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Post by klong11 on Jun 29, 2018 13:42:13 GMT -6
My fitbit died again and I've been going up and down the damn office stairs all day. I could have had a good count number for once!
I'm annoyed.
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Post by chrisy01 on Jun 29, 2018 13:42:46 GMT -6
My fitbit died again and I've been going up and down the damn office stairs all day. I could have had a good count number for once! I'm annoyed. I keep forgetting to put mine back on. |
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Post by mwhip on Jun 29, 2018 13:47:44 GMT -6
mwhip I go through periods feeling the same way. MH is pretty helpful when he’s here but he doesn’t get home most nights until after bedtime so from 5-7:30 I’m rushing around like a mad woman. Two things have been helpful: 1)flex time at my work. I go in a half an hour early every day so I have a few hours I can take off every two weeks. If I have appointments or whatever I use it but if I don’t I get solo time. Usually once a month. So if you can take even an afternoon off a month for you, it can really help. 2) I’ve outsourced house cleaning and the lawn since we moved here. It’s a huge relief to have those larger tasks done and just worry about the day to day. What can you outsource? Dh and I definitely have gone through periods where he has been useless. He’s been really good for a year or so now and I don’t really know what changed. But I understand how frustrating it can be. Would your H ever be into taking E away for a night or two alone? Dh and I used to do that every so often and it was so nice. Great bonding time for whoever was with C and a huge break for the other. It definitely saved my sanity at times. I do have a house cleaning service now, they will come once a month (which also stresses me out because money), so that's a help. But it's kind of the day to day shit, putting stuff on the table, getting Evie to pick her toys up nightly so the dogs don't eat them, etc. We actually haven't mowed in a month probably because lack of rain and heat, so I haven't worried about that, although I do need to do it early tomorrow morning. I made a post on FB about this as well, my H sent me a text to see if I wanted to order pizza tonight instead of cooking. Here is the point. Here he is...completely missing it. I either need to learn to tell him to do more, which won't last, or not be so worried about it. This week just really got to me with work being so damn busy (they're talking about getting someone under me), I haven't had time to do anything I normally do during my work day (paying bills). Our bank account almost went overdrawn as well because I'm the only one who pays attention to it. It's just everything hit me at once. |
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 29, 2018 13:57:19 GMT -6
mwhip I go through periods feeling the same way. MH is pretty helpful when he’s here but he doesn’t get home most nights until after bedtime so from 5-7:30 I’m rushing around like a mad woman. Two things have been helpful: 1)flex time at my work. I go in a half an hour early every day so I have a few hours I can take off every two weeks. If I have appointments or whatever I use it but if I don’t I get solo time. Usually once a month. So if you can take even an afternoon off a month for you, it can really help. 2) I’ve outsourced house cleaning and the lawn since we moved here. It’s a huge relief to have those larger tasks done and just worry about the day to day. What can you outsource? Dh and I definitely have gone through periods where he has been useless. He’s been really good for a year or so now and I don’t really know what changed. But I understand how frustrating it can be. Would your H ever be into taking E away for a night or two alone? Dh and I used to do that every so often and it was so nice. Great bonding time for whoever was with C and a huge break for the other. It definitely saved my sanity at times. I do have a house cleaning service now, they will come once a month (which also stresses me out because money), so that's a help. But it's kind of the day to day shit, putting stuff on the table, getting Evie to pick her toys up nightly so the dogs don't eat them, etc. We actually haven't mowed in a month probably because lack of rain and heat, so I haven't worried about that, although I do need to do it early tomorrow morning. I made a post on FB about this as well, my H sent me a text to see if I wanted to order pizza tonight instead of cooking. Here is the point. Here he is...completely missing it. I either need to learn to tell him to do more, which won't last, or not be so worried about it. This week just really got to me with work being so damn busy (they're talking about getting someone under me), I haven't had time to do anything I normally do during my work day (paying bills). Our bank account almost went overdrawn as well because I'm the only one who pays attention to it. It's just everything hit me at once. Does he care about the house being picked up and things like that? A does. That greatly helps get him to help me clean. But the shit that annoys me are the small details. Like I always make the bed and he says "God forbid someone think we sleep in our bed!" Oh shut up. |
