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Post by haleyscott on Dec 19, 2018 10:16:16 GMT -6
pambee I’ve hit the everyone else is annoying and clearly the ones in the wrong. MH is a saint basically for dealing with me. I told him the other day I much prefer being the pregnant one than the one who deals with me 😂
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Post by haleyscott on Dec 19, 2018 10:18:56 GMT -6
Tlex's comment about her dad staying with them made me think of something I've been contemplating, if you have other kids at home, will your SO stay in the hospital with you, or go home to be with the other kids at night? I selfishly want MH to stay with me because there won't really be another time for just the 3 of us, but I also don't want E to feel like we're ignoring her (I plan on having her visit every day we're there still). I don't know. I know in reality she won't mind a bit and will love every second with Grammy, but I'm feeling guilt about it and wondered what you have done and/or plan to do? My parents took DS1 to their house for the first day/night. I know he got spoiled there and had cousin time. They brought him back to us the second day? And MH stayed home with him the two nights I had left. I thought it was a good compromise. He brought him down he one day and we also had babysitters. Or maybe my parents kept him for two nights? I can’t remember. I do know when MH was home with him, I sent ds2 to the nursery at night so I could rest. We haven’t discussed our plans for this time around. 🤦🏻♀️ |
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Post by haleyscott on Dec 19, 2018 10:22:30 GMT -6
@ges072115 PPD/PPA are huge concerns for me but I will say having been there before, the second time you recognize it a lot quicker and have a better idea of what you need and how to get the help. I am very proactive about it now and tell all the nursing staff, doctors at well baby checks etc when they ask that yes, it’s a concern I have. I am hoping I’ll be in a good enough place to run some check in/support type threads here after birth, I have some good resources for helping people identify PPD/PPA. We can definitely look out for each other. I brought this up a lot at my appts with ds2 bc I had it so bad with ds1 and just suffered. I started therapy a few months before I had my second. It helped a lot. I’m actually seeing him this Friday and plan on at least one more check in before birth. My doctors and I had also talked about meds after if I feel like I need to go back on them. |
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Post by haleyscott on Dec 19, 2018 10:25:18 GMT -6
pambee Yep the grandparents got there before our surgery time too. My DD’s body temp was too low after we finally got to recovery and the nurses instructed me to do skin to skin with her until they improved and my mom was like, what do you mean I can’t hold her?! Sorry not sorry. Hold her tomorrow. My uterus wouldn’t contract after my second c-section so we were stuck in recovery with barely any cell service and not talking to anyone. MIL decided we were ignoring her and that we didn’t fit ore my parents so she legit didn’t respond to texts or FaceTimes from MH while we were in the hospital. I’m still not over it. I’m comfortable standing in this. |
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Post by pambee on Dec 19, 2018 10:28:05 GMT -6
Tlex's comment about her dad staying with them made me think of something I've been contemplating, if you have other kids at home, will your SO stay in the hospital with you, or go home to be with the other kids at night? I selfishly want MH to stay with me because there won't really be another time for just the 3 of us, but I also don't want E to feel like we're ignoring her (I plan on having her visit every day we're there still). I don't know. I know in reality she won't mind a bit and will love every second with Grammy, but I'm feeling guilt about it and wondered what you have done and/or plan to do? My parents took DS1 to their house for the first day/night. I know he got spoiled there and had cousin time. They brought him back to us the second day? And MH stayed home with him the two nights I had left. I thought it was a good compromise. He brought him down he one day and we also had babysitters. Or maybe my parents kept him for two nights? I can’t remember. I do know when MH was home with him, I sent ds2 to the nursery at night so I could rest. We haven’t discussed our plans for this time around. 🤦🏻♀️ I'm currently leaning towards with my mom day/night one, switch to ILs night two, and then maybe MH going home with her night 3. And each day him taking her somewhere or to home to just spend time the 2 of them, after she comes and visits at the hospital. I'm a little nervous what 4 days with Grammy do, and going home with a newborn and a hyped up spoiled 4 year old doesn't sound ideal 😂 We live about 5 minutes from the hospital and ILs house is in the middle, so it'll be easy to drop her off there so MH can come up to the hospital without her too during the days if we want. We have lots of options and I think it's making me over think it all 🤦♀️ lol |
