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Post by Tlex on Feb 20, 2019 16:21:23 GMT -6
I can’t pretend I’m innocent in the game. When my grandfather died my mom and I were the only two who showed up to help my grandmother clean out her mansion. She offered us our pick of a lot of antiques etc. I was only 20 so I didn’t have want for a lot of it but I took this huge painting I’d always liked.
I hung it up in my college apartment and some party pics posted to FB showed it. My cousins, aunts, uncles, everyone collectively lost their minds in the comments section - why do you have that, who gave you that, I claimed that years before you were born, you’re too young to care for something that means so much to this family!
Grandmother made a FB account just to shame them all publicly I was the only grandchild to show up and help, I was given it in thanks and they can all think on that.
I deleted FB many years ago now due to more family drama of the sort, but a lot of my cousins follow my IG and I enjoy whenever the painting is shown in a photo of our home. I know it just eats them and they show their parents for sure.
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Post by gussie on Feb 20, 2019 16:22:55 GMT -6
No joke like 20 years over cheap salt and pepper shakers. No sentimental value. I mean, they will be all dramatic and tell you there’s sentimental value, but they’re lying. It’s really just, “how dare you cheat me?” No one actually wants the shakers. Fact. The costume jewellery drama is this: Matriarch dies, leaves 6 grown children, 3 sons and 3 daughters. The daughters have divvied up the real jewellery amongst themselves years ago and that basically gets split up without too much drama before mom is in the ground. One of the brothers takes a piece of costume jewellery to give to his wife, who had done the day in and out care of this woman, just as a memento. The sisters collectively lose their MINDS and threaten the dead to me card over not having been asked first if each one of them wanted that specific piece to remember mom by. Because it was VERY sentimental. (It was not.) The wife who received the piece is stuck between her husband digging in and saying he had every right to it and so do his daughters via his wife and wanting to appease her SILs over a piece of costume jewellery she does not even want at this point. Same exact shit as the shakers. Now another brother decides to join in and say actually I think mom would have wanted some of her real jewellery to go to our wives. Everything bursts into flames. See in a family like this, I would spell every. little. thing. out in a will. |
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Post by ArielMermaid on Feb 20, 2019 16:24:28 GMT -6
Also, is that an Italian thing that we show up when you die ready to take all your tchotchkes? Or is that just the average petty family? I thought this was every body. But I’m not at all Italian and I also do the dead to me thing so maybe I need an ancestry test. |
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Post by gussie on Feb 20, 2019 16:26:38 GMT -6
I can’t pretend I’m innocent in the game. When my grandfather died my mom and I were the only two who showed up to help my grandmother clean out her mansion. She offered us our pick of a lot of antiques etc. I was only 20 so I didn’t have want for a lot of it but I took this huge painting I’d always liked. I hung it up in my college apartment and some party pics posted to FB showed it. My cousins, aunts, uncles, everyone collectively lost their minds in the comments section - why do you have that, who gave you that, I claimed that years before you were born, you’re too young to care for something that means so much to this family! Grandmother made a FB account just to shame them all publicly I was the only grandchild to show up and help, I was given it in thanks and they can all think on that. I deleted FB many years ago now due to more family drama of the sort, but a lot of my cousins follow my IG and I enjoy whenever the painting is shown in a photo of our home. I know it just eats them and they show their parents for sure. When my grandma was dying, my sister would read to her every day. She was a little girl but it was just really sweet. So my aunt told her she could have my grandma's wedding ring when she was "older." Well, my sister is 29 and no ring... My aunt got to keep it in the first place because she bought the main diamond when my grandma wanted an upgrade. |
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Post by cocomama on Feb 20, 2019 16:29:17 GMT -6
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Post by gussie on Feb 20, 2019 16:29:48 GMT -6
MH's family has the dead to me thing down pretty good. Also the "family is more important than anything else in the world and stick by them no matter what." Which does not compute to me. Not Italian though.
Oh, they also do the fighting over jewelry thing! When MH's dad passed away, all his sisters came to MIL's house and basically robbed her of all the family heirloom jewelry her husband had given to her.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 20, 2019 16:32:26 GMT -6
Omg. Italians and their grudges! My husband’s father and uncle are Italian and I made an offhand comment about a garbage strike in Naples and said something like “it sure is smelly today” and the uncle has not spoken to me since. That was like 6 years ago. I’m cackling. My whole family would be gossiping what a bitch you were. To this day the uncle and his wife refer to me as “that terrible American girl”. |
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Post by greykitty on Feb 20, 2019 16:33:05 GMT -6
Jusse Smollett officially a suspect in a class 4 felony, filing a false police report.
