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Post by Cher on Jun 23, 2017 22:29:44 GMT -6
I finished OITNB btw. Heading over to the thread now!
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Post by mskatiep on Jun 23, 2017 22:37:18 GMT -6
mskatiep girl, I lost your number, but we are going to the tbones game tomorrow with a group of friends and have extra tickets. Thought I'd see if you and Tim wanted to come out! $16 a ticket! Fun! Let me talk to Tim and see if one of my nieces can babysit. I'll text you tomorrow!
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Post by mskatiep on Jun 23, 2017 22:49:49 GMT -6
chrisy01 that sounds so fast to be kicking a kid out! Hell the same boy at Layla's new daycare has "hurt" Layla 3 times in the last 2 weeks. The DC is addressing it with his parents, working on another plan to implement before taking the steps to kick him out. He's had some prior problems apparently, and it hasn't gotten under control yet. I'm sure she's being extra cautious since it was a baby he hit, but he needs a chance! And talking back and taking toys doesn't count towards having a bad day, he's 3! Sounds like she needs to lower her expectations on acceptable behavior. It's her job to keep him engaged to minimize those behaviors!
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Post by nam2013 on Jun 23, 2017 22:56:14 GMT -6
And JoeLies. Sent from my XT1254 using Tapatalk And me, yuck. Sauvignon girl over here.
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Post by nam2013 on Jun 23, 2017 23:03:27 GMT -6
chrisy01 I'm with mskatiep that it feels a little excessive to kick him out after two 'bad' days that involve al lot of normal toddlers behaviour. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this 😕.
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Post by joelies on Jun 24, 2017 4:01:46 GMT -6
chrisy01 that sounds so fast to be kicking a kid out! Hell the same boy at Layla's new daycare has "hurt" Layla 3 times in the last 2 weeks. The DC is addressing it with his parents, working on another plan to implement before taking the steps to kick him out. He's had some prior problems apparently, and it hasn't gotten under control yet. I'm sure she's being extra cautious since it was a baby he hit, but he needs a chance! And talking back and taking toys doesn't count towards having a bad day, he's 3! Sounds like she needs to lower her expectations on acceptable behavior. It's her job to keep him engaged to minimize those behaviors! All of this. I know home daycares are different because the kids aren't segregated by age like in a center, but they're still good to act like kids. She's being unreasonable and I hate that she's suggesting in any way that he's being "bad" when he's being completely normal. Hugs. Sent from my XT1254 using Tapatalk
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Post by wedding on Jun 24, 2017 4:57:57 GMT -6
I wonder if she's just realized she can't handle that many kids chrisy01. That's seems extreme after the second day.
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Post by Cher on Jun 24, 2017 5:33:03 GMT -6
So at our gtg, if we see you drinking Chardonnay, we're dumping it out and shaming you!
#chardonnaybullies
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Post by snoopmommymom on Jun 24, 2017 5:45:51 GMT -6
chrisy01 So this is the new place that he liked? It doesn't make sense why she can't have him if he hits again. He's 3! What are your other options? Isn't it his other day care that he doesn't like?
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Post by jewels on Jun 24, 2017 5:47:52 GMT -6
No judgement here. As long as your not getting drunk it's fine. That's kind of my doctor's whole POV. Have a glass, not a bottle. Have a cup of coffee, not a pot. Have tuna tartare once a week, not daily. My specialist told me he's good for me because he's relaxed and I'm .... not. Lol. She said it nicer like "he's the calming doctor you need right now", but I read between the lines. My dr pretty much said the same thing. He was like- if you want sushi, have sushi. Just be sure to get it from a good place. His motto was everything in moderation. Definitely better then friends I have whose dr basically told them they couldn't do anything while pregnant. It's ridiculous!
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Post by Cher on Jun 24, 2017 5:56:25 GMT -6
That's kind of my doctor's whole POV. Have a glass, not a bottle. Have a cup of coffee, not a pot. Have tuna tartare once a week, not daily. My specialist told me he's good for me because he's relaxed and I'm .... not. Lol. She said it nicer like "he's the calming doctor you need right now", but I read between the lines. My dr pretty much said the same thing. He was like- if you want sushi, have sushi. Just be sure to get it from a good place. His motto was everything in moderation. Definitely better then friends I have whose dr basically told them they couldn't do anything while pregnant. It's ridiculous! Exactly. People have been getting pregnant since the beginning of time. I think we have a much better grasp on what's healthy now. When people are like, "you dye your hair? Are you allowed to eat that? Can you take a bath?" It makes me realize I could not survive having one of those super strict pregnancies. I mean, obviously don't go bungee jumping but at some point you need to live your life.
