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Post by flamingo on Aug 27, 2018 16:10:48 GMT -6
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Post by chrisy01 on Aug 27, 2018 16:59:52 GMT -6
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Post by wedding on Aug 27, 2018 17:05:13 GMT -6
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Post by wineallthetime on Aug 27, 2018 17:07:26 GMT -6
Guys, Sing is amazing and her kids are the cutest! No, wine and her kids are the cutest! Seriously - so sweet and polite! Not like my heathens! Your kids were great! You should have seen mine when we got home, yiiikes. |
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Post by wedding on Aug 27, 2018 17:37:30 GMT -6
Guys, Sing is amazing and her kids are the cutest! Aww now I’m jealous! I met Sing but not her kids. |
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Post by chrisy01 on Aug 27, 2018 17:39:20 GMT -6
Holy cow. I just received the itemized bill from my hospital stay for having E. How do people have a baby without insurance
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Post by wedding on Aug 27, 2018 17:45:36 GMT -6
joelies I stopped asking Dh to do things like that years ago. He’s such a procrastinator so it would never get done. I’ve done all the anchoring, building, etc.
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Post by wedding on Aug 27, 2018 17:47:58 GMT -6
Work was legit insane today. I had three new hires to process and seven interns. Then year end spending on top of all of that. It was nuts. I packed a premade salad for lunch and I didn’t have time to eat until 2 and it was gross. So I got Chinese for dinner and just ate way too much.
I have my repeat CT scan tomorrow at 10 and I can’t eat or drink 4 hrs prior. After my mom and I are going for pedicures and lunch. She’s never had a pedicure and is nervous.
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Post by peachsmama on Aug 27, 2018 17:54:32 GMT -6
I have 2 drivers I'm ready to throat punch. One I can't get to talk to me until I threaten to withhold his paycheck and the other I talk to more than my freaking husband. He seriously calls me every 2 hours with random shit and rambles for 20 minutes.
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Post by joelies on Aug 27, 2018 17:59:09 GMT -6
joelies I stopped asking Dh to do things like that years ago. He’s such a procrastinator so it would never get done. I’ve done all the anchoring, building, etc. Yeah... Him being pissy about me taking things into my own hands has caused many fights. I can't subtly do things because I'd have to ask him to watch the boys. And I can't do it while he's gone because he's ALWAYS here. Honestly I'm just really frustrated with him right now. Today was just such a typical situation, nothing about it was surprising. Add in the multiple money issues we've run into solely because he's not paying attention... I have been letting a lot slide because we've been trying to work on US, but it's not helping as I get more and more resentful. Time for ANOTHER big talk. I'm so tired of these big talks. |
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Post by wedding on Aug 27, 2018 18:43:04 GMT -6
C moved up to the Yellow group today, which is PreK. He was super pumped. When I picked him up I went to his cubby and his stuff wasn’t here and he yelled “mom no! I’m yellow group now so I got a new cubby and it’s bigger!!” He was so so happy.
Then he showed me every other “yellow groupers “ cubbies and gave a little narrative about each kid. One girl was named Calliana, which makes me think they wanted to name their kid Callan but got a girl. Anyway C yells loudly that “Calliana doesn’t listen well and gets in trouble”. Thank goodness there weren’t many people there.
He also asked me not to tell Dad about his new cubby because he wants to surprise him.
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Post by flamingo on Aug 27, 2018 18:52:12 GMT -6
I swear, I get more done in the 45-60 minutes after the kids go to bed than in the entire day. Whew!
We had a fun afternoon...milkshakes and the 'new' park we found yesterday. There was a really sweet mom there with her two elementary-aged children; I enjoyed talking to her and her kids were so nice to B&C. I put them to bed early and got the house back in order, laundry going, and all the plants watered.
The pool guy was here when we got home; IDK what the deal is but I wish he would just come and knock it all out in a day or two rather than in dribs and drabs. Supposedly it's going to be done by Wed. or Thursday. I hope this is accurate.
