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Post by sammysam on Oct 19, 2018 6:53:57 GMT -6
Any guesses as to what you think you might be having? Are you finding out or staying team green? If you're a STM+ did you have a feeling with your previous LOs? Was it right?
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Post by sammysam on Oct 19, 2018 7:03:42 GMT -6
With my first I was POSITIVE it was a boy. Completely convinced. My entire life I had pictured having boys. I was shocked when I found out it was a girl. I had them keep checking at every US to confirm. There were 15 boys born into my extended family in the 6 years leading up to that and DD was the first girl born.
I have no strong feelings either way yet. But I'm only 3+3 so I doubt my mind has really even registered that it's pregnant. I would love a little boy but because I've had a girl and know what to expect...and have all the clothes etc...I would love another girl. So I have absolutely no preference. I'm just hoping that this one comes home;)
But I did have a dream when I was pregnant with DD...before I knew she was a girl...of 2 children laying on the beach that I somehow knew were mine. A girl around 12 ish and a boy around 6ish. So if that dream meant anything at all then my money is on this being a boy.
ETA I'm planning on finding out ASAP. Because I'll be 40 during this pregnancy I get NIPT free so we'll likely find out early. I would love to be team green but I don't have the patience. I need to know everything. Now.
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Post by lolacachia on Oct 19, 2018 7:12:44 GMT -6
I knew DS was a DS. My mil was obnoxious about insisting she just knew I was having a girl. I knew she was wrong. And she was lol.
My last pregnancy I just knew it was a little girl. We opted not to do genetic testing so we will never know for sure, but I still feel it in my heart.
This time, I'm not sure yet. Gotta wait for more symptoms and see how I'm feeling about it lol
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Post by bonzo on Oct 19, 2018 8:05:55 GMT -6
Because we did PGS testing on our embryos, we had the sex in our file. The embryologist offered to tell us the day of transfer, but we decided we wanted to wait until we saw the heartbeat. So, after our appointment yesterday, our nurse checked our file, and it’s a boy!
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Post by mamabear02 on Oct 19, 2018 8:25:06 GMT -6
I was sure with DS that he was a boy. This one I'd certainly be happy either way, but have been feeling like it's a girl for some reason.
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Post by sunny75 on Oct 19, 2018 8:33:30 GMT -6
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Post by sunny75 on Oct 19, 2018 8:41:27 GMT -6
We'll be team green again like for our first pregnancy. I never really bothered to make any guesses the first time but towards the end of my pregnancy everybody started saying I was having a girl. So I wasn't too surprised when she was in fact a girl. I carried her super high so I'll be curious to see what happens this time.
I think it would be fun to have a boy just to experience something totally different. But I would also really really love another girl. My sister and I very close and I love for my DD to have the same bond with a sister. Also we live in a tiny two bedroom house so it would a little easier to have two girls I think.
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Post by sammysam on Oct 19, 2018 9:31:34 GMT -6
bonzo Oooh! So excited for you. Boys are awesome! sunny75 Your feelings of boy vs girl are exactly mine!
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Post by courtniko on Oct 19, 2018 11:18:56 GMT -6
sammysam, somewhat similar to you, way before I was pregnant with this one I had a dream that I was at my parents house, and I had my 2 kids running around, and I was holding a baby girl. I vividly remember thinking in the dream that I only have 2 kids, but I knew all 3 were mine. So I have always kind of thought I would end up with a girl. But after my 10 week US I have been saying boy for no particular reason. We have a girl and a boy already. I will be extremely excited either way, and also slightly disappointed with way.
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Post by sammysam on Oct 19, 2018 11:38:52 GMT -6
courtniko Yes! That comment about being extremely excited but slightly disappointed...that is a perfect way of expressing it! It's crazy what dreams can do. But I fully believe that our subconscious is surprisingly insightful;)
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Post by sunny75 on Oct 19, 2018 13:46:12 GMT -6
Does anybody have any advice on how to deal with people "pressuring" you to have either a boy or a girl? After I had my DD I was shocked how many people made comments to me such as "you better hope the next one is a boy or your husband is going to be disappointed." (That one just floored me. I didnt know people still said/thought stuff like that) And also (from my inlaws) "You better hope the next one is a boy other wise you'll be forced to try for a third."
So anyways what would you say if somebody said that to you? I'm not going to be ok with comments like that during my pregnancy and after if we have a girl. So I would like to have a response ready to just put an end to those comments right away!
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Post by lolacachia on Oct 19, 2018 14:10:30 GMT -6
Does anybody have any advice on how to deal with people "pressuring" you to have either a boy or a girl? After I had my DD I was shocked how many people made comments to me such as "you better hope the next one is a boy or your husband is going to be disappointed." (That one just floored me. I didnt know people still said/thought stuff like that) And also (from my inlaws) "You better hope the next one is a boy other wise you'll be forced to try for a third." So anyways what would you say if somebody said that to you? I'm not going to be ok with comments like that during my pregnancy and after if we have a girl. So I would like to have a response ready to just put an end to those comments right away! A. Smile and nod. B. You can't be serious? I find as I'm getting older and navigating life after loss I like to put people in their place when they say stupid shit lol
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Post by sammysam on Oct 19, 2018 14:22:21 GMT -6
sunny75 I agree with lolacachia that I'd probably say something. Probably like "I don't think any parents now a days care what sex their baby is so long as it's healthy and happy". Because of all the boys in my family everyone was thrilled we had a girl. I thought SO would maybe be leaning towards wanting a boy this time but so far it's all girl names he keeps suggesting.
