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Post by charliefox on Jun 11, 2018 20:59:39 GMT -6
Radley, sorry for the poor timing obscureference, having a plan always feels good. loorin, going somewhere fun on vacation? octoberrust from S15!! ((hugs)) sunny75, it seems like a cruel joke when things go wrong with TTC. FX they clear quickly! radiantfate, what do you like most about the book? I've heard about it but I thought it was mostly about a crazy diet but maybe I'm wrong? Welcome notagoddess! honda, yay for O! Yogurt, FX the progesterone does the trick! Tlex, so many creepy hugs. I agree with seeing a RE, I hope you get some solutions soon. sharebear, sending all the vibes that your body gets it's ish together soon.
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Post by charliefox on Jun 11, 2018 21:03:01 GMT -6
Month/Cycle: 22/19 5AL
Timing: n/a
CD/DPO: cd9
Symptoms: Fortunately/unfortunately all my Femara symptoms were masked by being sick this cycle so there's that.
RRCS: Visited my parents this weekend and totally chickened out on telling them about our IF struggles. I was sick and there just wasn't a right time. We'll see them again in August and I just keep hoping I'll be knocked up by then but it's unlikely. If we move forward with IVF I'll have to tell them, ugh...like this isn't hard enough.
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Post by Yogurt on Jun 11, 2018 21:22:07 GMT -6
charliefox Don't feel bad about not telling your family, it's your information to keep as private as you like. If you think you will feel a weight off your chest, maybe just rip off that band aid and talk to your mom the next chance you get. I think if you decide to do it, she will be really supportive based on her own journey. But obviously you know best what you're comfortable with. Do you picture telling mom privately or like you and your h and your dad all there?
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Post by charliefox on Jun 11, 2018 21:37:13 GMT -6
charliefox Don't feel bad about not telling your family, it's your information to keep as private as you like. If you think you will feel a weight off your chest, maybe just rip off that band aid and talk to your mom the next chance you get. I think if you decide to do it, she will be really supportive based on her own journey. But obviously you know best what you're comfortable with. Do you picture telling mom privately or like you and your h and your dad all there? I had planned on telling both my parents w/o H. Mostly because H was OOT but also because that just feels right. Honestly, I would love to just tell my mom and have her relay the info but I feel telling my dad personally is the right thing to do. At this point I'll have to tell them over the phone, we see them in Aug but it's out big family trip and I do not feel like telling them AND my sister at the same time. I know my parents will be supportive (my sister will be less than supportive, she always unknowingly says something inappropriate), it just seems like such a private thing and I'm really not ready to have anyone up in our business.
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Post by loorin on Jun 12, 2018 5:50:10 GMT -6
charliefox, we are visiting my SIL and her husband. They live on an island off the coast of Maine. We've done this trip a few times before and have really enjoyed ourselves. My daughter will be 3 in August, so I feel like she will enjoy exploring tidepools and stuff on the island this year. Good luck figuring out the right time/way to talk to your parents. It is private and will take a lot of strength in what's already a trying time.
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Post by notagoddess on Jun 12, 2018 6:36:34 GMT -6
charliefox, I don't blame you for not wanting to tell the whole family. I hope you can find a time for just you and your parents, so you can have that weight off your chest.
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Post by Radley on Jun 12, 2018 6:52:03 GMT -6
I definitely don’t blame you for not wanting to share charliefoxMy immediate family knows but only because I was so sick and had to go to the hospital. But I don’t really tell other people about it. It’s hard for sure. Many hugs
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Post by notagoddess on Jun 12, 2018 7:18:36 GMT -6
I'm only 8 DPO but I'll be testing tonight. I'm super congested due to a cold and I'm debating taking Sudafed, and I'll think I'll feel safer testing first. But I've never gotten a positive before 10 DPO, so it's probably completely meaningless. It'll be a game-time decision on the Sudafed depending on how miserable I feel tonight.
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Post by octoberrust on Jun 12, 2018 7:23:06 GMT -6
charliefox I definitely understand having reservations about sharing fertility struggles with your family. We hadn’t told anyone this time that we have been trying, last time everyone knew, which led to being asked “Are you pregnant yet” every time we saw anyone, and I just couldn’t take that again. We decided to tell our parents after our consult with the RE. My mom was excited to hear we have been trying and we were getting fertility help, but also hurt that I hadn’t told her we’d been ttc. Let’s just say my MIL’s reaction was unexpected. She thought we should just be happy with the family we have plus some other hurtful things.
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Post by octoberrust on Jun 12, 2018 7:35:29 GMT -6
My AMH results were posted on the patient portal this morning, but they don’t have a reference value with the results. I left the nurse a voicemail that I wanted to discuss my results and while I waited for her callback I googled what my results meant. According to google anything over 4 is indicative of PCOS for a woman over 25. My level is 4.4 and I’m 35 years old. When the nurse called she said they are happy with anything over 3, and she said having 4.4 was very good. I asked her about what google said and she laughed and said they were happy with my number. I wish I would have never consulted Dr google, but I’m wondering if the nurse even considered my age with the results.
