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Post by stampingqueen on Jun 19, 2017 14:39:13 GMT -6
DD is 2.5 and has been having a few days where she's been biting kids in her class. A couple weeks ago, she hit an older kid. Today? She bit two of her classmates.
We read the Little Dino books (don't hit, don't bite). We talk about gentle touches, tell her to be easy, etc. Any other advice? She doesn't bite at home, it's just with the other kids.
I will also ask her teachers what they recommend as well.
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Post by littlelion on Jun 19, 2017 15:52:11 GMT -6
I've read helping them express themselves help. Such as saying "I don't like that" and turning to the teacher for help.
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Post by billyhorrible on Jun 19, 2017 16:00:28 GMT -6
In my VERY limited experience, biting does seem pretty correlated to language/expression. You're doing a great job with her at home, reinforcing good behaviors, but it's hard for them to connect those in the moment when they're frustrated.
Her teachers should be watching for "triggers" - such as when her and another child are playing with the same toy, or wanting to do the same thing. It's unlikely she's just walking around minding her own business, then biting someone out of nowhere.
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Post by stampingqueen on Jun 19, 2017 16:13:21 GMT -6
In my VERY limited experience, biting does seem pretty correlated to language/expression. You're doing a great job with her at home, reinforcing good behaviors, but it's hard for them to connect those in the moment when they're frustrated. Her teachers should be watching for "triggers" - such as when her and another child are playing with the same toy, or wanting to do the same thing. It's unlikely she's just walking around minding her own business, then biting someone out of nowhere. they are usually fighting over a toy or something. She does not just randomly bite or hit. Which is good. I can see she uses it in frustration. They are also working on describing feelings. She does say things like "I'm sad". Maybe we need to work on frustrated or something.
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Post by jillywilly on Jun 19, 2017 18:26:49 GMT -6
We have been going through this. DS just turned two, and it's always related to him being frustrated somebody took a toy or something. It got to the point where one of the directors emailed me about it. Ultimately, we moved him up a room (he was due to move soon anyway), which has helped a bit being with older kids and having new/more stimulation. He also has a banana brush that he often likes chewing on in the car, so I keep that at school now, and if the teachers see him playing with other kids with some of his more triggering toys (he gets possessive of trains and sand toys most apparently), they'll hand him the banana. We also read "Teeth are not for biting" quite a bit. And mostly, we're waiting for the phase to pass completely, though fingers crossed, we've made it through two days of no biting now!
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Post by italianmommy on Jun 20, 2017 10:48:51 GMT -6
Since this is a trigger scenario for her, something to practice when a toy is ripped from her hands or stolen (since I don't consider that "sharing") is teaching your kid "that's mine." If you're of the mindset that this should be considered an opportunity for sharing, then so be it. But I feel it's more appropriate to encouraging sharing when it's more turn taking/one kid asks another to play with the toy versus it getting ripped from their hands and being forced to "share".
If it's happening with the same toy/same child, perhaps the teacher has some ideas on how to intervene before it escalates (if they're able to identify a pattern). Perhaps if it's involving the same few kids, they can all learn a bit about turn taking, redirection, and verbal expression surrounding their play with each other.
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Post by pinkie on Jun 23, 2017 8:12:34 GMT -6
Our younger son went through a period of hitting and a few instances of biting between 2-2.5. He was behind with language and when a kid got in his space he reacted vs using words. He is way more verbal now and the hitting/biting has almost totally stopped. His speech therapist focused a lot on teaching him "that's mine" and "I need help" and his teachers watched out for when he was using these phrases to help intervene if he needed it. I do think it's a stage - we also read hands are not for hitting a lot
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