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Post by flamingo on Jun 29, 2018 14:14:56 GMT -6
Will she take a paci? I’m sorry for the rough night. I haven't tried one yet. The hospital discouraged me from using one the first month but now I'm considering ignoring them and using one. I was discouraged from using them at both hospitals where I had my kids, but then 2 separate pediatricians recommended using them at the first check-up (and beyond) bc they have been shown to help prevent SIDS 🤷🏻♀️ I get not wanting to pop one in a day-old baby’s mouth, because they legit need to eat, but I don’t see the harm in trying one now that she’s a bit older and is a more established nurser. Also, isn’t she about 3 weeks? Could it be the dreaded 3-week growth spurt? |
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Post by cagoldi on Jun 29, 2018 14:30:03 GMT -6
Sorry you're back to work already, wineallthetime. It goes so fast! mwhip I feel overwhelmed about 85% of the time. I don't have any advice, it sounds like you've already figured out what your non-negotiables are. Sometimes I ask parents of older children if it gets easier and they insist it doesn't. I think they have to be wrong, right? Like maybe not easier but definitely less busy? I won't always need to pack a diaper bag, make lunches, prepare bottles, change diapers and clothes, and bring every morsel of food they might want while we're away, you know? |
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Post by cagoldi on Jun 29, 2018 14:30:22 GMT -6
I think I might have food poisoning.
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Post by mwhip on Jun 29, 2018 14:33:22 GMT -6
I do have a house cleaning service now, they will come once a month (which also stresses me out because money), so that's a help. But it's kind of the day to day shit, putting stuff on the table, getting Evie to pick her toys up nightly so the dogs don't eat them, etc. We actually haven't mowed in a month probably because lack of rain and heat, so I haven't worried about that, although I do need to do it early tomorrow morning. I made a post on FB about this as well, my H sent me a text to see if I wanted to order pizza tonight instead of cooking. Here is the point. Here he is...completely missing it. I either need to learn to tell him to do more, which won't last, or not be so worried about it. This week just really got to me with work being so damn busy (they're talking about getting someone under me), I haven't had time to do anything I normally do during my work day (paying bills). Our bank account almost went overdrawn as well because I'm the only one who pays attention to it. It's just everything hit me at once. Does he care about the house being picked up and things like that? A does. That greatly helps get him to help me clean. But the shit that annoys me are the small details. Like I always make the bed and he says "God forbid someone think we sleep in our bed!" Oh shut up. Yes, he cares. And he will eventually help me pick things up, but I get tired of waiting and just do it myself. And that's part of the problem...he's the one who complains about the house being a mess, and I know I shouldn't take it personally, because he's the one who pushed for me to get a cleaning service, but I do take it personally because IT'S MY HOUSE. T attempts to make the bed, but it looks like shit, so I have to go back and do it again. |
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Post by mwhip on Jun 29, 2018 14:33:52 GMT -6
I think I might have food poisoning. Stuck in box, but I hope not! I hope it's just a quick little bug and you feel better quickly! |
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Post by wedding on Jun 29, 2018 14:42:18 GMT -6
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 29, 2018 14:44:22 GMT -6
