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Post by cnf on Aug 18, 2018 14:28:30 GMT -6
Tell me how this happens and works.
DD1 went on a nursing strike at 4.5 months and I was basically dried up at that point anyways.
I have an oversupply this time. C nurses down for naps and sleep. She does not sleep through the night. I do not plan to pump, besides to relieve any engorgement, when I go back to work in two weeks. I still want to nurse on demand when I'm home until we start approaching the 12 month mark. I'd like to wean by her first birthday. Shes 9.5 months now.
How do I do this? What happens at 2am when she wakes and wants to nurse back down? I do not plan to do bottles because I don't want to just sub out crutches if possible. Unless that's too optimistic.
Someone hold my hand. I want my tits back soon.
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Post by jules1614 on Aug 18, 2018 15:23:54 GMT -6
So with DS1 I stopped pumping at 12months and we nursed on demand when I was home and morning/bedtime otherwise and he self weaned right before 18months.
So, definitely plan on pumping the first two weeks or so but only pump just enough to get relief. Since you have oversupply it may take awhile to convince your body to stop producing during the day. And obviously be careful of mastitis. When you decide you no longer want to nurse during the day when you are home be prepared to redirect her, play a game, pacifier, eat solids etc. it is probable that she will day wean before dropping the morning/night feeds. As far as weaning at night just reduce the amount of time you allow her to nurse and eventually you’ll dry up and she won’t want to nurse anymore since she won’t get anything. As far as the middle of the night feedings, I would definitely not replace with a bottle unless she is having growth issues and needs to eat motn. It may be rough at first but eventually she’ll get the idea. As far as what to do during those wake ups I personally find cio works best but if you feel better snuggling then do that.
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Post by grumpycat on Aug 18, 2018 18:34:11 GMT -6
I'm hoping to night wean at 12 months ... I may or may not be counting down the days. But this kid has slept through the night a total of 4 times so that may not actually happen.
No advice but I'm here with you, having no clue how to do this lol.
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Post by pootsen on Aug 19, 2018 6:02:14 GMT -6
Same. Following. I have no idea what I’m doing. Thanks for the advice jules1614!
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Post by thatgolfb on Aug 19, 2018 8:31:07 GMT -6
For MTN after weaning, that became H's job with DD1 if she started escalating, because then she wasn't expecting to nurse. But mostly we CIO. I may chime in more later when I'm not typing one handed!
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Post by thatgolfb on Aug 19, 2018 8:31:47 GMT -6
I'm hoping to night wean at 12 months ... I may or may not be counting down the days. But this kid has slept through the night a total of 4 times so that may not actually happen. No advice but I'm here with you, having no clue how to do this lol. DD1 started STTN shortly after night weaning!
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Post by cnf on Aug 19, 2018 12:16:54 GMT -6
I'm fine with CIO. It stings a little to listen to, but it's always worked for us.
We've been cutting back on day time feedings anyways. I only offer if I'm engorged. Otherwise I only nurse her I'd she asks and this point she only asks if shes tired or not feeling well. I think she only nursed like 4 times all day yesterday, including for her nap and bed time. And once because righty was full and painful. She nursed three times over night though. So many wake ups.
Making H help at night is smart. Then I'm not denying her when shes tired and angry.
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Aug 19, 2018 14:48:19 GMT -6
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Post by blabbermouth on Aug 19, 2018 14:48:19 GMT -6
I'm following along, will start weaning at a year when I go back to work and she goes to daycare. As it stands now, she nurses 5 times per day, morning, after her two naps, before bed and once in the night. She's fine with that, on occasion she might want it once more before her second nap if she's been up awhile.
I guess I might just wait until she goes to daycare and is forced to day wean, then slowly eliminate the others. I'm kind of waiting for a year so that I don't have to fuss with replacing it with formula.
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Aug 19, 2018 19:10:00 GMT -6
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Post by cdnfarmgirl on Aug 19, 2018 19:10:00 GMT -6
My son I basically handed him to my mom for the weekend and left. He was already taking mostly bottles during the day. This got him used to bottles in the night too. Sadly, he was stuck on those MOTN wake ups till he was like 3- always needing milk. Don’t recommend.
My daughter- self-weaned around 11 months. I don’t think she was getting much anyways. She was sleeping through the night since 6 months old.
This kid- I have no idea. Also not planning on going back to work so I really don’t know how this will work. I may just nurse him longer than my others. I weaned the other 2 because I was working.
