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Post by amberlie on Jun 21, 2017 14:00:13 GMT -6
Do your toddlers hit a lot? E hits but not often and it never hurts. Yesterday, I watched a friend's son so she could go to a job interview. He's 16m. He hits A LOT and HARD. Seriously, the kid is like the Incredible Hulk. I have a bruise under my eye. He also grabbed E by her braid and pulled her to the ground. He never seemed angry while doing any of this so I'm sure he was trying to play. But it seemed excessive to me so I'm curious if other toddlers do that to this extent also. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Hitting was a short phase with DD. And ds is just coming into it. I'm pretty sure (in our case at least) they got it from other kids in daycare. Yes, I would expect that. This kid has never been to daycare though. He's never been with anyone other than his parents except for a few hours here & there. After he would hit, I'd hold his hands and say "gentle, soft hands" and then he'd run over and knock the shit out of E again 5 seconds later. She eventually wouldn't go anywhere unless I was holding or carrying her.
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Post by fierymama on Jun 21, 2017 14:00:45 GMT -6
amberlie - K went through a hitting phase, right around that age. Usually not hard, but I don't think they are aware of their own strength, so there were times that it hurt and others it didn't. I'd tell her "no" and divert. If she kept doing it (especially if sitting on my lap), I would put her down and not pick her back up until she seemed to have calmed down. I would have been less than thrilled to see her pulled down by her hair though.
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Post by Betweenthelines on Jun 21, 2017 14:02:18 GMT -6
Hitting was a short phase with DD. And ds is just coming into it. I'm pretty sure (in our case at least) they got it from other kids in daycare. Yes, I would expect that. This kid has never been to daycare though. He's never been with anyone other than his parents except for a few hours here & there. After he would hit, I'd hold his hands and say "gentle, soft hands" and then he'd run over and knock the shit out of E again 5 seconds later. She eventually wouldn't go anywhere unless I was holding or carrying her. I think it's like biting too. Some kids get into a biting phase, some don't. Hopefully it's nothing more than just a phase.
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Post by amberlie on Jun 21, 2017 14:02:56 GMT -6
fierymama I don't think he knows his strength either - and he was literally never mad/upset when hitting. He was smiling/laughing while doing it. He'd just like walk into the room, run up to E (or me, if i was on the floor or couch) and swing both arms/hands at our faces. Then laugh, run away, come back and do it again. I get that he's a toddler and doesn't mean to hurt but like I said, this seemed a bit over the top for typical toddler hitting. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Post by amberlie on Jun 21, 2017 14:07:30 GMT -6
Betweenthelines I'm so thankful that E's biting phase was only about 3 days. She kept biting me on the knees lol. But I told her no and it hurts, after a few days she stopped and hasn't done it again. Which is good bc it hurt quite a bit! This boy's mom warned me ahead of time that he hits and I was like yeah that's fine, no big deal, he's barely a toddler. But I was NOT at all expecting the extent of it. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Post by amberlie on Jun 21, 2017 14:10:03 GMT -6
In happier news, last night DH went to bed when H did. E stayed up with me while I studied and we watched frozen. When it was over, she said "bed." And I said what? She walked to the bedroom door and said bed. So I picked her up, brushed her teeth and put her in bed. She just went to sleep no problem. It was a miracle.
Also H has been going to sleep independently! I nurse her in the living room, put her down awake, she growls for 2-3 minutes (literally some crazy growling sound she has learned and does all the time), then rolls over and goes to sleep. E wouldn't sleep without a boob in her mouth until 14 months.
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Post by Betweenthelines on Jun 21, 2017 14:10:10 GMT -6
Betweenthelines I'm so thankful that E's biting phase was only about 3 days. She kept biting me on the knees lol. But I told her no and it hurts, after a few days she stopped and hasn't done it again. Which is good bc it hurt quite a bit! This boy's mom warned me ahead of time that he hits and I was like yeah that's fine, no big deal, he's barely a toddler. But I was NOT at all expecting the extent of it. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk These little shits have super human strength. I have to constantly keep reminding dd to stop choking ds. She doesnt do it intentionally, but when she hugs him she puts him in a headlock basically and just squeezes him.
