer up an excuse as to why they didn't leave (I know why, they wanted to keep drinking and didn't care/think about me).

I ended up telling them to go on without me. I had no interest at that point, was way too upset. And honestly, if I'm going to be up late and tired for work in the morning it better be for something that's worth it. The show (aka spending thr evening with them) was no longer worth it.

So that was a total waste of money and a lovely reminder that my family never actually has any consideration for my feelings. Like they would fight dragons to protect each other, but admit to doing something wrong, not a chance.

TL;DR my family sucks and completely ruined my night by being inconsiderate drunks and none of them even care that I'm upset about it.

[tgrimes]

Shit. I’m sorry danib.

[waitwhat]

I’m so sorry danib. That really sucks. Especially because it’s family. I would totally be salty about it and you have every right to feel the way you do.

[sarahwithanh]

danib that sucks so much. I'm sorry they were so inconsiderate

[goldenlove]

Damn danib. That is so inconsiderate of them. I'm sorry you have to deal with that.

[cookswithwine]

I’m sorry danib that sucks. Maybe give it a few days then try and talk to them about it again.

[cookswithwine]

I finished the one wall in the playroom. It’s more modern looking than my normal style but I thought it was fun to be a little different in the playroom. Plus it’s all IKEA so O and #2 can destroy it and it’s ok. There is a couch on the opposite wall and I’m going to hang some monochromatic art above it like the “Play Room” sign.
*poof*

[hangry]

Oh man danib, you made the right decision to stay home. You would have been even more resentful and hurt if ou had gone.

[hangry]

Looks great cookswithwine!

[hangry]

Already went grocery shopping, had a dental cleaning, printed pictures of Flat Stanley for my nephew, done some laundry, and “reading” homework with O. I’m ready to chill until the big game.

So for the Super Bowl, we have the following currently on the menu ... Buffalo chicken dip, bbq wings, chips and salsa, steak and potatoes, and ice cream. Such a random menu, but it’s just us so doesn’t really need to make sense.

[waitwhat]

Love it cookswithwine!

[starbuck]

Ugh danib I'm sorry. That is so inconsiderate.

[kleigh]

danib I’m so sorry. I totally relate. I LOVE my mom and sisters but this is 100000% something they’d do (my mom doesn’t drink but guilty of the other stuff at times). I’m never included on the sister group texts, they go out without me without an invite (like we are all equally close but bc the first year with the twins was an all-encompassing thing they assume I can’t do things now, years later)... and then when I am involved on things, same kind of thing - inconsiderate, 10 minutes turns into an hour, who drops the ball on the other thing, who drank too much or made other plans and isn’t coming etc etc etc. I’m so sorry . I would’ve stayed home too, good for you for not just going along with it.

cookswithwine Looks so cute!!

hangry I made buffalo chicken dip too!!

[danib]

Thanks ladies. They always make me feel like I over react to stuff. I know that's mostly because they can't admit that they did wrong, so they need to make it seem like I'm the issue, but sometimed I start to wonder if they're right.