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Post by bonzo on Dec 2, 2018 16:21:47 GMT -6
I can’t believe it’s December 2 already! Chanukah starts tonight, and I haven’t even finished getting our holiday decorations out. Oh well, we will still be able to light the menorah tonight.
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Post by sunny75 on Dec 3, 2018 13:59:57 GMT -6
I can't believe it's December either! Our anniversary is at the end of the week so I already can't wait for that. MH and I are just going out for dinner that night but it will be some much needed alone time. We have been so stressed lately about finances and other things so it will be good to just talk without a toddler around. Also I haven't been the most pleasant person to be around while pregnant so I need to just go out and have some fun lol.
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Post by sunny75 on Dec 3, 2018 14:03:08 GMT -6
Also I guess I'm officially showing now because I walked into a patients room last week and she immediately asked when I was due. It's always nice going from looking like I gained a little weight to actually looking pregnant!
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Post by courtniko on Dec 3, 2018 19:21:05 GMT -6
Happy Chanukah bonzo! Have a nice night out, and happy anniversary sunny75!
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Post by lolacachia on Dec 4, 2018 15:52:02 GMT -6
My fat is starting to be more bump like. I can't suck in anymore lol. But then at the same time I no longer have felt pregnant for like the last week so I'm basically freaking out everyday about something bad happening.
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Post by bearfootzcontinued on Dec 5, 2018 8:55:43 GMT -6
Hugs to you @lolacachica. After purchasing and trying on maternity pants because my already chubby tummy seems to be reshaping a bit, I questioned if I was just looking for signs that everything is ok or if it's legit growing. I've been having a lot of random aches and pains too which the baby books tell me is normal and could be the expanding uterus, but each one makes me worry.
Maybe we need to keep each other distracted and relaxed, if you figure out how to do that let me know!
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Post by mamabear02 on Dec 5, 2018 16:24:13 GMT -6
My appointment today went well - the OB confirmed that the lump in my breast is gone and baby had a strong heartbeat. Both feel like such big things off my shoulders. We also scheduled my anatomy scan, which makes this all feel more real.
I feel like I've been such an awful mom to my 3 year old bc I've been feeling so horrible so I really need to snap out of it and try to do something fun with him tomorrow I think.
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Post by bonzo on Dec 5, 2018 17:44:07 GMT -6
mamabear02, that must be such a relief to have the lump gone! And yay for a good heartbeat! lolacachia and bearfootzcontinued, sending you some hugs. I hope you both get reassurance soon, and can stay distracted until then!
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Post by mamabear02 on Dec 5, 2018 18:21:42 GMT -6
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Post by lolacachia on Dec 5, 2018 21:06:25 GMT -6
Hugs to you @lolacachica. After purchasing and trying on maternity pants because my already chubby tummy seems to be reshaping a bit, I questioned if I was just looking for signs that everything is ok or if it's legit growing. I've been having a lot of random aches and pains too which the baby books tell me is normal and could be the expanding uterus, but each one makes me worry. Maybe we need to keep each other distracted and relaxed, if you figure out how to do that let me know! When is your next appt? I'm both eager and dreading the 11th. I feel like it's make it or break it for me. And now for some reason I'm letting myself worry about birth defects and genetic disorders. I need a drink!
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Post by bearfootzcontinued on Dec 6, 2018 8:30:39 GMT -6
Hugs to you @lolacachica. After purchasing and trying on maternity pants because my already chubby tummy seems to be reshaping a bit, I questioned if I was just looking for signs that everything is ok or if it's legit growing. I've been having a lot of random aches and pains too which the baby books tell me is normal and could be the expanding uterus, but each one makes me worry. Maybe we need to keep each other distracted and relaxed, if you figure out how to do that let me know! When is your next appt? I'm both eager and dreading the 11th. I feel like it's make it or break it for me. And now for some reason I'm letting myself worry about birth defects and genetic disorders. I need a drink! My OB appt. was supposed to be the 11th but when I went in last week to see if I had an infection the OB decided to do the exam then, no u/s. So the next time I'll get to see baby is the 19th for the u/s and meeting with the genetic specialist and MFM. My next OB appt. is the 21st. There's part of me that can't wait, I'm so anxious to tell the kids they're getting a sibling - and then there's that part of me that thinks about how in world am I going to fake a happy Christmas for the kids if things don't go well on the 19th.
I keep trying to tell myself that it's out of my control and to just believe all is good. I found that I've been very 'eh' about Christmas decorations and stuff this year but now I'm probably going too far the other way and last night I undecorated the tree so that I could start all over again with new lights. Only by the time I got everything off I was so sore I could hardly move and had to go to bed. DH and the kids think I'm nuts, but that's ok.