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Post by Cher on Feb 20, 2019 16:37:00 GMT -6
No joke like 20 years over cheap salt and pepper shakers. No sentimental value. I mean, they will be all dramatic and tell you there’s sentimental value, but they’re lying. It’s really just, “how dare you cheat me?” No one actually wants the shakers. Fact. The costume jewellery drama is this: Matriarch dies, leaves 6 grown children, 3 sons and 3 daughters. The daughters have divvied up the real jewellery amongst themselves years ago and that basically gets split up without too much drama before mom is in the ground. One of the brothers takes a piece of costume jewellery to give to his wife, who had done the day in and out care of this woman, just as a memento. The sisters collectively lose their MINDS and threaten the dead to me card over not having been asked first if each one of them wanted that specific piece to remember mom by. Because it was VERY sentimental. (It was not.) The wife who received the piece is stuck between her husband digging in and saying he had every right to it and so do his daughters via his wife and wanting to appease her SILs over a piece of costume jewellery she does not even want at this point. Same exact shit as the shakers. Now another brother decides to join in and say actually I think mom would have wanted some of her real jewellery to go to our wives. Everything bursts into flames. I just got nostalgic reading that. It was like being at my great-grandmother’s Christmas party, which is no longer held because everyone hates each other. |
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Post by Cher on Feb 20, 2019 16:38:01 GMT -6
Also, is that an Italian thing that we show up when you die ready to take all your tchotchkes? Or is that just the average petty family? Well, my grandma has labeled all her little thingies for fear of a fight when she dies, but I think literally no one will be fighting over her Hummels or whatever. She's polish. When my grandpa died on my mom's side there was some fighting, but he had some cool shit. That side is German/Scottish. Let me know when she goes. My family will show up and fight over anything. |
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Post by Cher on Feb 20, 2019 16:39:10 GMT -6
No one actually wants the shakers. Fact. The costume jewellery drama is this: Matriarch dies, leaves 6 grown children, 3 sons and 3 daughters. The daughters have divvied up the real jewellery amongst themselves years ago and that basically gets split up without too much drama before mom is in the ground. One of the brothers takes a piece of costume jewellery to give to his wife, who had done the day in and out care of this woman, just as a memento. The sisters collectively lose their MINDS and threaten the dead to me card over not having been asked first if each one of them wanted that specific piece to remember mom by. Because it was VERY sentimental. (It was not.) The wife who received the piece is stuck between her husband digging in and saying he had every right to it and so do his daughters via his wife and wanting to appease her SILs over a piece of costume jewellery she does not even want at this point. Same exact shit as the shakers. Now another brother decides to join in and say actually I think mom would have wanted some of her real jewellery to go to our wives. Everything bursts into flames. See in a family like this, I would spell every. little. thing. out in a will. Doesn’t matter. Because we show up at your house and ransack that shit. |
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Post by Cher on Feb 20, 2019 16:40:46 GMT -6
m.tmz.com/#!article/2019/02/20/jussie-smollett-attack-surveillance-video-ski-masks-osundairo-brothers/ Woof. This is just NAGL. |
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Post by Cher on Feb 20, 2019 16:41:25 GMT -6
I’m cackling. My whole family would be gossiping what a bitch you were. To this day the uncle and his wife refer to me as “that terrible American girl”. It’s almost a term of affection! |
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Post by gussie on Feb 20, 2019 16:42:57 GMT -6
Well, my grandma has labeled all her little thingies for fear of a fight when she dies, but I think literally no one will be fighting over her Hummels or whatever. She's polish. When my grandpa died on my mom's side there was some fighting, but he had some cool shit. That side is German/Scottish. Let me know when she goes. My family will show up and fight over anything. Cancel the donation truck! I’ve got an Italian family coming! |
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Post by Leaf 🌱 on Feb 20, 2019 16:46:26 GMT -6
Kris gets a lot of attention as a manager but not enough as a writer, IMHO. 😂😂😂 this killer mended. she is 100% her own best fan fiction. |
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Post by Cher on Feb 20, 2019 16:46:40 GMT -6
Let me know when she goes. My family will show up and fight over anything. Cancel the donation truck! I’ve got an Italian family coming! They will all make up stories about how they knew her better than anyone else. |
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Post by Cher on Feb 20, 2019 16:47:20 GMT -6
January 30, 2019
As I have said for at least two years, this reality star/celebrity is setting the market for a virginity video when her daughter turns 18. She is counting on it for her own retirement and doesn't care if her daughter walks away with any of it.
Farrah Abraham
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Post by Cher on Feb 20, 2019 16:47:34 GMT -6
Gross. She’s so fucking nuts.
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Post by mb3 on Feb 20, 2019 16:50:00 GMT -6
I married into an Italian family who has taken the “blood is thicker than water” thing so far as to tell my H he needs to be more loyal to them and put his parents and siblings before me and our kids. As a result, we have barely any relationship with them but the whole thing started going downhill because my SIL hated the bridesmaid dress and my FIL got mad that we didn’t follow the guest list he sent us. From nearly 10 years ago. They’ve got the grudge holding down. Every once in a while they call my H up and scream at him that he “needs to come home” and about how important family is and how it always comes first and they can’t seem to figure out why it’s such an ineffective tactic. 🤣
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Post by mb3 on Feb 20, 2019 16:50:38 GMT -6
That Farrah blind makes me feel ill.
