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Post by lemondrop on Nov 5, 2018 8:38:46 GMT -6
Disclaimer: I really do love my MIL, she's a gem.
We bought little man's crib on Friday night. Totally stoked, it's going to look perfect in his room with the theme we're going for. Then H told his mom during their weekly Sunday chat and she complained that we have to stop buying things for the baby because "other people may want to get you things". Ok lady, there are plenty of other things on the registry we're putting together - and this was our first actual purchase beyond some clothing and books. I guess she was planning on buying the crib? Nothing was ever said to us about it though. Gahhhhhh.
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Post by remi on Nov 5, 2018 9:03:27 GMT -6
Disclaimer: I really do love my MIL, she's a gem. We bought little man's crib on Friday night. Totally stoked, it's going to look perfect in his room with the theme we're going for. Then H told his mom during their weekly Sunday chat and she complained that we have to stop buying things for the baby because "other people may want to get you things". Ok lady, there are plenty of other things on the registry we're putting together - and this was our first actual purchase beyond some clothing and books. I guess she was planning on buying the crib? Nothing was ever said to us about it though. Gahhhhhh. While this is really nice that she wants to buy things its not like you should just wait to see what is bought for you.
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Post by lemondrop on Nov 5, 2018 9:17:38 GMT -6
Disclaimer: I really do love my MIL, she's a gem. We bought little man's crib on Friday night. Totally stoked, it's going to look perfect in his room with the theme we're going for. Then H told his mom during their weekly Sunday chat and she complained that we have to stop buying things for the baby because "other people may want to get you things". Ok lady, there are plenty of other things on the registry we're putting together - and this was our first actual purchase beyond some clothing and books. I guess she was planning on buying the crib? Nothing was ever said to us about it though. Gahhhhhh. While this is really nice that she wants to buy things its not like you should just wait to see what is bought for you. This was part of our thinking, too - let's buy some of the big things slowly over the next 6 months so we're not spending $$$$$ on furniture right before he's born. I have zero expectations about anyone buying us anything - at least not anything expensive. I'm also not having a real shower because I live 850 miles from 98% of the people I know. I really just made the registry so we'd get 20% off or whatever at completion.
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Post by Tlex on Nov 5, 2018 15:28:00 GMT -6
Disclaimer: I really do love my MIL, she's a gem. We bought little man's crib on Friday night. Totally stoked, it's going to look perfect in his room with the theme we're going for. Then H told his mom during their weekly Sunday chat and she complained that we have to stop buying things for the baby because "other people may want to get you things". Ok lady, there are plenty of other things on the registry we're putting together - and this was our first actual purchase beyond some clothing and books. I guess she was planning on buying the crib? Nothing was ever said to us about it though. Gahhhhhh. Oh the fuckery of a first grand baby in the family, how I do not miss thee! (I am assuming this is her first grandchild, yes? She’s acting like it.)
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Post by orangehibiscus on Nov 5, 2018 16:35:07 GMT -6
I agree! I don’t think white chocolate is even chocolate. It doesn’t taste anything like chocolate. Just because you can make chocolate shapes with it (kisses, bar, etc) does not make it chocolate! You guys can send me allll of your white chocolate. I love it! 🤮
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Post by orangehibiscus on Nov 5, 2018 16:36:47 GMT -6
lemondrop She should not expect you not to buy anything! It’s your kid. Also, if she was planning on buying something specific (like the crib), she should have told you.
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Post by jacks on Nov 5, 2018 16:53:56 GMT -6
lemondrop Maybe you could hint something like “we’re going to go look at rockers next weekend. It’s so exciting!” To give her an opening. My ILs gave us money towards the rocker which worked out the best. I wanted a very specific chair, and would have felt weird telling them the price. Instead they just gave us money towards it (which ended up being like 25%).
