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Post by dizzycooks on Jun 24, 2018 19:44:44 GMT -6
I figured we'd start a new thread...how's everyone doing?
I am hoping to get a haircut this week. I am debating going in the evening vs. getting a sitter and going during the day. Does anyone else feel guilty going out in the evening after work? I feel like I need to stay home, visit with dh and get caught up on life. Nevermind help put little people to bed, which dh is very capable of doing on his own.
We have one more week of "Wait and see" with dd3 and then we get a diagnosis. I am so nervous/anxious about it. Clearly something isn't right, but she is so, so dang happy and tries to do everything!
What's on your summer bucket list? We are trying to embrace the moment and do some more spontaneous things. Tonight we took the kids for ice cream and saw a waterfall. It was fun and a nice change of pace. What are you doing?
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Post by Deleted on Jun 24, 2018 21:20:30 GMT -6
I hear ya about the hair stuff. I went recently and I was gone until 9pm. Takes forever and I feel like I miss out with dd but I think it’s good to get away in the evening some. I need to more. Dh does a trivia night a couple nights a month and I need something like that. I see my friends more as play dates or lunch durin work hours. We had a great weekend. Went to a nearby city and saw many friends and now I have some family staying with me. I’m feeling like I need to do so much (both fun and getting stuff done) but we are pretty busy and hard to fit anymore in. dizzycooks sorry you are kind of in limbo with dd3. Glad her spirits are high.
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Post by scorpioscuba on Jun 24, 2018 23:23:33 GMT -6
I don’t know when I last had a hair cut. 🙁 I sometimes trim it on my own when it needs it. Self care is definitely not happening. I just don’t know when I would fit it in. We have a pretty packed summer it feels. I signed DS up for several summer camps to keep him busy. His last one is this week. Next week we go up north for the 4th. Then he has swim lessons for 2 weeks. He is a good swimmer but needs to work on his strokes and get stronger. DD is also doing awesome with swimming and is able to swim short bursts on her own. I’m mostly looking for some quiet downtime this summer now. I never intended for it to get so packed but I didn’t want DS sitting at home everyday doing nothing. It’s hard to make sure he’s doing something constructive with me working and DH in school. Throw in a few work trips and I feel like we haven’t had any “slow” summer days. dizzycooks I’m glad dd3 isn’t letting this slow her down. Keep us posted. ❤️
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Post by dizzycooks on Jun 25, 2018 9:32:21 GMT -6
scorpioscuba, slow days...I swear that's a recipe for insanity. Either by accidently scheduling too much as you feel you did or because then no one knows what they should be doing. My oldest just had a massive melt down over folding a towel that was in her laundry basket. I'm sorry kid, you used at least three last week, I think you can fold the ONE you tossed into your laundry basket. She lost all sorts of privileges because she couldn't get it together and insisted on having her fit at my feet. Yuck. Honestly, I even struggle with what to do when there's nothing scheduled. I use to mandate one day a week was a car free day. Good for the environment, my gas bill and slowing down our schedule.
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Post by nellieoleson on Jun 25, 2018 10:17:35 GMT -6
We were supposed to be going to Minnesota next week, but we just canceled our trip. My H’s work has been sloooooooow lately which is very weird for this time of year, and he just booked a big job that starts on the day we were supposed to leave. He doesn’t feel like he can miss out on the work, so we are changing our plane tickets to vouchers and going to try to go in October instead. Although the fall is already feeling busy so I’m not sure when we will make that happen either.
Also, speaking of Minnesota, I don’t think my IL’s are coming to visit us this year, and I’m feeling a little bummed/resentful about it. They are retired and very financially secure, in good health, etc, so I feel like they should come out here at least once a year to see their grandkids? I don’t know. Maybe I’m being selfish. I know my H is a little hurt by it, too, although he would never admit it.
