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Post by TashaLa on Jul 19, 2018 18:59:01 GMT -6
wildflowers sorry your appt was so stressful. My practice won’t do a Doppler until after 12 weeks. Hoping you can relax until your next appt
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Post by TashaLa on Jul 19, 2018 18:59:56 GMT -6
Whoa this baby is keeping me on my toes. I just had the worst round ligament pain and felt like I was gonna pass out. I was in the middle of a session and I had to ask a CWer to take my kid back to class. I laid on the floor for ten minutes and the pain went away. I’m feeling better now but still a little sore and pukey. That sounds horrible! Hope you’re feeling better now
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Post by k on Jul 19, 2018 19:08:10 GMT -6
Whoa this baby is keeping me on my toes. I just had the worst round ligament pain and felt like I was gonna pass out. I was in the middle of a session and I had to ask a CWer to take my kid back to class. I laid on the floor for ten minutes and the pain went away. I’m feeling better now but still a little sore and pukey. That sounds horrible! Hope you’re feeling better now I am feeling better, thanks! I think the combination of the pain and the anxiety of being in the middle of work made me feel like I was gonna pass out. hopefully that never happens again. It was strange.
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Post by dashook on Jul 19, 2018 19:40:48 GMT -6
wildflowers that is so unfortunate and stressful! Like others have said it’s early for Doppler; hopefully that’s all it is and you’ll get some reassurance soon. Hugs! k that sounds awful! I had a few bouts of RLP today but nothing close to what you experienced. Hopefully it was a one time thing.
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Post by dashook on Jul 19, 2018 19:56:46 GMT -6
So hopefully this isn’t too Dear Diary but I wanted to fill you guys in a little on what’s happening with me.
Tl;dr my OB is putting me on blood pressure meds and my job basically is driving me into an early grave.
I have had HBP since I was 25 (and vegan, skinny, running half marathons twice a year, nonsmoker, etc.). It just runs in my family.
When I was pregnant with DS my BP was normal for the first time in years. It spiked at 40 weeks and I had to be induced.
With DD my BP was fine (but they put me on baby aspirin the whole pregnancy), then spiked at 39 weeks and I had to be induced again. After I had her it didn’t go down for weeks and I had to go on meds for the first time.
Well this time around it’s high at 12 weeks, I’m on the baby aspirin again, and they’re putting me on BP meds. It makes me nervous and scared even though my doctors aren’t overly concerned this early.
My job isn’t helping. I am stretched beyond my limit with no end in sight and it’s getting to the point where I’m questioning if this is really the best thing for my health and my family. I love my career and want to push it forward but at what cost.
Idk. Not in a great headspace today.
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Post by sunshiney on Jul 19, 2018 20:13:33 GMT -6
I'm so sorry@dashook. BP issues during pregnancy must be extra scary. As far as the job... Maybe give yourself permission to put all options on the table, but take your time to think through pros and cons. That's what helped me get to a clear headed place when I decided in March to put in notice and end my ten year career in education (when I was looking at the opportunity to be an assistant head of school this fall... It was not an easy choice!). I had to get clear headed enough to know I was making a decision based on reality and not just the pressures of the moment, and then I was able to trust my decision and not look back. Your health is definitely the priority, but that includes your dreams and goals for yourself so it's okay to take all that into consideration!
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Post by strawberrykiki on Jul 19, 2018 20:25:12 GMT -6
I had an appointment with my midwife yesterday and she didn't find the HB with the doppler. She warned me before we tried that we might not find it. (I am 10w 6d.) So I know it doesn't mean anything, but it isn't reassuring either. I am also freaking out because I have eaten dinner two nights in a row, after not being able to for weeks. I don't know how to calm down and feel like everything is alright. Hugs!! I would be freaking too but it’s still super early for the Doppler. I am 11 weeks and 1 day. I had a few days last week where I felt better and thought maybe it was better. But today I’ve felt sick allll day. Try to stay busy and stay positive! I’m going from 8 weeks 5 days to 13 weeks with no doctor appointment and I worry everyday something happened and I don’t know it. First trimester stinks! But we are almost there!
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Post by hrh on Jul 19, 2018 21:02:21 GMT -6
dashook, I'm sorry to hear you have to go on meds and are having a rough time. Only you know what the best work/life balance is for you, we are all different in that respect - just remember whatever you decide, you're worth it! Don't be afraid to advocate for yourself and play hardball if need be. You have more power and influence with your job than you might think!
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Post by wildflowers on Jul 19, 2018 21:35:44 GMT -6
Well good news... there was no third night of dinner tonight. I am so ready for the anxiety and the nausea to subside.