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Post by amberlie on Jun 21, 2017 14:11:52 GMT -6
Betweenthelines I'm so thankful that E's biting phase was only about 3 days. She kept biting me on the knees lol. But I told her no and it hurts, after a few days she stopped and hasn't done it again. Which is good bc it hurt quite a bit! This boy's mom warned me ahead of time that he hits and I was like yeah that's fine, no big deal, he's barely a toddler. But I was NOT at all expecting the extent of it. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk These little shits have super human strength. I have to constantly keep reminding dd to stop choking ds. She doesnt do it intentionally, but when she hugs him she puts him in a headlock basically and just squeezes him. Lol YES. E has put me in a chokehold while "hugging" a number of times. I think the kid I watched yesterday could be a toddler MMA contender though.
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Post by sizzleb on Jun 21, 2017 14:12:15 GMT -6
flippinchica, yay for good test results! And congrats on having a boy!
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Post by RunsforWineandCarbs on Jun 21, 2017 14:20:25 GMT -6
Betweenthelines I'm so thankful that E's biting phase was only about 3 days. She kept biting me on the knees lol. But I told her no and it hurts, after a few days she stopped and hasn't done it again. Which is good bc it hurt quite a bit! This boy's mom warned me ahead of time that he hits and I was like yeah that's fine, no big deal, he's barely a toddler. But I was NOT at all expecting the extent of it. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk These little shits have super human strength. I have to constantly keep reminding dd to stop choking ds. She doesnt do it intentionally, but when she hugs him she puts him in a headlock basically and just squeezes him. OMG - A chokes C all.the.time. AND she pulls on him - like he's in my arms and she pulls on his leg almost yanks him out of my arms all.the.time. C hits too. When he's frustrated. He also pushes. It's a work in progress.
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Post by Betweenthelines on Jun 21, 2017 14:24:56 GMT -6
These little shits have super human strength. I have to constantly keep reminding dd to stop choking ds. She doesnt do it intentionally, but when she hugs him she puts him in a headlock basically and just squeezes him. OMG - A chokes C all.the.time. AND she pulls on him - like he's in my arms and she pulls on his leg almost yanks him out of my arms all.the.time. C hits too. When he's frustrated. He also pushes. It's a work in progress. Ayup. All the same here.
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Post by easternshoregirl on Jun 21, 2017 15:11:34 GMT -6
Thanks, fierymama, and RunsforWineandCarbs! That is all super helpful! We are definitely hoping E takes a little stroller nap, we'll see how that goes though. Since he's been sleeping like crap all around, I'm not too worked up over if he does or doesn't.
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Post by easternshoregirl on Jun 21, 2017 15:13:54 GMT -6
I also just talked to DH about getting ready for our trip...he didn't realize we are leaving tomorrow. I told him I'd pack for E and I and could he maybe start his own packing before 15 minutes before we leave tomorrow. And do you need to do laundry? He is notorious for doing laundry at midnight the night before trips. Clearly, that drives me crazy!
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Post by armpants on Jun 21, 2017 15:23:42 GMT -6
M goes in spells with hitting. Its honestly mostly me when I tell him no. He's switched to knocking my glasses off my face or pulling my hair because he gets a bigger reaction. Turd. He actually kicked my dad's dogs on Monday. We keep working on it because H and I have both said our main goal is to not raise an asshole.
If you watch him again I would ask his mom how she corrects/redirects so you can do the same way.
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Post by armpants on Jun 21, 2017 15:25:38 GMT -6
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Post by 45thparallel on Jun 21, 2017 16:48:58 GMT -6
Pizzaslut tarte is having a sale online. The festival lip is on sale 12$, among other things. If you need a backup
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Post by skinandbones on Jun 21, 2017 16:52:57 GMT -6
I can't decide if I want to bathe the kids tonight. They didn't get a bath last night and I'm solo. I kind of just want to snuggle with them and watch a movie.
