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Post by sunny75 on Oct 5, 2018 13:15:04 GMT -6
I know it's still kind of early for most of us but who have you told about your pregnancy? When do you plan on telling your boss at work? Any plans for a social media announcement?
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Post by sunny75 on Oct 5, 2018 13:27:36 GMT -6
Everybody who knew we were doing fertility treatments I told like the morning after I got my postive test. They knew I was testing over Labor Day weekend so everybody was patiently waiting. So that was my mom, sister, a couple coworkers, and my best friend. I've told the rest of my family after my ultrasound. I left telling my inlaws up to MH and he hasn't gotten around to it yet.
I'm actually pretty good friends with my boss because we worked together for years before she was my boss but I'm still kind of nervous. I always feel like I'm leaving her in a bind when I go out for my leave. Luckily I'll be going out in during our slow time next year so hopefully it won't be a big deal. With my DD I had to go out on leave during the holidays and during our whole busy season. My old boss was not very happy then.
Not sure if we'll do a social media announcement but if I do it'll probably be after the anatomy scan. I would definitely like to do a cute announcement though! Last time I had a sign that said "Our family is growing" and we had all of our pets in the picture with us. I kind of want to do something totally different this time though so not sure!
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Post by courtniko on Oct 5, 2018 16:17:38 GMT -6
I have told a few randoms, the dentist when I got my crown, including an xray, and the director of the daycare so we can reserve a spot. Though those don't really count.
I told my parents last night since I am in town visiting, and this is my only chance before Christmas to tell them in person. They were... not excited.
I may tell my brother since he is coming down to visit tomorrow while I am in town. And I will probably tell a friend that I am seeing today, that again, I will not see in person for a long time after this.
I have not even had my first appointment yet, even though I am 9 weeks today, so until then I don't foresee telling anyone else, including our kids (the 4 year old will definitely blab to everyone)
I am not sure if we will do a FB announcement. But once we tell MIL, she will want to tell the world, including facebook. It is her chance to be the center of attention. So we may do a facebook announcement just so her's is not ours (since she will tag us in it).
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Post by skidevil87 on Oct 5, 2018 17:42:44 GMT -6
I plan on telling our in-laws after our 8 week ultrasound (IVF pregnancy)and this will be their first grand child. My sister knows and a few of my best friends know. My boss knows just because of my FMLA paperwork, but she's genuinely rooting for me, so I don't mind. The RE I work for also knows because my actual RE is kind of a buzzkill, so he's been talking me off the ledge. We plan to tell my parents as late as possible just because they don't know how to keep a secret- I'll probably wait until we get released to OBGYN and tell my entire family before my parents (for frame of reference- my brother and sister were both having babies last year and my parents spilled the beans to our favorite aunt and posted on facebook before my sister and brother had a chance to tell them not to... needless to say, I will be avoiding that fiasco).
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Post by quinstar on Oct 5, 2018 18:24:04 GMT -6
My mom found out on accident, so we told MIL too, and she is so incredibly excited it's ridiculous. She's almost blabbed to EVERYONE. She misunderstood and thought we were 12 weeks along, so when I corrected her I hope she realizes we're serious about not saying anything to people yet. We told one of DH's cousins who told us she was due a couple weeks earlier, because DH couldn't keep it in.
Told the pedi dentist, and the pedi when we went for DS's 18 month appointment. I actually can't wait to tell people because I'm basically a big mess of emotions, cravings and nausea, it's pretty hard to hide sometimes.
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Post by courtniko on Oct 5, 2018 19:36:18 GMT -6
quinstar, not telling people in first tri is so hard, since I want to be able to give the reason I feel so awful all the time, rather than trying to hide it. skidevil87, my MIL did something similar, but not as bad with our second. Literally the last thing we said before hanging up after telling her was that we wanted to tell SIL ourselves, and she agreed. After hanging up we tried to call SIL, but could not get through. 3 minutes later SIL called to congratulate us. MIL said she was just too excited to hold it in. Yeah, no, you could have waited 3 minutes. Then we had to tell others over email rather than on video conference because she refused to keep it off facebook long enough for us to tell everyone how we wanted to. I will be reminding DH of this when the time comes to tell her, that she will be last of the important people. I will probably tell work once I hit second tri. I need to be sure to not end up on any travel or projects that would interfere with maternity leave. My work is really awesome with this stuff, so that is good.
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Post by sunny75 on Oct 5, 2018 19:40:21 GMT -6
courtniko are your parents not excited because it's the third child? I'm sorry that has to be hard. skidevil87, yikes yeah definitely hold off on telling your parents lol. I would think it would be common sense not to share somebody else's news on social media but people are crazy.