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Post by pambee on Dec 19, 2018 10:29:37 GMT -6
pambee Yep the grandparents got there before our surgery time too. My DD’s body temp was too low after we finally got to recovery and the nurses instructed me to do skin to skin with her until they improved and my mom was like, what do you mean I can’t hold her?! Sorry not sorry. Hold her tomorrow. My uterus wouldn’t contract after my second c-section so we were stuck in recovery with barely any cell service and not talking to anyone. MIL decided we were ignoring her and that we didn’t fit ore my parents so she legit didn’t respond to texts or FaceTimes from MH while we were in the hospital. I’m still not over it. I’m comfortable standing in this. MIL got mad because we weren't out of recovery by the time she had to leave and pick up SIL from work. I was like..... this is not my problem, nor my fault, and I do not care. It was pretty ridiculous. |
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Post by haleyscott on Dec 19, 2018 10:41:21 GMT -6
My parents took DS1 to their house for the first day/night. I know he got spoiled there and had cousin time. They brought him back to us the second day? And MH stayed home with him the two nights I had left. I thought it was a good compromise. He brought him down he one day and we also had babysitters. Or maybe my parents kept him for two nights? I can’t remember. I do know when MH was home with him, I sent ds2 to the nursery at night so I could rest. We haven’t discussed our plans for this time around. 🤦🏻♀️ I'm currently leaning towards with my mom day/night one, switch to ILs night two, and then maybe MH going home with her night 3. And each day him taking her somewhere or to home to just spend time the 2 of them, after she comes and visits at the hospital. I'm a little nervous what 4 days with Grammy do, and going home with a newborn and a hyped up spoiled 4 year old doesn't sound ideal 😂 We live about 5 minutes from the hospital and ILs house is in the middle, so it'll be easy to drop her off there so MH can come up to the hospital without her too during the days if we want. We have lots of options and I think it's making me over think it all 🤦♀️ lol Haha I would also be worried about 4 days of grandma. I just remembered our first day home, my oldest was legit just running around naked. My neighbor dropped off dinner for us and just laughed and told us to let her know when we wanted a visit. She has three so she totally got it. |
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Post by jewelsofthenile on Dec 19, 2018 10:48:39 GMT -6
haleyscott I am also very very excited to drink alcohol again!! Parenting with no ability to have an end of day adult beverage stinks haha.
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Post by haleyscott on Dec 19, 2018 11:18:18 GMT -6
My uterus wouldn’t contract after my second c-section so we were stuck in recovery with barely any cell service and not talking to anyone. MIL decided we were ignoring her and that we didn’t fit ore my parents so she legit didn’t respond to texts or FaceTimes from MH while we were in the hospital. I’m still not over it. I’m comfortable standing in this. MIL got mad because we weren't out of recovery by the time she had to leave and pick up SIL from work. I was like..... this is not my problem, nor my fault, and I do not care. It was pretty ridiculous. Yessss. Like stop acting so entitled please. She tried telling me we would talk about it and I was like there’s nothing to talk about. |
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Post by pambee on Dec 19, 2018 11:20:55 GMT -6
MIL got mad because we weren't out of recovery by the time she had to leave and pick up SIL from work. I was like..... this is not my problem, nor my fault, and I do not care. It was pretty ridiculous. Yessss. Like stop acting so entitled please. She tried telling me we would talk about it and I was like there’s nothing to talk about. 🤦♀️ |
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Post by jacks on Dec 19, 2018 11:33:23 GMT -6
I hated having people in the waiting room while I was in labor. H kept feeling the need to go out and visit with them. WTF, H. No. I was so exhausted that I kept falling asleep and every time I’d wake up, he was gone. I was so mad.
We did have a doula, but she’s support, not my labor partner.
I’m not sure who all is planning on coming up for RCS this time, but I plan on requesting no visitors the first day. Let me get settled, please. I’m sure my mom will “need” to be there, so we’ll see. She’s the only visitor I don’t mind, but kind of hard to let her back and no one else. Last time my doula lied and said I was only permitted one visitor in recovery until I was transferred to my other room.