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Post by pambee on Nov 5, 2018 17:29:09 GMT -6
This is our second kid and we really don't need a lot, and several friends have already provided his entire wardrobe through 9 months, but I made a comment to my mom about going through it all and noting what I didn't get a lot of (ie NB sleepers) and she was all don't go buying it all!! People will want to buy you boy things!!
I mean okay, that's fine and I'll be very grateful, but *I* want to buy boy things, too! Plus, I got a lot of uh....not my style things for E, so I can anticipate returning/exchanging a lot of what I get anyways 😬🤷♀️
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Post by jewelsofthenile on Nov 5, 2018 18:10:52 GMT -6
Disclaimer: I really do love my MIL, she's a gem. We bought little man's crib on Friday night. Totally stoked, it's going to look perfect in his room with the theme we're going for. Then H told his mom during their weekly Sunday chat and she complained that we have to stop buying things for the baby because "other people may want to get you things". Ok lady, there are plenty of other things on the registry we're putting together - and this was our first actual purchase beyond some clothing and books. I guess she was planning on buying the crib? Nothing was ever said to us about it though. Gahhhhhh. Oh the fuckery of a first grand baby in the family, how I do not miss thee! (I am assuming this is her first grandchild, yes? She’s acting like it.) Ha exactly this! my mother in law bought toys for an 18 month old when I was like 12 weeks with my first. She was excited needless to say. Couldn't wait to buy things.
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Post by lemondrop on Nov 5, 2018 18:24:48 GMT -6
Disclaimer: I really do love my MIL, she's a gem. We bought little man's crib on Friday night. Totally stoked, it's going to look perfect in his room with the theme we're going for. Then H told his mom during their weekly Sunday chat and she complained that we have to stop buying things for the baby because "other people may want to get you things". Ok lady, there are plenty of other things on the registry we're putting together - and this was our first actual purchase beyond some clothing and books. I guess she was planning on buying the crib? Nothing was ever said to us about it though. Gahhhhhh. Oh the fuckery of a first grand baby in the family, how I do not miss thee! (I am assuming this is her first grandchild, yes? She’s acting like it.) It’s her second grandbaby, but under very different circumstances. My sister in law gave birth in May at 27 weeks, which was obviously a super precarious situation. But my sister in law is a very Scandinavian “we can just put the baby in a box with some blankets” type of person. I don’t think they had anything when the baby was born. Meanwhile, I’m type A and generally insane. Thankfully my nephew came home in early October, 3 weeks after his original due date, and is doing very well 💗
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Post by lemondrop on Nov 5, 2018 18:25:52 GMT -6
lemondrop She should not expect you not to buy anything! It’s your kid. Also, if she was planning on buying something specific (like the crib), she should have told you. I said that to H. If she’s that invested in getting something specific, she needs to verbalize that.
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Post by Tlex on Nov 5, 2018 18:27:02 GMT -6
Oh the fuckery of a first grand baby in the family, how I do not miss thee! (I am assuming this is her first grandchild, yes? She’s acting like it.) It’s her second grandbaby, but under very different circumstances. My sister in law gave birth in May at 27 weeks, which was obviously a super precarious situation. But my sister in law is a very Scandinavian “we can just put the baby in a box with some blankets” type of person. I don’t think they had anything when the baby was born. Meanwhile, I’m type A and generally insane. Thankfully my nephew came home in early October, 3 weeks after his original due date, and is doing very well 💗 Lol I am both type A and a Scandinavian-inspired minimalist so you can imagine why I was a nightmare for my MIL.
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Post by lemondrop on Nov 5, 2018 18:28:27 GMT -6
lemondrop Maybe you could hint something like “we’re going to go look at rockers next weekend. It’s so exciting!” To give her an opening. My ILs gave us money towards the rocker which worked out the best. I wanted a very specific chair, and would have felt weird telling them the price. Instead they just gave us money towards it (which ended up being like 25%). I like this idea a lot! I also told H he could send her the registry link, which is private, and ask if there’s something on there she feels compelled to contribute to and we’ll remove it.
