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Post by notagoddess on Aug 14, 2018 7:42:56 GMT -6
Time for new randoms.
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Post by strawberrykiki on Aug 14, 2018 7:44:16 GMT -6
Lol I made one at the exact same time as you!
I have been sick and I’m super grouchy about it. I can’t hear anything out of one of my ears! It needs to unclog asap 😖
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Post by notagoddess on Aug 14, 2018 7:48:21 GMT -6
strawberrykiki, colds while pregnant are no fun at all. DD just came down with a cold and I'm sure we'll both get it... not looking forward to that.
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Post by notagoddess on Aug 14, 2018 7:50:15 GMT -6
Now that we know we're having a girl, it's been easier to picture the result of this pregnancy and what our family will look like. And we're pretty close to settling on a first name. No idea on middle though. We're debating not having one, since H and I don't.
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Post by strawberrykiki on Aug 14, 2018 7:52:25 GMT -6
notagoddess it feels more real to me too now that we know baby is a boy. Although I don’t feel pregnant right now. The morning sickness went away so I’m not feeling too many symptoms right now at all
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Post by notagoddess on Aug 14, 2018 8:37:07 GMT -6
@amc, I was shocked this was going to be a second girl because I was getting a pretty strong gut feeling for boy. I think this baby will be more chill than her sister, based off the ultrasound and how birth order influenced personality in both our families (second kid being much more laid-back).
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Post by strawberrykiki on Aug 14, 2018 8:40:08 GMT -6
I was 100 percent sure this baby was a girl. I was shocked when the doctor said boy. Gut feelings account for nothing apparently!
Is it normal to just not feel pregnant right now? I have a bump! But my first trimester woes are mostly gone.
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Post by dashook on Aug 14, 2018 9:06:50 GMT -6
strawberrykiki I hope you feel better! Also I was so sure DS was a girl and it was a big surprise when he came out and MH announced it was a boy! I don't trust my gut on this stuff at all lol
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Post by k on Aug 14, 2018 9:19:28 GMT -6
I was 100 percent sure this baby was a girl. I was shocked when the doctor said boy. Gut feelings account for nothing apparently! Is it normal to just not feel pregnant right now? I have a bump! But my first trimester woes are mostly gone. With DS1 I never felt pregnant. I never got sick. Even the morning of my induction, I felt like I was imagining the whole thing. I also had an anterior placenta with him and never felt strong movements.
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Post by hrh on Aug 14, 2018 9:38:08 GMT -6
strawberrykiki hope you feel better soon! ETA no symptoms is normal, I don't have much either right now and just count myself lucky. 😉 Iam still in total shock it is a girl! So many feelings and yes, @amc, I feel the same about finally knowing that this is what our family is going to be because we were done after this, boy or girl.
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Post by sunshiney on Aug 14, 2018 10:01:29 GMT -6
I'm happy that we got HCG draws the last two weekends because they reassure me that vanishing symptoms isn't something to worry about... It was 67,000 when my symptoms were peaking and then 84,000 when they were starting to calm. So hopefully that reassures somewhat that symptoms don't necessarily equal how strong the placenta is or something!
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Post by sunshiney on Aug 14, 2018 10:06:18 GMT -6
Knowing the sex is so helpful for us. DH feels more real and connected. It reduces his anxiety too because he's afraid of being a bad parent (since he experienced truly awful parenting himself) so this lets him focus with his counselor on what a child of that sex needs from him... He's able to feel relaxed and confident more easily.
For me, unlike every other pregnancy (all losses), I can't say I love this baby or even feel particularly warm toward them. My therapist says it's because I knew with others we had only a short time together so I made the most of it, now I am being more cautious because I see us having a long time to develop a relationship. But knowing the sex has really helped me feel the baby is more special to me, if not my beloved child yet.
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Post by thelittleredm on Aug 14, 2018 11:28:57 GMT -6
I don't feel very connected to this pregnancy, yet. I imagine a lot has to do with it not being planned. I just feel tired of being nauseous and I'm starting to get out of breath faster. It helps that DS1 and H are already super excited because it helps remind me that I'm not just miserable for no reason. Honestly, going from almost a week of basically no nausea to "grab the bucket!" nauseous has really set me back mood wise. It makes me want to rush this pregnancy and then I feel bad because this might be the last time I'm pregnant. And per my other two pregnancies, once the nausea finally stops, I have pretty uneventful months so it's easy to like being pregnant again. I think another reason I'm holding back is because we don't know the sex, yet, and that's a huge determining factor of whether we're done after 3 or not.