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Post by mamabear02 on Dec 6, 2018 11:10:34 GMT -6
bearfootzcontinued, H definitely thinks I'm nuts currently. I started crying when he playfully tickled me the other day. I'm such a mess. My kid probably was like what the heck too, but thankfully didn't say anything. Hugs for all the other stresses. It is so hard to be worry about all that around this time of year especially.
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Post by quinstar on Dec 10, 2018 18:25:39 GMT -6
I'm getting really emotional about everything. I'm worrying about stuff I can't change, and shouldn't be worrying about.
I'm scared of transitioning to two boys, and of what it'll be like to have a boy who's different from his brother. This afternoon I've been spiraling on labor. Last time was... not as planned, and I'm afraid of the risks of a RCS, and the unknown of a VBAC. I know it's too soon to be panicking, I'm trying to hold it in but my hormones are getting out of hand.
I'm just generally not holing it together very well today. MIL has taken DS1 because he's been such a pill today. He pulled the tree down on himself.
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Post by sunny75 on Dec 10, 2018 20:56:00 GMT -6
quinstar, Sorry you're having a rough time. Have to talked to your OB yet about a birth plan this time around? I'm right there with you, super emotional and also already starting to worry about a RCS. My OB is fine with whichever I decide but I keep going back and forth. i need somebody to tell me what to do! And having a toddler can make everything so much more stressful at times! I'm glad your MIl was able to come help for a little.
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Post by quinstar on Dec 10, 2018 22:36:17 GMT -6
quinstar , Sorry you're having a rough time. Have to talked to your OB yet about a birth plan this time around? I'm right there with you, super emotional and also already starting to worry about a RCS. My OB is fine with whichever I decide but I keep going back and forth. i need somebody to tell me what to do! And having a toddler can make everything so much more stressful at times! I'm glad your MIl was able to come help for a little. I have an appointment tomorrow and I might ask her a few questions just to see if she can ease my fears. I figured I'd be a RCS no questions, but she's very pro VBAC and so is my physical therapist. It's just the fear of not knowing what labor will be like again, since I didn't really get to go through much of it last time. I'd love to get to have a successful VBAC but I'm just a little scared. I don't know why I'm freaking out so bad all of this sudden. We'll have to do a labor plan thread in a few months. I'm glad to know I'm not the only one worrying about it though.
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Post by midnight on Dec 11, 2018 2:17:28 GMT -6
quinstar , Sorry you're having a rough time. Have to talked to your OB yet about a birth plan this time around? I'm right there with you, super emotional and also already starting to worry about a RCS. My OB is fine with whichever I decide but I keep going back and forth. i need somebody to tell me what to do! And having a toddler can make everything so much more stressful at times! I'm glad your MIl was able to come help for a little. I have an appointment tomorrow and I might ask her a few questions just to see if she can ease my fears. I figured I'd be a RCS no questions, but she's very pro VBAC and so is my physical therapist. It's just the fear of not knowing what labor will be like again, since I didn't really get to go through much of it last time. I'd love to get to have a successful VBAC but I'm just a little scared. I don't know why I'm freaking out so bad all of this sudden. We'll have to do a labor plan thread in a few months. I'm glad to know I'm not the only one worrying about it though. I am by NO means a VBAC expert but I have had a successful one and am planning another. If either of you have questions, please dont hesitate to ask!
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Post by bonzo on Dec 11, 2018 8:48:39 GMT -6
I have no advice on the RCS/VBAC front, but sending hugs to both of you as you figure this out! I hope talking to your docs helps you feel confident in whatever choice you make.
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Post by sunny75 on Dec 11, 2018 13:43:57 GMT -6
midnight, I'm just now starting to consider trying for a VBAC so I may have a few questions for you soon! I do have a question for anybody that's had a c section. Were you able to breast feed and hold the baby immediately after the c section? Even in the recovery room? And while taking pain medication? My DD had to go immediately to the Nicu so I didn't really even have a chance to hold her but the way I was feeling I couldn't imagine taking care of her or attempting BF immediately. It's really the thing I'm most hesitating on about having a RCS.
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Post by lolacachia on Dec 11, 2018 13:45:18 GMT -6
I think that if you want to not do a vbac, that's valid and ok for you to tell your doctor.