Re: summer schedule - I feel at a loss about what to do so far this summer. Dd1 only had school two days a week, but it gave our weeks a structure that was nice. It doesn’t help that my H has been off work the last two and half weeks so that throws off our routine as well. I’ve got to figure out some kind of plan so that I’m not trying to wing it with activities every day, because it’s already getting old — especially with the days so long.
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Post by nellieoleson on Jun 25, 2018 10:18:19 GMT -6
dizzycooks - are they trying to determine what is causing the juvenile arthritis? Or are they second guessing that diagnosis?
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Post by dizzycooks on Jun 25, 2018 12:13:23 GMT -6
dizzycooks - are they trying to determine what is causing the juvenile arthritis? Or are they second guessing that diagnosis? Nope, not second guessing it, it's just not official. They had to try treating it with ibuprofen for 6 weeks to ensure it's not an injury even though the xrays were clear. I'm bummed you're not coming to MN!! October is typically beautiful though, so if you make it then, I'd love to try meeting up I am at the same point with schedules. We had so many melt downs today, BUT they did play outside nicely for 2 hours so that is a major win. I got some yard work done and now every one is napping, because if you're gonna lose your mind over laundry you must be tired. Night night sweetie pie. Tomorrow I work a few hours, Wednesday is library day at DD1s school so we will do that and hit the playground, Thursday we are walking to a nearby lake for a puppet show and then Friday is wide open. At some point here I need to go back to the gym and start working out. Maybe Friday??
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Post by scorpioscuba on Jun 25, 2018 23:04:28 GMT -6
nellieoleson can you set up a loose weekly schedule of activities based on things going on in your area? Something like library on Mondays (do you have one that offers free programs?), nature hike Tuesdays, etc. I do better with a loose schedule. I agree that it’s better for the kids to keep busy but selfishly I need my down time that doesn’t involve me packing up multiple bags for kids and driving multiple places and coming home exhausted. But yes, the kids thrive. Clearly I need to figure my shit out. 😉
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Post by theoprah on Jun 27, 2018 5:29:06 GMT -6
Both kids are in their usual daycare they’ve been attending their whole lives this summer. I dread next summer when I will have to do the camp thing with DS!! DS is going to a half-day occupational therapy camp for two weeks in July. The kids will run through obstacle courses and practice social skills etc. We had his autism evaluation yesterday. After, the doctor told us she believes he’s mildly autistic. However the results won’t be official until mid-July when we sit down with her and she hands us the full report. We both suspected that this was coming and frankly I am relieved. It explains so much. Once we have the diagnosis in-hand we can get him the therapy he needs. For haircuts - I go twice a year usually-and take leave from work to do it. But I do go out on weeknights 2-3 times a month to hang out with friends.
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Post by kcrkcs on Jun 27, 2018 20:20:14 GMT -6
L has daycare 4 days per week and 1 day with my mom. Saturday is "dadurday" and they do dad stuff and Sunday we do family stuff. Thank god for daycare because if I had to keep her busy I would have to quit work. I am gone all week. 6 whole days with no kiddo is so sad. The summer is flying by. I was supposed to have a travel reprieve in August but now my student qualified for this special competition so there goes another 7 days. I am looking forward to having the 4th mostly off.
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Post by dizzycooks on Jun 30, 2018 6:08:29 GMT -6
It’s well over 100 here with the heat index and I’m dying. The Ys ac was not working well, the restaurant we went to for dinner had almost no air and my house won’t get below 78. Apparently this is the story for the majority of the upcoming week. Dd3 is suddenly so fussy at meals! Anyone have a child who has stopped eating, but still growing??
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Post by dizzycooks on Jun 30, 2018 6:09:44 GMT -6
Oh also, I went to a yoga class yesterday. I am so so so sore. Wow. 😳
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Post by nellieoleson on Jun 30, 2018 14:58:11 GMT -6
It’s well over 100 here with the heat index and I’m dying. The Ys ac was not working well, the restaurant we went to for dinner had almost no air and my house won’t get below 78. Apparently this is the story for the majority of the upcoming week. Dd3 is suddenly so fussy at meals! Anyone have a child who has stopped eating, but still growing?? Is she getting her molars in? I feel like dd2 was like that a few weeks ago and it turned out her bottom molars were coming through.