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Post by lemondrop on Nov 5, 2018 18:30:25 GMT -6
It’s her second grandbaby, but under very different circumstances. My sister in law gave birth in May at 27 weeks, which was obviously a super precarious situation. But my sister in law is a very Scandinavian “we can just put the baby in a box with some blankets” type of person. I don’t think they had anything when the baby was born. Meanwhile, I’m type A and generally insane. Thankfully my nephew came home in early October, 3 weeks after his original due date, and is doing very well 💗 Lol I am both type A and a Scandinavian-inspired minimalist so you can imagine why I was a nightmare for my MIL. LOL I love it.
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Post by lemondrop on Nov 7, 2018 10:54:15 GMT -6
When would you tell a new boss you're pregnant?
I accepted a new job last week (woot!) and depending on when my background check comes back, I should be starting next weekish.
I travel relatively frequently (financial sales - generally to meetings/ conferences, but my boss is in Florida and my company is HQd in Phoenix. I'm in Raleigh).
Obviously by Feb, I won't be able to travel as much. By April, I'll have little dude.
I work in a male dominated field, and we're heading into months where sales are very slow so I won't have a huge opportunity to prove my worth beforehand.
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Post by jacks on Nov 7, 2018 16:46:22 GMT -6
lemondrop I might wait a couple weeks, but obviously can’t wait TOO long if they need to make plans for your leave. I would try to be matter of fact “I’m due this day and plan to take this many weeks leave. Here’s what will need to be covered in my absense.” Or something. On that note, I finally told my boss today. He was “happy” but my coworker who is in the same office as him said he was verrrrry quiet after my meeting with him so I think he was more like “oh shit.” I have not officially decided about returning or not, but am definitely leaning towards retiring from full time working outside the house.
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Post by sammie on Nov 7, 2018 20:24:23 GMT -6
jacks I have a lot of anxiety about telling my boss. I’m in a different job than with my first and the team is a lot smaller, so it will be more of a burden on my colleagues. Ugh.
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Post by jacks on Nov 7, 2018 20:41:31 GMT -6
jacks I have a lot of anxiety about telling my boss. I’m in a different job than with my first and the team is a lot smaller, so it will be more of a burden on my colleagues. Ugh. I totally feel you. My team is currently 6 people including my manager, but only one other person is capable of covering my work. I hate that we have to feel guilty for taking our (too short) maternity leave.
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Post by lemondrop on Nov 8, 2018 10:27:17 GMT -6
jacks I have a lot of anxiety about telling my boss. I’m in a different job than with my first and the team is a lot smaller, so it will be more of a burden on my colleagues. Ugh. I'm in a similar boat. My new job (and new team) are much smaller than previous jobs. While it's not so much of a burden on them since we're all responsible for our own sales, it's going to massively effect our collective yearly quotas.
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Post by Eames on Nov 9, 2018 13:02:19 GMT -6
I definitely have pregnancy rage right now. And it's only because people keep bugging me and stopping by my desk to talk. Oh and at lunch, I had my food and sat down in the work cafe to catch up on blinds and politics, and the new office manager came and sat right next to me and wanted to chat.
I feel like a terrible person but I just need some time alone, people! Go away!
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Post by jewelsofthenile on Nov 9, 2018 13:26:02 GMT -6
I feel so big already and I am only half way. I feel like I am 30 weeks not 20. April 1st seems very far away. I think the cold rainy snowy weather is making me grumpy. Eames thats what i do at lunch too read the politics board.
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Post by orangehibiscus on Nov 9, 2018 14:37:47 GMT -6
I’m so glad your nephew is doing well lemondrop!
