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Post by tgrimes on Jun 29, 2018 8:35:06 GMT -6
Morning. One of my kids sleeps in, the other I'm working on, but he's not too bad either. I would love to get him sleeping past 8am. I'm not a morning person. Like a few others, I'm drowning daily and my kids don't go to bed early. It would be nice to have an hour or two at night to myself to get things done. I was just telling some of my coworkers that I need to take off and spend a few days at home purging and getting my house in order. I would feel a lot better about the day to day when I can come home and not feel stressed about the amount of house work that needs to happen. Wednesday my boss was gone so I worked through lunch & left an hour early just so I could go home and clean. It was amazing. I wish I was able to do that once a week.
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Post by flamingo on Jun 29, 2018 8:35:33 GMT -6
OK, bbq preparations are underway. Invitation has been sent, tables/chairs are secured, and I'm planning the menu and run to Wally World for decorations, table-ware, etc.
I think I am also going to paint the kids'/guest bathroom on Sunday. #gluttonforpunishment
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Post by mwhip on Jun 29, 2018 8:35:49 GMT -6
YES! But I feel bad taking a day off to myself, so I never do it, even though I have more PTO this year than I've ever had. I get home from work at 5pm, cook dinner, sit down to eat, clean up dinner and usually finally get to sit down around 6:30 or 7pm. Then it's play time with the kid until bath time at 7:45/8:00. So it doesn't end until I get her to sleep. All while my husband sits on the fucking sofa playing on his phone. Which is probably what makes me even more insane. Sounds like it's time to have a CTJ talk with T. Oh god, it wouldn't help. We have them occasionally and he changes for a week or so, then it goes back to normal. And there are reasons, 1. I want dinner cleaned up and dishes in the dishwasher as soon as we are done, there is no reason for them to sit in the sink for an hour. He prefers to wait, which drives me crazy. 2. It's hot, he works outside, so he wants to cool off when he gets home. Which I get, but he also doesn't like to eat late, so dinner starts when I walk in the door. Add to it that his knee is still bothering him, and now they think they have to do surgery on his left eye again because there is something in it, that isn't going away, yeah, no. I just do it myself to get it taken care of.
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Post by lahdeedah on Jun 29, 2018 8:47:28 GMT -6
*snip Like a few others, I'm drowning daily and my kids don't go to bed early. It would be nice to have an hour or two at night to myself to get things done. I was just telling some of my coworkers that I need to take off and spend a few days at home purging and getting my house in order. I would feel a lot better about the day to day when I can come home and not feel stressed about the amount of house work that needs to happen.
YES! But I feel bad taking a day off to myself, so I never do it, even though I have more PTO this year than I've ever had. I get home from work at 5pm, cook dinner, sit down to eat, clean up dinner and usually finally get to sit down around 6:30 or 7pm. Then it's play time with the kid until bath time at 7:45/8:00. So it doesn't end until I get her to sleep. All while my husband sits on the fucking sofa playing on his phone. Which is probably what makes me even more insane. I don't feel bad taking a day for myself, but I need the PTO to do it! I do have a little over a week's worth, but I need MOAR. I had 4 weeks worth before I had M2, so I'm building it back up, but want to always have a few days to use if the kids get sick. I am planning to take those days for at home in August or September.
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 29, 2018 8:53:14 GMT -6
Sounds like it's time to have a CTJ talk with T. Oh god, it wouldn't help. We have them occasionally and he changes for a week or so, then it goes back to normal. And there are reasons, 1. I want dinner cleaned up and dishes in the dishwasher as soon as we are done, there is no reason for them to sit in the sink for an hour. He prefers to wait, which drives me crazy. 2. It's hot, he works outside, so he wants to cool off when he gets home. Which I get, but he also doesn't like to eat late, so dinner starts when I walk in the door. Add to it that his knee is still bothering him, and now they think they have to do surgery on his left eye again because there is something in it, that isn't going away, yeah, no. I just do it myself to get it taken care of. Totally understandable. Sometimes it's just easier to do it yourself.
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 29, 2018 8:53:53 GMT -6
Rant ahead...
