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Jul 31, 2018 8:21:51 GMT -6
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Post by ArielMermaid on Jul 31, 2018 8:21:51 GMT -6
Taking Toddler Mermiad to the doctor today to see what’s up. Rash is spreading and itches. I’m hoping I can get a yes or no on HFM. It’s presenting differently on her than my nephews.
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Jul 31, 2018 8:24:52 GMT -6
Post by cornpop on Jul 31, 2018 8:24:52 GMT -6
Ugh I hope it's not HFM ArielMermaid. But I don't even know what the better option is at that point.
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Jul 31, 2018 9:11:00 GMT -6
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Post by cp3 on Jul 31, 2018 9:12:26 GMT -6
The baby learned to roll yesterday. So going swaddle free did not go well last night. And then she was wide awake at 3 30 thinking it was play time and kept grabbing her feet and wanting to roll.
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Jul 31, 2018 11:05:10 GMT -6
Post by cornpop on Jul 31, 2018 11:05:10 GMT -6
So in last week's HDBD, I posted about the vintage elephant bouncy seat my ILs had my toddler in last week and how I was not thrilled about it.
I finally mentioned it to my H, that bouncy seat used to be in our basement (we bought their old house). He put it out for garbage. THEY CAME BY AND GOT IT FROM THE CURB.
After he told them he didn't feel safe putting his kids in it. WTAF.
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Jul 31, 2018 11:07:53 GMT -6
Post by Rama on Jul 31, 2018 11:07:53 GMT -6
So in last week's HDBD, I posted about the vintage elephant bouncy seat my ILs had my toddler in last week and how I was not thrilled about it.
I finally mentioned it to my H, that bouncy seat used to be in our basement (we bought their old house). He put it out for garbage. THEY CAME BY AND GOT IT FROM THE CURB.
After he told them he didn't feel safe putting his kids in it. WTAF.
Holy what? That's fucked up! I'd be PISSED.
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Jul 31, 2018 11:09:06 GMT -6
Post by Rama on Jul 31, 2018 11:09:06 GMT -6
Thanks for the pats, everyone. I've been seeing my counselor and we decided to go back to an as-needed basis instead of routine because, generally, I'm doing much better. It was just that day. I think it's a Monday thing. Only 4 more Mondays?
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Jul 31, 2018 11:12:41 GMT -6
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Post by ArielMermaid on Jul 31, 2018 11:12:41 GMT -6
It’s HFM. I’m ready for the world to swallow me up now. If the baby gets it we are beyond fucked.
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Jul 31, 2018 11:27:17 GMT -6
Post by Rama on Jul 31, 2018 11:27:17 GMT -6
It’s HFM. I’m ready for the world to swallow me up now. If the baby gets it we are beyond fucked. Goddamnit. The universe can stop dumping its diseases on your family now. How soon is the wedding? Any chance of it clearing up beforehand?
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Jul 31, 2018 11:46:51 GMT -6
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Post by polson on Jul 31, 2018 11:46:51 GMT -6
ArielMermaid ugh i’m sorry. we had it the week of the 4th. i would say after the third day things started getting better. i’m not going to lie it was pretty horrible. i chased the toddler around with hand sanitizer the whole time. i ended up getting the worst cold of my life (i think it’s possible to get sick from the virus and not get the rash? but maybe it was something else). miraculously the baby didn’t get it. hopefully it’s just a mild case that ends quickly. eta it wasn’t clear to me when they stopped being contagious - it’s either past the point of the fever breaking or when the vesicles crust over. i also read they can shed it for weeks🤷♀️ i’m sure your doc was more helpful. i never ended up bringing her in because i had no doubt it was hfm
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Post by ArielMermaid on Jul 31, 2018 12:02:47 GMT -6
It’s HFM. I’m ready for the world to swallow me up now. If the baby gets it we are beyond fucked. Goddamnit. The universe can stop dumping its diseases on your family now. How soon is the wedding? Any chance of it clearing up beforehand? Saturday. Doctor said absolutely do not take her. 😰 I’m just hoping the baby and I don’t get it. I’ll have to drop out too if I get a nasty rash. I don’t know how we will keep it from the baby.