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Post by lollipop on Jun 30, 2018 18:05:00 GMT -6
How is A Series of Unfortunate Events a book series for children?! So much murder.
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Post by dizzycooks on Jun 30, 2018 19:43:43 GMT -6
It’s well over 100 here with the heat index and I’m dying. The Ys ac was not working well, the restaurant we went to for dinner had almost no air and my house won’t get below 78. Apparently this is the story for the majority of the upcoming week. Dd3 is suddenly so fussy at meals! Anyone have a child who has stopped eating, but still growing?? Is she getting her molars in? I feel like dd2 was like that a few weeks ago and it turned out her bottom molars were coming through. That’s actually an interesting question. She only has one partial mole that I’m aware of. I’ll need to check.
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Post by dizzycooks on Jun 30, 2018 19:47:40 GMT -6
Because my life isn’t interesting enough. I think I’ve mentioned dh is job hunting again. We’ve agreed a travel position wouldn’t be the end of the world since I’m sah right now. A company contacted him and is flying him in for dinner next week. He hasn’t said much to anyone, but upon telling his mother she asked if that’s his new wife and family. If he needs a change. WTF??? Of course shortly after that convo she casually mentions she ha stage 4 kidney disease and they are treating it by having her drink more water. 🤦♀️. I just can’t guys. She also thinks it’s impossible my dd has arthritis bc only old people get that. There is so much stupid in the commentary I am almost not upset by it. Almost. But not quite. I mean really who talks like that??
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Post by nellieoleson on Jun 30, 2018 20:57:57 GMT -6
dizzycooks - WTF indeed! And she’s married to the open-bathroom-door-pee-dude. You really scored in the IL department. Ouch!
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Post by dizzycooks on Jun 30, 2018 21:41:34 GMT -6
dizzycooks - WTF indeed! And she’s married to the open-bathroom-door-pee-dude. You really scored in the IL department. Ouch! You assume it’s only pee...
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Post by nellieoleson on Jun 30, 2018 22:25:15 GMT -6
dizzycooks - WTF indeed! And she’s married to the open-bathroom-door-pee-dude. You really scored in the IL department. Ouch! You assume it’s only pee... NO. WAY. 😱
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Post by lollipop on Jul 1, 2018 16:19:11 GMT -6
I'm trying to decide if we should go to the fireworks tonight. H isn't answering me if he wants to go. I was thinking of staying and going with my mom and sister, but they had non kid friendly plans, so that's out. I love fireworks, but there's no way I'm taking the kids by myself. We probably won't go
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Post by dizzycooks on Jul 1, 2018 18:49:49 GMT -6
I'm trying to decide if we should go to the fireworks tonight. H isn't answering me if he wants to go. I was thinking of staying and going with my mom and sister, but they had non kid friendly plans, so that's out. I love fireworks, but there's no way I'm taking the kids by myself. We probably won't go I take my kids alone every year. You can do it! Dh has to work the next day so staying up past 11 is just foolish. He stays home with the baby and I go. I expect no different this year. I hope you can find a nice place that isn’t too busy to watch them. I put a jillion glow bracelets in my kids and we find a quietish spot.
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Post by lollipop on Jul 1, 2018 21:12:04 GMT -6
I'm trying to decide if we should go to the fireworks tonight. H isn't answering me if he wants to go. I was thinking of staying and going with my mom and sister, but they had non kid friendly plans, so that's out. I love fireworks, but there's no way I'm taking the kids by myself. We probably won't go I take my kids alone every year. You can do it! Dh has to work the next day so staying up past 11 is just foolish. He stays home with the baby and I go. I expect no different this year. I hope you can find a nice place that isn’t too busy to watch them. I put a jillion glow bracelets in my kids and we find a quietish spot. I can't handle crowds at the best of times, So I won't take the kids into them alone. But I dropped them off at home with H and then went to meet my sister so we can go with my mom. The kids were getting miserable from being played out today
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Post by crimsonandclover on Jul 2, 2018 5:28:12 GMT -6
dizzycooks, my DH is job-hunting again, too. I find it so stressful to always be thinking about logistics if he gets this or that position. And your MIL gets a huge WTF from me.
