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Post by charlotte on Nov 25, 2018 12:30:08 GMT -6
Hey. How are you? Physically, mentally, and otherwise?
So often our loved ones ask how the new baby is doing, but is anyone checking in on you?
Vent, brag, or just shoot the shit here.
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Post by charlotte on Nov 25, 2018 12:41:29 GMT -6
Physically— I wrenched something in my back when I was pushing DS2 out, and I’m still in a lot of pain. I’ve been taking the pain meds prescribed after delivery but I might have to ask for a PT referral soon.
Mentally— depends on the day. DS1 is just now getting so independent, it’s hard to start over.
I do feel like my anxiety is ramped up. Nothing terrible, but I’d like to stay on top of it because MH will be traveling for work a lot of the year this year and I’ll be alone with the kids. I’m thinking of asking my OB for some meds at my 6w pp appointment. I don’t even know how that works— will they want me to see a therapist as well? I don’t have childcare in order to attend regular appts.
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Post by Diordra on Nov 25, 2018 14:46:01 GMT -6
charlotte I think it depends on your provider and insurance. I have a friend who was initially given meds by her OB but for myself my OB referred me to psych (I have Kaiser Insurance, she does not) I hope your back feels better soon
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Post by jillywilly on Nov 25, 2018 16:14:29 GMT -6
charlotte, I totally feel you on the it's been rough starting over with W being so independent already. Right now I'm just looking at every day being one day closer to things getting a bit easier and more fun again. The newborn phase is very much not my favorite. I hope your back feels better soon too and you're able to find help for the anxiety.
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Post by hayleysmith on Nov 25, 2018 17:06:27 GMT -6
Mentally - I am so much better than with my first. I asked for zoloft immediately following delivery so I really think that is why. Best decision I ever made.
Physically - I’m sick & feel like death. From google it doesn’t look like there is anything I can take while BF though so that sucks! Hopefully the baby doesn’t get sick.
Recovery from a c/s without laboring first was such a different experience. My doctor was so happy with my healing & weight loss at my 2 week follow up.
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Post by hayleysmith on Nov 25, 2018 17:18:31 GMT -6
charlotte my OB gave me meds this time. Last time I was like a year PP when I finally quit being in denial and went to my PCP.
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Post by jillywilly on Nov 25, 2018 17:21:25 GMT -6
My biggest challenge has been breastfeeding. I went into this pregnant wanting to try again, thinking if it didn't work, NBD, formula is great. In reality, I spent the better part of the night before Thanksgiving, and even the day itself, in tears because B wasn't latching anymore. We'd been in this cycle since he had to spend our hospital stay in the special care nursery of nursing/supplementing/pumping, and it is the worst. I even had a lactation consultant visit last week and we learned he just wasn't transferring enough from the breast, and the cycle needed to continue a while. So it felt like all for nothing when he just started refusing the breast, and before that, I could tell he had been getting lazier, not better at nursing. BUT, I've gotten to a better place about it - even though I didn't want to wind up pumping again, I'm going to pump for maybe another couple weeks, them slowly wean off it and switch to formula by the time I go to work in February. Since he had breathing issues early on, I want to give him those antibodies at least to start, but then breastfeeding has been such a point of stress and heartache with both my kids now, it's honestly a relief to be here with a plan to move to formula feeding. Since realizing this and moving to pumping only, my H has been happier, I've had way more time and it's helped W cope, and I've been a lot happier also.
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Post by sarcaztic10 on Nov 25, 2018 20:09:07 GMT -6
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Post by sarcaztic10 on Nov 25, 2018 20:15:40 GMT -6
Physically I am doing ok. My stitches from tearing have started to itch but of course I can't scratch them. I also have some really uncomfortable hemorrhoids that hurt like hell especially when I have to poop. As a result I am still taking stool softener daily until they heal. Overall though the recovery has been much easier this time.
Mentally I am ok most days but if the other boys decide to be terrors or have a bad day then I can barely take it mentally. I am relying heavily on baby wearing to get through the days.
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Post by letsgetphysio on Nov 26, 2018 12:31:39 GMT -6
jillywilly, I'm glad you have a plan moving forward, and for the relief you're now feeling!
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Post by letsgetphysio on Nov 26, 2018 12:41:26 GMT -6
Physically, I'm feeling great. My incision seems to be healing well (getting itchy though) and I'm down past my pre-pregnancy weight, so now I'm just trying to maintain. Last time with DD I lost a bunch of weight fast but then it all came back on over the next months.
Mentally, I'm definitely feeling anxiety about M's breathing. My H is still sick and I find myself frustrated that he doesn't seem to take the risk of getting M more sick seriously sometimes. We have M's overnight monitoring appointment set for this Wednesday and I'm really hoping for some good news after a month of being tethered to oxygen tanks with no apparent explanation. I've definitely been emotional with all the health issues we have going, coupled with the fact that our brand new mini-van broke down on the way to one of M's doctor appointments and our other car got a flat tire the next day. I feel somewhat justified being a bit anxious with all of this going on, but I'm keeping an eye on it just in case.
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Post by charlotte on Nov 26, 2018 13:07:33 GMT -6
letsgetphysio that would make me feel anxious too. I hope M’s appt goes really well this week!!
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Post by summerrain on Nov 26, 2018 17:57:30 GMT -6
I can totally understand your frustrations letsgetphysio. I hope you get some answers.
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Post by summerrain on Nov 26, 2018 18:12:24 GMT -6
I just feel completely overwhelmed at this point. We have no idea when C will get to come home. Feels like every time I am there they find something else to be concerned about. The back and forth and trying to maintain the normalcy of my two big kids lives is just a lot. And it’s my H’s busiest time at work so he’s working 14+ hour days and barely gets to see the baby. I know this upsets him, but he’s just pushing through it like I am. There’s really nothing we can do, I just hope I can keep holding on for a bit longer.
