Care for another intro?
Jun 22, 2017 13:17:07 GMT -6
Post by jillywilly on Jun 22, 2017 13:17:07 GMT -6
Hello, I've been lurking this board for a couple of weeks as my H and I have been settling into our decision to be OAD, and now feels like as good as any to stop being a creeper and participate. My son was born in June 2015, I participated mostly on the J15 board on TCF, and now spend some time on toddlers here (and am still active on J15, but we created our own forum when everything imploded). I never thought I'd be one and done, when we got married, the plan for H and I was house, then two kids. But as luck would have it, when we started TTC nothing happened, so we were diagnosed after a year with MFI, and went straight to IVF. I considered ourselves lucky as far as dealing with IF goes - our cycle went well, we transferred one embryo, and that turned into our awesome son. He's healthy, I had a relatively easy pregnancy, and we have embryos in the bank, so despite the first year of infancy hitting us harder than expected, I always assumed another kid was in the future.
After DS turned a year, I went off the pill, and actually had a surprise pregnancy. We were shocked and thrilled, but unfortunately, that ended in an early loss. We kept trying through the fall/winter with no luck, and then went to my RE again in the spring. We did a frozen embryo transfer in May that didn't take. H and I were relatively devastated at first, but then, we've been going back and forth between trying another round, or just being OAD. To be 100% honest, we'd talked about being OAD even while doing this last round, and have been flip flopping back and forth up until just probably within the last week. The more we settle into our decision not to pursue further treatments, the happier I'm becoming with our decision - we're starting to think about taking some really cool vacations as a family, there's greater financial freedom with only one kid in day care instead of two, etc. We're not doing anything completely permanent yet - our embryos will probably sit in storage for at least another year, and I told H he has until next year sometime to get a vasectomy, but it is looking more and more like DS will be our only. You guys seem like a really amazing group of ladies, so I hope you'll have me!
After DS turned a year, I went off the pill, and actually had a surprise pregnancy. We were shocked and thrilled, but unfortunately, that ended in an early loss. We kept trying through the fall/winter with no luck, and then went to my RE again in the spring. We did a frozen embryo transfer in May that didn't take. H and I were relatively devastated at first, but then, we've been going back and forth between trying another round, or just being OAD. To be 100% honest, we'd talked about being OAD even while doing this last round, and have been flip flopping back and forth up until just probably within the last week. The more we settle into our decision not to pursue further treatments, the happier I'm becoming with our decision - we're starting to think about taking some really cool vacations as a family, there's greater financial freedom with only one kid in day care instead of two, etc. We're not doing anything completely permanent yet - our embryos will probably sit in storage for at least another year, and I told H he has until next year sometime to get a vasectomy, but it is looking more and more like DS will be our only. You guys seem like a really amazing group of ladies, so I hope you'll have me!