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Post by xolastunicornxo on Aug 8, 2018 15:41:15 GMT -6
I was literally just typing
That C has been a cranky messy today and took almost two hours to fall asleep for a nap, but that she was finally down..... and she woke up. AS I WAS TYPING!!! Is it too early for a glass of wine?
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Post by peachsmama on Aug 8, 2018 16:29:32 GMT -6
A's friend caught his wife cheating. He took screenshots of her conversations with the guy and posted them on Instagram 😯
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Post by wedding on Aug 8, 2018 16:42:22 GMT -6
I just bought prenatal vitamins, condoms and pregnancy tests.. thank God for self check out. "One of these things is not like the other"  I want this cat |
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Post by wedding on Aug 8, 2018 16:47:05 GMT -6
How are you feeling today, wedding? Much better. Thank you! Still some GI upset but the overall death feeling has subsided. |
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Post by wedding on Aug 8, 2018 16:48:13 GMT -6
peachsmama I hope you have trip insurance because you’re going to be KU!
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Post by peachsmama on Aug 8, 2018 17:03:58 GMT -6
peachsmama I hope you have trip insurance because you’re going to be KU! DON'T PUT THAT OUT IN THE UNIVERSE! |
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Post by kim22 on Aug 8, 2018 18:34:32 GMT -6
Ok deep question for the day: For all of you that are planning on #3 or more kids, how did you come to that decision? I feel like it's a lot more complicated than going from 1 to 2. What kinds of things factored into that decision? Sibling relationships? Financial impacts (short and long term)? Career impacts? We wouldn't try for another year if we go for 3, so we have time to make that decision but it's been on my mind a lot I wish I could say we thought about/discussed those things but while my first 2 were ovulation predictor, planned to the second, 3 and 4 were the result of good old irresponsibility. I mean, if we for sure didn’t want more, we could have been more careful. I’m usually a super planner but for some reason I just kinda went with it with the kids. I’m not sure what is going to happen with my career but everything has kind of fallen into place otherwise and I’m my relaxed and content than I have ever been. |
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Post by peachsmama on Aug 8, 2018 19:01:38 GMT -6
Ok deep question for the day: For all of you that are planning on #3 or more kids, how did you come to that decision? I feel like it's a lot more complicated than going from 1 to 2. What kinds of things factored into that decision? Sibling relationships? Financial impacts (short and long term)? Career impacts? We wouldn't try for another year if we go for 3, so we have time to make that decision but it's been on my mind a lot I will answer tomorrow when I can type on my computer lol. |
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Post by flamingo on Aug 8, 2018 19:46:12 GMT -6
We just got home from seeing the documentary Three Identical Strangers and I highly recommend it. Mom and I are still talking about it. It was really interesting, made us think, and was quite shocking and heartbreaking in many ways. It’s an independent production so is likely only showing in smaller, more artsy theaters, which is a shame bc more people should probably see it.
So anywho, that’s my PSA for today—if you can’t catch it in a theater look for it on Netflix at some point.
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Post by kim22 on Aug 8, 2018 20:07:17 GMT -6
A's friend caught his wife cheating. He took screenshots of her conversations with the guy and posted them on Instagram 😯 Oh no, bad move. I know someone who did something similar but then decided to work things out but then the whole world knew what had happened. |
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Post by chrisy01 on Aug 8, 2018 20:17:06 GMT -6
A's friend caught his wife cheating. He took screenshots of her conversations with the guy and posted them on Instagram 😯 Oh no, bad move. I know someone who did something similar but then decided to work things out but then the whole world knew what had happened. Plus you would hate for your kids to see it if they have kids. Once it's on the internet it's there forever. |
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Post by peachsmama on Aug 8, 2018 20:35:58 GMT -6
kim22, chrisy01 He was already planning on a divorce (only got married because he got her pregnant, twice..) but she went on a bachelorette weekend and met someone.. She hacked his Instagram and deleted it but we'll see how it goes from here..