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Post by sammysam on Jul 20, 2018 4:58:44 GMT -6
dashook I'm so sorry you're dealing with all of this. I know you're in a crazy profession with a ridiculous work load. Do what is best for you. There is no wrong answer when it comes to your health and happiness and that of your family. I'm not sure if your profession is one you could take a few years off from and be able to get back into down the road without having to jump through too many hoops...but if not working is what would be best for you right now then you need to give yourself permission to explore that option. It doesn't have to be forever if you don't want it to be but if it's what you need for now then it's what you need. Your health, safety and happiness have to come first. I've been trying to get SO to quit his job for years. I see what crazy amounts of stress, insane deadlines, never ending work hours etc do to a person. Do what is best for you!
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Post by cch on Jul 20, 2018 7:30:01 GMT -6
wildflowers I’m surprised they didn’t do an US after not finding a HB on Doppler. I know it’s common to not find one that early with the Doppler but for peace of mind it would have been nice for them to do a quick US. I’m sorry they just left it at that. Maybe if you call they’ll schedule one for you as soon as they can get you in. dashook That’s unfortunate work has been extra stressful for you lately, especially considering your HBP. Is it possible for you to take a few days to yourself or cut back to part time? I’m sure it’s not that easy but if you need time for yourself, there’s nothing wrong with that. Glad they’re able to control your HBP with meds. Hope you’re feeling better soon. Hugs!
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Post by cch on Jul 20, 2018 7:34:34 GMT -6
Hit a new low yesterday when I vomited at a Mexican restaurant. Thankfully the bathroom was clean and no one was in there. Sigh. I’ve said it a few times and I’ll say it again... second tri can’t come quick enough! I’m so over feeling sick every day. On a positive note, I have an appointment today. It was supposed to be the 24th but got moved to today. It’s also MHs birthday so I’ll be stopping by Krispy Kreme (his fav) after my appointment. The dozen donuts I plan to get may or may not be missing one or two when he gets them 😋
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Post by dashook on Jul 20, 2018 7:38:19 GMT -6
Thanks, everyone! It really helps to read your calm, reassuring words.
I'm feeling better today in terms of being sad/unsure of what to do--still totally exhausted though! I'm going to push hard through the end of today and then tomorrow I'm doing a hard stop in the morning (no emails, no calls). DH and I are going to take the kids to the aquarium and I'm really looking forward to family time and ignoring all the other stuff for a few hours. In the afternoon I am going to have to do more work (ughhh) but at the pace I've been going, even a few hours off will feel like a vacation.
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Post by CharlieB on Jul 20, 2018 8:51:00 GMT -6
Damn, dashook, that is tough. Hopefully the baby aspirin does the trick, but that’s just worry on top of existing stress, and that doesn’t help. My field is also very demanding and stressful, but I love my job. It hasn’t impacted my BP, but I worry all the time about other effects of being constantly stressed. I think that your plan of setting some firm boundaries is a really good one. Even just small changes could make a huge difference. If there’s any time to give yourself a break, now is definitely it. Now I just need to take the same advice
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Post by thelittleredm on Jul 20, 2018 11:59:37 GMT -6
wildflowers, I'm so sorry you're going through that. As others have said, my midwife won't bother with a doppler until after 12 weeks since they're so unreliable before that point. dashook, I would be nervous, too, even with reassurances! FX things even out soon. @amc, I would be livid at them. Probably angry crying because I cry about everything right now.
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Post by thelittleredm on Jul 20, 2018 12:00:43 GMT -6
Today is the first day in awhile where I haven't felt consumed by nausea. I mean, it's only noon but still. But I'm cranky as a hornet. I hate everyone and everything. For no reason.
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Post by cch on Jul 20, 2018 13:26:58 GMT -6
My appointment today went great 😊 The Doppler didn’t pick up the HB so my OB did a quick US and baby was moving it’s arms and wiggling all around. HB was 173 (it was 148 at my 7w US) and everything looked good. Baby measured 10w3d but according to my dating US a couple weeks ago I’m 9w3d today. She said since it’s within 7 days they’ll keep the original DD but now I’m questioning if I could be further along and wish she would change it, even if just by a couple of days. She also mentioned my ute is no longer retroverted, just retroflexed and it’s moving like it should be which is a relief. Just happy everything went well and can’t wait for my next appointment at 12 weeks so we can finally tell DD she’s going to be a big sis.