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Post by wedding on Jun 24, 2017 6:05:33 GMT -6
My dr pretty much said the same thing. He was like- if you want sushi, have sushi. Just be sure to get it from a good place. His motto was everything in moderation. Definitely better then friends I have whose dr basically told them they couldn't do anything while pregnant. It's ridiculous! Exactly. People have been getting pregnant since the beginning of time. I think we have a much better grasp on what's healthy now. When people are like, "you dye your hair? Are you allowed to eat that? Can you take a bath?" It makes me realize I could not survive having one of those super strict pregnancies. I mean, obviously don't go bungee jumping but at some point you need to live your life. I have a coworker right now who is so scared to do anything. She thinks a bath will hurt the baby. Meanwhile she's dying of hip pain and she still have about 12 weeks to go. I'm like Girl, get in the tub!
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Post by Cher on Jun 24, 2017 6:19:42 GMT -6
Exactly. People have been getting pregnant since the beginning of time. I think we have a much better grasp on what's healthy now. When people are like, "you dye your hair? Are you allowed to eat that? Can you take a bath?" It makes me realize I could not survive having one of those super strict pregnancies. I mean, obviously don't go bungee jumping but at some point you need to live your life. I have a coworker right now who is so scared to do anything. She thinks a bath will hurt the baby. Meanwhile she's dying of hip pain and she still have about 12 weeks to go. I'm like Girl, get in the tub! Right? With C towards the end, I basically lived in the bath tub every day. I mean, don't hop in a hot tub but if she's in pain, soak!
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Post by flamingo on Jun 24, 2017 6:31:58 GMT -6
That's kind of my doctor's whole POV. Have a glass, not a bottle. Have a cup of coffee, not a pot. Have tuna tartare once a week, not daily. My specialist told me he's good for me because he's relaxed and I'm .... not. Lol. She said it nicer like "he's the calming doctor you need right now", but I read between the lines. My dr pretty much said the same thing. He was like- if you want sushi, have sushi. Just be sure to get it from a good place. His motto was everything in moderation. Definitely better then friends I have whose dr basically told them they couldn't do anything while pregnant. It's ridiculous! Ha! Probably for liability reasons My BIL is an OBGYN. He is definitely the 'all things in moderation' type, but he would never tell most of his current patient population that--because his patients do not do anything in moderation, sadly. Once he's out of the teaching hospital and in private practice, he's said he can then be more relaxed about the 'rules'. I also have a couple girlfriends who I love dearly but pregnancy makes them absolute dingbats and they become nervous about the dumbest stuff. With one in particular, it almost seems like it's an attention-getting mechanism, like, "oh I'm pregnant, do you really think it's safe to...(go to the grocery store, pump gas, insert other daily activity here). [Cue congratulations, gushing, etc.] This is her third. 🙄
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Post by Cher on Jun 24, 2017 6:53:03 GMT -6
My dr pretty much said the same thing. He was like- if you want sushi, have sushi. Just be sure to get it from a good place. His motto was everything in moderation. Definitely better then friends I have whose dr basically told them they couldn't do anything while pregnant. It's ridiculous! I also have a couple girlfriends who I love dearly but pregnancy makes them absolute dingbats and they become nervous about the dumbest stuff. With one in particular, it almost seems like it's an attention-getting mechanism, like, "oh I'm pregnant, do you really think it's safe to...(go to the grocery store, pump gas, insert other daily activity here). [Cue congratulations, gushing, etc.] This is her third. 🙄 People love being martyrs.
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Post by jewels on Jun 24, 2017 7:04:53 GMT -6
I also have a couple girlfriends who I love dearly but pregnancy makes them absolute dingbats and they become nervous about the dumbest stuff. With one in particular, it almost seems like it's an attention-getting mechanism, like, "oh I'm pregnant, do you really think it's safe to...(go to the grocery store, pump gas, insert other daily activity here). [Cue congratulations, gushing, etc.] This is her third. 🙄 People love being martyrs. Yes. There is very little you can't do while pregnant. I just had someone tell me the other day that they couldn't fly. I was like ???? I flew while pregnant. Both times. I understand not flying towards the end, but this was a trip she was going to cancel (not to a Zika area) at 4 months. Then she was shocked I flew and was like 'I can't believe you did that!'
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Post by chrisy01 on Jun 24, 2017 8:10:17 GMT -6
Thanks everyone. Yes it is the new daycare that he did like and her hours are way more flexible then the other. I'm still on waiting lists so hopefully something opens up. We really need to get him in a more traditional daycare that is open on weekends/later hours. I do have backup care through work but that is for 10 days so I don't want to use them all up while looking for another daycare because I know I will be working more holidays.