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Post by notagoddess on Jun 12, 2018 8:01:35 GMT -6
octoberrust, when my AMH was tested, it was around 5 at age 31 and the RE was thrilled with that number. I believe with PCOS, it's way up there, not just over 4. There are also other hormonal indicators.
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Post by sarahh on Jun 12, 2018 8:40:03 GMT -6
Month/Cycle: 1/1 Timing: n/a CD/DPO: CD3 - starting femara today! Symptoms: n/a - normal AF symptoms - mostly crankiness RRCS: charliefox GL on figuring out the best time to tell your parents. I have a similar situation with mine. They don't know we are trying again. My parents have 2 kids and my sister has 2 kids - that's what they expect. They have no clue we want to try for a 3rd. And I really don't want any of their input that will most likely piss me off so they and my sister won't know we are trying until we hopefully get pregnant and are confident it will work out.
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Post by radiantfate on Jun 12, 2018 11:35:15 GMT -6
charliefox It's actually got very little on diet in it, other than recommending avoiding processed sugar, especially if you have PCOS. It has good recommendations on supplements, supplements to avoid, results the author had, things your DH can do to improve sperm quality, things like that. It gives you a bunch of things you can at least try that are healthy that, even if it doesn't result in a pregnancy, it's still good for your body. ETA I understand about it being hard to tell your family, and not wanting to or not feeling like it's the right time. My dad and stepmom are always asking us when we're having a baby (DD is from my first marriage, DH and I just got married last year). We haven't even moved on to IF testing or anything, but I know I don't feel comfortable talking with them or anyone else (outside HIH and my DH) about our struggles. Dad did see an HPT box in my bathroom once when he was visiting and asked me about it, so he has a hunch. Stepmom asked me at my DD's birthday party if I was gonna give them another grandbaby (she's so sweet, it was well-intentioned) but it was awkward so I just deflected and asked if she was planning to babysit. Anyway, that's kind of a long, roundabout way of saying you don't have to tell them until you're ready or feel you need the support. If it's hard to say the words, sometimes writing it down (maybe an email?) is a way to at least get the dialogue going. Hugs to you friend.
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Post by charliefox on Jun 12, 2018 14:10:04 GMT -6
Thanks everyone for the love I have always been open about wanting 2-4 kids and having them close together so H and I figure my family is probably talking about us behind our backs but they are pretty reserved and wouldn't say anything to us about it (H's family has asked and we just brush it off, they are not the people we would ever share our struggles with).
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Post by charliefox on Jun 12, 2018 14:36:16 GMT -6
Finally got around to ordering my trigger shot and apparently the nurse also called in a prescription for progesterone suppositories. My levels were tested last fall and everything was fine, I was thinking of asking them to test again since my loss but keep forgetting. My REs office is great but I feel I often have to keep things straight and advocate for myself, so I'm pretty sure the progesterone was a mistake. Oh well, it's ordered and I'll do it because why not?
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Post by Yogurt on Jun 12, 2018 15:59:05 GMT -6
Finally got around to ordering my trigger shot and apparently the nurse also called in a prescription for progesterone suppositories. My levels were tested last fall and everything was fine, I was thinking of asking them to test again since my loss but keep forgetting. My REs office is great but I feel I often have to keep things straight and advocate for myself, so I'm pretty sure the progesterone was a mistake. Oh well, it's ordered and I'll do it because why not? I'm also in the "progesterone? Why not!" camp! Let's hope it's the piece we've been missing. Are you starting at 3 or 4 dpo?
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Post by charliefox on Jun 12, 2018 18:04:52 GMT -6
Finally got around to ordering my trigger shot and apparently the nurse also called in a prescription for progesterone suppositories. My levels were tested last fall and everything was fine, I was thinking of asking them to test again since my loss but keep forgetting. My REs office is great but I feel I often have to keep things straight and advocate for myself, so I'm pretty sure the progesterone was a mistake. Oh well, it's ordered and I'll do it because why not? I'm also in the "progesterone? Why not!" camp! Let's hope it's the piece we've been missing. Are you starting at 3 or 4 dpo? I have no clue. I'll ask the NP at my IUI which will most likely be early next week.
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Post by charliefox on Jun 12, 2018 18:05:39 GMT -6
I'm also in the "progesterone? Why not!" camp! Let's hope it's the piece we've been missing. Are you starting at 3 or 4 dpo? I have no clue. I'll ask the NP at my IUI which will most likely be early next week. I know you've done some internet research on this, what is the reasoning behind starting earlier/later?
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Post by Yogurt on Jun 12, 2018 18:32:37 GMT -6
I have no clue. I'll ask the NP at my IUI which will most likely be early next week. I know you've done some internet research on this, what is the reasoning behind starting earlier/later? The idea is that you just need to be sure you O'd. The 3-4 days is basically just giving yourself a buffer, and like how FF takes about 3 days to confirm O. If you take the progesterone and you have not O'd, it will mess up your cycle, you won't or might not O at all and the cycle will likely (or definitely) be a bust. I waited until 4dpo per FF, because I suspect FF is off by a day, or might be, so I waited. The internet says that it doesn't make sense to wait until you have a bfp because then the progesterone isn't in your system long enough to help. Please keep in mind my sources are Facebook, baby center and the FF forums.