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Post by dashook on Jul 20, 2018 14:36:49 GMT -6
@amc that is super frustrating!! FX the elevated liver enzymes are nothing. I actually had them too during the first round of testing they did several weeks ago. They re-tested me earlier this week and they are back to normal. cch yay for a great appointment! The due date game is annoying. I always want to be farther along than I am! They always seem to move me later though Not really relevant to your story, but this time around, I was charting so I know what day I ovulated/conceived (and actually by some chance it was CD14 so date should have been the same as LMP). According to that, my EDD should be 1/25. When I went into my dating scan I thought I was 7+3 but the OB's office had me as 7+2 (EDD 1/26). Whatever. Then based on ultrasound I actually measured 7+1 that day. But the nurse at the end just said "okay so we'll keep your due date the same." It annoyed me to push my due date back a day (including in all my apps) but I went ahead and did it since I figure I have to go by the same dates they're using. Come to find out this past Tuesday at my NT scan (which was done at the hospital) that my OB's office reported my EDD to the hospital as 1/27. Um, no. Nope. Eff that. I'm not changing it again. I just tell people it's 1/26 while in my mind I know that it's really 1/25.
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Post by cch on Jul 20, 2018 14:46:56 GMT -6
dashook I feel the same way! My DD was 2/18 based on LMP and I told our family that date and was happy about it but they told me at my 7 week appointment my DD was 2/19 based on their calculations and they did an US and said I was right on track so they kept the 2/19 DD. I changed it in my app and now tell people 2/19 even though, like you, I still have 2/18 in my mind as my due date. Not thrilled about it because I’m a weirdo numbers person and like even numbers and thought 2/18 sounded like a good date. Then when she didn’t move it today even though LO measured a week ahead it drove me crazy. I wish she’d meet me in the middle and change it 3-4 days... So basically, I feel your dating frustrations. It’s funny how a couple days makes such a big difference in our minds.
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Post by dashook on Jul 20, 2018 15:29:49 GMT -6
dashook I feel the same way! My DD was 2/18 based on LMP and I told our family that date and was happy about it but they told me at my 7 week appointment my DD was 2/19 based on their calculations and they did an US and said I was right on track so they kept the 2/19 DD. I changed it in my app and now tell people 2/19 even though, like you, I still have 2/18 in my mind as my due date. Not thrilled about it because I’m a weirdo numbers person and like even numbers and thought 2/18 sounded like a good date. Then when she didn’t move it today even though LO measured a week ahead it drove me crazy. I wish she’d meet me in the middle and change it 3-4 days... So basically, I feel your dating frustrations. It’s funny how a couple days makes such a big difference in our minds. So true! I like even numbers too. I was okay with 1/25 though because at least 25 is a nice, neat number. Reading this makes me sound crazy lol
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Post by sunshiney on Jul 20, 2018 15:33:35 GMT -6
cch and dashook same about numbers. Nurse misheard my opk vs ovulation date so they have me for March 1 when I'm really 2/28. Drives me crazy. Hoping the OB changes it for me. We always measure right on for my date too. CCH, 2/19/19 is kinda cool? @amc that is obnoxious!!!
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Post by sunshiney on Jul 20, 2018 15:37:43 GMT -6
AW - saw baby today at 8+1, heart rate of 172 (eek!). He was rolling left and right the whole time, and waved one long arm up at us! Legit cute. I keep using "he" getting used to a boy because a girl is my preference, so would rather feel pleasantly surprised than feel any disappointment (which is awful esp after going thru IF but I'm just being honest!). Crazy how much more detail we could see this week compared to last week. The sonographer was an angel, she let us hear the heart beat for a long time and showed us baby over and over from lots of angles. Graduated from the RE today, he said my miscarriage risk is now less than 5%.
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Post by dashook on Jul 20, 2018 15:42:24 GMT -6
AW - saw baby today at 8+1, heart rate of 172 (eek!). He was rolling left and right the whole time, and waved one long arm up at us! Legit cute. I keep using "he" getting used to a boy because a girl is my preference, so would rather feel pleasantly surprised than feel any disappointment (which is awful esp after going thru IF but I'm just being honest!). Crazy how much more detail we could see this week compared to last week. The sonographer was an angel, she let us hear the heart beat for a long time and showed us baby over and over from lots of angles. Graduated from the RE today, he said my miscarriage risk is now less than 5%. This is wonderful news!! Do you have any feeling one way or the other if it's a boy or a girl?
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Post by cch on Jul 20, 2018 16:10:28 GMT -6
dashook not crazy at all! Right there with ya! I’d consider the 25th a nice number too lol.. maybe we are a little cray haha I’m fine with it though. sunshiney My FIL said 2/19/19 was cool too but I’m still butt hurt it was changed haha. Plus, no one likes the first tri so I’ll take any extra days I can get at this point.. since she already changed the date I liked I figure she might as well give me a few extra days. Measuring a week ahead this early is a big deal IMO but what do I know 🤷🏼♀️ Congrats on your good US today and hearing the HB!