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Post by lolacachia on Dec 11, 2018 13:47:41 GMT -6
midnight, I'm just now starting to consider trying for a VBAC so I may have a few questions for you soon! I do have a question for anybody that's had a c section. Were you able to breast feed and hold the baby immediately after the c section? Even in the recovery room? And while taking pain medication? My DD had to go immediately to the Nicu so I didn't really even have a chance to hold her but the way I was feeling I couldn't imagine taking care of her or attempting BF immediately. It's really the thing I'm most hesitating on about having a RCS. So mine was emergent but I was awake. The plan was to pull baby as fast as possible and the dr did say he could go to my chest while I was being stitched. Unfortunately F had some complications that weren't known until he was out and the dr looked at him. I got him back about an hour after his birth and he latched immediately and didn't let go until 40 months later lol. My husband did have to hold him for a few hours bc I have weird reactions to anesthesia and stress and I seriously passed out for like 8 hours.
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Post by sunny75 on Dec 11, 2018 14:02:51 GMT -6
midnight , I'm just now starting to consider trying for a VBAC so I may have a few questions for you soon! I do have a question for anybody that's had a c section. Were you able to breast feed and hold the baby immediately after the c section? Even in the recovery room? And while taking pain medication? My DD had to go immediately to the Nicu so I didn't really even have a chance to hold her but the way I was feeling I couldn't imagine taking care of her or attempting BF immediately. It's really the thing I'm most hesitating on about having a RCS. So mine was emergent but I was awake. The plan was to pull baby as fast as possible and the dr did say he could go to my chest while I was being stitched. Unfortunately F had some complications that weren't known until he was out and the dr looked at him. I got him back about an hour after his birth and he latched immediately and didn't let go until 40 months later lol. My husband did have to hold him for a few hours bc I have weird reactions to anesthesia and stress and I seriously passed out for like 8 hours. So did your H formula feed then baby or were you able to wake up enough to BF him? I have visions in my head of me trying to nurse the baby while struggling to recover from the anesthesia and trying to stay awake from the pain meds and it just seems so impossible. I really don't feel like I woke up for like 24 hours after the c section.
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Post by lolacachia on Dec 11, 2018 14:11:42 GMT -6
So mine was emergent but I was awake. The plan was to pull baby as fast as possible and the dr did say he could go to my chest while I was being stitched. Unfortunately F had some complications that weren't known until he was out and the dr looked at him. I got him back about an hour after his birth and he latched immediately and didn't let go until 40 months later lol. My husband did have to hold him for a few hours bc I have weird reactions to anesthesia and stress and I seriously passed out for like 8 hours. So did your H formula feed then baby or were you able to wake up enough to BF him? I have visions in my head of me trying to nurse the baby while struggling to recover from the anesthesia and trying to stay awake from the pain meds and it just seems so impossible. I really don't feel like I woke up for like 24 hours after the c section. I mean F latched but my milk didn't even come in until day 3. I think he was given like a tablespoon of formula in a measuring cup 2x during the time I was sleeping but he was also low blood sugar bc of his issues. Without the low blood sugar I think they would have let him sleep too. I would say just play that part by ear.
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Post by lolacachia on Dec 11, 2018 14:12:21 GMT -6
So mine was emergent but I was awake. The plan was to pull baby as fast as possible and the dr did say he could go to my chest while I was being stitched. Unfortunately F had some complications that weren't known until he was out and the dr looked at him. I got him back about an hour after his birth and he latched immediately and didn't let go until 40 months later lol. My husband did have to hold him for a few hours bc I have weird reactions to anesthesia and stress and I seriously passed out for like 8 hours. So did your H formula feed then baby or were you able to wake up enough to BF him? I have visions in my head of me trying to nurse the baby while struggling to recover from the anesthesia and trying to stay awake from the pain meds and it just seems so impossible. I really don't feel like I woke up for like 24 hours after the c section. I do remember my H had to be ready to grab the baby bc I vomited a lot as the anesthesia was wearing off.
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Post by midnight on Dec 11, 2018 16:40:34 GMT -6
midnight, I'm just now starting to consider trying for a VBAC so I may have a few questions for you soon! I do have a question for anybody that's had a c section. Were you able to breast feed and hold the baby immediately after the c section? Even in the recovery room? And while taking pain medication? My DD had to go immediately to the Nicu so I didn't really even have a chance to hold her but the way I was feeling I couldn't imagine taking care of her or attempting BF immediately. It's really the thing I'm most hesitating on about having a RCS. Anytime! I'm an advocate for birth, however that looks to someone. For me, I just hated my CS so I wanted to try for a vbac and thankfully for me it was successful! If you have any questions, dont hesitate to ask xx. As far as csection, I was able to hold and feed my daughter as soon as I was stitched up (which they were doing all the other fun newborn stuff with her beforehand so she didnt need to eat until I was ready).