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Post by Pizzaslut on Jun 21, 2017 16:56:25 GMT -6
Pizzaslut tarte is having a sale online. The festival lip is on sale 12$, among other things. If you need a backup
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Post by jedi on Jun 21, 2017 17:03:23 GMT -6
amberlie could be sensory seeking like my oldest. Could be normal, Congrats @flipinchica
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Post by 45thparallel on Jun 21, 2017 17:05:05 GMT -6
I can't decide if I want to bathe the kids tonight. They didn't get a bath last night and I'm solo. I kind of just want to snuggle with them and watch a movie. Grab a facecloth and do a wipe down of the important bits while watching TV. Multi task.
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Post by amberlie on Jun 21, 2017 17:07:53 GMT -6
I considered that too jedi. I'm not sure what the cause is, I was just wondering how common it is. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Post by 45thparallel on Jun 21, 2017 17:08:34 GMT -6
Pizzaslut tarte is having a sale online. The festival lip is on sale 12$, among other things. If you need a backup Even better for you, it's 12$ Canadian dollars!
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Post by amberlie on Jun 21, 2017 17:11:03 GMT -6
armpants I don't think she does anything yet - she had asked for advice on fb about it a couple of days ago. Yesterday when she came to pick him up, he ran and hit E while I was holding her. His mom picked him up and held him against her so he couldn't move until he got really upset and then she let him go. I'm not sure if that's what she normally does or just decided to then. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Post by vern on Jun 21, 2017 17:31:21 GMT -6
amberlie, 16mos maybe too young for 123 magic, but its worth a try. We also use the empty playpen as a deterrent for unwanted behaviors.
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Post by redandblue on Jun 21, 2017 17:31:49 GMT -6
M has been known to hit, bite, grab glasses or head but when angry or frustrated. The biting stopped for a while and now it has returned in a 'playful' manner (it doesn't do it hard, and then laughs...not funny dude). Actually now that I think of it, the hitting has gotten better as well. amberlie I would look for (or have Mom) look at the intensity and frequency that he is doing it, and gently suggest some alternative (consistently) that can redirect. Then would maybe suggest an OT referral just to see if there are any sensory seeking components. Very well could just be a phase. That young, most likely doesn't have a lot of language yet.
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Post by redandblue on Jun 21, 2017 17:33:38 GMT -6
So I'm pretty sure M isn't allergic to bee stings (yet). Poor guy got stung by the slowest moving bumble bee ever...he didn't seem too bothered by it (kind of swatted at his arm and I saw the damn thing on him). It has some minor swelling and I watched it for about an hour, and it seems okay. Sigh...
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Post by redandblue on Jun 21, 2017 17:34:16 GMT -6
Also DH is out of town again for a work trip (this time boston), so I'm chillin on my own...
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Post by amberlie on Jun 21, 2017 17:49:25 GMT -6
So I'm pretty sure M isn't allergic to bee stings (yet). Poor guy got stung by the slowest moving bumble bee ever...he didn't seem too bothered by it (kind of swatted at his arm and I saw the damn thing on him). It has some minor swelling and I watched it for about an hour, and it seems okay. Sigh... I hope he isn't allergic! I never got stung by anything until high school. I was walking down the hall of my school and got stung in my forehead. I couldn't breathe and started vomiting within 2-3 mins. It sucked. I had no idea I was allergic to anything until I was 15 and that is not how I wanted to find out!
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Post by amberlie on Jun 21, 2017 17:53:15 GMT -6
redandblue based on my limited experience, the frequency and intensity are pretty high. But that's based on my personal experience with only 2 other toddlers on a regular basis - E of course & my best friend's 3yo. I told her about the frequency/nature of his hitting. He was absolutely fine otherwise.. he cried for about 5 mins when she left and then started playing, stopping to hit someone every few minutes. He knows a few words - no and bubble - and also some signs, but not much language overall. The more excited he was, the more he would hit. When he was upset, he just sat on the floor and cried. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Post by amberlie on Jun 21, 2017 17:54:54 GMT -6
vern I have never heard of 123magic but I will look it up! I'm about to sell our PnP - we've only used it maybe twice in almost 2 years. But i will definitely talk to her about how she wants me to respond if I watch him in the future. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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