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Post by curmudgeon on Jul 31, 2018 11:06:35 GMT -6
My aunt and Uncle are having their anniversary party Saturday evening. It starts at 6:30 and says it will go until midnight. I don’t plan on staying past 8:30/9pm. Would you bring your kids (5 yrs and the baby) for a couple hours? My only babysitters are my parents, who will be at the party, and MIL who is next door but has never watched the baby. The baby usually goes to sleep at 7pm.
I don’t know if I should put the baby to sleep and ask MIL to sit at my house with him and take the 5 yr old to the party or just take both kids. I don’t think I could leave both kids with MIL.
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Post by August Blooms on Jul 31, 2018 11:29:21 GMT -6
I would bring both kids if your planning on leaving by 9, do you baby wear? You could put the baby in the carrier around bedtime and hope it’s not too crazy for him to fall asleep.
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Post by curmudgeon on Jul 31, 2018 11:47:08 GMT -6
I do have a carrier that I haven’t used in months but I forgot all about it.
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Post by August Blooms on Jul 31, 2018 11:58:49 GMT -6
That’s what I did at my sisters wedding since we didn’t have childcare. I did have baby headphones for when the DH started up.
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Post by curmudgeon on Jul 31, 2018 13:48:32 GMT -6
Maybe I should leave DS1 with the in laws since the baby is easier and won’t complain of being bored.
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Post by doodlemommy on Jul 31, 2018 14:45:04 GMT -6
This has been my life 3 nights this week. I am in charge of the nursery/toddler room at church and we are doing a Reno/painting so Monday and Wednesday I need to be at church and tonight we are going axe throwing for a belated bday celebration with my dad. All 3 nights we are leaving as soon as DS is in bed and the babysitter is putting DD to bed once we leave (coming a bit before to play with her). She is almost 4 and super easy to put down, and also these are known/familiar sitters (my sister Monday, ILs tonight, and my mom tomorrow). I don’t like to mess with bedtimes personally so I would put baby to bed and go, leaving MIL to put your older one to bed. If she’s going to sit at your house with a sleeping baby she may as well hang out with DS too. Then you can stay longer if you want too
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Post by curmudgeon on Jul 31, 2018 16:44:18 GMT -6
Lol at staying longer if we want. I’m going out of obligation. I also don’t know if I fully trust MIL to not walk back to her house. She also goes to bed around 7/8pm. Wearing the baby seems like the best option for now, and using potential crankiness as an excuse to leave earlier.
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Post by curmudgeon on Jul 31, 2018 16:45:08 GMT -6
Also, want to go axe throwing. I’ve looked this up near me and haven’t found anything.
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Post by cythe on Jul 31, 2018 20:35:56 GMT -6
I have no advice on this but my kid would 100% not go to sleep at a party nor would anyone let her do so. I'd stay home lol, which I do know isn't an option.
Is there a quiet room you can put a PnP and baby monitor? That would be my best option.
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Post by doodlemommy on Jul 31, 2018 23:04:54 GMT -6
Lol at staying longer if we want. I’m going out of obligation. I also don’t know if I fully trust MIL to not walk back to her house. She also goes to bed around 7/8pm. Wearing the baby seems like the best option for now, and using potential crankiness as an excuse to leave earlier. Well in that case I’d agree, take and wear the little one. Your MIL seems...not ideal. She’s actually leave a sleeping baby in a house alone? Crazy! |
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Post by doodlemommy on Jul 31, 2018 23:11:31 GMT -6
Also, want to go axe throwing. I’ve looked this up near me and haven’t found anything. Axe throwing was a blast. The lady who was running it was very odd though. Like did multiple demos but didn’t even hit the board never mind stick the axe and told us a long story about her cheerleading injury being why, kept standing super close to us and joining in on family conversation, kept asking if we were ok when the axe would hit the fence. She was like helicopter hovering and was not picking up on social cues at all. She also asked my sister if being married really made a difference/was worth it 🤣 |
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Post by curmudgeon on Aug 1, 2018 3:04:57 GMT -6
I have no advice on this but my kid would 100% not go to sleep at a party nor would anyone let her do so. I'd stay home lol, which I do know isn't an option. Is there a quiet room you can put a PnP and baby monitor? That would be my best option. this is my fear because he already doesn’t like to be rocked to sleep. He squirms and arches his back until I just lay him down awake. Damn I hate messing with sleep time. |
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Post by cythe on Aug 1, 2018 5:50:00 GMT -6
I have no advice on this but my kid would 100% not go to sleep at a party nor would anyone let her do so. I'd stay home lol, which I do know isn't an option. Is there a quiet room you can put a PnP and baby monitor? That would be my best option. this is my fear because he already doesn’t like to be rocked to sleep. He squirms and arches his back until I just lay him down awake. Damn I hate messing with sleep time. Exactly. I think eventually E would fall asleep but it would be a long, hard fought ordeal. Maybe 6 months ago but not now, shes just too aware of things happening without her. |
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Post by Taitai on Aug 1, 2018 7:36:50 GMT -6
curmudgeon Oh man, this is tough. I really, really hate to mess with bedtimes. Like - we will not go to extended family Christmas gatherings that start at 6:30pm, because I refuse to eff up my kids bedtimes. Sleep is sooooooo precious to me, and when my kids get off schedule, I swear it takes them a week or two to get back to normal. So I think I’m extra on this one. If you think your MIL might leave a sleeping baby alone - do you also think she might do that for your DS1? That would be really worrisome for me. Hmmm...could you get there early with both kids and then leave by 7 or 7:30pm? I’m obviously no help and just rambling at this point. Sorry!
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Post by curmudgeon on Aug 1, 2018 8:25:00 GMT -6
Taitai if DS1 stayed with MIL he would just spend the night at her house. And yes, I believe she wouldn’t think it’s a big deal if she walked back home to watch tv while the baby was sound asleep. The more I think about it the more I think I’ll just skip out early and risk complaints from everyone. Especially since a cousin is bringing a 1 month old and I’m certain will stay all night with that baby.
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Post by cythe on Aug 1, 2018 8:44:51 GMT -6
Taitai if DS1 stayed with MIL he would just spend the night at her house. And yes, I believe she wouldn’t think it’s a big deal if she walked back home to watch tv while the baby was sound asleep. The more I think about it the more I think I’ll just skip out early and risk complaints from everyone. Especially since a cousin is bringing a 1 month old and I’m certain will stay all night with that baby. a one month old can sleep through basically anything where a nosy 10 month old ... cannot. Basically, F everyone. I'd skip out early, I'm extra too. |
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Post by rebeccabunch on Aug 1, 2018 9:18:49 GMT -6
My life is hard right now.
I lean towards the easiest option for me for just about everything currently.
If I had to go, I’d go and if I didn’t have a safe spot for my kids (I’m very WTF to your MIL walking out of a house w a sleeping baby but I’ll leave that alone) I’d bring them too and stay for one hour.
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