hawkward
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Post by hawkward on Oct 18, 2018 6:47:56 GMT -6
Age: 3.5
Milestones: He's doing fantastically socially when he's always been so painfully shy. It's been nice to see. He talks to all our neighbors now, and they're all so shocked that they stop and give him their full attention. It's adorable and DS2 eats it up.
Challenges: He's been quite pleasant this week. He's not sleeping well though, which is slowly killing me.
Funny/cute stories: I started him at the YMCA's childwatch program for while DS1 is in homeschool PE. Tuesday was his second day (the first day he was only in there for about ten minutes while I did paperwork), and he walked in and said, "hi. I'm DS2 and I'm here to play with your cars." He had so much fun he didn't want to leave.
How are you? Tired but happy. I'm finding my groove still.
Anything else? Nope.
QOTW: Reese's or Kit Kats. You can't make me choose!
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addymac
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Post by addymac on Oct 19, 2018 1:03:33 GMT -6
Age: almost 14mo 😱
Milestones: he now says diaper and thank you! He knows how to go up and down stairs while holding one hand to yours and one hand on the railing. He learned how to pucker his lips to kiss but doesn’t have the noise part down. He STTN two nights in a row!
Challenges: listening when we say no. He flat out ignores us but will listen to our nanny. Idk wtf to do.
Funny/cute stories: if you ask him for a kiss he leans in and puckers up and then you have to finish it but ugh it warms my heart when he just does it spontaneously.
How are you? Tired. Working overnight tonight (Thursday) so I am tiiiiired. Not looking forward to Friday evening / night. I always sleep like crap after a night rotation and then dh picked up an extra shift to work overnight on Friday night so I won’t even see him til Saturday. This is after he did two weeks of night shift. And it’s my only weekend off where he’s off. But not really bc he’s going to be sleeping. 😒
Anything else? How do you discipline a 14mo who understands what you are saying but ignores you? I know he understands bc he will smile and keep doing it or laugh and do it or, sometimes he will start to do it and then run away when we scold him. Or, just simple things like please sit during storytime. He will sit patiently for our nanny but refuses and just runs around when I take him- this was confirmed by the librarian and another mom today 😞 I feel like I have no control even though I try so hard. He pushed another little kid today and I’m like wtf? Nanny never said he did anything like that I don’t think he’s ever done that in front of her so why the fuck is he doing it around me? I was mortified and don’t know how to discipline except removing him from storytime. But then we both suffer bc he needs to learn to interact better and he needs the stimulation and to run around his energy off so he naps and sleeps well. Plus I want to do enjoyable things on days I don’t work, so how do I balance discipline and having fun?
QOTW: Best Halloween candy?
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hawkward
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Post by hawkward on Oct 19, 2018 6:39:28 GMT -6
addymac, testing a parent in situations where another caregiver isn't is perfectly normal (and healthy, actually), although I know it's super frustrating. You are his person, and he knows no matter what, you're still going to be his person. Every time he does something obnoxious and you continue to love him, he's confirming that your love for him is unconditional. He doesn't do it with the nanny because she can come and go. But it's still socially unacceptable, and the best way of teaching him that is to remove him from the situation, and verbalizing how disappointed you are that you didn't get to do the fun thing. It's going to take a lot of repetition for him to get it.
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addymac
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Post by addymac on Oct 19, 2018 7:45:42 GMT -6
hawkward thanks, girl. Like I know what you’re saying but it helps to read it and I know I just have to reinforce and be consistent. I just hate meltdowns that happen when I am steadfast in my no and feel guilty bc I only get 3 days/wk with him so I just want to be fun mommy not discipline mommy. But I survived cio so I will survive this too, right? Haha
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Post by mirabelle on Oct 19, 2018 10:08:20 GMT -6
Age: 3.5
Milestones:
Challenges: he’s really got an attitude. I think it’s because he’s not getting enough sleep so I’m trying to course correct that.
Funny/cute stories:
How are you? Tired, getting the flu shot today
Anything else?
QOTW: Best Halloween candy? This year I’m really crazy about junior mints
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