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Post by dizzycooks on Jul 2, 2018 13:20:22 GMT -6
dizzycooks , my DH is job-hunting again, too. I find it so stressful to always be thinking about logistics if he gets this or that position. And your MIL gets a huge WTF from me.
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Post by nellieoleson on Jul 3, 2018 8:28:04 GMT -6
I'm trying to decide if we should go to the fireworks tonight. H isn't answering me if he wants to go. I was thinking of staying and going with my mom and sister, but they had non kid friendly plans, so that's out. I love fireworks, but there's no way I'm taking the kids by myself. We probably won't go I take my kids alone every year. You can do it! Dh has to work the next day so staying up past 11 is just foolish. He stays home with the baby and I go. I expect no different this year. I hope you can find a nice place that isn’t too busy to watch them. I put a jillion glow bracelets in my kids and we find a quietish spot. How do your kids do with staying up so late? Mine go to bed at 9 lately, but I’m still worried dd2 will be an absolute wreck if we take her out past then.
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Post by lollipop on Jul 4, 2018 10:54:51 GMT -6
My mom loves to tease my sister and her friends about being flaky, but Seriously, sometimes she's the same. I asked her weeks ago if she could babysit for our anniversary, and she forgot to tell her friend that she was busy that morning, so instead of sleeping in and going for brunch like I planned we have to get up and be ready for her to drop the kids off early. I'm trying really hard not to be upset, but she does this all the time. It's so frustrating. And H's parents can't/won't step in for the couple of hours, which is no surprise. It's not even 11 am and I'm done with today
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Post by dizzycooks on Jul 4, 2018 21:08:14 GMT -6
Happy 4th of July!! I hope everyone who wanted to see fireworks saw them! We stayed home, our girls are tired from a busy day and dh slept poorly last night. nellieoleson my kids do ok when we do things like that. We talked about what needs to happen, skip stories and throw em straight to bed. If it didn’t work we wouldn’t do it though.
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Post by dizzycooks on Jul 5, 2018 8:02:40 GMT -6
Update on us...dd3 is getting a cortisone shot on Monday. She will be sedated and they will do some blood work at the same time. I really appreciate how this hospital tries to minimize the number of invasive experiences the kids have. If we don’t see total and long lasting improvement, we will move into drug therapy. The goal is 4-6 months of improvement and the we will have to repeat the procedure. Thanks for the support ladies
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Post by Deleted on Jul 5, 2018 9:13:39 GMT -6
dizzycooks, thank you for the update. i hope the injection helps with her symptoms. Hope everyone had a fun 4th! I really enjoyed seeing DD and her little friend watch and enjoy fireworks. it was so cute. whenever dd hears fireworks in the neighborhood she says, "daddy pop one?" i have no idea where she heard or came up with that lingo but it's so funny.
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Post by lollipop on Jul 6, 2018 12:16:33 GMT -6
Holy crap guys, for like a year, H has been saying "maybe this weekend I'll go down and get the basement organized". It has not happened. And I haven't really cared, because I'm only ever down there to do laundry. But yesterday while I was at work he started cleaning it up. I forgot how much space we have down there. He's got all of the holiday decorations neatly stacked in the space under the stairs, he's got the game area mostly cleaned up, he's setting up the old tv and Xbox in one corner, hes going to get the books sorted and he's sorting out the board games so his magic stuff can go with them and my sewing stuff can go in the China cabinet up here. I love this guy.
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