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Post by Diordra on Nov 26, 2018 19:28:51 GMT -6
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Post by jillywilly on Nov 26, 2018 19:45:31 GMT -6
letsgetphysio, I hope M's appointment goes well this week! Hugs, summerrain. You are a rockstar for keeping it together at all. I really hope that the end is near for your NICU days.
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Post by charlotte on Nov 26, 2018 20:16:34 GMT -6
summerrain I’ll be keeping C and you in my thoughts. That sounds really hard.
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Post by letsgetphysio on Nov 26, 2018 20:23:44 GMT -6
summerrain you can and will get through this. I hope he gets home soon!!
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Post by jorkzy on Nov 26, 2018 20:57:32 GMT -6
Hugs summerrain. I work in NICU and Late preemies are sometimes the hardest patients. They’re big and look like full term babies but they act much younger than they should sometimes. It’s hard and frustrating for parents for sure. I’m sorry you’re dealing wth that - hoping he gets discharged soon!
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Post by summerrain on Nov 27, 2018 10:54:53 GMT -6
Thanks ladies and you are right @jorzky. The doctors and nurses keep reminding me of that and I know he won’t be there forever I just completely underestimated how hard it would actually be. I know we will get through it. I’m just ready to have my whole family under one roof. Soon enough.
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Post by Dramaphile on Nov 28, 2018 16:37:35 GMT -6
Physically I feel great. My stitches Healed up nicely and my energy level is on its way back up. Mentally I’m ok. Have a second session with a postpartum therapist on Friday, I’ve been having a lot fewer flashbacks from the birth and NICU stay and overall have been feeling ok, but not quite myself. I had to drive by the hospital today on my way to pick up his birth certificate from the township office and felt pretty emotional about it. I cried a little in my car when I had to go back out because I found out the damn office only takes cash, unlike every other government office that only takes check. Ugh. It’s the first time I’ve been near there since we took him home from the NICU. Doesn’t help my parents have been here for a week and a half and as much as I appreciate the help, my mom Is really stressful, she doesn’t chill out and talks non-stop, which drives me and MH nuts.
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Post by Dr. Cox on Nov 29, 2018 8:01:29 GMT -6
I haven’t been around much as the baby and 3 yr old are kind of kicking my ass. Physically, I’m doing great, much better than with DS1. Mentally, I’m doing good as well. I absolutely think getting on Zoloft before the baby was born helped me get ahead of the ppd. I haven’t had any depression bouts like last time.
I’m struggling with time management and DS1’s behavior. He’s acting out horribly and I spend 80-90% of my day dealing with tantrums. I’m over it. I’m out of discipline tactics and patience. Everything is a battle, everything is dramatic. Something has got to give. My mother in law has been awesome, trying to take him for the day or overnight. I’m also frustrated that I can’t seem to finish one thing. I’ve forgotten how much of a time suck a newborn is. If I could just finish folding one load of laundry before it becomes five loads, that’d be nice.
MH has to go out of town in the next week or so for 4 days and I can’t think about it without melting down. DS2 will do one 4 hr stretch at night, otherwise he’s eating every 2ish hours. The thought of having no sleep while solo parenting both boys for 4 days is overwhelming me.
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Post by Dr. Cox on Nov 29, 2018 8:03:04 GMT -6
Sending hugs to everyone dealing with PPD, NICU stays or stress, or just dealing with the exhaustion of newborn life. ❤️
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Post by Diordra on Dec 4, 2018 15:50:05 GMT -6
How is everyone doing as we enter December? We have some nearly month old babes right?
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Post by charlotte on Dec 5, 2018 12:03:17 GMT -6
I mentioned in the other thread that I’m still bleeding pretty steadily at 6w postpartum. Well yesterday I had an incident that almost sent me to the ER because I was gushing so much blood so fast. It ended up slowing down on its own and the nurse line said I could wait to be seen until my pp checkup tomorrow. I’m just so ready to feel back to myself.
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Post by summerrain on Dec 5, 2018 12:18:53 GMT -6
Yikes charlotte. I hope the gushing was a one off and things start to slow down.
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Post by ladybrienne on Dec 6, 2018 11:28:45 GMT -6
I am feeling pretty good for the most part, we are 1 week out today from the c-section and each day I have felt more human. I am hoping it's baby blues and my hormone levels but the past few nights I have been getting anxiety, seemingly out of nowhere it just sets in. I have to force myself to eat dinner. Last night wasn't as bad, if it persists past 2 weeks I am going to call the OB. Since I had post partum depression with my first, I really don't want to go down the road again where I live in denial and put it off. It wasn't just hard on me, but my husband and I will be damned if we go through that again. Overall though I feel loads better than I did with my first. I feel like I kind of know what I am doing so that's good and so far breastfeeding has been going well.
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Post by meggos on Dec 10, 2018 11:12:00 GMT -6
We are doing ok over here. We had our 1 month check up and I talked to the dr about stress/ anxiety I have had. I seem to be losing my temper with DD very easily lately and I don’t like it. So we have an appointment next week to talk about it further.
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Post by ladybrienne on Dec 11, 2018 8:09:33 GMT -6
I am back on lexapro. The anxiety just kept getting worse and like last time, put me in some dark places in my mind and I started withdrawing. The last few days have been rough. But I’m thankful I recognized that I was slipping into PPD again. I called my doctor’s emergency line on Sunday and they called the prescription in right away and I see the dr tomorrow. I’m feeling better today and I’m grateful for my support system. Just trying to work through the guilt of having PPD with both my kids. I know it’s not something I can control but man it’s so frustrating.
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Post by charlotte on Dec 11, 2018 8:20:15 GMT -6
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