More babies?

[aprilz81]

I'm 37 and have PCOS so if we are going to have more kids we will need to get on that sooner rather than later.  For those of you who are thinking about having at least one more, what are your plans?

My OBGYN said we are safe to start trying at 6 months (c-section delivery) and I'm thinking we might start trying November-Decemberish to give us a shot at keeping most of our medical expenses in one calendar year (stupid insurance).  I need to lose about 10 pounds before we start trying, I really do think that my lower weight helped us to get pregnant faster than we did with Ava.  If I lost 15-20 pounds it would be even better, but #lazy.

[marygracerich]

For a brief moment, I thought this was going to be a bfp thread. Lol.
I am no Help because I am 2 and through. Good luck though.

[flippinchica]

I'm also 2 and through. DS1 was born shortly after I turned 38 and DS2 I was 40. I turn 41 this weekend I didn't get my period back until my first was 15 months anyway. I probably would have waited longer to ttc if I had been younger. Good luck!

[watermelonseed]

Also thought this was BFP post lol! We are 2 and through. My kids are 17 months apart so life is crazy. H has his V scheduled for 7/20. GL to all are planning though! I can’t wait to see future squishes.

[Deleted]

I want a fourth and want it to be close in age like my others are (18 and 22 month gaps). I am debating if I want to time it with my nursing school graduation (so December 2019) or if I want to try to have a kid while in school. Yes, I am aware that I'm nuts 🤣

[pippiann]

Funny this popped up, I just had a gf announce she was pg with an oops #3 L’s due date! She also had trouble conceiving her first 2 so she was quite surprised. I am done, if h wasn’t 45 I would have another. This is an UO but I liked pregnancy and feel robbed since L came so early.

[ajetter]

pippiann I’m not a huge fan of pregnancy but I would also feel robbed with that early of a delivery. I’m down with 37 weeks+, but before that I think I’d be upset too!

[snowyowl]

Two and through for sure, here. But I get why you want to start early. DS1 was born after two losses and fertility drugs. I figured #2 would be a process, so I’d ordered my ovulation strips and a new thermometer for when we “really” started trying, and then we had one “eh, why use protection we are about to start trying anyway” night and DS2 was the result when DS1 was ten months old.
I certainly wouldn’t change anything now, but being pregnant with a ten through twenty month old was rough. Doable, but I wasn’t fully prepared for the difference between first tri exhaustion when you can put your feet up vs. dealing with a baby/toddler. I live near my family and I leaned on them a lot in months 2-4 and 8-10 especially.

[yellow711]

I also thought this was a pregnancy announcement.

We are two and through.

Best of luck with whatever you decide to do.

[sunfrogger]

So I am 30 this year and we are also 2 and done. However, I do like the age gap of the girls even though it's rough (27 mo apart). We are done at 2 primarily because of the cost of having kids!

[aprilz81]

Jun 18, 2018 20:27:34 GMT -6 sunfrogger said:

So I am 30 this year and we are also 2 and done. However, I do like the age gap of the girls even though it's rough (27 mo apart). We are done at 2 primarily because of the cost of having kids!

Yeah, we are looking at a minimum of $5,000 in L&D costs plus more furniture and daycare.  All of our gear is gender neutral so all of that can be re-used...  But even with the cost and short term budget constraints we can make it work if we cut back on retirement savings while we have 2 in daycare.  We both got an early start so a few years of minimal contributions won't set us back to much and the joy babies bring are worth it.

[kyzo]

We're going to wait a couple years. Until DD starts kindergarten in August we're paying for two kids in daycare. My $2400 monthly daycare bill sucks. Hoping if we space out the next one we won't have two in daycare again for very long. I wanted our kids close together but the 4.5 year age gap is awesome.

In my mind, I'd like to plan a nice Disney World vacation for January 2021 then start trying after that. Then again, since we have 5 embryos part of me is wondering why try rather than straight to an FET. But if we did an FET we'd transfer two and I'd be scared for twins.

[aprilz81]

Jun 18, 2018 20:37:32 GMT -6 kyzo said:

We're going to wait a couple years. Until DD starts kindergarten in August we're paying for two kids in daycare. My $2400 monthly daycare bill sucks. Hoping if we space out the next one we won't have two in daycare again for very long. I wanted our kids close together but the 4.5 year age gap is awesome.

In my mind, I'd like to plan a nice Disney World vacation for January 2021 then start trying after that. Then again, since we have 5 embryos part of me is wondering why try rather than straight to an FET. But if we did an FET we'd transfer two and I'd be scared for twins.

Twins scare me too as we will have to do some sort of fertility treatment (fortunately so far meds and TI work for us).  My sister had twins without intervention, so it isn't far fetched...

[tiffrobot]

We’re done at 3. DS and DD1 are 23 months apart, and DD2 another 2.5 years younger. So 3 within 4.5 years. Each stage will be a rush of its own I’m sure! GL to everyone TTC or planning to again!!

[pinkcat]

We definitely want another and with our IF history we will start trying sooner rather than later. We will probably start NTNP in the next few months and then we will have to decide when we want to go back to our RE to do another round of IVF.