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Post by silverspoon on Feb 20, 2019 16:50:54 GMT -6
I just want to take a moment to appreciate Kim's hair from a time when it wasn't plastered down to her head |
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Post by angelashly on Feb 20, 2019 17:01:28 GMT -6
Jusse Smollett officially a suspect in a class 4 felony, filing a false police report. Woof |
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Post by angelashly on Feb 20, 2019 17:02:05 GMT -6
I just want to take a moment to appreciate Kim's hair from a time when it wasn't plastered down to her head #betterdays |
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Post by Tlex on Feb 20, 2019 17:08:25 GMT -6
I married into an Italian family who has taken the “blood is thicker than water” thing so far as to tell my H he needs to be more loyal to them and put his parents and siblings before me and our kids. As a result, we have barely any relationship with them but the whole thing started going downhill because my SIL hated the bridesmaid dress and my FIL got mad that we didn’t follow the guest list he sent us. From nearly 10 years ago. They’ve got the grudge holding down. Every once in a while they call my H up and scream at him that he “needs to come home” and about how important family is and how it always comes first and they can’t seem to figure out why it’s such an ineffective tactic. 🤣 There is definitely a toxic side to it. I actually hate that saying and we don’t use it in my family, we say “Family is Family and Family comes first.” But by that we mean if we consider you Family, you are ours. We don’t care if you’re blood related. My iPhone even knows how serious it is and always capitalizes the word Family. |
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Post by marygracerich on Feb 20, 2019 17:27:48 GMT -6
Also, is that an Italian thing that we show up when you die ready to take all your tchotchkes? Or is that just the average petty family? My sil is still salty over a collection of thimbles she was supposed to get from her aunt so I am going to say for us it’s a thing. My family it large and Italian and so is MHs. |
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Post by greykitty on Feb 20, 2019 17:28:25 GMT -6
Jusse Smollett officially a suspect in a class 4 felony, filing a false police report. Woof Such a mess, and so stupid if it turns out to be a hoax. And, turns out back in 2007 in California for a DUI stop, Jusse gave his brother's name to the cops. He pleaded no contest to that charge. And the Cook County State's Attorney recused herself due to familiarity with potential suspects and supposedly after facilitating conversations between the Smollett family and the CPD at the beginning of the investigation. Another mess IMO. And, in the IMO can't win for losing, some Chicago activists are thinking of filing a lawsuit against the CPD for its use of resources in investigations (I think they're upset about the amount of detectives assigned the high profile intersectional Smollett case as opposed to in the news cases). I get it - in the Chicago area I think we're all furious about the amount of resources lost if the Smollett case is a hoax, but what can they do? Don't assign detectives - screeching from the public. Do assign resources - screeching from the public. I think their anger may be misplaced, honestly, if Smollett is guilty. |
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Post by microworm on Feb 20, 2019 17:31:57 GMT -6
My H's grandmother has iced out my BIL (H's sister's husband) because she thinks he took a shitty old level when they were HELPING her clean and get rid of a bunch of stuff even though (1) he denies it and (2) it's a shitty old level that she wanted to get rid of anyways. One of these bad boys, only ancient  |
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Post by marygracerich on Feb 20, 2019 17:35:53 GMT -6
My grandmother has spent the past few years making sure everyone knows what they are getting. Her house is split between her sons, each grandkid gets a certain amount of money, the engraved Christ head above her head goes to my uncle and so on. She has already started squirreling her jewelry off to me.
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Post by angelashly on Feb 20, 2019 17:37:15 GMT -6
Such a mess, and so stupid if it turns out to be a hoax. And, turns out back in 2007 in California for a DUI stop, Jusse gave his brother's name to the cops. He pleaded no contest to that charge. And the Cook County State's Attorney recused herself due to familiarity with potential suspects and supposedly after facilitating conversations between the Smollett family and the CPD at the beginning of the investigation. Another mess IMO. And, in the IMO can't win for losing, some Chicago activists are thinking of filing a lawsuit against the CPD for its use of resources in investigations (I think they're upset about the amount of detectives assigned the high profile intersectional Smollett case as opposed to in the news cases). I get it - in the Chicago area I think we're all furious about the amount of resources lost if the Smollett case is a hoax, but what can they do? Don't assign detectives - screeching from the public. Do assign resources - screeching from the public. I think their anger may be misplaced, honestly, if Smollett is guilty. Especially given the nature of the crime. I’m glad they took it seriously |
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Post by greykitty on Feb 20, 2019 17:41:38 GMT -6
angelashly, I'm glad they assigned resources as well - had the crime been real, it deserved to be investigated to the max. And, if it's a hoax, also deserves to be investigated to the max. But I can well imagine how angry/confused real victims of real crimes that don't have a dozen people spending 24 hours a day looking into those crimes are. I just think they're directing their anger in the wrong direction at this point.
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