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Post by Cher on Jun 24, 2017 8:12:14 GMT -6
People love being martyrs. Yes. There is very little you can't do while pregnant. I just had someone tell me the other day that they couldn't fly. I was like ???? I flew while pregnant. Both times. I understand not flying towards the end, but this was a trip she was going to cancel (not to a Zika area) at 4 months. Then she was shocked I flew and was like 'I can't believe you did that!' People are OTT. Some guy I know posted something about his wife on Mother's Day and how she was already the best mom. She had the baby about 2 days before Mother's Day. The post was all about how sick she was the entire pregnancy and she wouldn't take so much as a Tylenol because she felt like it wouldn't be safe for the baby. I mean, totally your decision whether you want to take meds or not while pregnant. But the sanctimonious stuff kills me. If you're so sick for 9 months and modern medicine tells you there's safe treatments out there, it doesn't make you a better mom than me because you decide that you know better. It just makes you sick for nine months.
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Post by wineallthetime on Jun 24, 2017 8:12:26 GMT -6
I have no idea how my doctor feels about wine, sushi, ect during pregnancy. I never asked and just did what I was comfortable with. I'm definitely an occasional (small glass) wine drinker while pregnant.
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Post by chrisy01 on Jun 24, 2017 8:19:37 GMT -6
Yes. There is very little you can't do while pregnant. I just had someone tell me the other day that they couldn't fly. I was like ???? I flew while pregnant. Both times. I understand not flying towards the end, but this was a trip she was going to cancel (not to a Zika area) at 4 months. Then she was shocked I flew and was like 'I can't believe you did that!' People are OTT. Some guy I know posted something about his wife on Mother's Day and how she was already the best mom. She had the baby about 2 days before Mother's Day. The post was all about how sick she was the entire pregnancy and she wouldn't take so much as a Tylenol because she felt like it wouldn't be safe for the baby. I mean, totally your decision whether you want to take meds or not while pregnant. But the sanctimonious stuff kills me. If you're so sick for 9 months and modern medicine tells you there's safe treatments out there, it doesn't make you a better mom than me because you decide that you know better. It just makes you sick for nine months. I will say that even though the doctor okayed my Vicodin during pregnancy I did decide not to take it. I know it's Tylenol based but in my mind if Motrin wasn't okay something strong like Vicodin was too much. I was lucky and didn't have the need to really take it either.
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Post by Cher on Jun 24, 2017 8:23:03 GMT -6
People are OTT. Some guy I know posted something about his wife on Mother's Day and how she was already the best mom. She had the baby about 2 days before Mother's Day. The post was all about how sick she was the entire pregnancy and she wouldn't take so much as a Tylenol because she felt like it wouldn't be safe for the baby. I mean, totally your decision whether you want to take meds or not while pregnant. But the sanctimonious stuff kills me. If you're so sick for 9 months and modern medicine tells you there's safe treatments out there, it doesn't make you a better mom than me because you decide that you know better. It just makes you sick for nine months. I will say that even though the doctor okayed my Vicodin during pregnancy I did decide not to take it. I know it's Tylenol based but in my mind if Motrin wasn't okay something strong like Vicodin was too much. I was lucky and didn't have the need to really take it either. I get that. I get morning sickness throughout my pregnancies, I didn't take anything with my first pregnancy but I didn't get a medal for my heroics, so I take meds now. That's not my point though. Whether you take medicine or not is your call. Posting "my wife is the best mom already because she was sick for nine months and didn't take doctor-approved meds because she thought it wouldn't be good for the baby" doesn't make you the best mom. It just makes you sanctimonious.
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Post by jewels on Jun 24, 2017 8:27:51 GMT -6
I will say that even though the doctor okayed my Vicodin during pregnancy I did decide not to take it. I know it's Tylenol based but in my mind if Motrin wasn't okay something strong like Vicodin was too much. I was lucky and didn't have the need to really take it either. I get that. I get morning sickness throughout my pregnancies, I didn't take anything with my first pregnancy but I didn't get a medal for my heroics, so I take meds now. That's not my point though. Whether you take medicine or not is your call. Posting "my wife is the best mom already because she was sick for nine months and didn't take doctor-approved meds because she thought it wouldn't be good for the baby" doesn't make you the best mom. It just makes you sanctimonious. Exactly this. Do what works for you. Doesn't make you better or worse than anyone else. I chose not to drink more than a few sips of wine while pregnant. But I sure as shit had coffee. No one cares. And I'm certainly no better than someone who had a glass of wine a week or someone who had nothing.
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Post by Cher on Jun 24, 2017 8:35:25 GMT -6
Basically, people are the worst lol.