N nurses minimum 3x during the day (and like 29x at night) but will have a few smaller quick “I’m cranky and I want mommy” feeds throughout the day.
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Post by veganontuesdays on Aug 20, 2018 10:57:12 GMT -6
Definitely following. With E my milk dried up at 5 months so then at 1 year we just cold turkey no more formula bottles and went to milk in a sippy cup. This one isn't necessarily a boob MONSTER but he still wakes up once MOTN and that's how I get him back down. I am SO ready to not have to pump any more. I stopped producing enough at work for him 2 months ago and have to haul that stupid thing home so I can pump at night AND in the morning. I.am.over.it.
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Post by doxiemama on Aug 24, 2018 9:27:13 GMT -6
We’ve also got 2-3 MOTN nurse back to sleep wake ups going on here.
My experience weaning with my older son was that if I tried to stop pumping during the week but continue nursing on demand on weekends that I was super engorged on Monday since my body was used to nursing 3 times during the day. So I had to replace my weekend daytime feeds with bottles in order to stop pumping. I had enough frozen milk that I didn’t need to worry about switching to formula.
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Post by cnf on Aug 24, 2018 18:15:19 GMT -6
We’ve also got 2-3 MOTN nurse back to sleep wake ups going on here. My experience weaning with my older son was that if I tried to stop pumping during the week but continue nursing on demand on weekends that I was super engorged on Monday since my body was used to nursing 3 times during the day. So I had to replace my weekend daytime feeds with bottles in order to stop pumping. I had enough frozen milk that I didn’t need to worry about switching to formula. Thankfully being off from work all summer made me able to drop my pump. I've been working on still nursing on demand but cutting back on sessions unless she asks. We're at about 3-5 day sessions and 1-2 overnight. And the amount I'm getting engorged is getting less and less. I'm hoping when I go back to work after labor day my boobs will be cooperative, but I'll be bringing my hand pump and cooler bag just in case. The first like month of summer was rough on my boobs. So used to putting out huge pumping outputs.
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Post by pootsen on Aug 27, 2018 7:35:43 GMT -6
So I think I’m going to stop breastfeeding. I’m very in my feels about it, so I’m not completely sure, but it’s sounding so tempting. C doesn’t nurse as frequently or for as long, he’s getting up 3-4 times just to comfort nurse, and the spot where he bit me is so sore and re-opens every time he latches. I don’t think I’d be able to handle it if he bit me like that again. He’ll be 1 in 2.5 months and I was planning on weaning then anyway.
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Post by grumpycat on Aug 27, 2018 12:52:09 GMT -6
So I think I’m going to stop breastfeeding. I’m very in my feels about it, so I’m not completely sure, but it’s sounding so tempting. C doesn’t nurse as frequently or for as long, he’s getting up 3-4 times just to comfort nurse, and the spot where he bit me is so sore and re-opens every time he latches. I don’t think I’d be able to handle it if he bit me like that again. He’ll be 1 in 2.5 months and I was planning on weaning then anyway. Hugs. ❤️
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Post by cnf on Aug 27, 2018 17:16:20 GMT -6
So I think I’m going to stop breastfeeding. I’m very in my feels about it, so I’m not completely sure, but it’s sounding so tempting. C doesn’t nurse as frequently or for as long, he’s getting up 3-4 times just to comfort nurse, and the spot where he bit me is so sore and re-opens every time he latches. I don’t think I’d be able to handle it if he bit me like that again. He’ll be 1 in 2.5 months and I was planning on weaning then anyway. Do what you need to and know that you did such a great job. You're amazing ❤
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Oct 2, 2018 13:13:20 GMT -6
Post by veganontuesdays on Oct 2, 2018 13:13:20 GMT -6
Bumping this bad boy for some advice. My supply has officially tanked to the point where I am only pumping 4-5 ounces ALL day at work. I then add in a pumping session in the am and pm after he goes to bed. I am STILL having to do half formula for his bottles at the babysitter. When we're together we only nurse and he never seems like he's starving or anything (like on the weekends when we don't do any bottles) so I think my boobs are just over the pump? I have no idea tbh.
My question is when do I seriously just throw in the towel? He's 10 months on the 11th. I pump 5 times a day and only get maybe 7 ounces. I haul that stupid thing around for that. O.o Like do I just say fuck it and do formula for the last 2 months? Or do I maintain for 2 more months... He gives no fucks, he doesn't like pull at my shirt and scream for the boob or anything. He's cool with a bottle. Help me mom.
