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Post by bearfootzcontinued on Nov 5, 2018 10:00:34 GMT -6
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Post by midnight on Nov 5, 2018 16:20:11 GMT -6
My doctor is pushing a VBAC. DH is 100% team RCS, he heard uterine rupture and was immediately out. I just don't know yet. I am leaning RCS for lots of reasons, and I expected an easy conversation with my Dr. but she started in on how it just depends on how the baby is doing, weighing and facing towards the end. It's clear she'd like to go VBAC, and even said it depends on how many kids we want too. I didn't think 3 was to many? If we want no more than 3 kids, is 3 CSs uncommon? Sorry to butt in, just thought I would tell you my experience! I had a CS with my first and then a VBAC with my second. Uterine Ruptures are actually extremely rare and you can still have one (albeit an even rarer occurence) if you've never had a CS. I am pro birth, if a CS is your comfort zone DO IT, but if you're at least entertaining the idea of a VBAC, do some research and really know your comfort zone!! If you have any questions, dont hesitate to ask!! |
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Post by quinstar on Nov 6, 2018 9:49:38 GMT -6
My doctor is pushing a VBAC. DH is 100% team RCS, he heard uterine rupture and was immediately out. I just don't know yet. I am leaning RCS for lots of reasons, and I expected an easy conversation with my Dr. but she started in on how it just depends on how the baby is doing, weighing and facing towards the end. It's clear she'd like to go VBAC, and even said it depends on how many kids we want too. I didn't think 3 was to many? If we want no more than 3 kids, is 3 CSs uncommon? Sorry to butt in, just thought I would tell you my experience! I had a CS with my first and then a VBAC with my second. Uterine Ruptures are actually extremely rare and you can still have one (albeit an even rarer occurence) if you've never had a CS. I am pro birth, if a CS is your comfort zone DO IT, but if you're at least entertaining the idea of a VBAC, do some research and really know your comfort zone!! If you have any questions, dont hesitate to ask!! I'd truly like to do a VBAC, but there are a few other factors that push me towards CS. We live two hours from any sort of decent hospital, and I didn't get to experience natural labor last time, they messed up my induction so I have no idea how it would go naturally. I also have problems with my SI joint that I've been told can worsen after giving birth, so that gives me pause as well. I would really like to try for a VBAC, but there's just a lot of things pulling me both ways. |
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Post by bonzo on Nov 9, 2018 13:41:34 GMT -6
How would you handle telling extended family at Thanksgiving? We’ll be doing dinners with both my family and H’s. Everyone who will be at my side’s dinner already knows, but H’s side involves more aunts, uncles and cousins who don’t know yet. I’m not sure if I want to do a big announcement thing, or say something quietly to the organizing cousin beforehand. I did find a shirt on Etsy that says “extra thankful this year” and has 2 baby footprints, but I could easily wear it either day.
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Post by Bmbrinson on Nov 9, 2018 13:58:30 GMT -6
How would you handle telling extended family at Thanksgiving? We’ll be doing dinners with both my family and H’s. Everyone who will be at my side’s dinner already knows, but H’s side involves more aunts, uncles and cousins who don’t know yet. I’m not sure if I want to do a big announcement thing, or say something quietly to the organizing cousin beforehand. I did find a shirt on Etsy that says “extra thankful this year” and has 2 baby footprints, but I could easily wear it either day. I wore a shirt similar to one gathering and waited to for people to notice. I also got cute cards from Target put an ultrasound image and handed them to my grandma and mom at the same time.   |
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Post by courtniko on Nov 9, 2018 14:07:58 GMT -6
bonzo, I think the shirt idea is cute! I am awkward, and never know how to just bring up that I am pregnant, so an easy ice breaker like the shirt is a good way to do that. You can always tell the biggest talker first, and the news will spread on it's own quickly.
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Post by bonzo on Nov 9, 2018 14:10:39 GMT -6
Bmbrinson, all the parents and siblings already know. And my aunt knows, and one of H’s cousins. So it’s the rest of the cousins and his aunts and uncles we’re announcing to. I want to do something fun, but I also know we’re not the first in this set of cousins to struggle with infertility (the one who already knows did too) so I want to be sensitive in case anyone has stuff going on that I”m not aware of. Because surprise announcements sucked for me this time last year.