Ok. Back to my wine and Oreos.
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Post by wedding on Aug 27, 2018 18:53:35 GMT -6
I’m sorry joelies. Is there something going on with him that caused him to flake on the finances? Is he depressed maybe? Would he be open to seeing someone? |
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Post by joelies on Aug 27, 2018 18:58:37 GMT -6
I’m sorry joelies. Is there something going on with him that caused him to flake on the finances? Is he depressed maybe? Would he be open to seeing someone? That's another long-running argument. Yes I absolutely think he's depressed and has been for a few years now. He's agreed at times, but has decided it's totally normal and therefore he won't see anyone. Now if I pushed the issue, he may. I just never have, figuring it won't do any good if HE doesn't want help. |
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Post by cagoldi on Aug 27, 2018 19:32:26 GMT -6
That's a really frustrating place to be, joelies. I hope he comes around soon and you aren't going to have to keep having these major discussions. How exhausting. |
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Post by slenle on Aug 27, 2018 20:29:55 GMT -6
Dh is out tonight so I got the kids down and spent some time getting the house in order. I’m on a mission to spruce a few things up so I’ve ordered new picture frames and a little decor to redecorate our built ins. They all of a sudden seemed too cluttered and random so I’m excited to have a new look in here.
Did a quick facemask and now I’m on the couch with a cup of bedtime tea so I’m hopefully not up until midnight like last night.
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Post by xolastunicornxo on Aug 27, 2018 21:03:49 GMT -6
Hi! I’m on the couch with a beer. I survived two hours of soccer practice with a 4/5 team and a 9/10 team. I’m beat!
Also Lucas’s fever had broke when I got home!!
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Post by xolastunicornxo on Aug 27, 2018 21:05:48 GMT -6
I’m sorry joelies. That sounds like a lot and I don’t blame your resentment for building! |
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Post by vino on Aug 27, 2018 21:28:32 GMT -6
Hi! I’m on the couch with a beer. I survived two hours of soccer practice with a 4/5 team and a 9/10 team. I’m beat! Also Lucas’s fever had broke when I got home!! Awesomeness, all around! Good job Unicorn, you absolutely kicked ass today 👍🏻 |
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Post by xolastunicornxo on Aug 27, 2018 21:30:36 GMT -6
Hi! I’m on the couch with a beer. I survived two hours of soccer practice with a 4/5 team and a 9/10 team. I’m beat! Also Lucas’s fever had broke when I got home!! Awesomeness, all around! Good job Unicorn, you absolutely kicked ass today 👍🏻 ILY, thank you!!! It’s so nice to hear that sometimes!! |
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Post by vino on Aug 27, 2018 21:30:53 GMT -6
joelies Solidarity my friend, I feel like your posts could be mine. Right down to always having ‘the talk’ it’s exhausting. Hence, my desire to send his ass to Mars. Hugs, friend. If there’s a breakthrough, please share.
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Post by Sunny41 on Aug 27, 2018 22:13:27 GMT -6
Hi! I’m on the couch with a beer. I survived two hours of soccer practice with a 4/5 team and a 9/10 team. I’m beat! Also Lucas’s fever had broke when I got home!! A well deserved beer! Rocking the coach thing and the mom thing! |
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Post by Sunny41 on Aug 27, 2018 22:28:55 GMT -6
klong11 mh and I have had many heated discussions about how he is perceived by E or how he perceives my behavior in response to his (mh) in front of E. The best thing that actually worked was mh saying "if you say x in a situation it makes my reaction worse, can you please try saying y and I will step away". We told ourselves we would try it for a few months and regroup. It was how i could help what works for him and show I'm hearing him. It did work, when I remembered. I think the biggest reason it helped is because I was listening to his request instead of doing it my way. There was give and take and discussion of mental load but there was progress. Tldr ask yh how he thinks you can help C view him as a boss
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