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Post by strawberrykiki on Oct 26, 2018 9:01:21 GMT -6
Can we have a wellness Friday thread? My mental health just stinks the past couple days. I’ve been alternating cranky with sad and wanting to cry. Work has been stressful and I’m worried about money and getting ready for baby and I’m kind of upset with MH about something. I feel like any second not spent being happy is not being grateful for my healthy pregnancy but it’s just tough somedays. And I’m so so uncomfortable.
How is everyone else doing?
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Post by notagoddess on Oct 26, 2018 9:25:29 GMT -6
strawberrykiki, mine hasn't been great either. Physically things are tough right now -- I keep getting sick and it's so hard to keep up at work and at home while feeling under the weather. Also I've gained 25 pounds as of my appointment yesterday. I don't feel good about that at all. There's 4 months left to the end of February so I'm trying to keep the end goal in mind. I can't wait to meet my baby!
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Post by strawberrykiki on Oct 26, 2018 9:57:55 GMT -6
notagoddess me too. I can’t wait to meet my baby! It seems like a long time but not a long time. Since I made my post, MH sent me flowers at work to cheer me up. ☺️
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Post by notagoddess on Oct 26, 2018 10:02:20 GMT -6
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Post by tngrl3 on Oct 26, 2018 10:48:02 GMT -6
I'm stressed and exhausted. Work is killing me. We moved to a brand new hospital this week and went live with a new computer charting system. I've worked late every day this week. I've yelled at the kids because I'm exhausted and stress and that makes me feel awful. Some days I don't how I'm ever going to manage 3 kids. I'm struggling right now. Thankfully I'm off today and trying to take some time for myself and rest.
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Post by strawberrykiki on Oct 26, 2018 12:48:47 GMT -6
tngrl3 hugs!! I hope things settle down for you soon!
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Post by sunshiney on Oct 26, 2018 13:07:31 GMT -6
strawberrykiki I'm sorry, work stress is so annoying. I'm glad YH picked up on the fact that today was a great day to surprise you with flowers! It's hard not to feel guilty for not appreciating a pregnancy/baby, but having a blessing like that doesn't magically make the stressful stuff disappear...and it adds a lot of new pressures. Even positive changes create stress! Particularly physical pain and discomforts, they are such a drain. I hope you get a good break this weekend and a good heart to heart with YH if it's needed for him to understand. notagoddess I'm sorry you keep dealing with sickness. I keep trying to give myself leeway for not being able to keep up with things well at home but the problem is, not having a clean house and organized life and healthy food creates its own stress!! Is there any small thing that you could outsource to YH or a generous friend or family member that would make a big difference for you? I think it's really smart to keep an eye on the final result of all this...4 months seems really far away, but with the holidays in between I know it will be here before we know it! @tngirl3 Yikes, work sounds like way too much right now! Nobody is immune to the effects of stress, I'm sure your kiddos understand! Glad you have a day off. Hope you can do something nice for yourself!
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Post by sunshiney on Oct 26, 2018 13:14:11 GMT -6
I've been teary off and on the last week, mostly because of frustration that the exhuastion/fatigue of 1st tri is already coming back, pretty fast...I expected more time with energy to get things done so it's been hard to lower my expectations. Making me feel like a lazy bum. And then feeling like I want this to go by quickly and be done brings on guilt because of being PAIF and PAL...I've been waiting for this chance for 10 years, so what's wrong with me that I'm not enjoying every moment? It's like a massive effort to get showered and dinner on the table each day, wish I could just veg around all the time...but that just makes me feel useless! Argh. But reminding myself this is just a season, and it's okay, and it will not be like this forever.
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Post by thelittleredm on Oct 26, 2018 14:28:32 GMT -6
I feel for all of you. This week at work has been the Monday-est week. I'm so over it. Had a customer's personal driver hop in someone else's car thinking it was their client's car so that was...fun. *sigh* I don't even know. And of course, I've bitched enough about home life this week, I don't think I need to tell anyone how that's been. I've been really easily irritated and mad. I just need some time to myself, I think. I've put off chores around the house almost all week until yesterday when both boys happened to fall asleep on the way home and stayed asleep long enough for me to at least sweep about half the house. So I guess that's good.
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Post by blondeostrich on Oct 26, 2018 14:57:54 GMT -6
strawberrykiki and sunshiney, please try not to feel guilty for not enjoying or being grateful for pregnancy all the time! I know it isn't just as easy as just stopping those feelings, but pregnancy is hard and exhausting, and there is NO rule that says you have to appreciate every minute! It is possible to be excited for the end result without loving every part of the process.
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Post by blondeostrich on Oct 26, 2018 15:03:21 GMT -6
strawberrykiki , mine hasn't been great either. Physically things are tough right now -- I keep getting sick and it's so hard to keep up at work and at home while feeling under the weather. Also I've gained 25 pounds as of my appointment yesterday. I don't feel good about that at all. There's 4 months left to the end of February so I'm trying to keep the end goal in mind. I can't wait to meet my baby! I think I've gained about 25 lbs too... but I gained 50 with my son and 60 with my daughter, that I was able to get rid of within (what I would consider) a reasonable amount of time after they got here, so I'm just not worrying about it. My doctor has never said anything negative about my weight gain, I think my body just likes to pack on the pounds during pregnancy. I'm sorry you keep getting sick, that makes everything so much more difficult.
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Post by cch on Oct 29, 2018 6:25:55 GMT -6
strawberrykiki beautiful flowers!! Hope you’re feeling better. I’ve been more stressed than usual this past week. We’ve been in the process of closing my husbands business down this weekend. He’s had it for about a year and a half and was at his own location for exactly 12 months. He is a Dental Lab Technician and while he had some great months, other months were slow and with our high overhead we needed to make a change rather than wait for the business to gain more business. We put over 20k into his business and even though another lab is purchasing a lot of the big equipment, we will likely leave with some debt when it’s all said and done. He was able to find a job at a local lab which we are grateful for but he took a pay cut which is stressful since I SAH with DD for now. I did all the accounting and a lot of the marketing for his business so I’m disappointed I won’t have that to do now but it is what it is at this point. Lots of changes but I know he’s looking forward to starting his new job on the 1st.
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Post by sunshiney on Oct 29, 2018 6:41:03 GMT -6
cch I'm sorry to hear about your and yh's business. It must be so frustrating after putting in all that work. I hope you both feel proud for trying... Most people would just think or talk about a dream like that and never have the courage to try and make a go of it! Saying a prayer that you guys find easy ways to make finances work on his new salary.
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