MH's job sucks. He's been working 11-12 hour days and sometimes has to work on Saturday. This means, I'm doing everything. I obviously don't mind doing it since he's working, but it pisses me off because he's not getting paid for all this extra work. His boss is a total racist asshole who doesn't have a family at home waiting for him, so he has no problem making his employees work long hours. The guy that hired MH quit a couple weeks ago. This was the same person that was supposed to take over the company when his boss/the owner retires. The new CEO quit after 2 months. He was making $175k. (MH can see everyone's salaries because of a glitch in the system.) At least if MH was making more, we could hire someone to do yard work to take some of the load of MH, you know? He literally comes home and collapses and I don't blame him.
I told MH to start looking for another job. There's no way he can keep this shit up.
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 29, 2018 8:58:46 GMT -6
Do you guys sometimes feel like you're losing your mind, trying to keep up with everything? I feel like between being swamped at work, the kid, husband, keeping the house clean, cooking, laundry, etc, I might just lose my shit at any minute. My only time I get is after Evie goes to bed, which is about 8:30, and I go to bed at 10. An hour and half doesn't seem like enough time to decompress and get things done. Is it just me, because this week has been fucking rough and I'm so ready for 5 days off next week. +1, except my kid won't fall asleep until 9:30-10.
Yup. Add in baby sitting my parents needy asses, I'm fried. 2 more months.....
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Post by flamingo on Jun 29, 2018 9:06:09 GMT -6
I'm sorry tgrimes, that sounds exhausting and stressful for all involved. I hope if your H wants to look for something different that a great opportunity will present itself. Always easier to find a job when you have a job, as they say... Hope things improve soon, one way or another.
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 29, 2018 9:12:04 GMT -6
I'm sorry tgrimes , that sounds exhausting and stressful for all involved. I hope if your H wants to look for something different that a great opportunity will present itself. Always easier to find a job when you have a job, as they say... Hope things improve soon, one way or another. This is what an asshole his boss is... A guy that worked in the warehouse for 10 years was only making $8.00 an hour. He asked for $9.00 or he was going to quit. The boss said no so the guy quit. Want to know what they're paying the person who replaced him? $11/hr
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Post by xolastunicornxo on Jun 29, 2018 9:16:45 GMT -6
mwhip so many hugs lady. I constantly feel like I’m drowning, and I don’t even work. It sounds like your dh needs to step, even though I totally get that it’s easier to do it yourself. S doesn’t like to do the dishes right away either and I hate a dirty kitchen. I’ve finally let it go as long as he does them before we go to bed. He usually grumbles a little when it’s time for bed and he realizes he still has to do dishes, but whatever. tgrimes that job sounds awful. I’m sorry for your dh, and you having to pick up the slack.
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Post by xolastunicornxo on Jun 29, 2018 9:22:12 GMT -6
Good morning! I’m so ready for the weekend. C was up at 5:45 but I managed to get her to doze with me until about 7. I should really go back to the gym today, but it’s Friday and part of me wants to say fuck it and just go back on Monday. Someone remind me how good I’ll feel if I go!
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Post by tallb on Jun 29, 2018 9:24:10 GMT -6
Tgif all. What a week. And I have an assignment due tonight that I haven't started, so need to whip that out later today. It's n's last day at her daycare, I am so glad they will be at the same school but will miss the 15 min with j solo on our drive. We stopped at DD for donuts to mark the occasion.
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Post by flamingo on Jun 29, 2018 9:41:36 GMT -6
WWN13D?
We keep getting letters from debt collectors for the previous tenants. The first few times something came, I wrote "Return to Sender/No Longer at this Address" on the envelope and dropped it in the mailbox. They're all from the same couple companies and we're still getting stuff (including certified mail earlier this week that I refused to sign for) so obviously that is not helping. I have admittedly tossed a few b/c it just seems so futile. We just got 2 more today.
I thought about calling one of these companies to tell them to quit sending stuff, but I'm kind of afraid they'll get my phone # and start calling me looking for these people.
