NamasteBirches
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Post by NamasteBirches on May 24, 2017 10:19:01 GMT -6
like I go into his classroom & compared to all these other boys all prim & proper with their supershort military style haircuts, he looks like a wildman lolol but a super cute one!
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Post by pennyandthejets on May 24, 2017 10:22:31 GMT -6
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Post by skategirl128 on May 24, 2017 10:52:36 GMT -6
Your DS is cute NamasteBirches! Sorry your DS is dealing with the mean comments yellowwallpaper. It starts so young I try to do what I can to mitigate the stereotypes but it's so hard when they hear those sorts of comments from home. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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gangy
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Post by gangy on May 24, 2017 11:06:45 GMT -6
Those gender comments got me thinking about things. I made a post if you don't mind checking it out? Thanks!
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Post by skategirl128 on May 24, 2017 11:34:55 GMT -6
I'm cleaning the house today and packing DS. Wish the weather would act like I'm on summer break!
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Post by bellatrix on May 24, 2017 11:46:19 GMT -6
Here, kinda. Lol
Hope to post after work.
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Post by misspeansmama on May 24, 2017 11:47:56 GMT -6
So what do I need to do when I want to request my content/account be deleted on TCF?
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Post by yellowwallpaper on May 24, 2017 12:01:11 GMT -6
So what do I need to do when I want to request my content/account be deleted on TCF? Send a pm to biblio asking for your content to be deleted. Once that is done, you can delete your account through your profile.
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Post by misspeansmama on May 24, 2017 12:05:37 GMT -6
So what do I need to do when I want to request my content/account be deleted on TCF? Send a pm to biblio asking for your content to be deleted. Once that is done, you can delete your account through your profile. Thanks!
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NamasteBirches
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Post by NamasteBirches on May 24, 2017 12:23:44 GMT -6
damn. I had to give a copy of our most recent tax return to the therapy place & my intention was to just show it to the person I needed to show it to but she wasn't there last night so I had to leave it with the secretary & she just left it in her box or whatever on her door. I'm usually good with crossing out personal stuff like soc #'s because they don't need to know ours but I left our freaking bank account #s on it where the refund info is listed. shit. I would think they're professional but with them "merging" & closing their building who the hell knows. trust no one. damn it. I'm usually really good at this. I blame my damn meds. Gahhhhhhh I'm so forgetful.
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Post by misspeansmama on May 24, 2017 13:17:32 GMT -6
damn. I had to give a copy of our most recent tax return to the therapy place & my intention was to just show it to the person I needed to show it to but she wasn't there last night so I had to leave it with the secretary & she just left it in her box or whatever on her door. I'm usually good with crossing out personal stuff like soc #'s because they don't need to know ours but I left our freaking bank account #s on it where the refund info is listed. shit. I would think they're professional but with them "merging" & closing their building who the hell knows. trust no one. damn it. I'm usually really good at this. I blame my damn meds. Gahhhhhhh I'm so forgetful. FX that they are professionals and won't do anything with the info.
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Post by radiantfate on May 24, 2017 13:44:13 GMT -6
I have an actual parenting question and NO idea where to post it so you ladies get to read it here. DD is friends with two neighbor boys (7 and 5, they're cousins). They come over to play a few times a week, which I don't mind at all. The kids have fun and DD gets to socialize whereas as a currently only child she'd just be bored in her room. The two boys come from families that don't have a lot of money. The older one and his mom, grandma, and about six cousins lived in the apartment next door to ours. They got evicted a couple of months ago and they all moved in with family in another apartment the next building over. There are probably 2-3 families living in that 2 bedroom apartment, they have no furniture, I know they're doing their best to get by but obviously, the boys don't have much in the way of toys. When they come over, and they see the eleventybillion things DD has, they get SUPER excited and want to play with EVERYTHING. Which is fine! I don't mind sharing, neither does she! However, I have asked the boys, and we have asked DD to please communicate to the boys that they should take out one thing at a time and put it back before they take out another toy, because every time they come over they leave her room completely trashed. (She plays a part in it for sure so I'm not saying she's innocent). Sunday night after they left, I went in DD's room and it was absolutely wrecked. Puzzles spilled out all over the floor, about six different board games dumped out with pieces everywhere, legos, perler beads, crayons, crafts, you name it, it was on the floor. There was literally not a stitch of carpet you could see under the mounds of things that were just dumped out and strewn everywhere. I told DD to clean up and she had a complete meltdown that it's not fair that SHE has to do it when they made the mess. It turned into a big huge emotional outburst and DH intervened and helped her clean it up. (She did most of the work, I think ultimately she was just overwhelmed by the mess and didn't know where to start without guidance -- noted that for the future). So, yesterday the boys come over again, and they're in DD's room and I keep hearing her pleading with them, "PLEASE put that back before you get that out, you have no idea how much work cleaning this room up was on Sunday!" and they keep saying "Okay I will!" and then...nope. They wind up making a big mess again. Not as big as Sunday, but a mess nevertheless. It was getting late, I was sure the boys were going to get called home soon, and I hear DD say "I need to get my shower soon, it's getting late, please help me clean up" and one of the boys cops an attitude and says in a snotty tone "I WILL!" DH heard that, walked in and goes "You're darn right you will! She and I spent an hour cleaning this up after you guys left on Sunday!" So, they proceed to clean up, whlle yelling at DD that she's not helping them. She should have been, yes, but I was gonna let them work it out for themselves. What do I do you guys? Other than the mess making thing, these kids get along great, they play well together and DD genuinely enjoys their company. When I was a kid, my friends and I would always take one thing out at a time and put it back before moving on to the next thing (I mean, how many board games can you play at once?!) so I don't think I was ever in a situation like this. I've told DD she's responsible for making sure to clean up after her guests but I also TOTALLY see how Sunday's mess would have overwhelmed her. I felt bad that DH went in and told the boys they needed to clean up because, ya know, they're not my kids, they're guests, and last time he did that they stopped coming over to play for a couple of months because "her dad yelled at them" (he didn't yell, he was calm but firm). It's probably just mommy guilt making me second guess that. Anyway that's it. TIA
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Post by misspeansmama on May 24, 2017 13:44:19 GMT -6
I am going to be annoyed if we have to move places again after the vote today.
