Post by addymac on Jun 14, 2017 16:07:41 GMT -6
Hey ladies...
So here's my situation. We don't live near ANY family at all. Most of our close friends have moved away in the last year since everyone moved here for graduate or medical school and recently graduated. Our college friends are on either coast, not the Midwest. So I can count on one hand how many girlfriends I have left here to invite to a baby shower.
My sister is flying in and visiting the weekend of July 1. She offered to throw me a baby shower. I have 4 friends I can invite because my bff is moving this weekend and my other close friend is OOT that weekend. No clue if the other 4 have plans (probably- it's the 4th of July weekend...). It just seems really lame and sad to have a shower with *maybe* 5 people total. And two are work friends, who should be planning a work shower, and one already sent me a gift, so I feel like I'd be double dipping into their time.
So my sister suggested just going out to brunch or going for mani/pedis with everyone. But she's not going to pay for everyone- so that seems wrong. Like if it were a legit baby shower she should host with food and what not... so I feel like she's trying to do the equivalent of a "bridal tea" and then friends can bring a gift if they want. But it doesn't seem like a baby shower, where the point is to bring the baby a gift. It seems like a hang out sesh, which is cool, but I don't think particularly appropriate to label as a baby shower of sorts.
But it makes me a little sad to think we won't have a shower to celebrate this baby. But my family didn't throw me a bridal shower either, so I get that it's not their thing. And work usually throws one for everyone, but I'm already 30+w and there's been nothing planned for work, so I'm feeling a little hurt that my friends at work may not throw me one, since that is the culture (and I had to suck it up and throw one for my work friend less than a month after my MMC because no one else cared to, or cared to think it might be hard for me to plan it.)
So, thoughts? Should I accept a brunch / girls day where they could bring a gift even though it will be like 4 people there? Or just decline? It just seems lame/sad and honestly DH and I have been struggling with the friends department since everyone started moving and are hoping DHs new job will help us find new friends.
So here's my situation. We don't live near ANY family at all. Most of our close friends have moved away in the last year since everyone moved here for graduate or medical school and recently graduated. Our college friends are on either coast, not the Midwest. So I can count on one hand how many girlfriends I have left here to invite to a baby shower.
My sister is flying in and visiting the weekend of July 1. She offered to throw me a baby shower. I have 4 friends I can invite because my bff is moving this weekend and my other close friend is OOT that weekend. No clue if the other 4 have plans (probably- it's the 4th of July weekend...). It just seems really lame and sad to have a shower with *maybe* 5 people total. And two are work friends, who should be planning a work shower, and one already sent me a gift, so I feel like I'd be double dipping into their time.
So my sister suggested just going out to brunch or going for mani/pedis with everyone. But she's not going to pay for everyone- so that seems wrong. Like if it were a legit baby shower she should host with food and what not... so I feel like she's trying to do the equivalent of a "bridal tea" and then friends can bring a gift if they want. But it doesn't seem like a baby shower, where the point is to bring the baby a gift. It seems like a hang out sesh, which is cool, but I don't think particularly appropriate to label as a baby shower of sorts.
But it makes me a little sad to think we won't have a shower to celebrate this baby. But my family didn't throw me a bridal shower either, so I get that it's not their thing. And work usually throws one for everyone, but I'm already 30+w and there's been nothing planned for work, so I'm feeling a little hurt that my friends at work may not throw me one, since that is the culture (and I had to suck it up and throw one for my work friend less than a month after my MMC because no one else cared to, or cared to think it might be hard for me to plan it.)
So, thoughts? Should I accept a brunch / girls day where they could bring a gift even though it will be like 4 people there? Or just decline? It just seems lame/sad and honestly DH and I have been struggling with the friends department since everyone started moving and are hoping DHs new job will help us find new friends.