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Post by mamabear02 on Nov 9, 2018 15:12:22 GMT -6
bonzo, I told my extended family at Christmas gatherings with DS and basically told whoever I saw as most important (in those cases my dad and grandma) and people overheard and news spread from there. I like the idea of the shirt though. I plan on using a big brother shirt on DS to tell people this time.
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Post by bearfootzcontinued on Nov 10, 2018 18:38:26 GMT -6
How would you handle telling extended family at Thanksgiving? We’ll be doing dinners with both my family and H’s. Everyone who will be at my side’s dinner already knows, but H’s side involves more aunts, uncles and cousins who don’t know yet. I’m not sure if I want to do a big announcement thing, or say something quietly to the organizing cousin beforehand. I did find a shirt on Etsy that says “extra thankful this year” and has 2 baby footprints, but I could easily wear it either day. Given that it’s a holiday centered around food, If have to make a quip about there being a bun in the oven After that I think your shirt sounds darling. |
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Post by mamabear02 on Nov 14, 2018 19:09:54 GMT -6
We can add my son's preschool teacher to the list. Apparently he mentioned it when they were talking about what they are thankful for, but she wasn't sure if he was just feeling left out since there's about 3 other kids who's mom's are pregnant currently. Of course, he said he's having a baby brother (which we don't know yet) so we had to have a conversation that it may be a baby sister.
We haven't even told family yet, but it's definitely harder to keep it from people I see regularly. I'm so bad at lying about how I'm feeling. I skipped a mom's night out earlier this month and one of the moms asked me if I was feeling better yesterday and I just made something up about getting over one sickness and another one coming along. And today I got asked if I've been getting enough sleep ... which no, I really have not between getting up a million times to pee and my husband's awful snoring (which doesn't usually wake me up). I'm just ready for it to be Dec 5th (our next appt and when we'll likely tell).
Sorry for the rant this turned into. 😬
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Post by bonzo on Nov 14, 2018 19:21:47 GMT -6
mamabear02, it’s so hard when people ask if you’re feeling better! I skipped a rehearsal a couple weeks ago because I was super nauseous and the director asked me the next day if I was feeling better. I had to stop and think for a minute, because the way he asked it, he definitely thought I had a cold! I can’t wait to just tell people, it will be so much easier. On a related note, when H’s one coworker was in 1st trimester, H was really concerned that she was so sick all the time. Apparently he tried to convince her to go home to rest, so she could fight off the bug faster! She’s told me he was really sweet how much he cared, but it was annoying since she wasn’t ready to share yet. Now he understands a bit better, so she and I have had some laughs about it!
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Post by mamabear02 on Nov 14, 2018 19:26:07 GMT -6
Haha bonzo, your H sounds like my 3 year old - he keeps telling me to go to the Dr. so I'll feel better when I tell him I'm not feeling well enough to do certain things. |
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Post by bearfootzcontinued on Nov 16, 2018 15:53:05 GMT -6
I just told my boss and he seemed pretty legitimately happy for me. I'm the first pregnant employee since he became manager of this department 11 years ago so this was a first for him. He told me he totally understands if I need to take any time or work from home because I'm not feeling well and wishes the best for me and can't wait to hear how my kids react to the news.
And I managed to get through the discussion without getting all teary eyed. Which, considering I cried at lunch when the holiday station played a song by The Carpenters, I think was pretty good.
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Post by courtniko on Nov 16, 2018 16:20:44 GMT -6
We have told a handful of people by now, but I am 15 weeks today.
MIL was thrilled, but complained we did not tell her earlier, then was not happy we were not ready for her to put it on facebook.
SIL was happy. BIL was nice, but we know he and his wife are having trouble right now, so we tried to be understanding of that, but we obviously still have to tell him at some point.
I told a friend at work, and she was not surprised, so I am definitely showing.
And i told one of my bosses, who was very happy for us.
We told the kids, and i am not sure they fully got it.
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Post by quinstar on Nov 16, 2018 21:18:15 GMT -6
We're about ready to announce on FB. I told my other brother today, and found out he and his wife are due in April again (Their first was born last April). Another baby to the list! I think it brings us up to six due in a two month period lol.