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Post by misspeansmama on May 24, 2017 13:56:56 GMT -6
radiantfate, So I absolutely have no experience with this, but here is my 2 cents anyway. I am not personally hung up on the only take out one toy at a time thing. However, I do believe that all toys taken out must be picked up when finished being played with. It is definitely not right that the boys caused your DD to have to pick up the mess without their help when they helped make it. I think your DH stepping in was what I would have done. For the future, what I think I would do is maybe 30 minutes or so before they need to leave I would enter the room and tell them (all the kids) it's time to start picking up. Then I would check in every 5-10 minutes or so to make sure they were actually doing it and not just continuing to play. And I would probably let them know that if they can't be responsible and help clean up a mess they made then they might not be able to visit for a while. It sounds a little harsh to throw a threat like that out there, but I think they need to know there are consequences to their actions. If you don't want to stop them from visiting, maybe you need to come up with an alternative consequence...like not being able to play in the room with all the toys. Like I said, I have no experience with this so take what you will from my commentary.
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Post by radiantfate on May 24, 2017 14:07:17 GMT -6
misspeansmama Yeah, I think you're right. Even if the boys family doesn't come to get them by the time they're done, they can then take out one thing and play with it until it's time to go. And if they can't play nicely with the toys then they just have to play outside. I tried the "one thing at a time" thing to mitigate the damage but that doesn't seem to have helped. Thanks!
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Post by cupcake on May 24, 2017 17:21:52 GMT -6
I agree that it would be a good idea to go in before they leave & tell them all to start cleaning up.
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Post by cupcake on May 24, 2017 17:23:18 GMT -6
My students had their second day of state testing today. It's awful! I just have to sit there & watch them for almost 4 hours. Thankfully there are only 4.5 days left!
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Post by misspeansmama on May 24, 2017 17:34:41 GMT -6
Since the thread about our new home is locked, I'll just leave this right here.
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Post by anarossi on May 24, 2017 19:46:37 GMT -6
I'm going to try and jump back in here. I posted a bit about 6 months back and then it just fell off my radar. Going to use the migration as an excuse to reconnect with you all, so hi again!
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Post by misspeansmama on May 25, 2017 5:09:45 GMT -6
Welcome again anarossi! Hope you stick around! I've been using the migration to try to post more in the "general discussions" board. I do have a hard time keeping up there though. Hopefully I won't get shunned for my posts being infrequent.
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NamasteBirches
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Post by NamasteBirches on May 25, 2017 5:22:45 GMT -6
Welcome again anarossi ! Hope you stick around! I've been using the migration to try to post more in the "general discussions" board. I do have a hard time keeping up there though. Hopefully I won't get shunned for my posts being infrequent. you won't. I come & go on there as well. I go to sleep too early to be active on their drinking threads lol
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Post by misspeansmama on May 25, 2017 12:10:10 GMT -6
So what do I need to do when I want to request my content/account be deleted on TCF? Send a pm to biblio asking for your content to be deleted. Once that is done, you can delete your account through your profile. I did it. Feels weird.
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Post by NamasteBirches on May 25, 2017 12:19:01 GMT -6
radiantfate, So I absolutely have no experience with this, but here is my 2 cents anyway. I am not personally hung up on the only take out one toy at a time thing. However, I do believe that all toys taken out must be picked up when finished being played with. It is definitely not right that the boys caused your DD to have to pick up the mess without their help when they helped make it. I think your DH stepping in was what I would have done. For the future, what I think I would do is maybe 30 minutes or so before they need to leave I would enter the room and tell them (all the kids) it's time to start picking up. Then I would check in every 5-10 minutes or so to make sure they were actually doing it and not just continuing to play. And I would probably let them know that if they can't be responsible and help clean up a mess they made then they might not be able to visit for a while. It sounds a little harsh to throw a threat like that out there, but I think they need to know there are consequences to their actions. If you don't want to stop them from visiting, maybe you need to come up with an alternative consequence...like not being able to play in the room with all the toys. Like I said, I have no experience with this so take what you will from my commentary. oh I've been wanting to +1 this since yesterday
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