cagoldi
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Post by cagoldi on Jan 7, 2019 13:15:17 GMT -6
Hi!
We managed to get X a haircut with no resulting hyperventilation or vomit, so that was good.
Pete and I also accomplished a good deal of purging and cleaning this weekend so I’m happy about that.
Everyone is back at school and had a hard time returning from vacation. Hoping the rest of our mornings are easier than today. My classes officially start this afternoon and Christmas stuff is back in storage so I’m feeling ready to tackle 2019.
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Post by flamingo on Jan 7, 2019 13:17:35 GMT -6
I may have to flat out tell him if he can't stop making comments like this around my kids, I won't bring my kids around him anymore. I hate to do that to my in laws since we see them every Sunday but I'm not sure how else to handle this. I would flat out tell him, “that kind of talk is inappropriate, please don’t continue.” Just very matter of fact. If he escalated or continues, yes, I would tell the kids we’re leaving. And make it clear “What BIL just said is unkind and it’s time for us to go.” Then the onus is on him to STFU or your IL’s to tell him to cut the shit while visiting their house. Yep, I agree with this. The ILs are probably trying to avoid rocking the boat but if it gets bad enough that you're taking the kids home, I think (hope) they'd speak up. It's annoying that we (general 'we') so often feel the need to tiptoe around people like this. I'm sorry tgrimes . He sounds like a real jerk. |
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vino
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Post by vino on Jan 7, 2019 13:40:44 GMT -6
Hello all.
The morning went smoothly with the kids, even though J went to sleep last night saying 'no see friends morning', she tottled off to her daycare room at drop off. Work has been pretty busy this morning, so right back into the swing of things i guess.
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vino
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Post by vino on Jan 7, 2019 13:42:12 GMT -6
tgrimes I'm with cagoldi on this, boundaries need to be set, especially since M is getting older and understands it.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jan 7, 2019 13:44:30 GMT -6
It’s a heatwave! It’s mid 40s right now. I just spent a good amount of time outside taking down some of the Christmas lights and cleaning up a few other things. I think that after the girls wake up from nap we might head over to the zoo to walk around. tgrimes your BIL is an asshat. |
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Post by tgrimes on Jan 7, 2019 13:52:06 GMT -6
*snip tgrimes your BIL is an asshat. Agreed. |
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joelies
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Post by joelies on Jan 7, 2019 13:56:27 GMT -6
Hello! This morning was brutal getting the boys up. It didn't help that I was in a rough mood from another night on the air mattress and DH being totally TV-focused lately. We have another counseling session tomorrow so at least we should be able to talk about it, but it's honestly one of those things we discuss everytime and it hasn't changed a bit. He equates it to me being on my phone, but I put my phone down plenty. The TV is ALWAYS on. Sigh... I just feel like things are slipping in the wrong direction and I'm tired of being blamed for it, especially since I seem to have a higher tolerance for things not being perfect anyway. It's exhausting. Anyhow tgrimes I'm sorry about your BIL, he sounds like garbage. My Dad has his moments of saying very WTF things and honestly, I'm not entirely sad that once they move, my parents won't have much of a relationship with my kids. His views need to die with his generation, to be quite frank. I know they won't in general, but they sure will within my family. |
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vino
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Post by vino on Jan 7, 2019 13:59:51 GMT -6
I'm sorry that your DH is being a shit joelies, hopefully you're able to make a measurable plan and success happens. Ugh ,I really hate that you feel blamed for things, he needs to stop pointing fingers. I'm sorry, i'm here to chat if you need. |
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kim22
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Post by kim22 on Jan 7, 2019 14:08:16 GMT -6
Since DH thought he was traveling today, he had nothing booked at work so we went out and tried a hole in the wall Mexican restaurant nearby. I was drunk on Margaritas by 1pm while C ate a bowl of guacamole. Now C is asleep and DH is picking up the others since I can’t drive yet. I said I’d go with him to pick up but he said he didn’t trust the things I might say. Hopefully I will get it together in time for the 5pm hockey game.