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Post by skidevil87 on Oct 5, 2018 20:15:36 GMT -6
courtniko are your parents not excited because it's the third child? I'm sorry that has to be hard. skidevil87, yikes yeah definitely hold off on telling your parents lol. I would think it would be common sense not to share somebody else's news on social media but people are crazy. It is common sense, but I get it. They were just so excited. It was the first grandkids for my family, my kid will be #3, but they’ve been waiting to hear these words from me for 4 years. I just want to keep it our little secret as long as possible. It will be pretty easy though- I won’t see anyone from my side until the first week in December.
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Post by courtniko on Oct 6, 2018 8:54:56 GMT -6
courtniko are your parents not excited because it's the third child? I'm sorry that has to be hard. skidevil87, yikes yeah definitely hold off on telling your parents lol. I would think it would be common sense not to share somebody else's news on social media but people are crazy. I am not sure about my dad, I think he is more happy about it maybe. My mom is not a big kid person, and thinks with 3 it will be too hard for us to travel to come visit them. I think she is also worried about me, and thinks this will make my life harder.
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Post by bonzo on Oct 7, 2018 7:32:27 GMT -6
At this point, we’re only telling the people who knew about our FET. So far, our parents, my sister and one aunt, and a couple of my best friends. There are a few other friends we’ll probably tell after the ultrasound.
We are planning on doing a social media announcement, probably after Thanksgiving. I’ll hit 2nd tri right at Thanksgiving, so we’ll be able to share with some extended family in person when we’re home that week. I’ve seen onesies on Etsy that say “made with love and science” that I like, so we’ll probably use one of those with a little photo shoot.
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Post by skidevil87 on Oct 7, 2018 10:00:03 GMT -6
At this point, we’re only telling the people who knew about our FET. So far, our parents, my sister and one aunt, and a couple of my best friends. There are a few other friends we’ll probably tell after the ultrasound. We are planning on doing a social media announcement, probably after Thanksgiving. I’ll hit 2nd tri right at Thanksgiving, so we’ll be able to share with some extended family in person when we’re home that week. I’ve seen onesies on Etsy that say “made with love and science” that I like, so we’ll probably use one of those with a little photo shoot. I was thinking the same- with maybe a "my first babysitter was an embryologist" or "the little embryo that could"
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Post by sammysam on Oct 18, 2018 20:01:13 GMT -6
OK I'm going to play.
SO knows...and the Internet. That's it. I'll probably tell my parents tomorrow since DD and I are living with them until our house is done and I need them to know just in case. But that's all. We aren't big on announcements, and other than this board, neither I nor SO are on social media. So I'll do what I did with DD. Not tell anyone and at some point I'll be big enough that everyone will just figure it out on their own. It's pretty fun watching people's faces when they realize for the first time. Although I did have one student tell me when I was around 6 months pregnant that he hoped I was pregnant and not just getting fat:/ Why do teenagers have no filters?
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Post by mamabear02 on Oct 18, 2018 21:10:27 GMT -6
H, the internet, and a few close friends know. My in laws are visiting next week so I'm hoping to keep it from them without being suspicious. I usually drink at least some around them and they are the types to call me out on it (especially since they know we've been talking about having another). I think I'll be a little ticked if that's how they find out. If they happen to do an US Friday at my appt and everything looks good we may tell them.
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Post by lolacachia on Oct 19, 2018 7:16:08 GMT -6
My H, my mom, my doctor, and one friend. I probably won't even tell Francesco until like after the anatomy scan if everything is going well. He had a very hard time with my last loss and I don't want to put him theough that again.
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Post by sammysam on Oct 19, 2018 7:25:06 GMT -6
My H, my mom, my doctor, and one friend. I probably won't even tell Francesco until like after the anatomy scan if everything is going well. He had a very hard time with my last loss and I don't want to put him theough that again. I didn't tell DD at all the pas two times. She came to every appointment and US with me but didn't know what they were for. I told her I was having trouble with my tummy. She is still traumatized from the hemorrhage so if she ever sees me bleeding or hears talk of hospitals or surgery she gets super anxious. She is almost 5 now but very adamantly does not want me to have a baby because she knows it means I have to go back to the hospital. I'm sure she'll come around but I am not telling her until much much later. At the very least not until viability (unless she figures it out sooner).
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Post by lolacachia on Oct 19, 2018 7:29:11 GMT -6
My H, my mom, my doctor, and one friend. I probably won't even tell Francesco until like after the anatomy scan if everything is going well. He had a very hard time with my last loss and I don't want to put him theough that again. I didn't tell DD at all the pas two times. She came to every appointment and US with me but didn't know what they were for. I told her I was having trouble with my tummy. She is still traumatized from the hemorrhage so if she ever sees me bleeding or hears talk of hospitals or surgery she gets super anxious. She is almost 5 now but very adamantly does not want me to have a baby because she knows it means I have to go back to the hospital. I'm sure she'll come around but I am not telling her until much much later. At the very least not until viability (unless she figures it out sooner). I'm just going to send him to MiMis one day in June and show back up with a baby lol.