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Post by charliefox on Jun 13, 2018 10:03:47 GMT -6
I know you've done some internet research on this, what is the reasoning behind starting earlier/later? The idea is that you just need to be sure you O'd. The 3-4 days is basically just giving yourself a buffer, and like how FF takes about 3 days to confirm O. If you take the progesterone and you have not O'd, it will mess up your cycle, you won't or might not O at all and the cycle will likely (or definitely) be a bust. I waited until 4dpo per FF, because I suspect FF is off by a day, or might be, so I waited. The internet says that it doesn't make sense to wait until you have a bfp because then the progesterone isn't in your system long enough to help. Please keep in mind my sources are Facebook, baby center and the FF forums. Lol @ sources, everything you’re saying sounds correct. So then you’re going to test around 14dpo and stop the progesterone if bfn?
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Post by Yogurt on Jun 13, 2018 11:01:50 GMT -6
The idea is that you just need to be sure you O'd. The 3-4 days is basically just giving yourself a buffer, and like how FF takes about 3 days to confirm O. If you take the progesterone and you have not O'd, it will mess up your cycle, you won't or might not O at all and the cycle will likely (or definitely) be a bust. I waited until 4dpo per FF, because I suspect FF is off by a day, or might be, so I waited. The internet says that it doesn't make sense to wait until you have a bfp because then the progesterone isn't in your system long enough to help. Please keep in mind my sources are Facebook, baby center and the FF forums. Lol @ sources, everything you’re saying sounds correct. So then you’re going to test around 14dpo and stop the progesterone if bfn? Yes, exactly. The progesterone keeps AF away (I think), so keeping taking it just prolongs a bust cycle. So 14/15 dpo I will stop. I got my January bfp at 15dpo, but I wonder if CP bfps don't turn a stick til later because your hcg isn't getting that strong. I wonder if there is a relationship between late bfps and instances of CP.
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Post by purple on Jun 13, 2018 14:11:18 GMT -6
Sorry for not being around much this week. It's birthday week (mine today, L's on Friday and her party on Saturday) so it's all a bit mad around here. L is very bubbly, excited and exhausting! Welcome, @octoberrust and notagoddess! charliefox, however loving family are, it can be so hard. Good luck, sarahh! Tlex, hope things get better soon. sharebear, I'm so sorry. I hope your body starts behaving soon. Many hugs to everyone else!
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Post by charliefox on Jun 13, 2018 14:22:13 GMT -6
Happy Birthday to you and L, purple!!
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Post by purple on Jun 13, 2018 14:24:31 GMT -6
Month/Cycle: Month 28. 6AL, and 11AL x2, and 15AL, and 21AL, and 25AL.
Timing: Despite my expectation for this month to be another washout, we managed eod. So I'm back in the "possible" camp.
CD/DPO: CD22. Not sure how many dpo because I wasn't testing because I thought this month would be a washout. If AF is coming it could be any time from now. If it still hasn't come in a week I'll be testing. 29 days for me means I'm either super stressed, ill, or pregnant.
Symptoms: More cm than usual at this time of the month. Boobs inflating daily. Nothing that feels hopeful
RRCS: Still praying so hard for success summer. I don't know whether I can do another winter of ttc.
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Post by obscureference on Jun 13, 2018 15:39:33 GMT -6
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Post by loorin on Jun 13, 2018 16:15:52 GMT -6
Hey purple we have the same birthday! Happy birthday!!
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Post by purple on Jun 13, 2018 16:19:14 GMT -6
Hey purple we have the same birthday! Happy birthday!! Hey, happy birthday! I've only ever "met" one other 13th June-er. Even in my June BMB, there are several kids who share June 15th with L but none on 13th. Hope you've had a good day.
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Post by loorin on Jun 13, 2018 17:01:47 GMT -6
Hey purple we have the same birthday! Happy birthday!! Hey, happy birthday! I've only ever "met" one other 13th June-er. Even in my June BMB, there are several kids who share June 15th with L but none on 13th. Hope you've had a good day. I don’t think I’ve actually “met” another one. The 13th has always been good to me... even when my 21st fell on a Friday. Hope you’ve had a good day too!
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Post by quinstar on Jun 14, 2018 6:25:31 GMT -6
CD2 for me. AF held off until just after my yearly PAP, thankfully, but still a day early. Talked to the doctor about my lengthening cycles, and she suggested.... that we BD even earlier in my cycle every other day. Super helpful. She did say we should try for 6 months and then come back in, and actually see my usual OBGYN because I guess she's really good with helping with this sort of stuff. Yesterdays doctor... was not.
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Post by obscureference on Jun 14, 2018 6:56:49 GMT -6
Happy belated birthday loorin!
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