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Post by remi on Nov 20, 2018 12:00:01 GMT -6
Dang it remi I just got back from the store and forgot to get something for the heartburn. It's only when I eat certain things thankfully but sometimes I don't think about it or just REALLY NEED that piece of pizza and torture myself. 🤦♀️ I got it really bad last night after a PB&J. So stupid. lol
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Post by pambee on Nov 20, 2018 12:01:56 GMT -6
Tlex I get it too. It's a really weird thing to even think about because I "count" all of my pregnancies/babies but this is kid #2. It was really triggering at all of my first appointments this round to say pregnancy #5 and only have one kid with me. That was a really scary thought. After my second loss my cousin was trying to do the hair/ring trick on everyone at a family get together because "it was right for our parents/grandparents so it's totally real" and I kept telling her I didn't want to do it but she wouldn't let up and I wasn't trying to make a scene (really only my mom knew about any of my losses at that point, and only one of them). The trick said I'd have 3 kids and I had to go to the bathroom because I couldn't hold back the tears because technically I had had 3 babies already and I was only about a month out from my last loss and it just really sucked.
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Post by pambee on Nov 20, 2018 12:03:30 GMT -6
Dang it remi I just got back from the store and forgot to get something for the heartburn. It's only when I eat certain things thankfully but sometimes I don't think about it or just REALLY NEED that piece of pizza and torture myself. 🤦♀️ I got it really bad last night after a PB&J. So stupid. lol So weird!
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Post by lemondrop on Nov 20, 2018 12:29:49 GMT -6
Ugh, I'm sorry that happened to you. This is why I'm such an advocate for people keeping their damn mouths shut. YOU might think it's fun, meanwhile you're mentally torturing someone who doesn't want to talk about an extremely private, personal trauma. How about you just go have another glass of wine and stop talking to people about babies? K? K. I do a big soapbox performance about this during April Fools when people "joke" about being pregnant.
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Post by Tlex on Nov 20, 2018 13:08:43 GMT -6
Thanks guys, you get it. It’s just one of those things that seems to build up sometimes and bug me until I vent about it to someone who gets it, then I feel seen and can go on.
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Post by haleyscott on Nov 20, 2018 14:47:01 GMT -6
I’m sorry guys, that would be so hard to deal with. I wish people would just think before they speak. <3
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Post by haleyscott on Nov 20, 2018 14:50:15 GMT -6
Weeks pregnant/Due date: 23w2d/ mar 17
Baby is the size of a: papaya
FTM/STM/TTM/etc: TTM
Team: Pink!
Appointments: not until dec 7.
Symptoms: shortness of breath from any moving, achy body. Lately crying at everything
Milestones:
Rants/Raves/Vents: i don’t even know. I would like an entire day to just nap and watch tv.
GTKY: what's your favorite and/or go to Thanksgiving side? Feel free to share recipes too! I love all sides. Stuffing. Mashed potatoes & gravy. Sweet potatoes. Even jello concoctions.
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Post by nmom on Nov 20, 2018 18:10:50 GMT -6
Thanks guys, you get it. It’s just one of those things that seems to build up sometimes and bug me until I vent about it to someone who gets it, then I feel seen and can go on. I’m sorry:( my OB on my first visits said “5th pregnancy” almost like a NBD type comment just while talking and I must have looked like I saw a ghost because she instantly said sorry and has never said it again. I have one child at home and hearing that was just... a lot. I also hate hearing this go around “your not even big” or any of that or even better “about Time” 😑 people man
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Tlex
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Post by Tlex on Nov 20, 2018 23:03:32 GMT -6
Thanks guys, you get it. It’s just one of those things that seems to build up sometimes and bug me until I vent about it to someone who gets it, then I feel seen and can go on. I’m sorry:( my OB on my first visits said “5th pregnancy” almost like a NBD type comment just while talking and I must have looked like I saw a ghost because she instantly said sorry and has never said it again. I have one child at home and hearing that was just... a lot. I also hate hearing this go around “your not even big” or any of that or even better “about Time” 😑 people man PEOPLE. Sigh. Hugs.
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Post by Yogurt on Nov 20, 2018 23:04:23 GMT -6
Aw ladies. I think loss is just one of those things where there is no wrong way to handle it when it comes to your own losses. Kind of like any grief. Just whatever gets you through the moment is fine. I'll say "I had some losses before this one" or something like that if it comes up, but I only really get into it if it makes sense in the context of the conversation/depends on who I'm talking to.
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Post by tapdancer on Nov 21, 2018 10:08:18 GMT -6
Tlex I'm sorry you are feeling crummy. I struggle with answering that question too. pambee I'm so sorry that happened. It's so frustrating when family are insensitive.
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Post by Eames on Nov 22, 2018 11:38:38 GMT -6
Hugs, ladies. I also HATE the "about time" stuff because DD will be 4.5 yo.
We would have had ~2 year spacing and then ~2.5 year spacing, but those didn't work out and then we got benched... but thanks very much for reminding me.
People just need to not comment on anyone else's family size, spacing, etc. Gah.
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Post by Tlex on Nov 22, 2018 11:59:25 GMT -6
I let myself get dehydrated yesterday and WOW that doesn’t feel good when pregnant. Don’t go there, trust me! I had a wicked headache, kept nodding off to sleep which is so unlike me, and my heart rate was super high. I was scared it was preE! Just a friendly nag to drink lots of water so you don’t end up like me. I will be adding an extra glass to my morning routine. I love water so it’s hard for me to realize I can get dehydrated like anyone else, all it takes is a busy morning.
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Post by Wicket on Nov 22, 2018 14:04:45 GMT -6
Tlex good reminder! This was me last weekend. The headache was awful.
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