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Post by mskatiep on Jan 7, 2019 14:12:24 GMT -6
Lol kim22 day drunk on a Monday afternoon. Love it! #bestlife |
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vino
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Post by vino on Jan 7, 2019 14:13:01 GMT -6
Well kim22, you win today. We can all stop trying now. Amazing. |
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Post by flamingo on Jan 7, 2019 14:59:19 GMT -6
Now I want a margarita kim22! Glad you had a fun lunch  |
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Post by lahdeedah on Jan 7, 2019 15:21:31 GMT -6
WTAF. tgrimes What a douche supreme. kim22 I’m glad you had a good day with Yh! Monday margaritas need to be a thing everywhere. |
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guster
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Post by guster on Jan 7, 2019 15:29:38 GMT -6
@klongoria, hope you’re feeling better! What a jerk, tgrimes! What’s your sil like? Goals, kim22! |
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tgrimes
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Post by tgrimes on Jan 7, 2019 15:55:35 GMT -6
@klongoria, hope you’re feeling better! What a jerk, tgrimes ! What’s your sil like? Goals, kim22 ! *poof |
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Post by guster on Jan 7, 2019 15:57:11 GMT -6
@klongoria, hope you’re feeling better! What a jerk, tgrimes ! What’s your sil like? Goals, kim22 ! She usually rolls her eyes, tells him to stop talking or just ignores him. But I just don't see how/why she puts up with it. Would it be worth talking with her to try and see if she, too, would (should!) say something! |
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Post by tgrimes on Jan 7, 2019 15:58:53 GMT -6
She usually rolls her eyes, tells him to stop talking or just ignores him. But I just don't see how/why she puts up with it. Would it be worth talking with her to try and see if she, too, would (should!) say something! I can definitely try. |
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Post by tgrimes on Jan 7, 2019 16:05:14 GMT -6
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Post by peachsmama on Jan 7, 2019 16:35:47 GMT -6
We started swim lessons back up and J lasted all of 5 minutes in the next class up before begging for Miss Tasha.. maybe next session.
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Post by xolastunicornxo on Jan 7, 2019 16:41:59 GMT -6
tgrimes what a dick. Want to invite me to dinner so I can rip him a new one? kim22 I want to be you right now.
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Post by tgrimes on Jan 7, 2019 16:47:37 GMT -6
tgrimes what a dick. Want to invite me to dinner so I can rip him a new one? kim22 I want to be you right now.  |
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klong11
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Post by klong11 on Jan 7, 2019 17:16:25 GMT -6
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trtlcrzy
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jan 7, 2019 17:28:02 GMT -6
Super stoked for bachelor tonight! Not very excited that it’s 3 f’n hours.
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Post by flamingo on Jan 7, 2019 17:55:38 GMT -6
Super stoked for bachelor tonight! Not very excited that it’s 3 f’n hours. omg, 3 hours?! My attention span is not that long. I haven't watched in a couple seasons, have they changed anything to make it longer?? We are tuning into the national championship game tonight. I'm kind of sad to see the college football season come to an end, so this will be my last 'fix' for awhile. |
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kim22
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Post by kim22 on Jan 7, 2019 18:14:13 GMT -6
Super stoked for bachelor tonight! Not very excited that it’s 3 f’n hours. I haven’t watched in a while but since DH leaves tomorrow, maybe I will dvr and watch a little each night that he’s gone. Is it anyone good? |
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vino
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Post by vino on Jan 7, 2019 18:22:40 GMT -6
Colton is the Bachelor this season. He’s about as exciting as watching paint dry. I’m out for watching this season.
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Post by wineallthetime on Jan 7, 2019 19:04:32 GMT -6
Colton is the Bachelor this season. He’s about as exciting as watching paint dry. I’m out for watching this season. Agree, and I find him incredibly annoying and full of himself. However, I'll still watch...really just to watch the girls clothing and drama. |
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Post by wedding on Jan 7, 2019 19:09:02 GMT -6
Why does Dh take phone calls from work at night, in the living room? I’m annoyed you are getting called but more annoyed you are talking over my shows!
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Post by wedding on Jan 7, 2019 19:31:10 GMT -6
Work was rough today. Chaos with the shutdown and our finances running out. I have a crap ton of accounting to do by close of business Wednesday and I had to leave at 3:30 today for the psychiatrist. Luckily Dh can take C to karate tomorrow so I can stay late. C is also pretty broken up about Max. It was our first night coming home to an empty house and he was so upset that no one was greeting him. I was too. I’m trying to get him to see some of the positives- he no longer needs to use a sippy cup to avoid the cat sticking his face in it. Trying to look on the bright side. On a lighter note- C and his girlfriend are back together. Not the one who was kissing him and was overly touchy. This is the very first one who is lovely. She made him this huge picture of her house today and the teacher told me they were sitting close at lunch and she tousled his hair flirting.  |
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Post by tallb on Jan 7, 2019 19:50:32 GMT -6
wedding oh man, that had to be hard coming home, and even harder for you to put on a brave face not to make him more upset 😭.
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