Today DH asked if he could start telling people, but I want to get something up on FB first. I have a cute little chalkboard that I used with DS all drawn up, so I'll take DS's picture with it and post it. Maybe tomorrow.
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Post by bonzo on Nov 17, 2018 8:17:14 GMT -6
The onesie we ordered for our FB announcement didn’t show up yet (it shipped last Saturday according to tracking, and I ordered it back in October, grr) so we have to postpone doing our announcement photo. We were hoping to get that done today, so we could post the weekend after Thanksgiving, after we’d told everyone in person. Looks like we’ll be posting a week later. Oh well!
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Post by sunny75 on Nov 17, 2018 11:06:18 GMT -6
bonzo, We are also having to wait until our outfit arrives before we can do our announcement. I'm wanting to do a Christmas themed announcement and DDs outfit is taking forever to arrive. I'm so impatient!
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Post by bonzo on Nov 17, 2018 11:20:25 GMT -6
sunny75, I’m impatient too! It feels like it’s taking forever! It doesn’t help that on tracking, it shows that it just sat in Phoenix for a couple days. Just get it here, postal workers! I’m so excited about what we’re doing for our official announcement, though. The onesie says “brought to you by love and science” and we’re going to do a heart with all my syringes from IVF. I found some great inspiration on Pinterest. I have a good friend who is a photographer who will be doing the pictures, and we’re going to get some with us too. We haven’t done professional photos since probably our wedding, so I wanted to take advantage of the opportunity and toss in some photos of us!
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Post by bonzo on Nov 25, 2018 9:01:31 GMT -6
The shirt for Thanksgiving was fun! I just wore it, and didn’t say anything at first. It took almost 2 hours before one cousin noticed it, and then of course everyone was like “wait, have you been wearing that the whole time?” Yes, yes I have. It was great getting to share with all the cousins.
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Post by sunny75 on Nov 25, 2018 13:14:35 GMT -6
The shirt for Thanksgiving was fun! I just wore it, and didn’t say anything at first. It took almost 2 hours before one cousin noticed it, and then of course everyone was like “wait, have you been wearing that the whole time?” Yes, yes I have. It was great getting to share with all the cousins. That sounds like so much fun! I can't believe no one noticed for two hours! |
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Post by mamabear02 on Nov 25, 2018 13:14:59 GMT -6
We told our parents and siblings on Thanksgiving. My inlaws pretty much already knew from me not drinking when they came to visit a month ago so they didn't even act excited or surprised really which is annoying. My family is excited though!
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Post by sunny75 on Nov 25, 2018 13:17:59 GMT -6
We still haven't done a social media announcement but yesterday my MIL kind of announced on FB anyway. MH and I weren't tagged in the picture so none of our friends saw it but it still annoyed me. Wait until after we tell everybody to start putting stuff on social media!
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Post by mamabear02 on Nov 25, 2018 14:17:45 GMT -6
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Post by quinstar on Nov 25, 2018 15:35:26 GMT -6
sunny75, ugh. My mom spilled it to the out of state family when she went for a trip, and ugh, that's annoying.
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Post by lolacachia on Nov 26, 2018 9:12:14 GMT -6
We still haven't told many people. If there is a heartbeat at my next appt (12/11) then we will probably do something cute to let our family know around christmas.
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Post by bonzo on Dec 7, 2018 13:53:09 GMT -6
I just announced on FB! It’s out there in the world now! That’s both nerve wracking and a huge relief.
Now I just need to tell the one department chair I barely know and never see...is it too weird to share in an email? I seriously don’t think I’ve seen him since the very first week of the semester.
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Post by bearfootzcontinued on Dec 12, 2018 16:51:40 GMT -6
One of the attorneys that I work with is normally a great guy, but every now and then something switches and he turns into a demanding a-hole. I wasn't able to tolerate it today and shocked the hell out of him when I told him he was welcome to do the task if he didn't think I was doing it correctly. Then I had to sit there and tell my tears they'd better not creep out of my eyes! He knew he'd been a jerk and went out of his way to be nicer. Later in the day he said he had an excuse for acting the way he did - that he needs a root canal and had a tooth ache. I told him my excuse for responding the way I did and he felt like an ass.
Anyhow, that's one coworker that knows now.
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