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Post by chrisy01 on Jun 24, 2017 8:36:03 GMT -6
I will say that even though the doctor okayed my Vicodin during pregnancy I did decide not to take it. I know it's Tylenol based but in my mind if Motrin wasn't okay something strong like Vicodin was too much. I was lucky and didn't have the need to really take it either. I get that. I get morning sickness throughout my pregnancies, I didn't take anything with my first pregnancy but I didn't get a medal for my heroics, so I take meds now. That's not my point though. Whether you take medicine or not is your call. Posting "my wife is the best mom already because she was sick for nine months and didn't take doctor-approved meds because she thought it wouldn't be good for the baby" doesn't make you the best mom. It just makes you sanctimonious. I agree.
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Post by Cher on Jun 24, 2017 8:44:26 GMT -6
I get that. I get morning sickness throughout my pregnancies, I didn't take anything with my first pregnancy but I didn't get a medal for my heroics, so I take meds now. That's not my point though. Whether you take medicine or not is your call. Posting "my wife is the best mom already because she was sick for nine months and didn't take doctor-approved meds because she thought it wouldn't be good for the baby" doesn't make you the best mom. It just makes you sanctimonious. I agree. Your Vicodin story made me think of something. When I was almost 9 months pregnant with C, I got really sick. They thought I had the flu. On the way to the doctor, we got in a car accident. I ended up at the hospital being monitored. It was this whole thing. Anyway, they prescribed me this cough syrup that was pregnancy friendly, but it was this strong hospital grade stuff. I think the combo of being sick, the car accident, the strong drugs, and just general exhaustion/deliriousness from that day combined with the cough medicine made me ... I mean, to put it nicely, high. I didn't take meds or drink or anything during my first pregnancy and all of a sudden, this stuff just knocked me on my ass. I kept asking the nurses what it was called and googling it because I was so sure there was no way it was pregnancy safe. It was. But I'm sure all the nurses were laughing at the very pregnant, very out of her mind girl.
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Post by nam2013 on Jun 24, 2017 8:49:03 GMT -6
I'm only a sancimommy to myself, because I'm an anxious mess. I didn't drink one sip, hardly any painkillers even though I could hardly walk after 18 weeks because of the pain in my hips/back, no red meat, no tuna etc etc. I caved once and had a piece of salmon sushi. One of dd ears is smaller then the other (it looks normal, but the difference is significant when you compare the two) there's a nagging thought that I caused it but eating that sushi...
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Post by nam2013 on Jun 24, 2017 8:49:18 GMT -6
Basically, people are the worst lol. Absolutely.
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Post by wineallthetime on Jun 24, 2017 8:56:14 GMT -6
I'm only a sancimommy to myself, because I'm an anxious mess. I didn't drink one sip, hardly any painkillers even though I could hardly walk after 18 weeks because of the pain in my hips/back, no red meat, no tuna etc etc. I caved once and had a piece of salmon sushi. One of dd ears is smaller then the other (it looks normal, but the difference is significant when you compare the two) there's a nagging thought that I caused it but eating that sushi... I can guarantee it wasn't the sushi. It was probably caused from all your stress and pain because you were trying to be a superstar! Lol, JK
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Post by jewels on Jun 24, 2017 9:03:04 GMT -6
I'm only a sancimommy to myself, because I'm an anxious mess. I didn't drink one sip, hardly any painkillers even though I could hardly walk after 18 weeks because of the pain in my hips/back, no red meat, no tuna etc etc. I caved once and had a piece of salmon sushi. One of dd ears is smaller then the other (it looks normal, but the difference is significant when you compare the two) there's a nagging thought that I caused it but eating that sushi... Yeah - I believe the reason you're not supposed to eat sushi is cuz you can get very sick from bad fish and that can cause complications. I'm 100% sure your bite of sushi didn't do that. Esp if you didn't feel sick afterwards And chicken and most fish made me sick while pregnant so pretty much all my protein came from red meat (I tricked myself with ground turkey sometimes). I Never heard you weren't supposed to eat that!
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Post by Cher on Jun 24, 2017 9:30:20 GMT -6
I'm only a sancimommy to myself, because I'm an anxious mess. I didn't drink one sip, hardly any painkillers even though I could hardly walk after 18 weeks because of the pain in my hips/back, no red meat, no tuna etc etc. I caved once and had a piece of salmon sushi. One of dd ears is smaller then the other (it looks normal, but the difference is significant when you compare the two) there's a nagging thought that I caused it but eating that sushi... Omg, Nam. That made me laugh. With the amount of sushi I eat while pregnant, my kids should all have elf ears. I promise it wasn't the piece of sushi.
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