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Post by CharlieB on Aug 14, 2018 11:53:33 GMT -6
I'll have a few days when I'm not feeling so pregnant, and then I'll have days like today, when breakfast wants to come right back up and all I want to do is sleep. I'm also not feeling particularly connected to this pregnancy yet; I still feel like I'm holding my breath and waiting for the worst. Knowing my NIPT results and the sex will help me breathe a little easier and visualize a life with this LO. Speaking of, I'm on day 7 post-blood draw, so I'm stalking my LabCorp portal to see when the results are sent to my doc. So excited! strawberrykiki Feel better!
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Post by k on Aug 14, 2018 13:04:09 GMT -6
I hope I get another chubby baby. I laugh when I look back at DS2’s ultrasound pics. His cheeks! I should have known he was destined to be big.
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Post by dashook on Aug 14, 2018 13:24:59 GMT -6
I definitely am really excited about this pregnancy. It's a little different from my last two though in that I'm more excited about the baby itself than I ever have been before. I don't know why that is. But my most excited moments are when I think about holding this little one on the outside.
Even with the excitement I don't know how connected I feel. I think I'm just too damned busy and stressed all the time to really take the time to think about it or concentrate on it. I'm not 100% sure if this is our last baby or not but if it is I would hate to feel like I didn't really live in the moment with it at all.
These are really complex feelings. It's interesting reading everyone else's take on it too because it's all so different and yet there are no right or wrong ways to feel.
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Post by notagoddess on Aug 14, 2018 13:54:38 GMT -6
I will say, even though this pregnancy was very much wanted and planned, I am having some feelings of "Did I make a mistake?"
I went from really enjoying parenting to feeling extremely drained by it. I'm spending my days waiting for bedtime and naptime so I can go lie down myself. I have limited patience with DD, and I'm teary and take things personally. I worry about handling two when I can barely handle one now. Part of it is pregnancy exhaustion/nausea, but another part is that my anxiety and depression have amped up recently. I think it's a pregnancy thing for me.
Basically I don't enjoy pregnancy at all. I'm in it for the end result.
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Post by strawberrykiki on Aug 14, 2018 14:44:37 GMT -6
I can relate to everything you guys are feeling. This is my first baby and I’m nervous how our lives are going to change. Our mortgage company made a HUGE mistake and hasn’t been collecting enough money into our escrow account so we now have a deficit and our payment is going up by over 400 dollars. Money we really needed for daycare costs. I’m not sure how we will handle it all but I know we will somehow.
I didn’t feel connected until we saw our baby at 13 weeks looking like a baby and found out the genetic tests were all good and the baby is a boy. But now it’s been almost 2 weeks since an ultrasound and I’m not feeling so pregnant so... 🤷♀️ it’s crazy because being as I didn’t feel connected I worried myself to death that something bad would happen the entire first trimester.
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Post by k on Aug 14, 2018 18:18:26 GMT -6
notagoddess I remember that feeling very well from second pregnancy. Parenting a toddler is tough, pregnancy is tough, and doing the two of them simultaneously while also knowing that your little one's life is about to get turned upside down when their younger sibling is born can be a crazy and overwhelming experience! The end result is so, so beautiful, though... especially as you get to watch the developing relationship between your children as they grow up together. WSS notagoddess. Sounds normal to me, especially if you aren’t feeling well. I felt very much the same first tri when i wasn’t feeling well and told MH this is 100% our last baby. Now I’m feeling all good and 💁🏻♀️ and I’m already thinking...hmm maybe not. I also think it’s totally normal to wonder how you can love another kid as much as your first. do I need to post some sibling love pictures? 😊
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Post by notagoddess on Aug 14, 2018 18:23:25 GMT -6
notagoddess I remember that feeling very well from second pregnancy. Parenting a toddler is tough, pregnancy is tough, and doing the two of them simultaneously while also knowing that your little one's life is about to get turned upside down when their younger sibling is born can be a crazy and overwhelming experience! The end result is so, so beautiful, though... especially as you get to watch the developing relationship between your children as they grow up together. WSS notagoddess . Sounds normal to me, especially if you aren’t feeling well. I felt very much the same first tri when i wasn’t feeling well and told MH this is 100% our last baby. Now I’m feeling all good and 💁🏻♀️ and I’m already thinking...hmm maybe not. I also think it’s totally normal to wonder how you can love another kid as much as your first. do I need to post some sibling love pictures? 😊LOL I wouldn't mind! I told H I don't want another baby after this and he was like yeah we're not doing this again (he's been taking over a lot at home because I've been sick). But the brain is so good at forgetting the bad parts. I'm pretty sure once I'm better... if it ever happens... I'll go back to wanting 3.