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Post by peachsmama on Aug 8, 2018 21:15:04 GMT -6
I will answer tomorrow when I can type on my computer lol. Holding you to that! On my computer to work out. I just don't feel like our family is complete. I always wanted 6, A wanted 4. We thought we'd compromise and have 5. Now he's thinking 3 is it and I think 4. So we'll see how we feel after number 3 lol. For me, my career is flexible. I love running my dads business and hope to keep growing it and eventually it will be mine. A, he just made foreman last year and can keep moving up and will continue to make more. His career has loads of opportunity. As far as sibling relationships, I don't like being 1 of 2. If we have a boy next I will be more likely to push for a 4th. Because M and J are so close in age I worry about boy #3 being left behind and pushed out of their little group. If it's a girl, I worry less. They both adore every little baby girl they come in contact with. |
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Post by trtlcrzy on Aug 8, 2018 21:26:12 GMT -6
Ok deep question for the day: For all of you that are planning on #3 or more kids, how did you come to that decision? I feel like it's a lot more complicated than going from 1 to 2. What kinds of things factored into that decision? Sibling relationships? Financial impacts (short and long term)? Career impacts? We wouldn't try for another year if we go for 3, so we have time to make that decision but it's been on my mind a lot 3 just seems like the right number for me. I don’t feel done having kids yet. Sorry I don’t have a better answer than that. |
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Post by trtlcrzy on Aug 8, 2018 21:33:32 GMT -6
We got home from visiting my dad and step mom around 9:30. Neither girl took a nap and both conked out within 20 minutes of getting on the road. They both had so much fun at the lake and S got very independent and brave today. She was floating around saying she was swimming, it was cute. So funny story: H asked my step mom if she could have s’mores after dinner. My dad got the fire going, SM brought out the supplies and then next thing you know H has a marshmallow in her hand. SM makes the smore, H takes one bite and says she doesn’t want it. But she did want a piece of chocolate and graham cracker separately so I said she had a deconstructed smore.
I’m showered and just finished painting my nails. I’ll probably go to bed here in a little bit, I’m tired. The sun really wears you out.
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Post by klong11 on Aug 8, 2018 21:37:21 GMT -6
Tomorrow is career day at dc. Cadence's teacher told them they can't be princesses, so Cadence asked if she could be a Ninja turtle.
Ninja Turtles are not a job, they are a character.
Ok, I guess I'll be a construction worker then.
So, my daughter will wear her construction hat, tool belt and various tools. It's all I could come up with the night before it's due.
I was going to make her a doctor, but mh doesn't own a white button down to use as a Dr jacket. Oh well.
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Post by slenle on Aug 8, 2018 21:56:24 GMT -6
PSA- use code milk52018 and get a free nursing cover on milksnob.com. No payment info needed!
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Post by trtlcrzy on Aug 8, 2018 22:07:21 GMT -6
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Post by nam2013 on Aug 8, 2018 22:48:30 GMT -6
Like other said, it just doesn’t feel ‘complete’ yet. Plus even though I had two difficult pregnancies and at least one very high maintenance baby (ds was easy compared to dd, but started in the NICU, didn’t STTN until 18mo and his growth worried us a lot), I just love being pregnant and I love babies and couldn’t come to terms with DD’s pregnancy being my last one 🤷🏼♀️.
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Post by wineallthetime on Aug 9, 2018 6:01:42 GMT -6
Ok deep question for the day: For all of you that are planning on #3 or more kids, how did you come to that decision? I feel like it's a lot more complicated than going from 1 to 2. What kinds of things factored into that decision? Sibling relationships? Financial impacts (short and long term)? Career impacts? We wouldn't try for another year if we go for 3, so we have time to make that decision but it's been on my mind a lot Like others said, I just didn't feel "done". I was fine with just two, but knew in a few years I'd wish we would have had another. Plus, I love babies! Like Kim said, I also wasn't super careful. I was tracking my periods and such and avoiding ovulation times, but could have been way more careful (and would have been if I knew we were done). Also, other than financial impacts so far 2-3 has been much easier than 1-2. Aside from our 5 week hospitalization following A's birth, he's a super laid back baby though so that has a lot to do with it too. |
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Post by wineallthetime on Aug 9, 2018 6:03:53 GMT -6
Also, random but families of 5 (meaning 3 kids) have always really annoyed me. I don't know why because I realize that's a stupid thing to be annoyed about. I don't know if it's because it's not a small family, but not a big family? It feels kinda at a weird in between stage? I don't know, but I'm annoyed that I currently have a family of 5 and consider one more baby just so we can be a family of 6...
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Post by wineallthetime on Aug 9, 2018 6:24:01 GMT -6
Also, random but families of 5 (meaning 3 kids) have always really annoyed me. I don't know why because I realize that's a stupid thing to be annoyed about. I don't know if it's because it's not a small family, but not a big family? It feels kinda at a weird in between stage? I don't know, but I'm annoyed that I currently have a family of 5 and consider one more baby just so we can be a family of 6... Lol! I come from a family of 6 and do think 5 is enough tpvfeel like a little tribe but not huge. On the flip side, A lot of people say society is built for families of 4 I'm from a family is 6 as well. I always thought I'd have 4 kids, now I'm thinking 3 might be where we stop. I feel like families of 4 are the norm, at least among a lot of my friends/family! |
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Post by guster on Aug 9, 2018 6:44:31 GMT -6
jewels, I sent you a PM (about hotels in her area, nothing scandalous!) Your avatar didn't come up, so good chance I sent it to somebody random.
