Confessions

[guster]

Aug 10, 2018 15:02:47 GMT -6 inthekitty said:

guster, hahahaha! That's nasty, but I get it. It's like the football player who won't wash his nasty lucky socks.

tgrimes that looks really good.

Weird, right? I've done it once before so it definitely rears its head every 10 years or so

[xolastunicornxo]

I have zero desire to have sex since C was born. Like ZERO. I do it, but I really don’t enjoy it. Like before I wouldn’t be in the mood, but once we started I’d get in to it. Now I’m just not into it, and I don’t know why. I find my husband very attractive, and I like that even after four kids he still wants me, but.... nothing.

[klong11]

When TTC talk comes up I tend to shy away and go to other boards. Since I'm one and done by mh's choice, it's hard to hear about other people's plans. Not to say it shouldn't be discussed, I'm just still not in a good place to relate.

[chrisy01]

Aug 10, 2018 21:01:24 GMT -6 xolastunicornxo said:

I have zero desire to have sex since C was born. Like ZERO. I do it, but I really don’t enjoy it. Like before I wouldn’t be in the mood, but once we started I’d get in to it. Now I’m just not into it, and I don’t know why. I find my husband very attractive, and I like that even after four kids he still wants me, but.... nothing.

I was like that after lo's birth. After E I couldn't wait to dtd.

[chrisy01]

I hate it when people ask me when we will start trying for baby #3. Especially when I know they know I only want 2.

[joelies]

Aug 10, 2018 21:01:24 GMT -6 xolastunicornxo said:

I have zero desire to have sex since C was born. Like ZERO. I do it, but I really don’t enjoy it. Like before I wouldn’t be in the mood, but once we started I’d get in to it. Now I’m just not into it, and I don’t know why. I find my husband very attractive, and I like that even after four kids he still wants me, but.... nothing.

Also zero interest in sex here. Except no baby either - just no libido and a lack of attraction. Hoping it comes back.

[wedding]

Aug 11, 2018 7:27:29 GMT -6 joelies said:

Aug 10, 2018 21:01:24 GMT -6 xolastunicornxo said:

I have zero desire to have sex since C was born. Like ZERO. I do it, but I really don’t enjoy it. Like before I wouldn’t be in the mood, but once we started I’d get in to it. Now I’m just not into it, and I don’t know why. I find my husband very attractive, and I like that even after four kids he still wants me, but.... nothing.

Also zero interest in sex here. Except no baby either - just no libido and a lack of attraction. Hoping it comes back.

+1 to all of this. I’d rather take care of things myself. Much more efficient and on my own time.

[wineallthetime]

Aug 10, 2018 21:01:24 GMT -6 xolastunicornxo said:

I have zero desire to have sex since C was born. Like ZERO. I do it, but I really don’t enjoy it. Like before I wouldn’t be in the mood, but once we started I’d get in to it. Now I’m just not into it, and I don’t know why. I find my husband very attractive, and I like that even after four kids he still wants me, but.... nothing.

I'm kind of here. I think a lot of it stems from being afraid to get pregnant! I haven't decided what I want to do for bc, so there's not much action happening in the wine house.

[xolastunicornxo]

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[xolastunicornxo]

I don’t know what happened there. I started to type and then it posted and the my phone froze and I had to restart it.

Anyway, I’m glad to hear I’m not alone. I really want to want it, so it sucks. wineallthetime I think tebpregnancy thing plays on here too. I’m not going back on the pill, and I haven’t pulled the trigger yet on getting dh a vasectomy, so we’ve been using condoms and I hate condoms.

[wineallthetime]

Aug 11, 2018 8:40:27 GMT -6 xolastunicornxo said:

I don’t know what happened there. I started to type and then it posted and the my phone froze and I had to restart it.

Anyway, I’m glad to hear I’m not alone. I really want to want it, so it sucks. wineallthetime I think tebpregnancy thing plays on here too. I’m not going back on the pill, and I haven’t pulled the trigger yet on getting dh a vasectomy, so we’ve been using condoms and I hate condoms.

Yes! Condoms are the worst, especially after not using them!

[chrisy01]

Aug 11, 2018 8:40:27 GMT -6 xolastunicornxo said:

I don’t know what happened there. I started to type and then it posted and the my phone froze and I had to restart it.

Anyway, I’m glad to hear I’m not alone. I really want to want it, so it sucks. wineallthetime I think tebpregnancy thing plays on here too. I’m not going back on the pill, and I haven’t pulled the trigger yet on getting dh a vasectomy, so we’ve been using condoms and I hate condoms.

It's 100% normal. Like I said after LO I wanted no sex for forever. We weren't sure if we still wanted a second kid. I think since I know we are done having kids forever and we have started to take those steps the fear is gone.

[flamingo]

Aug 10, 2018 21:01:24 GMT -6 xolastunicornxo said:

I have zero desire to have sex since C was born. Like ZERO. I do it, but I really don’t enjoy it. Like before I wouldn’t be in the mood, but once we started I’d get in to it. Now I’m just not into it, and I don’t know why. I find my husband very attractive, and I like that even after four kids he still wants me, but.... nothing.

This was me after both kids were born. It did get better after I stopped nursing, so maybe things will improve somewhat when you and C are finished. Regardless, i think it's totally normal at this phase of life to feel that way. :hugs:  

eta: have you thought about an IUD? I'm pretty sure we're done with our 2, but I got another one after C was born b/c I'm not ready for anything more permanent. I'm on my 2nd and I love it...don't have to worry about it for 5 years. 

[lfig]

Aug 11, 2018 9:08:07 GMT -6 flamingo said:

Aug 10, 2018 21:01:24 GMT -6 xolastunicornxo said:

I have zero desire to have sex since C was born. Like ZERO. I do it, but I really don’t enjoy it. Like before I wouldn’t be in the mood, but once we started I’d get in to it. Now I’m just not into it, and I don’t know why. I find my husband very attractive, and I like that even after four kids he still wants me, but.... nothing.