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Post by k on Aug 14, 2018 18:30:57 GMT -6
WSS notagoddess . Sounds normal to me, especially if you aren’t feeling well. I felt very much the same first tri when i wasn’t feeling well and told MH this is 100% our last baby. Now I’m feeling all good and 💁🏻♀️ and I’m already thinking...hmm maybe not. I also think it’s totally normal to wonder how you can love another kid as much as your first. do I need to post some sibling love pictures? 😊LOL I wouldn't mind! I told H I don't want another baby after this and he was like yeah we're not doing this again (he's been taking over a lot at home because I've been sick). But the brain is so good at forgetting the bad parts. I'm pretty sure once I'm better... if it ever happens... I'll go back to wanting 3. This is my fav pic. The morning after we brought DS2 home. DS1 woke up and shouted “my baby!” ❤️ and this was last week. they seriously are BFFs.
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Post by notagoddess on Aug 14, 2018 18:40:39 GMT -6
Aww k, they're adorable! My heart! How old was DS1 in your first photo?
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Post by dashook on Aug 14, 2018 19:17:26 GMT -6
Oh my goodness k they are adorable!
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Post by k on Aug 14, 2018 19:28:38 GMT -6
Aww k, they're adorable! My heart! How old was DS1 in your first photo? 2! They are 2 years and 5 days apart.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 14, 2018 23:42:50 GMT -6
Lol I made one at the exact same time as you! I have been sick and I’m super grouchy about it. I can’t hear anything out of one of my ears! It needs to unclog asap 😖 Colds while pregnant are the worst! My son has given me two so far & I anticipate plenty more this fall/winter.
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Post by notagoddess on Aug 15, 2018 6:32:14 GMT -6
Aww k , they're adorable! My heart! How old was DS1 in your first photo? 2! They are 2 years and 5 days apart. Aww that's what mine will be. My EDD is a day after DD1's birthday.
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Post by k on Aug 15, 2018 7:09:54 GMT -6
2! They are 2 years and 5 days apart. Aww that's what mine will be. My EDD is a day after DD1's birthday. so fun! I personally think it’s great spacing! This baby will be 25 months apart from DS2.
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Post by CharlieB on Aug 15, 2018 11:11:52 GMT -6
k Those pictures are the sweetest. ❤️ Thank you for sharing. I have so much anxiety about DS’s reaction to a sibling, but that reminds me that it’s all worth it.
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Post by CharlieB on Aug 15, 2018 11:16:37 GMT -6
I’m having a rough day. My sleep was broken thanks to a nightmare re: NIPT results (hurry UP, labcorp), I threw up my protein shake this morning, and now pungent lunch smells are wafting in my direction from the break room. I have a meeting this afternoon and I’m hoping that I can make it until then.
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Post by thelittleredm on Aug 15, 2018 11:35:32 GMT -6
k, Those pictures 😍 DS1 has always loved babies. So much. When DS2 (they are 3.5yr apart) was born and he got to meet him, he couldn't stop cooing over him and saying how cute he was. He would get upset if anyone talked above a whisper because he didn't want the baby to wake up. It was the best reaction ever. He refused to not hold him for the longest time lol And he was SO helpful during my leave! He'd fetch diapers, wipes, anything he could reach. It's only been in the last few months that he's started to show frustration and irritation with DS2's 18 month ways.....DS2 is far more vocal than DS1 ever has been and it's a source of irritation for DS1 lol
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