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Jul 31, 2018 12:04:11 GMT -6
Post by calendula on Jul 31, 2018 12:04:11 GMT -6
ArielMermaid, I'm sorry. Don't freak though. Most kids get HFM and I think it passes quickly for most kids. DS was feeling much better in 24-48 hours. I got it too, and I felt like death for a day but fine the next day. Adults can get HFM but since our immune systems are much more developed, it can just present like a cold or a fever without a rash. Kids are contagious for a long time, on the order of weeks. Most daycares let kids back after the fever passes though. She'll be ok! Popsicles and motrin and lots of diaper cream. And wine for you.
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Jul 31, 2018 12:07:07 GMT -6
Post by calendula on Jul 31, 2018 12:07:07 GMT -6
cornpop, my eyes are bugging out of my head right now. What did you guys do? I'd be furious.
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Post by ArielMermaid on Jul 31, 2018 12:37:51 GMT -6
So in last week's HDBD, I posted about the vintage elephant bouncy seat my ILs had my toddler in last week and how I was not thrilled about it.
I finally mentioned it to my H, that bouncy seat used to be in our basement (we bought their old house). He put it out for garbage. THEY CAME BY AND GOT IT FROM THE CURB.
After he told them he didn't feel safe putting his kids in it. WTAF.
I just.... wut?!
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Jul 31, 2018 12:54:10 GMT -6
Post by cornpop on Jul 31, 2018 12:54:10 GMT -6
cornpop , my eyes are bugging out of my head right now. What did you guys do? I'd be furious. I don't even know what to do. My H didn't see it at their house, he didn't even know they took it from our house until I said something.
So, if he says something, which he is willing to do, they'll know it was because I said something to him and based on past arguments, will assume that he is *only* saying something because I told him to. They refuse to ever believe that he disagrees with anything that they do, they assume it all comes from me.
Basically I have to let them completely disregard our parenting choices, or I have to have a huge argument with them. Both freaking suck and I have no idea what to do.
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Jul 31, 2018 14:03:12 GMT -6
Post by Rama on Jul 31, 2018 14:03:12 GMT -6
cornpop , my eyes are bugging out of my head right now. What did you guys do? I'd be furious. I don't even know what to do. My H didn't see it at their house, he didn't even know they took it from our house until I said something.
So, if he says something, which he is willing to do, they'll know it was because I said something to him and based on past arguments, will assume that he is *only* saying something because I told him to. They refuse to ever believe that he disagrees with anything that they do, they assume it all comes from me.
Basically I have to let them completely disregard our parenting choices, or I have to have a huge argument with them. Both freaking suck and I have no idea what to do.
Welp, time for a fight. Letting them continue to get away with undermining your parenting decisions stands to be far more detrimental long-term than them figuring out you're both fucking adults and need to have your choices respected.
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Jul 31, 2018 14:09:09 GMT -6
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Post by ArielMermaid on Jul 31, 2018 14:09:09 GMT -6
I don't even know what to do. My H didn't see it at their house, he didn't even know they took it from our house until I said something.
So, if he says something, which he is willing to do, they'll know it was because I said something to him and based on past arguments, will assume that he is *only* saying something because I told him to. They refuse to ever believe that he disagrees with anything that they do, they assume it all comes from me.
Basically I have to let them completely disregard our parenting choices, or I have to have a huge argument with them. Both freaking suck and I have no idea what to do.
Welp, time for a fight. Letting them continue to get away with undermining your parenting decisions stands to be far more detrimental long-term than them figuring out you're both fucking adults and need to have your choices respected. And if they don’t learn to respect your choices you’ll fight down the road regardless.
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Jul 31, 2018 14:21:50 GMT -6
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Post by auri on Jul 31, 2018 14:21:50 GMT -6
yianna I’m so sorry for your loss. cornpop I’m guessing you saw them take it from the curb? I’m just asking because we have people randomly take things from the curb all the time. If I knew for a fact that they took it I would say something. Otherwise I probably wouldn’t unless I saw it at their house. It probably wouldn’t go over very well if some other random person took it.