Sorry you're back to work already, wineallthetime . It goes so fast! mwhip I feel overwhelmed about 85% of the time. I don't have any advice, it sounds IME you've already figured out what your non-negotiables are. Sometimes I ask parents of older children if it gets easier and they insist it doesn't. I think they have to be wrong, right? Like maybe not easier but definitely less busy? I won't always need to pack a diaper bag, make lunches, prepare bottles, change diapers and clothes, and bring every morsel of food they might want while we're away, you know? My sister and I had this conversation earlier in the week. She says it never gets easier. I said bullshit, for similar reasons you mentioned above. I realize there are different challenges she's facing now with the kids like vaping, driving, boys, attitudes, etc. However, she's not having to keep them entertained nonstop, or make sure they're not climbing up the bookshelf. She can cook dinner, do laundry & clean without someone draped to her leg and isn't having to pack a suitcase every time they leave the house. |
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Post by cagoldi on Jun 29, 2018 14:49:50 GMT -6
Sorry you're back to work already, wineallthetime . It goes so fast! mwhip I feel overwhelmed about 85% of the time. I don't have any advice, it sounds IME you've already figured out what your non-negotiables are. Sometimes I ask parents of older children if it gets easier and they insist it doesn't. I think they have to be wrong, right? Like maybe not easier but definitely less busy? I won't always need to pack a diaper bag, make lunches, prepare bottles, change diapers and clothes, and bring every morsel of food they might want while we're away, you know? My sister and I had this conversation earlier in the week. She says it never gets easier. I said bullshit, for similar reasons you mentioned above. I realize there are different challenges she's facing now with the kids like vaping, driving, boys, attitudes, etc. However, she's not having to keep them entertained nonstop, or make sure they're not climbing up the bookshelf. She can cook dinner, do laundry & clean without someone draped to her leg and isn't having to pack a suitcase every time they leave the house. Yeah, maybe I'm wrong about it being easier, because I realize that the challenges become more serious and can be a harder fix. But less busy? It has to be, it just has to. |
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Post by cagoldi on Jun 29, 2018 14:50:59 GMT -6
I think I might have food poisoning. Stuck in box, but I hope not! I hope it's just a quick little bug and you feel better quickly! It's been so long since I've had it but this feels like one time I got sick after eating chicken. Last night I had a salad at Buca Di Beppo and I'm thinking the lettuce could have been bad. |
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Post by guster on Jun 29, 2018 14:52:27 GMT -6
I think I might have food poisoning. Oh no! |
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Post by klong11 on Jun 29, 2018 14:53:46 GMT -6
Just realized the parents of the twins that were in Cadence's dance class are the owners of a very well known cookie place here in Austin. They have some pretty cute kids! They should have brought some cookies at least once!
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Post by guster on Jun 29, 2018 14:54:48 GMT -6
That boss sounds horrible, tgrimes. I really hope YH can find something else. Aside from being so exhausted, I can't imagine he feels fulfilled by the job. |
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Post by tgrimes on Jun 29, 2018 14:58:08 GMT -6
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Post by flamingo on Jun 29, 2018 15:03:51 GMT -6
Random thoughts:
My dad's BFF says that age 6 - 10/11 is like, the magic number in terms of child rearing. THey're old enough to not be quite so physically needy, you can still essentially solve/help solve their problems for them, and they still want to spend time with good ol' Mom and Dad.
These years we're in now are physically demanding--extremely so. From literally carrying them, to schlepping all the stuff, to having them hanging on you, to waking up at all hours with them...yeah, it's super tough.
I think a lot of this is child-dependent, too, per usual. My parents had an easy time with my sister and me as older kids. My aunt's 3 have had a lot of challenges as teens...learning disabilities, mental health/emotional issues, grade issues, etc. She looks back very fondly on her days of the kids being small (when their needs were mostly just physical), whereas my mom definitely enjoyed our later years more.
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Post by flamingo on Jun 29, 2018 15:07:51 GMT -6
tgrimes I just got a glass. And we're going out for hibachi and I'll probably have more. B, in particular, is on my last nerve today. So. Much. Whining.