What would y'all do? Keep 'returning to sender'? Throw stuff away? I mean, it's been a year.
eta: I thought about reaching out to property mgr to see if people had left a forwarding address but I'm assuming they did not, for obvious reasons.
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Post by mwhip on Jun 29, 2018 9:50:53 GMT -6
flamingo, I'd just keep doing what you are doing. We still get stuff occasionally for the previous owners of our home and it's been 3 years. We know the guy had some tax issues. He also still has a drivers license with our address because some guy showed up one day looking for him, who claimed the guy had hit his car the night before and told him to stop by the next day to sort it out. I just always write 'no longer at this address' and put it back in the mailbox. I definitely wouldn't want them to have my name and number. Which reminds me of a situation...about every 6 months, I get calls from the same number and eventually answer. It's some collection company for student loans, looking for Michelle Burger. So when they call and get my voice mail with just my first name, they think I"m here. Then ask how long I've had the number...um since the beginning of cell phones, like 1998, and I ask them to remove my number. Then it start back up again. Super annoying. tgrimes I hate you H's boss...what an asshole. The unemployment rate here is so low right now, you can kind of name your price (within reason) and get it. I could easily find a new job, but hate the idea of starting over. I hope he finds something quickly.
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 29, 2018 9:53:51 GMT -6
WWN13D? We keep getting letters from debt collectors for the previous tenants. The first few times something came, I wrote "Return to Sender/No Longer at this Address" on the envelope and dropped it in the mailbox. They're all from the same couple companies and we're still getting stuff (including certified mail earlier this week that I refused to sign for) so obviously that is not helping. I have admittedly tossed a few b/c it just seems so futile. We just got 2 more today. I thought about calling one of these companies to tell them to quit sending stuff, but I'm kind of afraid they'll get my phone # and start calling me looking for these people. What would y'all do? Keep 'returning to sender'? Throw stuff away? I mean, it's been a year. eta: I thought about reaching out to property mgr to see if people had left a forwarding address but I'm assuming they did not, for obvious reasons. I would call them. Even when my office gets returned mail saying not at this address, we continue to send things to that address because anyone can write that on there. But when I get a phone call saying those people moved a year ago, I remove the address from the system. I continue to get calls for someone in FL threatening a warrant. When they leave me a message, I call them and explain they have the wrong # and to remove my # from their system. I happened to answer one time and told them that I've called before, they have the wrong # and to please stop calling me. He apologized and said they have several different agencies they use for things like this so they would all have to remove my #. Whatever but I haven't gotten a call since then. ETA You could also give me their names & I can see if I can find a new address for them.
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Post by flamingo on Jun 29, 2018 10:05:46 GMT -6
Darn. I just googled the names and these people are old. Like, 80+. Sad.
IIRC the owner told me back in February that the man had to move into a nursing home, and then his (grown) kids moved into this house and were paying like, a fraction of the rent each month. It ended in an eviction. Such a mess. Like, 300--maybe, if he was lucky--and the rent is 7-8x that.
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Post by dapostrophe on Jun 29, 2018 10:06:19 GMT -6
peachsmama I think dapostrophe went a couple of day ago! Dh and I are going tomorrow, my kids won’t stomach this for another 10 years 😉. I did, and I think it would terrifying for kids around our kids ages. Lots of scary chasing and eating scenes. Plus the scene with the thing with lots of teeth in the little girl's bedroom? Nope octopus.
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 29, 2018 10:14:22 GMT -6
Well crap. M watches Jurassic world daily and loves it. As does J. But this one looked more intense. peachsmama I think dapostrophe went a couple of day ago! Dh and I are going tomorrow, my kids won’t stomach this for another 10 years 😉. I did, and I think it would terrifying for kids around our kids ages. Lots of scary chasing and eating scenes. Plus the scene with the thing with lots of teeth in the little girl's bedroom? Nope octopus.
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Post by xolastunicornxo on Jun 29, 2018 10:42:20 GMT -6
Well crap. M watches Jurassic world daily and loves it. As does J. But this one looked more intense. I did, and I think it would terrifying for kids around our kids ages. Lots of scary chasing and eating scenes. Plus the scene with the thing with lots of teeth in the little girl's bedroom? Nope octopus. Hmmm.,. We were thinking about taking our boys too. May have to rethink.