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Post by photomama2013 on Dec 19, 2018 11:50:04 GMT -6
jacks my midwives said at my appointment yesterday that if people became too much and we wanted them out that they would put a sign on our door that said "due to cold and flu season the midwives requested no visitors at this time". They said we will make something up and blame themselves.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 19, 2018 12:06:59 GMT -6
I hated having people in the waiting room while I was in labor. H kept feeling the need to go out and visit with them. WTF, H. No. I was so exhausted that I kept falling asleep and every time I’d wake up, he was gone. I was so mad. We did have a doula, but she’s support, not my labor partner. I’m not sure who all is planning on coming up for RCS this time, but I plan on requesting no visitors the first day. Let me get settled, please. I’m sure my mom will “need” to be there, so we’ll see. She’s the only visitor I don’t mind, but kind of hard to let her back and no one else. Last time my doula lied and said I was only permitted one visitor in recovery until I was transferred to my other room. This is what I want. Thankfully my hospital also has designated visiting hours, I believe from 11 am - 9 pm. So at least no one can bombard me first thing in the morning. |
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Post by pambee on Dec 19, 2018 12:43:48 GMT -6
jacks my midwives said at my appointment yesterday that if people became too much and we wanted them out that they would put a sign on our door that said "due to cold and flu season the midwives requested no visitors at this time". They said we will make something up and blame themselves. My hospital/nurses said this too. If for any reason we didn't want visitors, they would make it happen and make up some "hospital rule" so we didn't have to deal with it. Angels! |
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Post by Eames on Dec 19, 2018 17:09:16 GMT -6
Yes, those nurses are angels!
With DD I didn't want to see anyone besides H while I was waiting to dilate (ended up with a c section anyway), and my parents came as soon as they heard I was checked in. 😐 The nurses told them they couldn't go back.
My poor H ended up kicking my parents out twice - once at the hospital (he sent them back to our place to watch tv because I felt it was too much pressure to have everyone hanging around) and then the day we came home- everyone was there, I was a mess and trying to learn to BF so he had to tell them to go again.
This time the in laws are out of town and will be coming to stay with us to "help." They definitely do help, but I also always feel like I need to entertain them and I worry it will be too much. But maybe the extra hands will be good, I don't know. I really want to BF the twins and I can see them not being very encouraging/helpful with it. They were very formula-encouraging with DD and what I really needed was gentle encouragement and a lactation consultant. We got through it and I ended up going 26 months with her but it was so freaking hard at first!
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Post by loorin on Dec 21, 2018 14:28:08 GMT -6
Weeks pregnant/Due date: 22+1, April 25th
Baby is the size of a: nalgene bottle
FTM/STM/TTM/etc: STM
Team: Pink
Appointments: have another US and normal OB on 1/17
Symptoms: my immune system is failing me and it's been one illness after another. Not too many pregnancy symptoms at this point, but I need to shake this cough.
Milestones: good follow up US this week. There was no more evidence of bleeding from the placenta, baby looks good with no signs of anemia, so I'm feeling a huge relief. Still will feel better when I reach viability. They are following up with 1 more US in a month, just to check, but right now feeling good.
Rants/Raves/Vents: Add me to the list of people with entitled inlaws (or parents) and no clue how to solicit the help we will need with kid 1 when this baby arrives, while also maintaining appropriate boundaries with respect to who visits the hospital and when. I still see red thinking about my inlaws showing up unannounced and literally barging into my hospital room very soon after the birth of my daughter.
GTKY: what little things get you excited for your new baby? What are you most looking forward to? Besides just wanting to know what this little girl will look like, I am very much excited experience a newborn now that my husband and I know how to take care of a kid. I feel like I missed so much of the enjoyable snuggly moments because we were constantly learning how to do stuff, like change diapers, swaddle, etc. I know there will still be a learning curve again, but hopefully it's not nearly as steep.
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Post by snickerdoodle on Dec 21, 2018 22:09:21 GMT -6
Weeks pregnant/Due date: 23+1/4.18
Baby is the size of a: grapefruit
FTM/STM/TTM/etc: stm
Team: blue
Appointments: 12/28
Symptoms: tired, backaches
Milestones: we did gender announcement for our family; DD loved it but I still don’t think she understands
Rants/Raves/Vents: I got a bad cold from DD last week and it still isn’t gone.
I am happy my mom will be watching DD because I feel like it will require her giving us space at the hospital.
GTKY: what little things get you excited for your new baby? What are you most looking forward to? Newborn snuggles. Seeing DD be a big sister.
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