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Post by quinstar on Oct 19, 2018 17:42:51 GMT -6
I have no idea. Last time I couldn't eat and I was exhausted. This time, I feel like crap, have actual waves of nausea, and am starving. So whenever I eat I feel sick immediately after. I don't remember feeling so gross and uncomfortable last time, but things aren't completely different or strikingly opposite.
We hoped for boy with DS. Now it will be cool to see him be an older brother to either. I'm hoping for girl, but my whole family says I'm only getting boys, so there's that. They also said I'd only get girls when we mentioned wanting a boy with DS, so, you know. Super supportive bunch.
We'd like a boy and girl, but we wouldn't be disappointed with two boys.
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Post by sunny75 on Oct 19, 2018 17:49:28 GMT -6
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Post by sammysam on Oct 19, 2018 19:30:45 GMT -6
quinstar my mom is like that. She kept telling me for years DD would be a spoiled brat because she was an only...and then when we got pregnant she laughed and said "you think you could actually handle more than one kid?". Yep. So much support here too. She has been way better since the losses but I still side eye 90% of what she says on a daily basis.
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Post by quinstar on Oct 19, 2018 20:14:30 GMT -6
quinstar my mom is like that. She kept telling me for years DD would be a spoiled brat because she was an only...and then when we got pregnant she laughed and said "you think you could actually handle more than one kid?". Yep. So much support here too. She has been way better since the losses but I still side eye 90% of what she says on a daily basis. My family is mostly just being annoying just to be annoying, it's not all in seriousness they just like to press my buttons. But my MIL has some very side eye worthy crap that comes out of her mouth. She's rooting for another boy, and told me I'd just have to deal with it if we don't get a girl. Yeah thanks. Parents can suck. It's incredible that they can say things like that without realizing how shitty that makes us feel.
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Post by sammysam on Oct 20, 2018 6:00:30 GMT -6
quinstar No kidding. I know my mom doesn't realize what she's saying but still. When it was taking us months to conceive she kept telling me about how she always conceived their first time trying. So unhelpful:/
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Post by quinstar on Oct 20, 2018 8:58:55 GMT -6
quinstar No kidding. I know my mom doesn't realize what she's saying but still. When it was taking us months to conceive she kept telling me about how she always conceived their first time trying. So unhelpful:/ Ugh. Ick.
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Post by elephantastic on Oct 20, 2018 9:41:16 GMT -6
We were team green the first time and I loved it.
This time we will find out because I have 5 totes of vacuum sealed girl clothes that will need to get out of the house before this baby comes if it’s a boy.
I don’t really have a strong preference. I love my girl and a boy would be fine. This will probably be our last baby.
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Post by elephantastic on Oct 20, 2018 9:44:18 GMT -6
Everyone assumes my H will want a boy because E was a girl. Our OB made the first comment (because not many people know). I think H would like a boy so we have one of each but he loves having a girl so he says he doesn’t care either way.
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Post by sammysam on Oct 20, 2018 11:54:35 GMT -6
elephantastic I think my SO is the same. Deep down I think he would like a boy because he and his dad were so close and I know he misses that. But he is smitten with DD. She has him wrapped around her pinky finger so I think he would also be thrilled with another girl. I think he's expecting another girl.
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Post by sammysam on Oct 20, 2018 19:17:06 GMT -6
@starzia No boys in 19 years??? That is crazy! But now that you said it you might be the one to break the streak;)
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Post by sunny75 on Oct 20, 2018 19:45:10 GMT -6
@starzia, Wow that's crazy. What are the odds of having no boys born in a family for that long. Are you nervous about having two kids in a two bedroom? I'm going back and forth between it's not big deal, and omg what are we thinking. I think I'm not really worried about having room for both children, I'm just more worried about naps and sleep schedules being difficult to coordinate whenever the baby does eventually move into DDs room.
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Post by sammysam on Oct 21, 2018 5:55:40 GMT -6
sunny75 Since we'll still be living with my parents for the next 1.5 years (we just decided to tear down the house we were renovating and start from scratch...) DD and I will be bed sharing and LO will be in a bassinet and then hopefully crib in the same room. Luckily DD is in school already so daytime sleep isn't an issue but I'm worried about her being kept up by the baby and being super tired for school. Even when our house is eventually ready we'll likely all share a room until DD decides she wants to be on her own.
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Post by bearfootzcontinued on Oct 25, 2018 11:20:48 GMT -6
I would like to stay team green this time. The first time we planned to but with it being twins decided to find out. Made 2nd hand shopping a lot easier.
I think I'd really like DD to have a sister and DH would really like DS to have a brother, but we'd both be happy either way. The kids don't know yet but just recently they've been frequently mentioning how they'd like a little brother or sister. DD even offered to help do diaper changes, which I hope she remembers.
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Post by sammysam on Oct 26, 2018 7:30:23 GMT -6
Alright. I'm feeling more and more like this is a girl. And because of that it'll likely be a boy.
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Post by lolacachia on Oct 27, 2018 13:23:43 GMT -6
Alright. I'm feeling more and more like this is a girl. And because of that it'll likely be a boy. I was just thinking the same thing!!
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Post by bearfootzcontinued on Oct 29, 2018 8:42:12 GMT -6
I dreamt the other night that it's twin boys. I also dreamt that the house is haunted, and last night in my dream my husband surprised us with a trip on this super duper fast train to the Grand Canyon and we chatted with WW2 heroes on the way there. What I'm saying, is that I'm not buying anything blue just yet.
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Post by courtniko on Oct 29, 2018 8:53:59 GMT -6
I am past 12 weeks and still sick, so this is closer to my pregnancy with DS than my pregnancy with DD. But I am also way less healthy than I was with either pregnancy, and way more tired, so my body may just hate me right now.
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