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Post by thatgolfb on Oct 2, 2018 13:47:03 GMT -6
veganontuesdays I was basically in the same boat a couple months ago, and I decided just to switch to formula. It was the right decision for us. I hated pumping and I felt like I gained back some freedom. I did love nursing, but my boobs honestly didn't miss it. I didn't engorge at all when I stopped.
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Post by veganontuesdays on Oct 2, 2018 13:55:17 GMT -6
veganontuesdays I was basically in the same boat a couple months ago, and I decided just to switch to formula. It was the right decision for us. I hated pumping and I felt like I gained back some freedom. I did love nursing, but my boobs honestly didn't miss it. I didn't engorge at all when I stopped. This was me 100% with E. We stopped at 5.5 months and I never got engorged and actually felt relieved it was over and my H could pick up some of the feedings. I think I just told myself this go round that I'd make it to 12 months and I am holding myself to it for no good reason. I also feel weird because we only nurse on the weekends so it makes me wonder if my supply isn't really shit but I am just being selfish. AND THEN I tell myself and so what if I am being selfish? I have given up rights to this body for almost 2 years per kid that's a damn lot.
See ^^ I am nuts. The merry go round. It may just be time and I should do it NOW while L is really in the no fucks camp regarding boobs.
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Post by pootsen on Oct 2, 2018 14:18:03 GMT -6
Hi you are me veganontuesdays. See my post above where I talked about weaning? Yeah well I stopped nursing for a few days and went from 3 pumps per work day to 1 but then I felt so massively guilty (whhyyy?) that I started nursing again, pumping 2-3 times a work day, and consuming 1 Tbsp of brewers yeast a day to bring my dwindling supply back up. I feel like a nut case but definitely have the same feeling of “only 2 months to go! I can do it! But it’s only 2 months, I could totally stop now...”. My baby also doesn’t seem to mind the difference between breast and bottle. I get sentimental every time I do nurse and feel regret about stopping. Gah!
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Post by veganontuesdays on Oct 2, 2018 14:26:00 GMT -6
Hi you are me veganontuesdays . See my post above where I talked about weaning? Yeah well I stopped nursing for a few days and went from 3 pumps per work day to 1 but then I felt so massively guilty (whhyyy?) that I started nursing again, pumping 2-3 times a work day, and consuming 1 Tbsp of brewers yeast a day to bring my dwindling supply back up. I feel like a nut case but definitely have the same feeling of “only 2 months to go! I can do it! But it’s only 2 months, I could totally stop now...”. My baby also doesn’t seem to mind the difference between breast and bottle. I get sentimental every time I do nurse and feel regret about stopping. Gah! I'll stop pumping if you stop! hahaha We sound ridiculous and our kids give no fucks. Isn't that something?
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Post by cakewench on Oct 2, 2018 14:35:27 GMT -6
Hi you are me veganontuesdays . See my post above where I talked about weaning? Yeah well I stopped nursing for a few days and went from 3 pumps per work day to 1 but then I felt so massively guilty (whhyyy?) that I started nursing again, pumping 2-3 times a work day, and consuming 1 Tbsp of brewers yeast a day to bring my dwindling supply back up. I feel like a nut case but definitely have the same feeling of “only 2 months to go! I can do it! But it’s only 2 months, I could totally stop now...”. My baby also doesn’t seem to mind the difference between breast and bottle. I get sentimental every time I do nurse and feel regret about stopping. Gah! This is almost exactly where I'm at. I'm still getting anywhere from 16-20oz a day at work (unless it's that TOM, where I tank for a week-ish and then bounce back), plus another pump at night before bed (4x day). N doesn't really care which he gets I think, but whenever I think about stopping I just get emotional. I've got until December, and part of me thinks we can totally make it, and part of me just wants to start stopping because it would make life so much easier. For the record almost everyone in my life says I've done great and should stop, but that it's up to me. The only thing I've concretely decided is that I'm going to do something nice for myself when I do stop, but that's it (LOL).