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Post by lahdeedah on Jun 29, 2018 15:07:56 GMT -6
I think I might have food poisoning. NOOOOOO! Please, NO. |
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 29, 2018 15:13:18 GMT -6
Sorry you're back to work already, wineallthetime . It goes so fast! mwhip I feel overwhelmed about 85% of the time. I don't have any advice, it sounds IME you've already figured out what your non-negotiables are. Sometimes I ask parents of older children if it gets easier and they insist it doesn't. I think they have to be wrong, right? Like maybe not easier but definitely less busy? I won't always need to pack a diaper bag, make lunches, prepare bottles, change diapers and clothes, and bring every morsel of food they might want while we're away, you know? My friend with 4, ages 9,8,7 & 7 says it just gets different. Her children are adopted and they got them all within a year. So they had 4 in diapers at once, they said by the time you finished changing the last child, you had to start over lol. |
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 29, 2018 15:15:51 GMT -6
tgrimes I just got a glass. And we're going out for hibachi and I'll probably have more. B, in particular, is on my last nerve today. So. Much. Whining. OMG THE WHINING! I realize Jack is sick but Lord. I'm counting down until A gets home and I can mow... |
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 29, 2018 15:18:13 GMT -6
Does he care about the house being picked up and things like that? A does. That greatly helps get him to help me clean. But the shit that annoys me are the small details. Like I always make the bed and he says "God forbid someone think we sleep in our bed!" Oh shut up. Yes, he cares. And he will eventually help me pick things up, but I get tired of waiting and just do it myself. And that's part of the problem...he's the one who complains about the house being a mess, and I know I shouldn't take it personally, because he's the one who pushed for me to get a cleaning service, but I do take it personally because IT'S MY HOUSE. T attempts to make the bed, but it looks like shit, so I have to go back and do it again. I take it personally too. And same with things like making the bed. I've pretty much assigned him the bathroom for cleaning and dealing with the trash, recycling and burnables - we live in the country, we burn some trash weekly lol. Then all I have to go behind him and do is hang the towel straight. He can put in an entire assembly line of pipe but can't hang a picture or towel straight to save his life.. |
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Post by flamingo on Jun 29, 2018 15:20:15 GMT -6
tgrimes I just got a glass. And we're going out for hibachi and I'll probably have more. B, in particular, is on my last nerve today. So. Much. Whining. OMG THE WHINING! I realize Jack is sick but Lord. I'm counting down until A gets home and I can mow... Lord, yes. DH is out planting some new plants and I am so jealous, minus the extremely hot/sweaty part. |
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Post by vino on Jun 29, 2018 15:26:52 GMT -6
I think I might have food poisoning. Shit! Noooooo, I hope not |
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Post by chrisy01 on Jun 29, 2018 16:13:07 GMT -6
I haven't tried one yet. The hospital discouraged me from using one the first month but now I'm considering ignoring them and using one. I was discouraged from using them at both hospitals where I had my kids, but then 2 separate pediatricians recommended using them at the first check-up (and beyond) bc they have been shown to help prevent SIDS 🤷🏻♀️ I get not wanting to pop one in a day-old baby’s mouth, because they legit need to eat, but I don’t see the harm in trying one now that she’s a bit older and is a more established nurser. Also, isn’t she about 3 weeks? Could it be the dreaded 3-week growth spurt? Totally forgot about the 3 week growth spurt. That's probably it. |
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Post by chrisy01 on Jun 29, 2018 16:37:11 GMT -6
cagoldi his helped me when I had food poisoning. 
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Post by cagoldi on Jun 29, 2018 16:55:20 GMT -6
cagoldi his helped me when I had food poisoning. That stuff is great! I took a nap and woke up feeling better, then Pete reminded me I had bread last night and I always feel sick as a dog if I eat gluten. Yep. I'm one of those people now. |
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Post by cagoldi on Jun 29, 2018 16:56:30 GMT -6
I'm sorry about your H, tgrimes. It's terrible for all of you. Some (most?) employers couldn't care less about work/life balance. I hope he can find something that will be a better fit and treat him fairly. |
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Post by peachsmama on Jun 29, 2018 17:48:16 GMT -6
I handed the kids off and went to mow. I told him burger and fries for dinner. I come up for dinner and he's got 3 meat burgers cooked but no veggie burger or any sides at all. Thanks for the help babe 🤦♀️
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