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Post by pambee on Nov 9, 2018 17:09:02 GMT -6
Ugh Eames I tried to leave the office to eat as much as possible when I was working, I hated being stuck in the break room with someone who thought we needed to chat, lol. jewelsofthenile I am also just grumpy today, we've had some car trouble with the spare car I use during the week and it won't start today and MH left for the weekend this afternoon with our 1 good car. Which means I'll likely be stuck at home all weekend and I'm just feeling cranky about it even though I have no where to go.
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Post by remi on Nov 9, 2018 19:05:30 GMT -6
I definitely have pregnancy rage right now. And it's only because people keep bugging me and stopping by my desk to talk. Oh and at lunch, I had my food and sat down in the work cafe to catch up on blinds and politics, and the new office manager came and sat right next to me and wanted to chat. I feel like a terrible person but I just need some time alone, people! Go away! I literally always carrying headphones with me and have them in my ears. Even if I’m not actually listening to anything because I don’t want to be bugged when I’m at lunch. Leave me alone.
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Post by lemondrop on Nov 9, 2018 20:33:10 GMT -6
I’m so glad your nephew is doing well lemondrop! Thank you! We’re pretty stoked as well. Little dude was just under 2lbs when he was born, and my SIL just said he’s a whopping almost 10lbs now. Gigantic!
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Post by haleyscott on Nov 15, 2018 10:02:14 GMT -6
Can someone please tell me I’m being ridiculous?
I am buying a crib off a friend bc it’s white and will match our nursery theme.. it’s a Jenny Lind.
Buuut I have a crib I used for both of my boys and now I’m feeling guilty for not using it this time. It’s silly to feel guilty, right? I’ve shed a few tears since deciding to do this. I loved our crib but I want to get this one. I also don’t want people thinking I’m getting a different one bc she’s a girl.
Hormones. Help.
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Post by pambee on Nov 15, 2018 10:09:39 GMT -6
Can someone please tell me I’m being ridiculous? I am buying a crib off a friend bc it’s white and will match our nursery theme.. it’s a Jenny Lind. Buuut I have a crib I used for both of my boys and now I’m feeling guilty for not using it this time. It’s silly to feel guilty, right? I’ve shed a few tears since deciding to do this. I loved our crib but I want to get this one. I also don’t want people thinking I’m getting a different one bc she’s a girl. Hormones. Help. I think it's definitely silly to feel guilty over, but hormones, man I don't and wouldn't think twice about someone getting new furniture for new kids. I want a brown crib this time and have a white one from E, but just because I feel like it fits my inspiration in my head. I might not end up switching because of $, but want to!
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Post by jacks on Nov 15, 2018 10:18:54 GMT -6
Can someone please tell me I’m being ridiculous? I am buying a crib off a friend bc it’s white and will match our nursery theme.. it’s a Jenny Lind. Buuut I have a crib I used for both of my boys and now I’m feeling guilty for not using it this time. It’s silly to feel guilty, right? I’ve shed a few tears since deciding to do this. I loved our crib but I want to get this one. I also don’t want people thinking I’m getting a different one bc she’s a girl. Hormones. Help. Get the white crib guilt-free! The old crib is a piece of furniture in your memories of your boys. You’ll always remember watching them sleep peacefully or doing the transfer dance to get them down without waking, no matter the color of the current crib. Release your guilt and live your best new nursery theme life!
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Post by haleyscott on Nov 15, 2018 10:22:20 GMT -6
pambee & jacks thanks! Seriously. Also, pambee if we lived close we could have switched! Haha I think I just have a lot of feelings to work through bc im so worried people are going to assume the girl is my favorite since I have two sons. Maybe I should try and schedule a therapy appt. I think it’s tome for a check in.
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Post by jewelsofthenile on Nov 15, 2018 12:34:40 GMT -6
haleyscott I would do what you want on the crib. I thought about getting a different crib for my son but being cheap won out and he slept in the same one is sister had. I plan on kicking him out of it sometime in the next 6 or 7 months so his baby sister can use it. People say and think crazy things anyways, I would just do what makes you happy.
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