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Post by nam2013 on Aug 9, 2018 6:52:31 GMT -6
I do however expect people to judge us wanting a third since 1.0-2.0 weren’t exactly cake walks...
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Post by slenle on Aug 9, 2018 6:54:41 GMT -6
mamabear, I’m another who just doesn’t feel done. I’ve always wanted 3 or 4 but now realize 3 is the number. Dh would be fine being done but is okay with 3 too. I come from a family of 4 kids and dh just has a sister and I think my family is way more fun. Lol. Him and his sister aren’t that close either and I think it would be different if they were closer. Also, I wanted to ttc his past January but we decided to hold off a year. H was a much needier baby and dh is really just a starting to “enjoy” him more now so i think it’ll be easier to add a baby now that h has mellowed out.
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Post by kim22 on Aug 9, 2018 7:06:22 GMT -6
It's a hard decision bc these factors are reality, but obviously every baby is precious so I'm sure no one would say it's not worth it. I was talking to a friend before I had my third and she said she had talked to her doctor about a 3rd and he said he rarely if ever had a patient come back and say they wish they never had the next kid but he very often had those who said they wished they had. I get the c-section fear, I had 4 of them. My OB was fine and even told me I’d be good for a 5th. The MFM that did my ultrasound though yelled at me. |
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Post by wineallthetime on Aug 9, 2018 7:13:10 GMT -6
I do however expect people to judge us wanting a third since 1.0-2.0 weren’t exactly cake walks... I know what you mean. I didn't have major issues but I did have 2 c sections to recover from and PPA. My sister thinks I was miserable and my mom's like, well you have one of each! I do think about not wanting to have another c section, which is most likely what would happen with 3. I get it with the c-sections. I tried to do a vaginal birth with A after 2 prior c-sections. It didn't go well due to some complications and I ended up with a 3rd c-section. Guessing they wouldn't have even advised me to try had he not been a tiny preemie though. |
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Post by dapostrophe on Aug 9, 2018 7:29:09 GMT -6
I was talking to a friend before I had my third and she said she had talked to her doctor about a 3rd and he said he rarely if ever had a patient come back and say they wish they never had the next kid but he very often had those who said they wished they had. I get this line of thinking, but would anyone really ever tell their OB that they wished they didn't have one of their kids? I was fine with a singleton when I was a single mom, wanted 5 after #2 but thought I was too old, made a firm decision to be done at 4, and ended up with 5. I was done due to rough pregnancies and wanting to invest time in my business. I also felt complete enough, however now that we have Bea and I'm not pregnant anymore, I'm loving it. I might even consider #6 if someone else would be pregnant for me 😉 I feel like anything after two is just whatever...going from 2-3 and 3-4 (not counting my teen in here) was a cakewalk compared to 1-2. We are done though...H is scheduled for vasectomy round 2. |
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Post by jewels on Aug 9, 2018 7:32:46 GMT -6
jewels , I sent you a PM (about hotels in her area, nothing scandalous!) Your avatar didn't come up, so good chance I sent it to somebody random. I didn't get it. I think there is a jewel somewhere out there as well so you might have sent it to her instead. I'll PM you and then you can just reply. And thanks for the Birthday wishes for B! I can't believe my baby is 2! It's funny that mamabear brought up how you know when you're done question now. B/c we are done, but not b/c I necessarily feel we are complete, but b/c logistically having another is not realistic. So our choice was made based on all those other factors. This made B turning 2 so much harder for me since I know I'll never have another baby. And as I've said before, I LOVE the baby stage. LOVE. |
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Post by lahdeedah on Aug 9, 2018 7:46:17 GMT -6
mamabear I’m not trying for three, but pre kids had always thought my number was three. Going from 1-2 has been quite the adventure and not easy for me and I wasn’t expecting it because I’m a person who takes everything in stride. I think a little of my struggle coincides with me being full-time at work. It’s what I wanted, but now I realize I need the time at home more than ever. I’ve been talking myself into M2 being my last because I just feel like I don’t want to go through this struggle again. This past year has been one of my hardest and I’m ready for things to get easier. I think if I lived near one of our families and we had the help of grandparents occasionally, it would be easier and a third would be a definite possibility down the road. If I didn’t have to be pregnancy again to get a third, that would probably be easier, too. I don’t love pregnancy.
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