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Post by xolastunicornxo on Jun 29, 2018 10:46:10 GMT -6
I dragged my butt to the gym but I’m just doing a lazy bike workout and playing on my phone. Oh well, better than nothing right?
So when we were leaving for the gym I called for all the boys and only Lucas and Landon came down. So I called ry again and no answer. Went upstairs, he wasn’t up there. Kept calling and opened the back door to call for him. Nothing. Started getting a little nervous. Ran to check the garage and make sure he hadn’t got in the car. (Which he knows he’s not allowed to do). Not there. Now I’m getting a little scared so I’m yelling at him to come out and it’s not funny. Nothing. Landon and Lucas start freaking out and crying saying he must have been kidnapped. Guys, it takes a lot to panic me and I was about two seconds fe calling the police. Then he casually walks in from the backyard. He was in the back corner talking to his kiddo friend in the house behind us and didn’t answer because he didn’t want to come in.
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 29, 2018 10:48:46 GMT -6
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Post by flamingo on Jun 29, 2018 10:53:36 GMT -6
Oh geez xolastunicornxo, so scary! That building panic-y feeling is just the worst. Glad he was ok and only being stubborn As a toddler my sister fell asleep under the coffee table (wtf, right?) in our family room. Just glancing into the room, you wouldn't have seen her. My mom couldn't find her and was panicking; had neighbors out looking, called security--I think they were literally about to start dragging the pond behind our house. And then my sister woke up and came out. :facepalm:
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 29, 2018 10:55:59 GMT -6
xolastunicornxo OMG. We've had something similar happen and at that moment you're so relieved and so angry it's hard to process those feelings at once.
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 29, 2018 10:57:58 GMT -6
Oh geez xolastunicornxo , so scary! That building panic-y feeling is just the worst. Glad he was ok and only being stubborn As a toddler my sister fell asleep under the coffee table (wtf, right?) in our family room. Just glancing into the room, you wouldn't have seen her. My mom couldn't find her and was panicking; had neighbors out looking, called security--I think they were literally about to start dragging the pond behind our house. And then my sister woke up and came out. :facepalm: That's hilarious! - as an outsider lol I was baby sitting an 18 month old once and she vanished on me while I went to the bathroom. I tore their house apart screaming and went outside looking (she couldn't even reach the door yet). She had climbed in the under cabinet of a desk with a book and fell asleep....
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Post by xolastunicornxo on Jun 29, 2018 10:58:11 GMT -6
Yes! It was exactly that building panic. And then oh my god he’s really not answering. Did he wander off? Did someone snatch him? Did he hide somewhere dangerous and is stuck? Definitely started having very worse case scenario run through my head, even though you’re trying to stay calm!
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Post by chrisy01 on Jun 29, 2018 11:23:26 GMT -6
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Post by chrisy01 on Jun 29, 2018 11:29:57 GMT -6
Hi!! E had another night where she just wanted to be sucking on my breast. I woke C up and hour and a half early so I could get an hour sleep. I got 45. She is currently sleeping now (for almost 2 hours). I don't know if I should let her sleep past 3 hours or wake her up. I don't know if it will encourage nighttime sleep or just punish me.
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Post by jewels on Jun 29, 2018 11:32:07 GMT -6
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Post by jewels on Jun 29, 2018 11:35:45 GMT -6
S has his pre k graduation today which is sort of weird since he’s staying there another year. I have to pick him up by 2 and bring him to the place by 3:30, which happened to literally be right behind our house. We are supposed to have his bff and family over for bbq afterwards but B has a little fever so I guess we’ll see how he is when he wakes up from his nap.
My parents were supposed to come with us but said if B is not feeling better they will stay home with him
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Post by lahdeedah on Jun 29, 2018 11:39:44 GMT -6
Very scary! xolastunicornxoGlad for the info dapostrophe because definitely not taking M now. The previews did look intense. I’ll be going on my own when I can find the time.
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