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Post by quinstar on Dec 11, 2018 19:58:06 GMT -6
midnight , I'm just now starting to consider trying for a VBAC so I may have a few questions for you soon! I do have a question for anybody that's had a c section. Were you able to breast feed and hold the baby immediately after the c section? Even in the recovery room? And while taking pain medication? My DD had to go immediately to the Nicu so I didn't really even have a chance to hold her but the way I was feeling I couldn't imagine taking care of her or attempting BF immediately. It's really the thing I'm most hesitating on about having a RCS. I had an emergency CS after my epidural so I didn't get put out completely. I did however, have a panic attack in the OR and I believe they gave me something because I suddenly... did not care. About anything. For hours. They sort of laid him on me with DH for a picture after they wrapped him up and cleaned him off, then they wheeled me off to recovery. I barely remember them giving him to me, I do remember the nurse basically latching him on for me. I don't remember if I held him or not, I'd be shocked if I had because I barely remember the 3 hours I was in recovery. I just was so out of it. But I sort of feel like it might have been party because of whatever they gave me to calm me down, because I didn't go completely under.
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Post by sunny75 on Dec 11, 2018 20:27:25 GMT -6
midnight , I'm just now starting to consider trying for a VBAC so I may have a few questions for you soon! I do have a question for anybody that's had a c section. Were you able to breast feed and hold the baby immediately after the c section? Even in the recovery room? And while taking pain medication? My DD had to go immediately to the Nicu so I didn't really even have a chance to hold her but the way I was feeling I couldn't imagine taking care of her or attempting BF immediately. It's really the thing I'm most hesitating on about having a RCS. I had an emergency CS after my epidural so I didn't get put out completely. I did however, have a panic attack in the OR and I believe they gave me something because I suddenly... did not care. About anything. For hours. They sort of laid him on me with DH for a picture after they wrapped him up and cleaned him off, then they wheeled me off to recovery. I barely remember them giving him to me, I do remember the nurse basically latching him on for me. I don't remember if I held him or not, I'd be shocked if I had because I barely remember the 3 hours I was in recovery. I just was so out of it. But I sort of feel like it might have been party because of whatever they gave me to calm me down, because I didn't go completely under. Now I'm wondering if they gave me something too because this is pretty much how I felt.
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Post by courtniko on Dec 12, 2018 9:04:14 GMT -6
I have considered starting a birth/labor thread a few times, since I have a lot of concerns. My concerns are a bit different than those discussed, but I feel like I need to make decisions sooner rather than later, because if I was to hire a doula i should have done it months ago.
I have this huge fear of epidurals. The idea of a needle in my back puts me in pure panic mode. And i am prone to headaches, so I worry about an epi headache.
I of course realize that all things could go sideways and I could end up with a c-cestion, and if that is what needs to happen, then that is what needs to happen.
I had my first 2 med free, with a doula helping. Both were sunny side most of labor, and back labor was horrible. With my daughter, it was awful, but I never questioned med free. With my son it was absolutely awful, he was more misaligned than just sunny side, and I felt like I was being ripped apart. Labor in total was 8 hours, with no brakes, all after regular hours on a Friday night/Saturday morning, so when I asked for the epi at 2am someone had to be called in, and did not make it there.
I will say, while labor sucked, recovery was super easy, and I always think the no epidural made a difference in the easy recovery.
I feel like if I want any chance of going med free again, I will need a doula again. But they are over $1000 out of pocket here, and I may just need to get over my needle fear, and go with the epi.
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Post by sunny75 on Dec 12, 2018 14:12:33 GMT -6
courtniko, I have no experience with labor but I totally get your fear of epidurals. I ended up having to get spinal anesthesia for my c section and it was... way worse than I had even imagined. If getting a doula is at all possible I would go with that. Especially with having two children already at home, having a easier recovery would be super important and worth it for me.
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Post by mamabear02 on Dec 12, 2018 14:48:54 GMT -6
courtniko, I know before having my first that I had heard a ton of horror stories about epidurals so I just want to give you the other side. I had an epi with DS and it was seriously the best thing ever. The epi itself didn’t hurt too bad and after getting it I barely felt anything aside from some pressure when I really paid attention. It was perfect because I could feel enough to know when to push but I didn’t feel pain. I also don’t think recovery was too bad, but I don’t have anything to compare it to. I am hoping for the same experience this time, but I guess we will see.
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Post by mamabear02 on Dec 12, 2018 14:50:51 GMT -6
I’m stressed because we are hoping to move across the country in March so I will need to find a new OB and I know and like mine here and know what to expect at the hospital here since it’s where I gave birth to DS so I’m a little nervous about all the changes.
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