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Post by sammysam on Oct 19, 2018 9:28:24 GMT -6
lolacachia Hahaha! Do you think we could pull that off? That is my actual dream way of doing it. Unfortunately with an RCS I have a minimum 3 night hospital stay. Grrr.
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Post by lolacachia on Oct 19, 2018 11:52:41 GMT -6
lolacachia Hahaha! Do you think we could pull that off? That is my actual dream way of doing it. Unfortunately with an RCS I have a minimum 3 night hospital stay. Grrr. We can do it!! Lol rcs here too.. are we fertility twins. I'm scared right now lol
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Post by sammysam on Oct 19, 2018 12:22:42 GMT -6
lolacachia Hahaha! Do you think we could pull that off? That is my actual dream way of doing it. Unfortunately with an RCS I have a minimum 3 night hospital stay. Grrr. We can do it!! Lol rcs here too.. are we fertility twins. I'm scared right now lol I love that there are 2 of us. And you're a few weeks ahead so I guess I'll always know what to expect!
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Post by sammysam on Oct 19, 2018 12:30:52 GMT -6
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Post by lolacachia on Oct 19, 2018 12:38:30 GMT -6
June 21, so will schedule rcs for 6/14 give or take a day.
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Post by sammysam on Oct 19, 2018 12:44:52 GMT -6
June 21, so will schedule rcs for 6/14 give or take a day. So I'll be about 1.5 weeks behind you. I'm going to aim for the 25th for my RCS...only because my DD has a 25 birthday and I kind of like the idea of them sharing a number...DD is Jan 25 and I'm hoping this one will be June 25:)
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Post by sunny75 on Oct 19, 2018 13:23:57 GMT -6
lolacachia, sammysam, I'll be having a RCS too. I don't know too many people IRL who have had one CS much less two so I'm glad to meet some people here!
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Post by lolacachia on Oct 19, 2018 13:48:45 GMT -6
lolacachia, sammysam, I'll be having a RCS too. I don't know too many people IRL who have had one CS much less two so I'm glad to meet some people here! I think my Dr would like to try vbac but my delivery with F was traumatic as fuck and I'm not interested.
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Post by sammysam on Oct 19, 2018 14:31:06 GMT -6
sunny75 My cousin's wife has had 3. She said the scheduled ones were so much better than the ECS she had the first time. I'm hoping that's the case. lolacachia The OB I am choosing wrote a bunch of studies on the dangers of trying vbac so I won't have to worry about him pushing for me to try one. No way am I going through a repeat of DD. She was a persistent brow presentation that they didn't catch until 27 hours unto labour...3 hours in of pushing. They almost killed both of us before rushing us to the OR. I am looking forward to this being a scheduled event!
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Post by quinstar on Oct 19, 2018 18:09:37 GMT -6
My doctor is pushing a VBAC. DH is 100% team RCS, he heard uterine rupture and was immediately out. I just don't know yet. I am leaning RCS for lots of reasons, and I expected an easy conversation with my Dr. but she started in on how it just depends on how the baby is doing, weighing and facing towards the end. It's clear she'd like to go VBAC, and even said it depends on how many kids we want too.
I didn't think 3 was to many? If we want no more than 3 kids, is 3 CSs uncommon?
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Post by sammysam on Oct 19, 2018 19:34:21 GMT -6
quinstar I think 3 is fine. I have family members who have had 3. Not sure about more than that though.
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Post by bearfootzcontinued on Oct 30, 2018 15:08:20 GMT -6
lolacachia , sammysam , I'll be having a RCS too. I don't know too many people IRL who have had one CS much less two so I'm glad to meet some people here! I had a C-section with the twins and am guessing will have a RCS but will have to ask about that at my first appointment. I wouldn't be opposed to trying VBAC, but not sure if I'm a good candidate. I know that some hospitals in the area offer the family centered C-sections where they put up a clear divider so you can see the birth, but don't know that the hospital that I'd be at does that.
As far as telling - I told DH when I basically asked if I was seeing things when I took the first test, and then barged in on him in the shower to look at the second test. No big fun reveal stories there. I also told two of my sisters because we were supposed to go on a weekend getaway and I had to bail because my lab work wasn't so great and needed follow up - and I just wasn't up for a weekend away. It was hard for me to tell them, but did feel better knowing they were saying prayers for me and baby.
Depending on how things go we might tell friends and family just before Christmas or New Year's. Part of me wants to wait longer though. We'll see.
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Post by Bmbrinson on Nov 2, 2018 16:01:40 GMT -6
Everyone here knows. We told everyone last week when I was 10ish weeks. We took my 2 girls to our 8 week ultrasound, but amazing the kept it quite. I then put a social media post up soon after because my mom has zero chill. Here is our announcement
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Post by sunny75 on Nov 3, 2018 8:32:54 GMT -6
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