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Jul 31, 2018 14:27:23 GMT -6
Post by calendula on Jul 31, 2018 14:27:23 GMT -6
ITA with ArielMermaid and Rama, cornpop. I'm sorry. I know its not easy but you can't continue to let them undermine your marriage, parenting and disrespect you this way. ESPECIALLY not when there are safety concerns at play. I don't give a shit how horrible it makes me sound, but spending alone time with grandchildren is not a inviolable right. It is a privilege that can be taken away when people cannot put their egos aside for the safety and best interest of the kids. Ugh. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. Seriously, IL problems are the suck.
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Jul 31, 2018 16:55:12 GMT -6
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Post by cornpop on Jul 31, 2018 16:55:12 GMT -6
auri I saw my toddler using it at their house, so I definitely know they have it. Ugh, I know you guys are right, I just feel like I almost have to choose between enforcing how I want my kids raised or possibly losing my H. We've had issues with this before, they called me paranoid and manipulative because I asked them to watch Em at our house or not at all until they were able to clean out their dining room (they had furniture piled several items high and I felt it was unsafe). My H was supportive of me being not happy with them after that... Until he wasn't and then it caused a lot of issues between us. Sorry I don't mean to take over ransoms. This just sucks
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Jul 31, 2018 17:39:10 GMT -6
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Post by auri on Jul 31, 2018 17:39:10 GMT -6
Thanks for clarifying cornpop. I’m sorry that your dealing with inlaw problems and they aren’t respecting your parenting decisions.
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Jul 31, 2018 19:24:22 GMT -6
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Post by ArielMermaid on Jul 31, 2018 19:24:22 GMT -6
Well shit cornpop, that sucks. How does your H feel about the bouncy thing?
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Post by cornpop on Jul 31, 2018 19:46:06 GMT -6
Well shit cornpop, that sucks. How does your H feel about the bouncy thing? He's pissed at them and wants to say something, but he didn't see it so if he does, they'll know it canme from me. Ugh.
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Jul 31, 2018 19:47:42 GMT -6
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Post by ArielMermaid on Jul 31, 2018 19:47:42 GMT -6
Well shit cornpop, that sucks. How does your H feel about the bouncy thing? He's pissed at them and wants to say something, but he didn't see it so if he does, they'll know it canme from me. Ugh. UGH for sure!
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Jul 31, 2018 20:01:03 GMT -6
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Post by stardust84 on Jul 31, 2018 20:01:03 GMT -6
cornpop Can he bring it up with saying that you think it is unsafe. Like "cornpop said you had an elephant bouncer. I put the one from our basement on the curb because it is not safe. Did you come get it?" Just have him focus on him and his unease rather than you taking issue with it.
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Jul 31, 2018 20:05:26 GMT -6
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Post by stardust84 on Jul 31, 2018 20:05:26 GMT -6
Tonight is the first night of both arms out of the swaddle. Wish me luck!
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Post by cornpop on Jul 31, 2018 20:06:23 GMT -6
cornpop Can he bring it up with saying that you think it is unsafe. Like "cornpop said you had an elephant bouncer. I put the one from our basement on the curb because it is not safe. Did you come get it?" Just have him focus on him and his unease rather than you taking issue with it. I think he's going to look in their basement and "find" it and then say something. Hopefully it's there and not hidden elsewhere.
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Aug 1, 2018 0:39:30 GMT -6
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Post by mrsmonogrammed on Aug 1, 2018 0:39:30 GMT -6
Tonight is the first night of both arms out of the swaddle. Wish me luck! Good luck!! Our first night went a lot easier than I expected, I hope the same holds true for you!
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Aug 1, 2018 7:53:22 GMT -6
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Post by auri on Aug 1, 2018 7:53:22 GMT -6
My husband left today to go to Gen Con. He’ll be back late Sunday night. I’m really hoping I won’t regret telling him to go.
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Post by snowmoon on Aug 1, 2018 9:03:57 GMT -6
I am just in the worst funk the last few days. I'm feeling completely overwhelmed and burnt-out. I need a day off.
And a maid and a spa day.
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