This was me after both kids were born. It did get better after I stopped nursing, so maybe things will improve somewhat when you and C are finished. Regardless, i think it's totally normal at this phase of life to feel that way. :hugs:  

eta: have you thought about an IUD? I'm pretty sure we're done with our 2, but I got another one after C was born b/c I'm not ready for anything more permanent. I'm on my 2nd and I love it...don't have to worry about it for 5 years. 

+1 to the IUD!  I LOVE mine! 

[klong11]

We strictly pull and pray. It's worked well for us. Although our frequency is very low. I'm sure if it were higher I would be saying something different.

[wineallthetime]

Aug 11, 2018 11:30:57 GMT -6 klong11 said:

We strictly pull and pray. It's worked well for us. Although our frequency is very low. I'm sure if it were higher I would be saying something different.

Pull and pray was how Clark happened, so for me I think I need a little something extra thrown in there.

[tgrimes]

Am I the only one that that doesn’t care about condoms? Pre M, we used to use condoms & I was on the pill. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Like, to me it’s more worth it to not get pregnant.

[tgrimes]

Aug 11, 2018 11:45:59 GMT -6 wineallthetime said:

Aug 11, 2018 11:30:57 GMT -6 klong11 said:

We strictly pull and pray. It's worked well for us. Although our frequency is very low. I'm sure if it were higher I would be saying something different.

Pull and pray was how Clark happened, so for me I think I need a little something extra thrown in there.

That’s how my sister’s first 3 kids happened.

[nam2013]

I’m on the mini pill, you have to be more diligent in taking it (no taking two if you forget one etc) but I feel so much better on it than on the regular combination pill.

[nam2013]

Aug 11, 2018 12:18:31 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

Am I the only one that that doesn’t care about condoms? Pre M, we used to use condoms & I was on the pill. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Like, to me it’s more worth it to not get pregnant.

Nope, you’re not alone. I mean I’m not a fan, but if needed (due to a missed pill or whatever), they are quite handy .

[cagoldi]

Aug 11, 2018 11:45:59 GMT -6 wineallthetime said:

Aug 11, 2018 11:30:57 GMT -6 klong11 said:

We strictly pull and pray. It's worked well for us. Although our frequency is very low. I'm sure if it were higher I would be saying something different.

Pull and pray was how Clark happened, so for me I think I need a little something extra thrown in there.

This is how we got P, too.

[cagoldi]

IDK what's wrong with me but my sex drive is through the roof. I feel like I must know what it's like to be a teenage boy.

But I'm not on any BC and EFF so there's probably something hormonal going on.

[inthekitty]

Probably a UO but I don't mind condoms either. Sometimes it provides an opportunity to put on a cock ring. TMI 🤷‍♀️

[cagoldi]

Condoms are terrible, but not as terrible as being KTFU.

[tallb]

Just saw my high school crush/homecoming date x 2 at a coed baby shower. He has not barely aged at all. May have imagined an alternate universe where he didn't start dating his current wife midway through senior year.

[trtlcrzy]

Aug 11, 2018 12:18:31 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

Am I the only one that that doesn’t care about condoms? Pre M, we used to use condoms & I was on the pill. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Like, to me it’s more worth it to not get pregnant.

I like condoms because then I don’t have to deal with a mess 🤷🏻‍♀️

[wineallthetime]

Aug 11, 2018 16:54:23 GMT -6 trtlcrzy said:

Aug 11, 2018 12:18:31 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

Am I the only one that that doesn’t care about condoms? Pre M, we used to use condoms & I was on the pill. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Like, to me it’s more worth it to not get pregnant.

I like condoms because then I don’t have to deal with a mess 🤷🏻‍♀️

I guess I don't know how things go in your house, but the mess is pretty easy to clean up around here. It's typically in one general area and no matter if we area using condoms or not, there is some clean up involved. TMI? But even with condom I prefer a trip to the bathroom to pee and freshen up. Pretty easy to clean off anything during this time.

[trtlcrzy]

Aug 11, 2018 17:03:39 GMT -6 wineallthetime said:

Aug 11, 2018 16:54:23 GMT -6 trtlcrzy said:

I like condoms because then I don’t have to deal with a mess 🤷🏻‍♀️

I guess I don't know how things go in your house, but the mess is pretty easy to clean up around here. It's typically in one general area and no matter if we area using condoms or not, there is some clean up involved. TMI? But even with condom I prefer a trip to the bathroom to pee and freshen up. Pretty easy to clean off anything during this time.

Here’s some TMI for you: if we pull and pray he goes into a tissue so nbd. Last time we dtd with no protection (other than my bcp) he went inside and then I feel like I’m leaking the whole next day. Which is the worst. I also always go to the bathroom immediately following regardless of which option we choose.

[tgrimes]

I always pee before and after.

[wineallthetime]

Aug 11, 2018 17:13:11 GMT -6 trtlcrzy said:

Aug 11, 2018 17:03:39 GMT -6 wineallthetime said:

I guess I don't know how things go in your house, but the mess is pretty easy to clean up around here. It's typically in one general area and no matter if we area using condoms or not, there is some clean up involved. TMI? But even with condom I prefer a trip to the bathroom to pee and freshen up. Pretty easy to clean off anything during this time.

Here’s some TMI for you: if we pull and pray he goes into a tissue so nbd. Last time we dtd with no protection (other than my bcp) he went inside and then I feel like I’m leaking the whole next day. Which is the worst. I also always go to the bathroom immediately following regardless of which option we choose.

I do not have the leaking issue and would not enjoy.