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Post by strawberrykiki on Jul 20, 2018 17:36:46 GMT -6
So happy for those of you who got to see baby!
TMI but I’ve been having a tough time some days using the bathroom. I went today and I had a very small amount of pink when I wiped so I’ve been freaking out. Even though so far it was just the the one time and I googled and read that sometimes straining can definitely cause that to happen. Still almost two weeks until my next appointment! Ugh I wish I could relax!
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Post by hrh on Jul 20, 2018 20:05:45 GMT -6
dashook, sunshiney, cch - you can fight for your due date if it matters a lot to you. I did it this pregnancy and my last one because I wanted to avoid induction and I wanted to let the babies cook the full time if possible (having gestational diabetes, premature delivery has always been a concern). I was 6 days overdue with my first, 4 days overdue with my last. They tried to date me three days earlier this time which is impossible given I know when I ovulated, so I literally asked the u/s tech, "can I challenge you on the date? Because I know exactly when I ovulated and it's important to me." She gave it to me. My feeling on it is if you know when you ovulated and you care about it, fight for it. Their ultrasound measurement is their most accurate medical way to tell how far along you are. The majority of women don't actually know when they ovulated, but if you do, that is more accurate. With every pregnancy I am more and more willing to question the doctor if I disagree. amc, annoyed for you too! Hope they get back on their game. strawberrykiki, totally normal. I get that too.
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Post by k on Jul 21, 2018 11:20:16 GMT -6
dashook, sunshiney, cch - you can fight for your due date if it matters a lot to you. I did it this pregnancy and my last one because I wanted to avoid induction and I wanted to let the babies cook the full time if possible (having gestational diabetes, premature delivery has always been a concern). I was 6 days overdue with my first, 4 days overdue with my last. They tried to date me three days earlier this time which is impossible given I know when I ovulated, so I literally asked the u/s tech, "can I challenge you on the date? Because I know exactly when I ovulated and it's important to me." She gave it to me. My feeling on it is if you know when you ovulated and you care about it, fight for it. Their ultrasound measurement is their most accurate medical way to tell how far along you are. The majority of women don't actually know when they ovulated, but if you do, that is more accurate. With every pregnancy I am more and more willing to question the doctor if I disagree. amc, annoyed for you too! Hope they get back on their game. strawberrykiki, totally normal. I get that too. Agreed. I was charting with my first and didn’t O until like day 50 something 😳, so they went by my date obvi. I only went by O pain with my second and this pregnancy. ultrasound tech was a day off from that so I think it’s pretty accurate. i actually don’t even know what due date they have in my chart 🤔. I was induced both times, so I need to check on that...
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Post by sammysam on Jul 21, 2018 12:46:47 GMT -6
With DD I was measuring 2 weeks ahead throughout. They didn't change my due date and kept it at 1/23. I ended up having her 1/25. It likely would have been even later but I went into labour right after they did the membrane sweep on 1/24 in the am. @amc Sorry about all the frustration with the labs. I hope they get it all sorted but WTF with making you go back over and over for something they should have ordered the first time around. sunshiney Yay to the waving arms and awesome HB. I love your strategy of calling baby he. I wish I would have done that the first time around but with she. I was honestly thrown for a loop when I found out it was a girl:) strawberrykiki Don't let little bits of pink or small instances of spotting freak you out. I was so worried about loss throughout my entire first pregnancy that I didn't let myself enjoy it. But it all went perfectly. Try not to let the stress take away from the experience. Everything is perfect and will continue to be perfect:)
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Post by sammysam on Jul 21, 2018 12:48:56 GMT -6
cch I'm so glad they followed up with a us so you didn't have to leave stressed. And Yay for baby and heartbeat:)
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Post by sammysam on Jul 21, 2018 12:59:00 GMT -6
AFM They admitted me through emergency and got me right into the OR so I was home before bedtime last night. The surgeon said it was a good thing I opted for the surgery as my hcg was so so high and still rising so it likely would have taken my body a very long time to figure it out...which means my risks of what happened in September would have greatly increased.
Anyways, I'm feeling good today. Just watching movies on the couch with DD. I ordered a stupidly expensive doll last night...just to have something tangible to remember this by...that I'm sure DD will love. But I'm good.
I plan on starting to work out again tomorrow and have a goal in mind for September. I'm taking the rest of the summer for me and DD. Just waiting for my hcg to drop enough that the nausea etc go away.
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