I think I shared here before, but we did have 4 frozen embryos so we felt really happy that we could take our time and do a transfer of one of those whenever we were ready- probably in a year or so. However, due to a clinic malfunction they damaged all the embryos and now we have none, so we'll have to do a full round of IVF and hope that we get more embryos. This makes me feel like we have a lot less time and need to start trying sooner. I don't feel ready quite yet though!

[ajetter]

We’re obviously done. But I already get the sads over no more newborn snuggles. Just throwing that out there.

[aprilz81]

Jun 19, 2018 6:36:13 GMT -6 pinkcat said:

We definitely want another and with our IF history we will start trying sooner rather than later. We will probably start NTNP in the next few months and then we will have to decide when we want to go back to our RE to do another round of IVF.

I think I shared here before, but we did have 4 frozen embryos so we felt really happy that we could take our time and do a transfer of one of those whenever we were ready- probably in a year or so. However, due to a clinic malfunction they damaged all the embryos and now we have none, so we'll have to do a full round of IVF and hope that we get more embryos. This makes me feel like we have a lot less time and need to start trying sooner. I don't feel ready quite yet though!

Is the lawsuit still ongoing or have you guys all reached a settlement?

[amesie]

When I was pregnant this last time with dd2, I swore I would never do it again. I loooooathed being pregnant this time around. But now that she’s here, I don’t feel like we’re done. We always said we’d see how the first 2 kids went, and maybe we’d have a 3rd. But I get really sad thinking of dd2 being our last. DD1 and dd2 are 2y8m apart, which is great now, but it suuuuucked being pregnant with a toddler 2 year old. So we’ll likely wait until dd2 is in pre-K before we start trying again.

[pinkcat]

aprilz81 It is still ongoing...we are working towards a settlement right now. I hope it is all done soon, I just don't even like thinking about it at all and have been very removed from the whole situation- I don't think it's really sunk in for me yet.

[easternshoregirl]

My first thought when I saw the thread title was "oh hell no."
We're also old(ish) and pregnancy was too hard on me physically and emotionally. I love our family of four and feel like we're complete! (read: the idea of another baby scares the crap out of me)

[Deleted]

We are two and through as far as biological children go. My body cannot handle another pregnancy and neither can our bank sccount. We’ve discussed that when DS2 is around 4-5 looking into foster care or adoption.

[jessijean]

I also thought this was a BFP announcement. DH and I decided we are too old to handle the newborn phase again and quite honestly my body would not handle another pregnancy. Bittersweet thought but I'm ok with our reasons.

[cake]

We will probably have another after the baby turns two. I underestimated how big of a hit my business would take with me being off a couple of months. We’ve had to dip into our savings more than I would have liked. So i’ll just have to see how long it takes for my bank account to rebound.

I know I’m not crazy old, but I’m 33 and would prefer not to wait 5 years for a second.

[sweetsurprise]

Chiming in to say 2 and through. I would love to try for a girl but I'm not up for chancing momming 3 boys. 😊 Also H feels overwhelmed with 2 so yeah. We are done.

[sparky85]

No more babies here. We were always going to be done after 2, but having a preemie really cemented it for me. DH is just waiting on a call for his V.

I have also recently determined that I am a much better parent to older kids (toddlers and up) vs infants. My patience is not there for the little babies, but I'm oddly patient with toddlers.

[sunfrogger]

Jun 19, 2018 11:56:39 GMT -6 sweetsurprise said:

Chiming in to say 2 and through. I would love to try for a girl but I'm not up for chancing momming 3 boys. 😊 Also H feels overwhelmed with 2 so yeah. We are done.

This but no way do I want to be a mom to 3 girls. we feel pretty complete as a family of 4.

[marygracerich]

Jun 19, 2018 13:40:59 GMT -6 sparky85 said:

No more babies here. We were always going to be done after 2, but having a preemie really cemented it for me. DH is just waiting on a call for his V.

I have also recently determined that I am a much better parent to older kids (toddlers and up) vs infants. My patience is not there for the little babies, but I'm oddly patient with toddlers.

I’m with on this. I hate the baby stage. Give me all the toddlers that I can color with, have dance parties and play with blocks. I will take the tantrums and all.

[sparky85]

Jun 19, 2018 16:45:53 GMT -6 marygracerich said:

Jun 19, 2018 13:40:59 GMT -6 sparky85 said:

No more babies here. We were always going to be done after 2, but having a preemie really cemented it for me. DH is just waiting on a call for his V.

I have also recently determined that I am a much better parent to older kids (toddlers and up) vs infants. My patience is not there for the little babies, but I'm oddly patient with toddlers.

I’m with on this. I hate the baby stage. Give me all the toddlers that I can color with, have dance parties and play with blocks. I will take the tantrums and all.

I'm glad I'm not the only one!

[dragonflyinn]

We are done for a few years. I’m very content with the size of our family right now (2 kids) and with H’s deployment we need time to just be a family of 4. Also new developments have us considering the possibility of overseas orders next year which for me would put a hold on future baby-making lol. Anyway I’m thinking I need at least a year & a half from now before we start talking or thinking about #3.

[bassa]

I’m also happy to be done at two kids. The only thing is that H really wants a third. I’m not a hard no on that, but definitely not anytime soon, if at all. I’d really like to make progress in my career before considering another.