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Oct 2, 2018 14:44:34 GMT -6
Post by veganontuesdays on Oct 2, 2018 14:44:34 GMT -6
cakewench, people have said the same thing to me. "dump the pump girl! I mean... when you're ready." and I am like "JUST TELL ME WHAT TO DO AND THROW THE PUMP AWAY FOR ME THANKS"
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Oct 2, 2018 14:57:45 GMT -6
Post by cakewench on Oct 2, 2018 14:57:45 GMT -6
cakewench , people have said the same thing to me. "dump the pump girl! I mean... when you're ready." and I am like "JUST TELL ME WHAT TO DO AND THROW THE PUMP AWAY FOR ME THANKS" And at the same time, if I were ready, I'd have dumped it. So clearly I'm not ready. So maybe lay off? (Them, not you lol) Kinda hoping my pump just up and quits and makes the decision for me, because I'm not buying a new one for 2-3 months left (FTR I'd use my manual Medela to wean down so I don't explode.)
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Post by pootsen on Oct 2, 2018 15:53:11 GMT -6
Hi you are me veganontuesdays . See my post above where I talked about weaning? Yeah well I stopped nursing for a few days and went from 3 pumps per work day to 1 but then I felt so massively guilty (whhyyy?) that I started nursing again, pumping 2-3 times a work day, and consuming 1 Tbsp of brewers yeast a day to bring my dwindling supply back up. I feel like a nut case but definitely have the same feeling of “only 2 months to go! I can do it! But it’s only 2 months, I could totally stop now...”. My baby also doesn’t seem to mind the difference between breast and bottle. I get sentimental every time I do nurse and feel regret about stopping. Gah! I'll stop pumping if you stop! hahaha We sound ridiculous and our kids give no fucks. Isn't that something? Yes it’s definitely something! Forget being happy about stopping pumping or cutting out the MOTN nursing sessions in 2 months, I’ll mostly be happy just to stop torturing myself. SO I’m just trying to go with the flow as much as possible. Pump and nurse when it works out, but if he gets a bottle of formula and I don’t pump to replace it, I’m trying to just be cool with it.
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Post by snuff9861 on Oct 3, 2018 8:44:44 GMT -6
I dont belong here, but for those feeling guilty. I get you. I triple fed for a month with DD2 (and a week with DD1) and oh the guilt when I threw in the towel. Keep in mind they get all the benefits of BM with ONE OUNCE a day. So if you pump once (or just nurse once a day) they get those benefits.
*goes back to lurking*
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Post by veganontuesdays on Oct 3, 2018 11:30:20 GMT -6
snuff9861, thanks girl. So I left my pump at work yesterday and it was liberating. No nighttime pump sesh, no am pump sesh, and I will pump at work if I want. That's how I am starting the transition.
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Oct 3, 2018 16:21:23 GMT -6
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Post by blabbermouth on Oct 3, 2018 16:21:23 GMT -6
I thought today that I'd try to skip her nursing session after her first nap. I gave her a bit of cows milk just to see what she thought. She drank it a bit, then we went out for lunch where she didn't really feel like eating. Then half way through my meal she's trying to crawl into my arms and take off my shirt, so I guess she wanted milk 😂
It's bad timing, right when I wanted to start tapering off she was sick and then we were on vacation and so she wanted to nurse more and her naps were shit. Hopefully now that she's healthy again I can try to skip some again, especially since we're starting the daycare transition next week. BUT, she's getting her top teeth finally, so who knows 🤷
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Post by grumpycat on Oct 3, 2018 21:21:05 GMT -6
I'm in no rush to wean. I actually just heard from a friend who is looking for donor milk. I'm not into starting to pump but if ds2 starts cutting nursing sessions (and my friend's milk doesn't come in), I'm think about pumping a bit for her. Idk though, we shall see. I do hope her milk comes in -- she's only a couple days out (ftm and is diabetic).
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Post by veganontuesdays on Oct 4, 2018 7:04:31 GMT -6
I'm in no rush to wean. I actually just heard from a friend who is looking for donor milk. I'm not into starting to pump but if ds2 starts cutting nursing sessions (and my friend's milk doesn't come in), I'm think about pumping a bit for her. Idk though, we shall see. I do hope her milk comes in -- she's only a couple days out (ftm and is diabetic). This is awesome. You're a great friend!
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Post by grumpycat on Oct 4, 2018 10:25:51 GMT -6
I'm in no rush to wean. I actually just heard from a friend who is looking for donor milk. I'm not into starting to pump but if ds2 starts cutting nursing sessions (and my friend's milk doesn't come in), I'm think about pumping a bit for her. Idk though, we shall see. I do hope her milk comes in -- she's only a couple days out (ftm and is diabetic). This is awesome. You're a great friend! Thanks I haven't decided if I'm going to do it yet though. EPing with ds1 caused some PP depression for me so I want to be careful to avoid that.
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