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Post by strawberrykiki on Oct 18, 2018 14:14:42 GMT -6
I think keeping it a surprise is really cool for people who can stand to wait! I just couldn’t wait. I’m glad we found out because even though I feel bad I had always imagined having a daughter first and MH and I were convinced the baby was a girl. I’m glad I’ve had a lot of time to get used to the baby being a boy and get excited thinking of boy names and buying boy clothes. I seriously hope that I wouldn’t have been disappointed in the delivery room thinking the baby was a girl when he wasn’t but I don’t know. 🤷♀️ I feel like an awful person to have had an initial preference because I already love him so much!
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Post by sunshiney on Oct 18, 2018 16:08:54 GMT -6
strawberrykiki don't feel bad, I think it's normal! I went into this pregnancy knowing I had a strong preference for a girl so I knew I definitely needed to find out to avoid potential disappointment once baby was here!
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Post by thelittleredm on Oct 18, 2018 21:22:57 GMT -6
strawberrykiki, Honestly, feeling disappointment was a huge worry of mine with DS2 and exactly why I decided not to find out. I didn't want to be looking at an ultrasound in an intimate setting and feel disappointed because we were having another boy. I figured after the pains of labor and the rush of endorphins and what not, I'd be in a much better place mentally to deal with not getting the girl I wanted and I'd care a heck of a lot less; I'd just want to snuggle my new baby. But if it had been a girl, I would've been extremely surprised and probably a sobbing mess. Lol It seemed more like a winning situation to me. I totally get being worried about feeling disappointed. I think it's awful to shame mothers or fathers about it. It isn't you thinking your baby isn't good enough or that you'll love them less. You just spent half your pregnancy imagining what life would be like after baby and it just didn't match up with reality. It takes some getting used to and changing your perspective, that's it. You still love your baby just as much as before.
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Post by thelittleredm on Oct 19, 2018 12:06:21 GMT -6
Had our scan this morning. Baby girl is still a girl Lol And all her measurements are perfect! She's measuring a couple days behind but not enough that they think they need to move the due date. It took almost an hour longer than I expected because I guess the doctor has to go over the results with us and he took some extra pictures before they moved us over to chat with a genetic counselor. They're having us go back in 6 weeks for a growth scan but that's it!
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Post by sunshiney on Oct 19, 2018 14:16:16 GMT -6
Had PT today for what OB said was diastasis, plus back pain, well I don't actually have it...I have a very slight and short partial separation high on my abdomen which they said was from an earlier injury from an intense ab workout and not pregnancy, I don't really have great risk for DR although they're helping me deal with the coning issue. As far as back pain, I am so relieved I want to cry because they have an answer for the pain I've had off and on since high school and they're going to help me with it... My sacral iliac joint gets out of place and that throws off everything. I have to do some pretty painful exercises to get my brain to fire the right muscles instead of the wrong ones to better support my core but it should make a difference in a lot of issues esp as pregnancy progresses. So my OB is an idiot and scared me for no reason, but I'm happy to be seeing the PT.
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Post by thelittleredm on Oct 19, 2018 16:18:04 GMT -6
sunshiney, That's great news! I mean, the exercises are clearly going to suck for now but I'm glad you're getting help. I feel so tired today. I can barely keep my focus or my eyes open. Working late to make up for missing this morning and I have to keep reminding myself I need the hours and that's why I can't just leave.
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Post by cch on Oct 20, 2018 7:09:48 GMT -6
thelittleredm Austyn is super cute! Yay for a good scan! We took DD to the fair yesterday and she had so much fun! Bummed I didn’t get to ride much with her this year but it was super sweet seeing her light up riding all the rides she could with MH. We were there for 6 hours so I’m still feeling beat today but it was totally worth it!
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Post by thelittleredm on Oct 21, 2018 8:53:50 GMT -6
I miss going to the fair! Our cruise was over fair week this year but we've really cut back on going since H doesn't handle the crowds well.
The kids stayed at my parents last night so H and I are having a breakfast date! Normally, we'd just hit up a drive thru for burritos but he actually took me somewhere to sit inside lol
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Post by strawberrykiki on Oct 21, 2018 11:01:49 GMT -6
@amc aww MH and I are the opposite for now. He works from home so he can’t wait to spend all weekend doing things outside our house and I’ve been at work all week so I all I want to do is not leave the house all weekend. We try to compromise. We haven’t had a kiddo in the mix yet so I’m sure they’ll shake things up!
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Post by sunshiney on Oct 21, 2018 13:40:41 GMT -6
My goal this weekend was to help DH have a nice restorative time since he is so stressed and time pressed during the work week that it's like I don't even have a hubby some evenings. We ended up spontaneously celebrating his birthday a few days early with my family yesterday (I made cake and a lasagna), then last minute went out to brunch today with a former coworker of mine. The rest of the time just gave him lovey attention when he wanted it, time to chill with video games when he wanted it, and help narrowing down his birthday tattoo design (a cover up for his ex's name, ha, so happy to help move that along!). This morning he said he felt like our house is a resort or a hotel and that we're on vacation. Mission accomplished! Of course now I'm expecting a little more attention throughout the week when he comes home and I've been alone all day, but we'll see...
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Post by hrh on Oct 21, 2018 19:27:21 GMT -6
sunshiney, so glad PT is helping and correctly diagnosing you! ❤️ Yay for no DR, I hope that continues for you.
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Post by hrh on Oct 21, 2018 19:31:12 GMT -6
Foxy where's your shower thread? 😉 I want to live vicariously through you guys. I had my share with my first but know there won't be anything this time so want to see the goods! What was your fave gift so far? Worst gift?
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Post by Foxy on Oct 22, 2018 12:25:55 GMT -6
Foxy where's your shower thread? 😉 I want to live vicariously through you guys. I had my share with my first but know there won't be anything this time so want to see the goods! What was your fave gift so far? Worst gift? I wasn't sure if I should or not lol I'll make a thread now!
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